u/QTpieme

Okay backstory: I met her many years ago, at first she was super nice and sweet, caring etc. then slowly she became entitled (asking me to drive her to another city to buy dessert) and getting mad at me if I didn’t want to hangout or cancelled plans.

I cut her off because I saw her acting insane on a few occasions (like going up to a guy at Costco because she thought he gave her the finger and yelling at him).

When I cut her off she started gossiping about me to mutual friends.

A few months ago I reached out because my therapist told me to reach out to old friends. So I did. She seemed to have changed whenever we hung out but I always felt pressure around her because I knew about her rage.

We had been hanging out but I could see red flags in her, like making fun of our mutual friend for lying about her age, and I thought I should keep my distance and only see her to eat, but not get close again. And lying that the store employee was “staring at her ass” (she never even turned her back to him) and she reminded me of an old narcissist friend that started smear campaign against me. (Making fun of people, lying about unnecessary stuff for an ego boost)

Well yesterday we went out, her bday was last week and I took her flowers cake and a card. But told her to message me where she wants to eat.

She messaged me at 2pm and I told her I’m free at 5pm. She said she wants to go at 6:30-7.

So I pick her up at 6:30, she was already in a bad mood. Swearing and cussing off a Tim Hortons employee because she claimed the employee was popping her pimples before making her drink and explained how she fought with her, she was getting angry and reminded me of Thewizarliz’ ranting videos tbh. I was freaked out.

we arrive at the restaurant, it’s like a shawarma place so I thought it would take about 10-30 min to get the food and 1 hour to eat. When I told her that’s how long we have she got ENRAGED. She said I’m rushing her and she wants take out and I said ok let’s go order, then she said she doesn’t want to go inside

Then out of nowhere her eyes turn creepy and she lashes out “YOU ALWAYS RUSH ME YOU ALWAYS DO THIS WHEN WE HANGOUT YOU ARE ALWAYS FIDGETING WHEN WERE TOGETHER AND I DONT APPREICATE IT”
mind you it was in public near the entrance and the people inside were looking at me like “wtf”. Then she went on a tangent and I walked inside the restaurant to get away from her.

I found this so disgusting because I always pick her up from work in traffic, and we eat and hangout after. Last time we hung out she only stayed an hour because of period pain and I just said ok np.

After that she walked off, and I had no desire to speak to her. I don’t know where she went and I didn’t care. I left and blocked her.

Was I okay to do this?

Okay backstory: I met her many years ago, at first she was super nice and sweet, caring etc. then slowly she became entitled (asking me to drive her to another city to buy dessert) and getting mad at me if I didn’t want to hangout or cancelled plans.

I cut her off because I saw her acting insane on a few occasions (like going up to a guy at Costco because she thought he gave her the finger and yelling at him).

When I cut her off she started gossiping about me to mutual friends.

A few months ago I reached out because my therapist told me to reach out to old friends. So I did. She seemed to have changed whenever we hung out but I always felt pressure around her because I knew about her rage.

We had been hanging out but I could see red flags in her, like making fun of our mutual friend for lying about her age, and I thought I should keep my distance and only see her to eat, but not get close again. And lying that the store employee was “staring at her ass” (she never even turned her back to him) and she reminded me of an old narcissist friend that started smear campaign against me. (Making fun of people, lying about unnecessary stuff for an ego boost)

Well yesterday we went out, her bday was last week and I took her flowers cake and a card. But told her to message me where she wants to eat.

She messaged me at 2pm and I told her I’m free at 5pm. She said she wants to go at 6:30-7.

So I pick her up at 6:30, she was already in a bad mood. Swearing and cussing off a Tim Hortons employee because she claimed the employee was popping her pimples before making her drink and explained how she fought with her, she was getting angry and reminded me of Thewizarliz’ ranting videos tbh. I was freaked out.

we arrive at the restaurant, it’s like a shawarma place so I thought it would take about 10-30 min to get the food and 1 hour to eat. When I told her that’s how long we have she got ENRAGED. She said I’m rushing her and she wants take out and I said ok let’s go order, then she said she doesn’t want to go inside

Then out of nowhere her eyes turn creepy and she lashes out “YOU ALWAYS RUSH ME YOU ALWAYS DO THIS WHEN WE HANGOUT YOU ARE ALWAYS FIDGETING WHEN WERE TOGETHER AND I DONT APPREICATE IT”
mind you it was in public near the entrance and the people inside were looking at me like “wtf”. Then she went on a tangent and I walked inside the restaurant to get away from her.

