u/Strong_Magazine_237

Before you guys say maintenance is key, I agree… I’m mainly trying to figure out, are these cars really good? Especially for heavy mileage yearly, I know it’s a Honda.. but I just like the confirmation of hearing different people testimonials,I bought the car fax so here’s some details

2003 Acura MDX 3.5L V6 AWD with about 197,000 miles.
CARFAX highlights:
2 previous owners(one lease, one owner)
No accidents or damage reported
No salvage/rebuilt/flood/title issues
No odometer rollback indicated
34 service records
57 total detailed records
Mostly serviced in New Jersey
Very good service history when it was younger
Oil changes and regular maintenance documented
Transmission was internally repaired/serviced around 82k miles
Brake fluid flushed and front brakes serviced around 99k
Coolant flushed around 105k
Engine mounts and oil pan repaired around 105k
Passed NJ emissions inspection at 141k, 161k and 193k
Last CARFAX mileage: 193,433 in 2024 no other service record for 2 years… ( currently ~197k)
CARFAX value: $3,570

Current issues according to my mechanic:
Small transmission fluid leak
Exhaust leak
Needs brakes/rotors
Knock sensor
A/C needs to be serviced/recharged or vacuum… he put the Freon in and it was blowing cold air… but not strong enough or didn’t last long…

My mechanic estimated around $2,500 to address the mechanical issues.
I drove it from Brooklyn to Staten Island and it drove well with no major problems during the drive.
It also does have a check engine light
Also for what ever reason the passenger floor is wet

My goal is to get this car to Atleast 300k… shit 500k if I can, my main goal is to use this car for Uber Eats… and possibly traveling to different states just to meet up with some girls lol… but anywho I definitely plan on putting more than 25k+ a year in mileage…

I want to add CarPlay and I’d prefer to have it on the top screen rather than the bottom screen… but I haven’t seen any videos at all… not sure what to do

2003 Acura MDX — 197k miles — Looking for opinions
I’m considering keeping a 2003 Acura MDX 3.5L V6 AWD with about 197,000 miles.
CARFAX highlights:
2 previous owners
No accidents or damage reported
No salvage/rebuilt/flood/title issues
No odometer rollback indicated
34 service records
57 total detailed records
Mostly serviced in New Jersey
Very good service history when it was younger
Oil changes and regular maintenance documented
Transmission was internally repaired/serviced around 82k miles
Brake fluid flushed and front brakes serviced around 99k
Coolant flushed around 105k
Engine mounts and oil pan repaired around 105k
Passed NJ emissions inspection at 141k, 161k and 193k
Last CARFAX mileage: 193,433 in 2024 no other service record for 2 years… ( currently ~197k)
CARFAX value: $3,570

Current issues according to my mechanic:
Small transmission fluid leak
Exhaust leak
Needs brakes/rotors
Knock sensor
A/C needs to be serviced/recharged or vacuum
Some rust/cosmetic issues
My mechanic estimated around $2,500 to address the mechanical issues.
I drove it from Brooklyn to Staten Island and it drove well with no major problems during the drive.
Question: Given the mileage, service history, and current issues, would you consider this MDX worth putting money into? How much longer could my car last if I keep up the maintenance? I plan on using it for Uber Eats, and possibly meeting up with some girls in different states lol, so I definitely plan on putting over 30k of miles in a year…. I want to go for least 300k miles

I got about $2k saved, started this new job so I got 3 paystubs and I’ve been donating some plasma for extra money…

My credit is piss poor shot, I’ve been looking at some cars at local dealerships, some that are like $6k and under….

I’m looking strictly for a Toyota, Honda, or a Lexus and Acura

Runner ups are Volvo and Subaru

I lowkey want to finance a car because I can look at the car fax, but if I buy one off FB market I don’t have to worry about financing(though if it’s $6k to finance I can pay it off in a year, so I’m not tripping)

But with Facebook, it’s a hit or miss when buying a car… and I’m not sure what to do… I could wait a few more weeks, and save a bit more money.. but the main reason I got a job was to save to get back in to Uber Eats. Which was my main source of income…..

I got about $2k saved, started this new job so I got 3 paystubs and I’ve been donating some plasma for extra money…

My credit is piss poor shot, I’ve been looking at some cars at local dealerships, some that are like $6k and under….

I’m looking strictly for a Toyota, Honda, or a Lexus and Acura

Runner ups are Volvo and Subaru

I lowkey want to finance a car because I can look at the car fax, but if I buy one off FB market I don’t have to worry about financing(though if it’s $6k to finance I can pay it off in a year, so I’m not tripping)

But with Facebook, it’s a hit or miss when buying a car… and I’m not sure what to do… I could wait a few more weeks, and save a bit more money.. but the main reason I got a job was to save to get back in to Uber Eats. Which was my main source of income…..

Truthfully i tried to handle things my way even getting the police involved.. things I’ve did may have not been the best. But when you include other variables, things like with me, and starting over again at 29, moving back in with my mom. Stress and depression takes a toll you and then dealing with some one who has signs of progressive dementia, and is very ignorant, combative and all thee above… it just takes a toll on you.

