u/Lumpy-Resource-1370

We built a nice house 4 years ago. our builders and the designer our builder used had the basic beige style that you see everywhere. That is also my wifes overly influenced style so she loved it.

I'm so annoyed now though, i just wish we had some character in our house. More colorful walls, not Sherwin williams snowbound. More interesting cabinet colors.. not blacks and whites and beiges and greys.

We spent enough where i'm now hesitant to make any changes because i just feel like an idiot for not having done it ourselves earlier when we could have chosen. We have a nice enough house where we have no reason to move. Our interest rate is low enough where it is crazy to move.

So now i just sort of hate my house lmao. Thats extreme its a nice house but i'm on a huge mission to add as much character and color as we can. and i wouldn't have to buy all this art and wall decor and window treatments if we had chosen more interesting colors and components to begin with.

So yesterday our almost 3 year old was having a huge meltdown around dinner time. We mostly just ignored it. During this tantrum he was doing stuff he shouldn’t. Throwing things, knocking things onto the floor, etc. Everything was mostly childproofed so we mostly just ignored it. And he came through and then was mostly fine eventually. Later when he was using the bathroom he purposely shot his pee all over the floor.

And then before bed, he sometimes asks us to sleep in his bed with him (has a queen sized bed so it’s easy). We do sometimes, it’s easy and nice to snuggle up. But I told him I couldn’t because I had to go clean up downstairs and recapped the things he did that were “not nice”. And then told him that he is a good strong brave boy and left the room. He whined for like 1 minute before going to sleep.

On recap, I questioned my way of handling things. Should I be bringing up things he shouldn’t do like that? In the moment I don’t because it just draws attention to it. So I do like talking about it with him but I don’t know if it even registers.

Also, when a toddler is having a tantrum for no reason, how do you know when to comfort and when to ignore?

Lonesome dove blew my mind earlier this year. Still can’t stop thinking about. The feeling of reading it is one I’m not forgetting easily. But… it was quite a slow read for me, especially in the beginning.

Since then, I’ve read a bunch of other books. Ones I enjoyed but didn’t hit the same. Project Hail Mary. 11/22/63. The expanse book 1. Dungeon crawler Carl. Jurassic park.

None of them hit the same. They were all enjoyable in their own ways.

Any suggestions?

hear me out. it was nice easy listening. i found the characters interesting. the drama between the planets and the belt was fascinating, i love this sort of sociopolitical commentary.

i even enjoyed the characters. holdens naive the truth must always be revealed vs millers rogue-like approach.

but i first started getting disinterested when it came to the random alien superweapon being introduced. which obviously ended up being the major plot of the book. i know its a book about space and space travel but in the context of what had been introduced so far, it just felt like it came out of left field, and not in a fun twist way. but sure ok i'll continue...

and then it was millers realization that julie was "alive". give me a break lmao, we know nothing about this superweapon that turns people into this weird fungating mass of tendrils and slime but this guys weird obsession with julie makes him have some confidence that she is alive and is the one who is actually driving the whole thing? and then we trust him to be able to convince this weird life form to not go to earth? and then she actually talks and can be reasoned with?

god that ending was so dumb.

so my question is, if i really enjoyed the worldbuilding and the interplanetary dynamics and most of the characters but thought the main plotline of the alien weapon and julie being alive was ridiculous, should i continue reading? i honestly don't want some other dumb shit ending like that

EDIT: ok the protoweapon itself was fine. bad take there. i was still interested in the book at that time, how it was central to the power struggles between earth, mars and the opa, etc.

still think the ending with julie was dumb as hell

>!First please forgive my spelling, i'm listening to the audiobook. Do i have this right:!<

1. >!protegan attacks scopuli, sets up a distress signal, will attack the rescuing ship and frame mars. at this point, a war starts between mars and the belt because belters get upset the cant got desteroyed!<

>!- but what would have happened IF holden wasn't on the scouting ship and IF he didn't blast the message all throughout? seems wildly lucky that this worked out!<

>!2. holden and crew go to the donnager, which then gets attacked by ships; they learn that these ships were made on earth, again holden broadcasts this. this starts the war between earth and mars!<

>!- but WHY did earth attack mars? none of their stuff got attacked, they were just being aggressors. if anything, it seemed like mars should have been the ones to attack earth?!<

So i've been going through a list of reddit favorites recently. and have had some amazing reads. Lonesome Dove is up there as one of my favorite books. 11/22/63 was awesome. Listened to project hail mary, dungeon crawler carl both of which i enjoyed.