I found this so disgusting because I always pick her up from work in traffic, and we eat and hangout after. Last time we hung out she only stayed an hour because of period pain and I just said ok np.

After that she walked off, and I had no desire to speak to her. I don’t know where she went and I didn’t care. I left and blocked her.

Was I okay to do this?

I asked her if she wants to go out at 5pm and she said no, she wants to go at 6:30-7pm. So I have to be home by a set time, but I didn’t tell her because I assumed 2 hours is enough.

I picked her up from her apartment and drove to the restaurant, I didn’t tell her before hand I only have 2 hours, it’s not a fancy sit down and more of a fast food takeout place. So I assumed it would be enough time. It’s for her “birthday”.

When we arrived I told her and got out the car. While walking to the restaurant she got mad and started heating up and telling me no she doesn’t want to go, and that I’m rushing her.

She was already in a bad mood when I picked her up because she said an employee at Tim Hortons was popppng her own pimples before making her drink, and she told her off, yelled at her and then proceeded to bash her to me, calling her a b* and other words. She sounded angry and rage full.

I proceed to walk to the restaurant , and she Then goes off on how I’m ignoring her, because I turned my back to her. I said there’s enough time to order and eat and for me to drop her so let’s just go order, she said no, she feels rushed then made up lies she alway feels rushed by me and I’m always fidgeting (false, I always go to eat with her, pick her up and eat and drop her off) sometimes I don’t stay out for 5-6 hours because I prefer 2-3 hours to hangout.

When she wanted to leave early last time because of period pain I didn’t care.
I
I continued to try and convince her to come in and order but she refused.

Then she got more heated and said “YOU ALWAYS DO THIS IM NOT GOING INSIDE WITH YOU AND IM LEAVING”. I came inside and sat down because she was scaring me and the people inside were looking at me like “wtf” (because I had the door open while she was going off. Now she’s left and walked away to god knows where and I have no desire to message her or apologize.

I mean who spends more than 1 hour eating anyways?!? The other times I never rushed or anything and stayed as long as she wanted and even drove her to other places to get desert and the grocery store.

Sigh. Am I in the wrong? I don’t want to talk to her tbh. Idk

TLDR: she left me at restaurant because I said i have 2 hours

I asked her if she wants to go out at 5pm and she said no, she wants to go at 6:30-7pm. So I have to be home by a set time, but I didn’t tell her because I assumed 2 hours is enough.

I picked her up from her apartment and drove to the restaurant, I didn’t tell her before hand I only have 2 hours, it’s not a fancy sit down and more of a fast food takeout place. So I assumed it would be enough time. It’s for her “birthday”.

When we arrived I told her and got out the car. While walking to the restaurant she got mad and started heating up and telling me no she doesn’t want to go, and that I’m rushing her.

She was already in a bad mood when I picked her up because she said an employee at Tim Hortons was popppng her own pimples before making her drink, and she told her off, yelled at her and then proceeded to bash her to me, calling her a b\* and other words. She sounded angry and rage full.

I proceed to walk to the restaurant , and she Then goes off on how I’m ignoring her, because I turned my back to her. I said there’s enough time to order and eat and for me to drop her so let’s just go order, she said no, she feels rushed then made up lies she alway feels rushed by me and I’m always fidgeting (false, I always go to eat with her, pick her up and eat and drop her off) sometimes I don’t stay out for 5-6 hours because I prefer 2-3 hours to hangout.

When she wanted to leave early last time because of period pain I didn’t care.
I
I continued to try and convince her to come in and order but she refused.

Then she got more heated and said “YOU ALWAYS DO THIS IM NOT GOING INSIDE WITH YOU AND IM LEAVING”. I came inside and sat down because she was scaring me and the people inside were looking at me like “wtf” (because I had the door open while she was going off. Now she’s left and walked away to god knows where and I have no desire to message her or apologize.

I mean who spends more than 1 hour eating anyways?!? The other times I never rushed or anything and stayed as long as she wanted and even drove her to other places to get desert and the grocery store.

