u/Strong_Magazine_237

This is the third time I am calling the cops. Yesterday was my first day at my new job, and I was getting ready for work, and my mom just started spazzing out having a mental break down, acting very emotional, and yelling. I told her I will call the cops if she doesn’t calm down, she didn’t so I called them. Sorry if this wasn’t the best idea.. but I’m trying to put my foot down…. Apparently, like you guys said people with dementia you have to treat them like children, and I’m not trying to treat her like a child or treat her like I have authority over her… but like I just don’t know what to do. I’m only 29 years old. I’m uneducated in this field

They came, and my mom was on the phone with my brothers wife.. and she’s just coming at me, saying IM the PROBLEM, and that my mom needs to put her foot down, and kick me out, and take me to court, and I should’ve never moved back in. And is giving my MOM advice on what to say to the cops (because my brother and his wife are/were cops)

So I’m just baffled like, only if you knew the stuff my mom says about you, yet you’re defending her. She’s telling my mom not to get emotional, because that’s what I want, to get her emotional and to make her look crazy, and that I want her house…and she’s goin to help her get me kicked out the house….

So the cops come and the ambulance, and my mom is going CRAZYYYYYY, she’s breaking down, yelling, talking about how Barack Obama came to her house to use the bathroom room and that I said she was lying and what’s the big deal? And as she’s saying that my brothers wife, is calling my mom name and is like STOP TALKING !! STOPPPP!!! STOPPP!! And my mom would not STOP…. Barack Obama came to my house when he was campaigning , he used my bathroom…. The paramedics asked her who was the president and then my mom struggled to answer the question and one of the officers were talking to me he said yeah I can see that she just struggled right there to answer that question… and I’m showing them what she scored on her MMSE test and what that is, I’m showing them that she had to get tested for dementia, but she hasn’t been diagnosed yet… pretty much they said they couldn’t do nothing because she answered all their questions and she seems to basically be alive and aware….

So after they leave, I go into work, which is my first day, I worked from 3pm to 4am… and then it took me two-3 hours to get home… and as I was working all day this was in the back of my head, I do not have a key to the house.

I know she’s not gonna let me in… and my assumptions came true….. I had to call out of work, which I have to be there for 3pm again… and it’s currently 10:35am….. i spoke to my aunt and she said my sister said my mom won’t open the door because I’m telling everyone she’s crazy….

And I’ve called her phone Atleast 150 times. She won’t answer, and she actually accidentally called me back.. I’ve been knocking and she won’t answer….

And now I just called the cops again…. To deal with a lockout….

I’m tired, my feet hurts I’ve been walking all day, I’m starving, I’m sleepy. I’m genuinely trying to help my mom and she’s just fighting me and fighting me and fighting me… I’m trying to also get my life together, and she knows I need a place to stay while I get back on my feet and she’s just being spiteful and petty…. And controlling… this lady needs help.. no one in my family is willing to help me….. NO ONE.. idk if they are just waiting for her to die, to get her house and maybe her 401k.. or something.. idk man they my brother said I need to leave her to live by herself, but that doesn’t solve anything… which, I can’t, if I could I WOULD.. BUT IM BROKE MY CREDIT IS SHOT…..I LIVE IN NYC FOR GOD SAKES ITS HORRIBLE OUT HERE……But how are we supposed to be a family at a family reunion or a family gathering if she still has dementia and doesn’t get diagnosed or the help she needs.. me leaving won’t fix anything… she constantly complains to my aunts how she’s lonely…

I’ve already contacted APS by filing a forum.. about 3-4 days ago. Idk how long this will take I’m going to submit another one….

I know I keep coming on here and venting about this whole family situation but it’s like damn nobody in my family is wanting to help her. It’s like they’re all scared of her.

Everyone has their own husband or wife and kids and their own home and I’m the last child. The baby child of the family and I have really basically nothing but free time besides working….

My mom is being an asshole, I’ve been banging on the door.. no answer.. called her least 80 times on the phone, no answer… and I just worked a 13 hour shift and I have to go back to work in seven hours… for 3-11.. possibly till 4am again…. I’m still in my uniform from work. Outside in the heat, I’m tired, everything hurts.. and what sucks. It was only my first day of work, and it’s looking like I’m going to have to miss work. I can’t work with no sleep. .. it’s currently 8:25am… I’ve been working since 3pm and clocked out for 4am.. and spent 2 hours and 30 mins traveling home…

What would happen if I changed the locks? And cut her a key? And left it on the table….

