u/More_Pension4911

I had to move today by myself and really thought oh its gonna be fine its not too much stuff but stuff just kept coming out as my back was giving up on me..

I took a before and after pictures of the area and in the before while packing stuff picture there was no clear pathway to move but my brain didn’t immediately clock it as hoarding its almost like I was blissfully and willfully blind..

Yes it was difficult to move around but I adapted and saw it as a normal thing having to jump and doing mental math of where can I put my next foot. After moving everything the free walk was something else..

Weird that I buy lot of stuff but have a hard time using it because Im always saving it for a perfect future moment… small example last week I bought a cute keychain and today it took all the strength in the universe to put it on my bag.. like my day was filled with anxiety rather it giving me some dopamine I was afraid it would get ruined.. like we live in fast fashion mass production world its not like I cannot buy it again if it gets lost but still I get worried.. whats the point of buying stuff if Im not gonna be using it and keeping as decor. I know all the all hard facts like if I die tomorrow without using it then I have missed out waiting for that special occasion to arrive.. if more time passes the harder it becomes for me to use it I have clothes with brand new tags on from 15 years ago…. And at this point it would physically make me sick to use them

seriously is the food, water, air they intake? one hardly hears about good asian parents.. why are most of them narcissists? there is no sub called whiteparentstories or blackparentstories.. so why asians???

Don't say "jUst mOvE ouT" not everyone is in a situation to leave. This is hopefully temporary , how do I keep myself sane without bottling things up because that will lead to another autoimmune disease.

Those with healthy parents have no idea how lucky and blessed they are in life meanwhile some of us out here born directly in world war 3 battlefield

Ofcourse I know that most if not all want more and more information from a tenant but what exactly it goes into too much territory?

I assume recent pay stubs or if those aren’t available then bank statement, credit report, drivers license, references. Asking for passport, pr card, past places worked etc is it too much for a private small landlord?

I get this often but idk if people mean this as compliment or insult.

I love cleaning but I also feel overwhelmed by number of cleaning products I have to buy, manage and restock.. draining for me, my wallet and space. I don't have kids or pets just to preface so I don't need recommendations for those but I really want to keep it super super light once I finish my current products. Please suggest one or two products that kind of take care of bathroom, kitchen, room, floor cleaning. I have barkeeper friends but controversially don't like it.

Is dish soap a good option to cleaning everything?

I'm pretty sure for most of us our shopping addiction is caused by some form of trauma either earlier in childhood or later in life. Those who traumatized us left us feeling so unsafe and eroded our trust in people that we switched to finding safety and comfort in things but that void cannot ever be fulfilled, this is precisely why we keep chasing that temporary hit of dopamine.

This addiction keeps us in endless abusive loop too, when I think back to the time there are sooo many times when I couldn't leave abusive situations right away due to all the stuff I owned, had to rent more expensive and bigger places to accomodate my stuff... but my stuff was all I ever had, my stuff was the only thing that never abused and traumatized me in ways people did.

At this point my only motivation to not shop is solely that less stuff I own, less it owns me. I just want the ability to pack all of my stuff in 15 mins max, get in an uber and leave an abusive situation right away.. I feel so burdened by my stuff..

Capitalism teaches us "you need more" "more you have, more happy you will be" "buy this, buy that and watch your life get easier and better" so that could not be further from the truth!! It keeps us stuck in abusive jobs, relationships, rentals, marriages etc.

I physically get sick seeing all types of marketing now, its literally all fake and manufactured to keep us stuck , steal our money and keep us dependent on this drug and just like any drug no matter how much you consume you will never be happy infact with time you will need more and more to attain the same level of happiness.

I'm trying to leave an abusive situation and my stuff is number 1 I cannot just walk out of the door. Trying to find movers is another burden and while I understand they are doing their job but all the sneaky ways they jack up the price saying if it was 3 stairs then charge is $ and if it has 5 stairs then charge is $$ etc. Its way too itemized to drive more profit out of our addiction.

At this point I have love and hate relationship with my CPTSD.. it has both kept me feeling safe and unsafe so many times that I don't really whether I really want it to go away or not... like I want to but also don't want to.

