u/Dre-26

Hi there. 30F, USA (est). I recently got out of an abusive relationship and had to move back home with my parents. So I’m looking to make some new friends to play games with!

I have a PS4 (no I have not upgraded yet😭), Nintendo switch, and I play PC as well.

Lately I’ve been really into brawlhalla, Fortnite, and mecha chameleon. I do play all sorts of other games those are just my current hyper fixations. (Also will play OSRS occasionally)

I also LOVE outlast trials, life is strange, dying light, it takes two, and many other story-driven, puzzle like games. I’m not bound to a certain genre and will play anything.

I have discord so if anyone is interested just DM me :)

💗

I have a lot sexual trauma and relationship trauma. I especially do not trust men, my dad wasn’t really the best father and my mom dated a lot of men when I was growing up until she married my step-dad who is not someone I get along with. I witnessed my mom in a lot of abusive relationships as well.

I ended an emotionally abusive relationship about 2.5 months ago. I’ve been doing better. I’m not ready to date yet but even just thinking about putting myself out there again makes me shutter. I want to believe there’s good men out there but unfortunately I haven’t came across one. I always notice they all have similar red flags that I don’t want to deal with (wandering eyes, unfaithfulness, weaponized incompetence, manipulative).

It’s truly a shame. I really want to love freely and be loved freely. But I always have something holding me back. It sucks.

I (30) was talking/hanging out with my dad’s girlfriend last night. She is 34, and they have been together for 11 years. So since I was 19, but I didn’t meet her until I was 20. At the time I knew it was weird that she was only a couple years older me than me but it didn’t fully register until I got older. She was 23, and he was 39. Some people may not see this as a big deal but knowing my father, he is emotionally immature so of course he’d go after a young girl with minimal dating experience.

Anyway, that’s a whole other ordeal. Last night when we were talking, I made a joke/comment about how my mom always tells me to call my father and I say “he’s busy or he hardly answers”. My grandparents live with my dad and I know he has a lot on his plate so I try to give him grace. But I’ll call my dad, he doesn’t answer, and I don’t hear from him for weeks, sometimes months. My dad’s girlfriend said “that’s the thing, he’s mostly never busy. He sees you’re calling and says he’ll call you back later” my dad’s GF says she gives him grief for never answering and he says “why are you on my back”. She was drinking when she told me this, and I know she didn’t mean to hurt me. But it confirmed a lot for me. That my dad chooses when to be a father when it’s convenient for him. That’s not to say my dad is never there for me, but he’s NOT there more than he is there.

I was in an abusive relationship for nearly two years. My dad was there for me mostly during that time and helped me move out. But I can’t help but have some resentment towards my dad especially. My mom has also had a string of abusive of relationships as well, but she did everything she could to protect me. But there was not much guidance for romantic relationships.

I don’t blame anyone for me getting into that relationship but reflecting back, I’ve never had a stable, secure, safe, healthy, consistent relationship. Growing up I didn’t have a good representation of what that looked like because I watched my mom in abusive relationships, man after man after man, and then my dad who was single for my entire life after my mom and he ends up with some young, naive, vulnerable 23 year old?

My parents are good people, but I’m so angry. My mom has always been there for me, but my dad chooses when to be. When I finally call him again weeks or months later he tells me “sorry so much going on this happened and then this happened and then this happened” and I’ve always had to just be understanding and forgiving. My mom told me not to call my father to “see how long it takes him” but I’ve been the only person to uphold the relationship even as a child.

No wonder my romantic relationships have been fucked. I chase after men like my father.

My life was turned upside down mid-March.

Lost my job, then my apartment, and then I ended an abusive relationship. Currently rebuilding my life while living in my parents unfinished basement, not exactly a dream but it’s a new start. But it has been lonely and I’m having trouble connecting and relating to anyone around me. I really just miss having conversations with depth

I guess a bit about me?

I grew up as an emo/scene kid in the Midwest. I love ranch, I hate majority country music.

I think I have undiagnosed ADHD so I love starting new hobbies but never fully committing. I love movies, video games, documentaries, comedy, and I love having existential crisis at inconvenient times of the day!

Music is a huge part of me. I love rock, death metal, pop, but I mostly listen to EDM or metal.

I’m pretty active. I’m on my feet all day at work and I lift weight about 5 days a week, and I rollerskate.

I didn’t want to make this too long but if anyone has gone through something similar that I have or just is interested in chatting, send a DM 💗

Trying to break generational poverty…I need advice

I have no idea if this is the correct sub reddit for this. Please direct me elsewhere if it is not.

I am 30 years old. I just moved back home into my mom and step dad’s basement after leaving an abusive relationship. I moved out on my own for almost 2 years. For most of that time, I lived paycheck to paycheck. My mom convinced me I could afford it (I think they wanted me out of their house) but I was making $21 an hour and my rent was $1,025. Not including my electric, car payment, car insurance, phone, you get the gist. I went into debt.

My point is that I don’t think I ever had a good financial direction. My parents had me very young. My family is generationally poor. I’m sick of it. I started going to college when I was 27 to try and make the change, and I’m the first in my entire family to do so. Except I feel directionless.

I’m currently a vet tech. I don’t want to continue in veterinary medicine, my body hurts, I’m emotionally exhausted, and I’m broke. I make $22 an hour. I have a couple thousand (maybe 5k?) saved in a few different retirement accounts. I have almost 2k in a HYS account. I’m trying to hardest to change my path but I keep feeling so defeated. I don’t know how I’m supposed to go to school and get a better job if I need to work 40 hours to afford even just living at home.

Can anyone relate or have any good life advice?

I feel like a need a financial advisor but I need money for that…right? lol

I have no idea if this is the correct sub reddit for this. Please direct me elsewhere if it is not.

I am 30 years old. I just moved back home into my mom and step dad’s basement after leaving an abusive relationship. I moved out on my own for almost 2 years. For most of that time, I lived paycheck to paycheck. My mom convinced me I could afford it (I think they wanted me out of their house) but I was making $21 an hour and my rent was $1,025. Not including my electric, car payment, car insurance, phone, you get the gist. I went into debt.

My point is that I don’t think I ever had a good financial direction. My parents had me very young. My family is generationally poor. I’m sick of it. I started going to college when I was 27 to try and make the change, and I’m the first in my entire family to do so. Except I feel directionless.

I’m currently a vet tech. I don’t want to continue in veterinary medicine, my body hurts, I’m emotionally exhausted, and I’m broke. I make $22 an hour. I have a couple thousand (maybe 5k?) saved in a few different retirement accounts. I have almost 2k in a HYS account. I’m trying to hardest to change my path but I keep feeling so defeated. I don’t know how I’m supposed to go to school and get a better job if I need to work 40 hours to afford even just living at home.

Can anyone relate or have any good life advice?

I feel like a need a financial advisor but I need money for that…right? lol

Left two months ago.

Past few weeks I’ve kept to myself. I haven’t really hung out with my friends, or talked to them. Deleted all my social media. It’s like I don’t want anything to do with anyone anymore. I don’t trust anyone, I don’t want to talk to anyone. Everything feels like a trigger right now and I feel like I just want to be alone and heal.

Anyone gone through a period of isolation after leaving the abusive situation?