We are currently on bad terms. And she has a lot of people in her ear that doesn’t need to be in her ears, she also is suffering from vascular dementia which is making things worse… she hasn’t been diagnosed, but there was a white matter of microvascular disease found in her MRI reports we still have to take the PET scan to find out what dementia she has…

Check comments for pictures

So I’m 29, meet this girl on the app called DOWN. She’s 18 currently in college..

After talking we came to the conclusion we would have sex, okay cool, she was down to me the same down but I was like nah I gotta clean my room maybe tomorrow. Tomorrow comes, I was finna ahead over to her house. And she like my period came… hmm okay weird… then the next day we were talking and she said she wanted to see it. I said okay. I sent her a video. And she left me on seen??

Now here’s the thing, she’s definitely over weight, I’d say.. chubby/obese.. something like a queen latifah or a Mo'Nique from meet the Parker’s.. but with a huge fat ass.

And I sent a message twice… the first one she left me on seen. And the second one I was like hey can you speak? If you’re not interested please let me know.

To be honest. Her ass is fat and idk if I have enough dick for it, but I was up for the challenge…. I’d say I’m around 7 inches, & I have about 17-20 bodies. Never heard a complaint….

I’m just baffled.

This is why I lowkey didn’t want to call the cops…. Everyone knows she has an issue and my brother is saying I shouldn’t moved back in here, and they saying I’m plotting to take her house and they are gonna find out what I’m up to….

Like I spoke to all of them and said hey I think you should file for guardianship for mom and none of them wanted to do it… none… I’m taking her to go to her neurology appointment to get help… no one else

And they are acting like I’m wrong….. that I shouldn’t have called the cops….. but the lady is erratic

Like it truly sucks… idk what they might try to do now… this why I wanted to wait till I was working again… cause now idk if I’ll get kicked out….

Like maybe they want her to die so they can get the house?
And. What ever assets she has?

I truly don’t care about her house… or want it…

My brother is complaining that I shouldn’t have moved in.. and I’m a grown man (29)and should have life figured out… and I shouldn’t have quit my job(USPS).. which I took a gamble to do something else (entrepreneurial).. and something back fired to where I had to move back in with my mom… but it’s just a minor set back, a obstacle.. and it’s like I’m not allowed to fail in life, I’m not allowed to fuck up….. I gotta be great….

but when I see videos of wealthy people. They talk about figuring life out, life isn’t easy… life is hard, but keep trying…. They motivate you.

And now they are mad I called the cops and are saying I shouldn’t have done that… and I should’ve went for a walk… but how much walking can I do till things get worse? Why doesn’t anyone understand dementia? It’s not just forgetting papers on a table or where you put your phone. It’s deeper than that…

If I move out… I’m never going to help her I’m going to move on with my life…but if I stay here I don’t mind trying to help her, she needs help.. why is everyone acting like she doesn’t? They know it.. but they say “well we just go for a walk or move out”… but it’s not about just living with the person… it’s about being able to be around them at a family gathering or going out to eat…

What do I do now? Idk what’s going on at the hospital… but I also called APS and filled out the paper work, so I’m sure they’ll pay a home visit soon..

I dug my grave by calling the cops… what do I do now?

So I’m in my room, minding my business and my mom comes to try and talk to me. And I told her I don’t want to talk right now, and for 15-20 minutes she’s just standing outside my door, trying to talk to me.. I’ve been down this road before. If we talk it leads to an argument. It got to the point where I turned the tv up loud so I can’t hear her… then she changes up her words.. oh I need to get something in your room… oh I need to borrow ur charger… she does this manipulation tactic… to get me to open the door, then go on a rant, then if I say something argument…..

then 10 mins go by I hear something at my door.. she’s trying to break in by putting a knife in between the slot to come in.

Her hand is stuck between the door as I’m holding the door knob so she doesn’t come in. Mind you she’s grabbing a shirt on hanging on the door as leverage, on my side of the door….I’m not squeezing her arm or anything but I’m not trying to let her come into my room…

Then words was exchanged, overtime and she said I punched her through the door, and she called the cops, I said something she didn’t like and she pulled the door back hard and rushed in the room…

I recorded EVERYTHING, from the moment she came to my room knocking on my door saying she wants to talk to me… and the moments where she stuck a knife in the door slot. I recorded it all. And I have it where she said I punched here when I never did… from start to finish….

I plan on showing the cops the videos and the paper work that my mom is getting tested for vascular dementia…. And telling them that she needs help. And to even show them a video I took of her when she said she wanted to drink poison and kill her self….