Everytime I try to think that I'm finally safe... and boooom something happens exactly how I predicted.. idk what kind of fucked up self fulfilling prophecy or expert level of pattern recognition/hypervigilance is this..

It's so exhausting to live with it but it has also saved me from sooo many predators that a part of me never wants it let it go... its literally the only thing that has saved me...what the fuckkkkk

When something happens exactly how my gut had predicted it just reinforces that how much "beneficial" my cptsd it..

It feels like this weird superpower, I can read a situation and person for who they are in the first few seconds... my fucking gut be always right.. I'm not saying this is a bad thing, its a good thing but it shatters my trust in the world even more...

It seems to good to be true, its cheaper than other movers, they have 5 star reviews but not sure how transparent and good they are actually like what is the catch? Would like to hear review if someone used them for moving apartment in Toronto?

So this doesn’t include things like house mortgage, car loans, student loans, health loans.

Those are standard with every generation, I wanna know what else is our generation taking loans on and how much... I feel like our generation was taught to avoid debt at all costs or at-least thats what my parents taught me, I know rich people scheme they take debts and hide income and taxes behind it but the thing is they have the money in the first place and other means to do this set up.

Now every finance guru is always yapping about you need to be in debt just like rich people and avoid paying taxes through that but I still feel like debt is a scam for the regular folks but ofc wanna know if thats actually true.

I also have never used apps like klarana and other buy now pay later apps and gen z apparently puts their everyday purchases like coffees, pizzas like even the smallest of the smallest things on their which is kind of a debt really. I wouldn’t even be able to enjoy a coffee if it was on debt honestly and would happy go without coffee, this isn’t to judge anyone’s situation but idk I’m really scared of being in debt.

For me, I will use a coupon if I intended on buying that thing anyways but wouldn’t necessarily always buy just because I have a coupon on it.

I also don’t actively collect loyalty points, cards or air miles from different stores and most of the time even forget that I have a card that I need to collect these points on.

Everytime I go to Walmart they keep pushing the credit card on me luring me with upfront $25 loaded on the card and other stores like shoppers drug mart that lure by giving points depending on what, how much and when you buy it. Some control how much minimum you have to spend to retain the “membership“ benefits like Sephora.

Everyone around me is always talking about collecting these points like they are catching pokemons doing the mental math that if I buy packs of toilet paper this week from that store then I got 20,000 points in rewards and I feel like I‘m out of place and wanna hear are there other people like me out there or is this norm? Also in my mind these points don’t really end up saving that much really because shoppers has a minimum point redemption I think 10,000 and wit the way inflation works things are getting costly day by day, by the time one collects 10,000 points that say equate to $10, the value of the reward has already gone down and the cost of things have gone up.

Also you don’t just earn points or percentages on everything, some give 1% some give nothing and max I have seen is 3% which is still pretty low

I do use flipp app and will price match if I wanted to but the item in the first place.

I added my last year’s order and yikes it totalled $1500 CAD (I’m just one single person, not even a family or a partner) what is your annual expense on shein?

question in title, how does it feel? Im guessing as our human nature is to chase chase chase, the limerence wore off?

or the other way around why are more millennials choosing to stay marriage free than other generations older or younger than them.

This is my first time in a situation like this , also all people will be random we don’t know each other Im not comfortable taking someon’s responsibility if they don’t pay rent then perhaps landlord will ask me to pay and if they cause some other default then I will be on the hook.

The state of so many rentals is sooo bad.. im not talking about luxurious things, just basic cleaning is such a RARE phenomenon in Toronto rentals.. why is that???

I was picky eater as a kid, and fresh vegetables and fruits were my arch enemy for most of my childhood , teenagehood. I avoided them like plague. I grow up in a country where fresh variety of produce was easily available and affordable but its considered a third world country.

After moving to a “first world country” where fresh produce is a luxury, you buy two types of vegetables and fruits in one week and now you are broke. I feel stupid for ever hating on vegetables and fruits and kinda feel like its backwards.