u/More_Pension4911

Normies don’t wanna hear your problems/complaints and it feels so dehumanizing and isolating. Their go to answer to everything is “but hey you are so pretty and beautiful“. Even a female doctor said this one while I was explaining to her how my health condition was affecting my life. A crush once said to me you will have a really successful real estate career selling houses since you are so pretty.

As a female with pretty privilege I am yet to find even one single female friend who won’t get jealous of me. I don’t even flex or put them down in anyway yet my appearance and confidence alone makes them insecure somehow. Getting accused of stealing their bf/crushes while Im literally not even talking to them or wanting them in anyway. I see some women with their girl gang or besties hanging out no jealousy just peak girlhood and kinda wish I had that too.

Objectification, whether its a guy or girl I feel like everyone ones to associate themselves with me just for my outer appearance. They don’t value me and see me as a person.

Putting me on a pedestal, (not always bad but also not good) co-workers, friends, random people wanting my constant assurance, approval and validation and copying my style and personality and even my freaking name feels kinda weird and not flattering.

I have a bunch of health conditions so people really think that they can’t be that bad since I look great while I am here dying inside.

Men stereotyping me in the “beauty with brains” category as if they expect me to dumb and stupid just because I’m pretty so I must not be smart and this only exists for women because there is no saying “handsome with brains”

I also look young for my age and people don’t take me seriously and treat me like a kid.

I really wanna stay marriage free but the way our society puts direct and indirect pressure to marry is insane especially for a women..

Not only I’m marriage free Im also relationship/man free/celibate after a series of bad abusive relationship and Im actually pretty happy being single but men around me cannot digest this!!

From my landlord who wants to ”cure” my perceived depression by offering me to have sex with him to the doctor I saw today who prescribed me ”marriage & having kids” as the solution. This is fucking scary.. If this how society is while I’m 32.. Im afraid if getting old unmarried as I’ll be even more vunerable.

All the men as soon as they see and hear unmarried/single/celibate women starts salivating and foaming from their mouth. I feel so vunerable and wondering if I have to get married just to stay “protected“ but even thats not guaranteed and knowing my luck I know I will probably land in an abusive marriage and won’t be able to leave that.

Im so sick of this!!

A lot of them keep selling the “humble beginnings” story narrative saying I came to Dubai with $300 dollars now I’m a billionaire..

How is it even possible can someone spill the tea on how these people actually got rich?

The more I try to build a better relationship with them, more angry they get and if I don’t then ofcourse that all ends bad for me. I cannot win either ways because they have me in double bind.

I cannot move out, I did earlier but suffered financially, health wise and in other ways because when the world knows your parents are your no. 1 opp they wanna bank on the fact you got no support and abuse you more so I thought rather than the world abusing me its better to take my parents abuse.

For the time being, I have to live with them because there is no other option but the ragebait they drop every second is tooooo much to handle..I have tried the grey rock technique too but they also bash me for not “engaging” with them and acting distant🫩

They won go to therapy either, if I stay home then Im “lazy” and if I go out then I’m “never home“.. help me

I find it so funny that almost all the minimalism influencers constantly push their audience to buy something and then they dive right back into “✨jOys oF mInImAlIsm✨”

its like someone saying don't do drugs they are bad but oh hey try this drug because its more bEtter, SuStAinAble, OrgAniC, GoOd fOR pLaNet blah blah and use my coupon code for 10% off.

I cannot take these influencers seriously when they are literally contradicting themselves.

Minimalism itself is capitalistic these days, people have built careers preaching something they themselves don’t follow..

All business operate for profit, i refuse to believe any organic, ethical, sustainable, good for planet business is actually all that…

I‘m 32 and have just recently realised that my own shopping addiction came directly from my parents while I have admitted that I have a problem and trying to overcome it but my parents are adamant that Im just acting poor and need to live a little. They think that me not constantly buying stuff is me depriving myself of a good comfortable luxurious life.. they are not rich nor poor maybe a step above poor. Every conversation with them about this topic turns into a big argument, I just don’t know how to make them understand and overcome this.. they have had troubled life so I get that shopping gives them instant dopamine hits to feel good and get through the day but our house has sooooo much stuff.. there is not enough room to breathe even though we have a big house but its full of stuff everywhere..my dad has 3 cars one for each type of occasion which is excessive and my mom buys multiple of everything, multiples of clothes, bags, shoes, utensils, literally everything. They worked so hard for this money and seeing them waste it like this feels painful to watch

Wanted to share a frugal life hack that I just discovered that will save electricity bills in summers. Earlier I used to used to turn on the ceiling fan and A/C at the same time in order to make my room cool faster but I realised it would take hours, now I run the A/C first let it run for 15-20 minutes to completely cool the room first and then turn it off and turn on the fan.

The fan then just re circulates the already cool air back in the room for a couple hours and I don't have to keep the A/C running all day to feel cold, it gives a wind chill kind of effect. Bonus if you have blackout curtains that block sun/heat too.