This is a tough situation I’m in, because 1-2 years ago when we didn’t know what was going on with her. Me and her got into it. And I was arrested and moved out for about a year. And I just moved back in a few months ago and now we now it’s really bad, but no one in my family is helping me.. or nothing…..

I plan on showing them the videos where she said Barack Obama came over to her house and everything and the test results of her mmse which was a 16/30

Hopefully the cops will see she needs some type of help? I didn’t not lay one finger on my mom….

I keep saying this, my mom is very combative. And it’s not fair at all. I’m trying to get my shit together as a man. Why do I have to deal with this? Where’s the respect?

I told her from the beginning I don’t feel like talking right now let’s talk later, because once she talks, SHE Never stops, and it’s not a thing where she’s talking about positive stuff, it’s always negative negative negative . I can’t take it it bro, I’m broke as fuck and possibly might live in a shelter I’m trying to simply just get my life together, and all she does is complain, blame me for stealing her cups and selling her cups, bringing a women over and leaving the panties in her bedroom. Constantly talking about her ex who abused her from 1970… talking about shit I do not care about… and all she does is just complain in my ear..

And she wants to force me to talk to her because it’s her HOUSE… where’s the boundaries ? I’m 29 years old, when my older brothers was living downstairs (the room I’m in now) she never ever did this to them… but because I’m the “baby” of the family I get treated like this?

A toilet is made for shitting but even a toilet can get backed up

Edit: she called the cops around 6:25pm… it’s 8:32 pm still no cops…

It just doesn’t even make sense to go into detail with what I have to deal with….

I don’t care if she has dementia and can’t control herself.

I’m at the point where I either won’t be on this planet anymore or I’m going to be living in a shelter…

Please do not report this I’m not going to unalive myself, but I am so stressed I just don’t know what to do anymore…

I’m dealing with a person that is so verbally abusive it’s taking a toll on me. I’m broke, I don’t have a job, I’m trying to look for a job while also trying to chase my dreams of being a entrepreneur, the only thing keeping me going in life is my dreams of being a successful entrepreneur… if it wasn’t for wanting to fulfill m my dreams id probably be dead along time ago.
I’m trying to look for a job, I had an interview yesterday hopefully I get it..

But I constantly have to hear, words of abuse, that I have to leave, she’s going to call the cops on me(which she’s done plenty times) … I’m bringing women and having them shower in her bedroom and leaving their panties and bras, their stealing her cups, panties and bras.

Mind you she said Obama came to her house (I have video proof)

The list goes on…

I need to be on the offense side.. idc how ugly things get, no one in my family wants to help…..

We was suppose to take a PET scan but it got rejected because of her insurance…. She had AETNA but something happened where her insurance switched to fidelis ( I’m confident she did it with out realizing) and now we are trying to switch it back,

And we had a neurophysiological appointment on June 19th but apparently they was closed so I have to reschedule.

We already took a MRI, it showed no signs of anything besides white small matter of micro vascular disease, and she also scored a 16/30 on the mmse…

I’m not going to harm myself, please don’t report me, but God damn what more can I do……….. I’m only 29… I’m trying to get my life together, I’m constantly getting told I have to leave and she doesn’t want me here. And I don’t even do anything….

Everytime she has a outburst or blames me for anything I record her, I recorded her yesterday on the phone with my sister saying I was leaving women panties in her bedroom bathroom, and that she’s going to drink poison and kill her self…

I’m thinking about contacting the police and telling her my mom is suicidal, because I know they have to take that very seriously and take people into the hospital to be evaluated

I just need help, I’ve commented before on what does APS do and no one gave any good advice… I’m at the point where I need to be on the offensive side and not defensive….

Edit: my older siblings don’t want to help….

Like come on… how fire would that be? To see the OG 13 captains… and I’m not talking 1 season.. as least 4-6 seasons….

I feel like they will do it.. but maybe in 2030-2035

Any reviews on this job?

I’m not looking for this long term… just for Atleast 2-3 months max.. if I really like the job maybe a bit longer…

I’m a full time Uber Eats driver I make anywhere from 1000-1400 a week. Wasn’t really saving my money and a emergency fund. Transmission went out now I need a job to get a new car. So I plan I working here for Atleast 2-3 months. Starting pay is only $17 a hour, possibly weekly I’m assuming, maybe biweekly…..

Any reviews?

Also I just found out it’s commission based after 90 days? Would I be able to save enough money as an assistant, to get a car? I’m not looking for something expensive.. just a reliable Honda or Toyota lol for $1.5k-$3k

Any reviews on this job?