But I just picked up jurassic park. and it honestly feels like a breath of fresh air reading this. The way it reads, the pacing, how it immediately hooks you with the prologue, its great. Idk if its just good for my ADHD brain but something about this book makes me so excited to read it. While the other books i'm not going to lie it felt more like a grind trying to get through. Lonesome Dove put me to sleep many many nights lol

So what are the greatest reads that have similar pace to jurassic park?

We have really tall ceilings in our living area and we are looking to revamp the area. So we have tall windows we want to cover. I’m talking just under 22 feet ceilings and we are thinking of ceiling tracks.

So when I look online for material, I want to choose high quality material that is sheer to allow light to continue to diffuse but what do I look for to ensure the quality is good? I’ve gotten a few swatches and I can’t picture in in large form.

As of now, it’s just data. If you aren’t meticulously journaling on your own, there really is nothing useful
About the numbers.

Whoop was awesome because there is a whoop age that breaks down all the components that go into it so you can consciously say “ok I need to aim for 9k steps vs the 8k I was getting” and then see the whoop age improve. Of course “age” is BS but it’s a useful baseline metric for score

Oura needs some features like this to help people actually improve their life vs just giving data

One plug let me do my entire 2200 sqft first floor, few low pile rugs but otherwise mostly hardwood, rolled around like a charm

I did realize that part of my issues vacuuming is that I just halfass it and don’t go over everything lmao. Now I know anything remaining is bc I missed not because the vacuum stinks lmao

But it sure is satisfying watching hair and crumbs get sucked into the vacuum.

Question.. any reason to not do max power at all times on hardwood?

Would love to support a local business. Need someone to help us add warmth to our home but also execute the plan. We are busy with two very little kids so I’ve used ChatGPT and the likes to come up with stuff that looks good but am overwhelmed at actually finding where to buy stuff and pulling the trigger not to mention installation of large artwork, curtains, etc.

I don’t mind spending money when it’s worth it but do have a budget so I don’t want a designer who
Just picks out super expensive items like some we have talked to in the past.

Just got the Sebo d1. Have an open floor plan home with around 2200sqft, all hardwood with 2 low pile rugs on the first floor.

I was sold the d1 as it’s long enough that I’d be able to plug it in and not have to unplug it to clean wherever I’d want on the first floor. Sounded awesome in theory.

But in application, I’m overwhelmed. Having to unreel the entire 40ft cord every time feels so cumbersome. Not to mention to mention then navigating and vacuuming around not only this gigantic cord but also super long hose.

The dealer I used actually marked it down pretty nicely and it wasn’t more expensive than the E2 so
I thought “why not get the bigger one” plus having features like the swiveling hose, extra wheel do feel more maneuverable so I love those features.

I think I’m doing something wrong and this is a me issue, not a vacuum issue. So what are the tips for managing the cord/hose? Does unwinding it start feeling easier?

For example, I want to improve my zone 4-5 cardio per week. Any apps that monitor this? Or I want to get more steps. Or I want to do more low intensity cardio. Etc.

The whoop I used to have tracked all this stuff, compiling it into a mostly BS but still wildly motivational “whoop age”. Now it had no bearing on how old my body is lmao but improving those metrics to get my whoop age to improve was awesome.

Its super annoying to have to first pick up the big dirty stuff, second vacuum, third mop. There has to be something to help make this process easier. we have kids making messes, we have adults dropping stuff while cooking, food splattering, etc.