Sigh. Am I in the wrong? I don’t want to talk to her tbh. Idk

TLDR: she left me at restaurant because I said i have 2 hours

I picked her up from her apartment and drove to the restaurant, I didn’t tell her before hand I only have 2 hours, it’s not a fancy sit down and more of a fast food takeout place. So I assumed it would be enough time. It’s for her “birthday”.

While walking to the restaurant she got mad and started heating up telling me no she doesn’t want to go, I’m rushing her. She’s always been an angry person so I cut her off for a bit, but I thought she had changed so tried to rekindle the friendship. She was already in a bad mood when I picked her up because she said an employee at Tim Hortons was popppng her pimples and she told her off before making her drink and was cussing her out still and going on about how gross she is.

Then she went off on how I’m ignoring her, I said there’s enough time to order and eat and for me to drop her, she said no, she feels rushed then made up lies she alway feels rushed by me and I’m always fidgeting (false, I always go to eat with her, pick her up and eat and drop her off) sometimes I don’t stay out for 5-6 hours because I prefer 2-3 hours to hangout.

When she wanted to leave early last time because of period pain I didn’t care.

Then she got more heated and said I ALWAYS DO THIS SHES NOT GOING INSIDE WITH ME AND SHE IS LEAVING. I came inside and sat down because she was scaring me (she’s a little crazy and I’ve seen her go crazy on people before so I don’t wanna deal with it). Now she’s left and walked away to god knows where and I have no desire to message her or apologize.

I mean who spends more than 1 hour eating anyways?!? The other times I never rushed or anything and stayed as long as she wanted and even drove her to other places to get desert and the grocery store.

Sigh. Am I in the wrong? I don’t want to talk to her tbh. Idk

I am turning 30 soon and feel depressed that I’m single. I did go out with a guy last year who tried to force me to give him a hand job when we met (left and blocked immediately). And went on dates with another guy which ended up being a love bomber that I think wanted to sleep with me and took me on several dates in a short period. (I didnt sleep with him) shortly after he started making excuses why he can’t see me, despite living down the street, so i ended things.

After him (it’s been a Year) i haven’t talked to anyone. Every time I get a like on a dating app I make an excuse “oh he’s too this or that isn’t right” and don’t like back (even though I get hundreds of likes).

Somethng doesn’t feel right?

The dating apps just don’t feel right? Is it my intuition? Because I know all my friends are stuck with abusive cheaters/liars/manipulators, and I really don’t know what the issue is but I just can’t get myself to like men back. Is it my bad experiences? Is it my intuition? I don’t want to end up with the wrong guy and ruin my life. My friend just went back to her cheating husband because she can’t handle being a single mom.

Whatever happened to her? I was rewatching bip and remembered her but she seems to have disappeared off of the face of the planet earth?

Anyone know Whatsup?

My dad just turned 70. He had an angiogram on Friday and yesterday we went to Costco to pick up his medication. He said “do you want to get anything” and I said ok we’ll get tofu, then two minutes later he said “do you want to get anything”……I said, I just said tofu

I know repetitive questions are a red flag but I thought maybe it’s from the light sedation he got less than 24 hours ago.
Then about 10 minutes later he asks the employee where it is and calls me, and says “what’s it called again” and I said tofu…..

Now today we went on a Walk this morning and I said “there will be a heatwave this week” and then abut 5 minutes later I said “the plants will need more water because of the heat wave” and he says “oh really? A heat wave”……

And I thought “I just said it 5 min ago…. Did he forget????”

Now I’m sick and getting a migraine from the stress.

Is there anything you wish you did before you got married? How did life change after marriage? How is it different?

Cat went outside afraid she came in contact with lilies

I wokeup to find my precious 14 year old daughter outside thanks to my irresponsible brother 👿.

She’s back inside and eating but my neighbors have some lilies and I’m afraid my cat came in contact with them but have no proof.

What can I do?? :(

TLDR afraid cat came in contact with lilies

I know how dangerous it is to share past trauma with abusers, they revel in it and see you as easy prey.

But what about grief from a loss, that has caused lots of health anxiety/worry about losing someone.

Is this something that shouldn’t be shared either?

What can I do to make him stop envying his friend’s life? (He’s 70).

My mom passed away 5 years ago and since I have been kind of taking on her role, like making food for my dad, and going on walks with him, spending time with him, taking him to appointments, etc.