I’m not looking for this long term… just for Atleast 2-3 months max.. if I really like the job maybe a bit longer…

I’m a full time Uber Eats driver I make anywhere from 1000-1400 a week. Wasn’t really saving my money and a emergency fund. Transmission went out now I need a job to get a new car. So I plan I working here for Atleast 2-3 months. Starting pay is only $17 a hour, possibly weekly I’m assuming, maybe biweekly…..

Any reviews?

Also I just found out it’s commission based after 90 days? Would I be able to save enough money as an assistant, to get a car? I’m not looking for something expensive.. just a reliable Honda or Toyota lol.

I already know the answer, but I still gotta ask maybe to see if there’s any possibility

I’m in desperate need of a car as having a car is my main source of income to do Uber Eats… I had my own car. My transmission went out. I wasn’t actually taking care of the fluid and I realize you know you have to be on top of the maintenance check that something that taught me a lesson and I take accountability and responsibility moving forward….

With that being said, I’m absolutely broke. I have no money no job horrible credit and I really need to get a car somehow someway.

I’m currently looking for a job. I’m not having any luck, but I won’t stop.

Here’s my question is there any absolute way I could somehow finance a car with no money and no job or proof of income?

I don’t care how much interest I’ll have to pay… I’m at the point of desperation…

Honestly, I’m not even looking for a new car. I just need a nice Hooptie….something for 4k or less

With Uber eats if I bust my ass off, I can make up to $1300 a week… every week..

If it helps, I was preapproved by Westlake for a budget of 13,000… but I’m sure that changes when I go into the dealership for a car.. when we do paper work..

I’m done ! I’m completely going to be spiteful ! Is filing for guardianship the only way to take control?

My mom is a FIGHTER, STUPID, and STUBBORN LIKE A DONKEY

Every thing is an argument ! EVERYTHING IM DONE!!! DONE!!!

I HAVE VIDEOS OF HER HAVING EXPIRED FOOD IN THE FRIDGE FROM OVER TWO YEARS AGO, HAVING DEAD FLIES IN THE FRIDGE, LEAVING PANTIES IN THE KITCHEN BECAUSE SHE THINKS IM BRINGING WOMEN IN HER HOUSE AND LEAVING IT BEHIND !!

SHE POSSIBLY HAS VASCULAR DEMENTIA!

NOTHING I CAN DO RIGHT NOW WILL HELP! HELPING HER EAT RIGHT, GOING FOR A WALK, NOTHING

HOW CAN APS HELP? SHES TRYING TO GET ME KICKED OUT (most likely won’t happen, but it’s a possibility…. 2 years ago we had a DV case, it got thrown out after a few months but I moved in with my brother then some friends , and couldn’t go back until case was dismissed and I recently moved back in because I was in a bad situation! Now moving back we learn she has some type of dementia ! But if the police come I’m going to show them the paper work on my mom)

BUT THIS IS GETTING OUT OF HAND, SHE CAN DISH OUT WORDS BUT CANT TAKE WORDS AND WANT TO CRY WOLF

DONE! IDC I ONLY NEED HER FOR A PLACE TO STAY AND WHEN IM ON MY FEET IM GONE

WE TOOK A MRI TEST THEY FOUND NOTHING BUT A SMALL WHITE MILD MATTER FOR MICRO VASCULAR AND WE HAVE A PET SCAN.. AND A APPOINTMENT WITH NEUROPSYCHOLOGY, IM NOT TAKING HER

If I was to hypothetically wanted a car under $6000, preferably $4000 and I have $1200 with a pre approved loan,( obviously it’s not approved ) by westlake for $13k would I be able to get it?

I just really need a cheap hooptie wether it’s 3k or 4k

Let’s not be judgmental here guys. I just need advice and help.

I’m sure it’s probably been done somehow someway….

But I’m looking to get any type of car I don’t care how much miles it is or what kind of car it is as long as it’s reliable enough to get me by for the next 2 to 4 months…. I can make more than enough money to go buy a nice used Toyota for 8000 or 10,000… my main source of income is Uber Eats and I lost my car. The transmission went out and I make a lot of money doing Uber Eats…

I got preapproved by Westlake for $13,000, but obviously that doesn’t mean I’m fully approved… I found this Honda pilot 2016 for $1000 down in total amount finance is $7248 now this part is what hurts is that the car has 231,528 miles with only one car owner in no accident reported in a clean title now I can’t see the full Carfax… but if I do go on person, I’m assuming it would be hopefully good… I really don’t care about the mileage $1000 down will be perfect because I could just grind Uber Eats pay the car off within one month and then next month save enough money to buy a better used car…