This is because hot air rises above so air trapped above the ceiling fan gets pushed down again and again without getting a chance to cool down first.

life is meaningless but yes we give it meaning to pass it but the facts are facts, if we step back from our delulu world, nothing in life matters.

Except the basic human needs good homemade simple meals, roof over my head, basic life necessities I have no desire to acquire anything but why is the considered normal when we are constantly “chasing” things ?

I still try to find whimsy in my everyday life in low to no cost ways but apart from that everything feels so bleh .. i dont care who wins fifa world cup, idc which celeb wore what and broke up with you, idc if my friends bought latest iphone or chanel bags.. i dont desire anything now but that also means I don’t fit in society now. Im sure im not a monk either I’m probably missing some blind spots, like if I overthink me wanting a simple life is also a chase… ugh

Once a big time foodie, i dont even bother buying my food items.. like what’s the point after that first half a second my dopamine will again return to baseline hence keeping me in chase..

I stopped buying fast and convenience food last year and usually plan my meals around my day in advance to either eat at home or take it with me, last slip up happened once last month and again today was one of those chaotic days and I had to cave in. Paid $15 for a mid burger, fries and coke combo and I was hungry in less than an hour. On top of that, I'm feeling poor like I'll never recover from this financial loss, it may sound dramatic but I'm deadass I ain't got that kind of money to spend, Canada is becoming unaffordable day by day!!

If I can't even afford once a month burger combo without having a heart attack, how the hell will I ever buy a car, house, etc etc in this city... I was fully prepared to rather get dizzy from hunger pangs than buying the meal. This is not how a first world country should operate.

Feel like a loser, no I don't have a friend, bf, husband or anyone else that I can live with. This is my only option for now but im really scared.. I confronted them and unleashed all my bottled up anger of 32 years, they are big mad but I guess still better than being homeless.. though they have made me homeless all my life before too...

Toronto is nearly not as bad as b and m town, it wasn’t one community in particular , ofcourse come from our community but also black people but a white lady was super nice. Felt so out of place , is this the norm here?

The 3 year old is head over heels in love with me lol which I’m quite shocked about. She wants to sleep in my bed, stay in my room, follow me around house, praises me, begs me to play with her, overall really sweet kid not well mannered all the time but I guess I’m a lil biased based on how much attention she is giving me but Im not used to all this. yes its cute for a while but also making me feel suffocated like she wants to be present in the washroom with me and touch me with sticky hands and asks me to lift her up, I have horrible physical strength. I kinda feel bad writing this about her but I personally cannot handle this much attention.

The 9 year old is another story, she is jealous of me (I‘m 32 but pass off as a teenager sometimes due to being thin and baby face features) she has been rather mean with me and almost competing with me and they both are competing and fighting with each other for my attention too and I’m feel suffocated in admist of all this. She also threw dust at me out of jealousy which I gave her stern look and really had to drink my anger. They got hold of some of my documents and I said those are very important give them back to me right now and they started teasing let me rip those apart. Nearly got a heart attack while I jumped to get it from them. They went through my bag, inspecting everything and I have a week more to go here

Damn I just got a little taste of what having kids would actually feel like and my CF decision has never been more strong! When they are quiet for a moment I literally feel like I’m in heaven.

I had to move today by myself and really thought oh its gonna be fine its not too much stuff but stuff just kept coming out as my back was giving up on me..

I took a before and after pictures of the area and in the before while packing stuff picture there was no clear pathway to move but my brain didn’t immediately clock it as hoarding its almost like I was blissfully and willfully blind..

Yes it was difficult to move around but I adapted and saw it as a normal thing having to jump and doing mental math of where can I put my next foot. After moving everything the free walk was something else..

Weird that I buy lot of stuff but have a hard time using it because Im always saving it for a perfect future moment… small example last week I bought a cute keychain and today it took all the strength in the universe to put it on my bag.. like my day was filled with anxiety rather it giving me some dopamine I was afraid it would get ruined.. like we live in fast fashion mass production world its not like I cannot buy it again if it gets lost but still I get worried.. whats the point of buying stuff if Im not gonna be using it and keeping as decor. I know all the all hard facts like if I die tomorrow without using it then I have missed out waiting for that special occasion to arrive.. if more time passes the harder it becomes for me to use it I have clothes with brand new tags on from 15 years ago…. And at this point it would physically make me sick to use them

seriously is the food, water, air they intake? one hardly hears about good asian parents.. why are most of them narcissists? there is no sub called whiteparentstories or blackparentstories.. so why asians???

Don't say "jUst mOvE ouT" not everyone is in a situation to leave. This is hopefully temporary , how do I keep myself sane without bottling things up because that will lead to another autoimmune disease.

Those with healthy parents have no idea how lucky and blessed they are in life meanwhile some of us out here born directly in world war 3 battlefield

Ofcourse I know that most if not all want more and more information from a tenant but what exactly it goes into too much territory?

I assume recent pay stubs or if those aren’t available then bank statement, credit report, drivers license, references. Asking for passport, pr card, past places worked etc is it too much for a private small landlord?