I have no complaints about that, my dad is my best friend, nice and gives me everything and anything I want. And he’s usually happy and grateful

But since he’s come home from this trip, he keeps talking about how his friend lives in a bigger, nicer, cleaner house, and how his wife made them so much good food, how his house is new, etc.

We don’t live bad by any means, we have a 3000 sq ft house but it’s older. His friends was Brand new, and 4000 sq ft.
It seems he’s unhappy with the food I make, even though I make food to keep his health good, sure it’s not the tastiest but he went from having high cholesterol and diabetes to good cholesterol and controlled sugar levels.

Anyways, now he seems so sad and in the dumps compared to his friends life and will not stop talking about it and wanting to now move to his friends city (which makes no sense, we live in a sub right outside Toronto and his friend lives in a much farther sub that isn’t central)

Any advice on what I can do?

Tl:dr dad seems sad about his life after seeing his friends life.

What can I do to make him stop envying his friend’s life? (He’s 70).

My mom passed away 5 years ago and since I have been kind of taking on her role, like making food for my dad, and going on walks with him, spending time with him, taking him to appointments, etc.

I have no complaints about that, my dad is my best friend, nice and gives me everything and anything I want. And he’s usually happy and grateful

But since he’s come home from this trip, he keeps talking about how his friend lives in a bigger, nicer, cleaner house, and how his wife made them so much good food, how his house is new, etc.

We don’t live bad by any means, we have a 3000 sq ft house but it’s older. His friends was Brand new, and 4000 sq ft.
It seems he’s unhappy with the food I make, even though I make food to keep his health good, sure it’s not the tastiest but he went from having high cholesterol and diabetes to good cholesterol and controlled sugar levels.

Anyways, now he seems so sad and in the dumps compared to his friends life and will not stop talking about it and wanting to now move to his friends city (which makes no sense, we live in a sub right outside Toronto and his friend lives in a much farther sub that isn’t central)

Any advice on what I can do?

What can I do to make him stop envying his friend’s life? (He’s 70).

My mom passed away 5 years ago and since I have been kind of taking on her role, like making food for my dad, and going on walks with him, spending time with him, taking him to appointments, etc.

I have no complaints about that, my dad is my best friend, nice and gives me everything and anything I want. And he’s usually happy and grateful

But since he’s come home from this trip, he keeps talking about how his friend lives in a bigger, nicer, cleaner house, and how his wife made them so much good food, how his house is new, etc.

We don’t live bad by any means, we have a 3000 sq ft house but it’s older. His friends was Brand new, and 4000 sq ft.
It seems he’s unhappy with the food I make, even though I make food to keep his health good, sure it’s not the tastiest but he went from having high cholesterol and diabetes to good cholesterol and controlled sugar levels.

Anyways, now he seems so sad and in the dumps compared to his friends life and will not stop talking about it and wanting to now move to his friends city (which makes no sense, we live in a sub right outside Toronto and his friend lives in a much farther sub that isn’t central)

Any advice on what I can do?

I like
Popeyes Monday tenders combo
Whopper Wednesday
Gelato shack on Friday or mr sub.

How about you?

Looking for something to eat,
I usually get gelato shack Friday hot honey bowl special
Or Mr sub tuna

Wondering if there’s any other favourites?

Okay so anytime I tell this “friend” I bought something, she always replies “oh I already have that” or if I show her something like and try on and send her a pic, she replies, “oh I have that already”.

I never thought anything of it until earlier when I showed her a handbag I want to buy for my sister, and she said “oh I bought that for my mom”

And I thought, there’s no way she bought the exact same bag I wanted to buy for my sister, for her mom, and I realized she has been doing this anytime I show her something.

It’s crazy because she’s been going through a rough divorce and I’ve been supporting her 24/7 and now I’m getting a bad vibe from her.

Is she competing with me? Why does she do it every single time?!!

Okay so anytime I tell this “friend” I bought something, she always replies “oh I already have that” or if I show her something like and try on and send her a pic, she replies, “oh I have that already”.

I never thought anything of it until earlier when I showed her a handbag I want to buy for my sister, and she said “oh I bought that for my mom”

And I thought, there’s no way she bought the exact same bag I wanted to buy for my sister, for her mom, and I realized she has been doing this anytime I show her something.

It’s crazy because she’s been going through a rough divorce and I’ve been supporting her 24/7 and now I’m getting a bad vibe from her.

Is she competing with me? Why does she do it every single time?!!