I started my new job on July 4th, (haven’t got paid yet, hopefully this week) I honestly felt less stressful and more happy now that I gave up on my mom. And this was the same case when I even first moved out, life was more peaceful. And when I moved back in it just felt like I was stuck, We haven’t even talked in like 3 weeks now Atleast.. not even a word… but every day I hear her on the phone crying to some one, and this isn’t a cry for help, she plays the victim card very well… she sobs and cry’s, and looks for closure and attention…. At some point if you’re retired with a pension , and crying everyday because you don’t like what people say to you. You have a problem….. like I said before. She does nothing besides sit at the window all day everyday and eat like 3 eggs bread and tea, call and gossip to her friends….If that’s the life she wants to live then so be it…

She doesn’t want to talk to me because she said I called the ambulance and told them she’s crazy( which isn’t true).. now she doesn’t want to talk to me anymore….

Funny thing is.. my other two brothers.. she wasn’t talking to them either! But then when I do something wrong that’s when they get involved and come to her aid. And they’re a big happy family again…. But for me once I cross the line I’m the bad son…she’s always on bad terms with Atleast 3/5 of her children. And it repeats… when the other two she’s on good terms with do her something wrong, she tries to talk to the other 3 that she was on bad terms with and cries to them that the other two did something she didn’t like and then they come to her aid….

Anywho, I plan on saving for a car, a nice Toyota or a Honda, and then I’m saving for an apartment, I’ve been applying to NYCHA, and lottery apartments… this time around I plan on being more smarter with my money and save, because I don’t ever want to have to be back in the situation again… I also want to say, God is good, because the new job I work at, I deliver food to shelters, and the kitchen also cooks food for their workers, so every day I’ve been able to take food home and haven’t even spent a dollar on food… ALOT of food I bought with EBT before a few days I started the job I barely touched them, because of all the food I took home…

If anybody is dealing with a person that has dementia or signs of dementia and they are being abusive,verbally & emotionally, and they don’t want to admit they need the help, I suggest you give up and focus on your life, unless you’re rich and can afford to take time to actually put the effort in and help, because if you’re trying to balance helping them when they are refusing help, and focusing on your life, you’ll just be miserable.

I currently live in nyc and I’m trying to plan an emergency exit from a highly toxic and challenging living situation. I originally moved back in with my mother because I lost my income and needed a safe place to get back on my feet. However, she has advanced dementia and severe delusions (like claiming Barack Obama is visiting or that her own panties aren't hers). She has become intensely verbally and emotionally abusive, constantly threatening to evict me through the courts. My extended family is completely unsupportive in getting her the professional care she actually needs and they only seem interested in her property, while blaming me for the situation. I tried hard to help her get medical support, but she fights and resists me constantly. I've hit my breaking point and need to walk away to focus on my own life. I just started a delivery driver job last week, so I don't have paystubs yet and my current cash on hand is very low. I want to bypass the shelter system entirely if possible. Are there specific NYC programs, emergency rental assistance, or room placements that can help a single adult male secure an independent living situation with a brand-new job and limited funds?

I am currently in nyc and I’m trying to plan an emergency exit from a highly toxic and challenging living situation. I originally moved back in with my mother because I lost my income and needed a safe place to get back on my feet. However, she has advanced dementia and severe delusions (like claiming Barack Obama is visiting or that her own panties aren't hers). She has become intensely verbally and emotionally abusive, constantly threatening to evict me through the courts. My extended family is completely unsupportive in getting her the professional care she actually needs and they only seem interested in her property, while blaming me for the situation. I tried hard to help her get medical support, but she fights and resists me constantly. I've hit my breaking point and need to walk away to focus on my own life. I just started a delivery driver job last week, so I don't have paystubs yet and my current cash on hand is very low. I want to bypass the shelter system entirely if possible. Are there specific NYC programs, emergency rental assistance, or room placements that can help a single adult male secure an independent living situation with a brand-new job and limited funds?

They asked her a bunch of questions. Which my mom lied about some of them, saying she goes for walks, and cleans, when she sits in her room all day staring out the window. I tried to tell them my mom doesn’t know her own panties, she’s thinks it’s some one else’s, she thinks Obama came to her house.. man the list goes on..

And the lady said she can’t do nothing….. I really thought APS would be of help here…

And my mom doesn’t want me to take her to any appointments after I called the ambulance on her, she keeps saying I called them and said she’s crazy…. Which I didn’t I simply said she’s having a mental breaking down and acting hysterical….

So now I can’t even be of help because I can’t take her to any appointments…..

This is the third time I am calling the cops. Yesterday was my first day at my new job, and I was getting ready for work, and my mom just started spazzing out having a mental break down, acting very emotional, and yelling. I told her I will call the cops if she doesn’t calm down, she didn’t so I called them. Sorry if this wasn’t the best idea.. but I’m trying to put my foot down…. Apparently, like you guys said people with dementia you have to treat them like children, and I’m not trying to treat her like a child or treat her like I have authority over her… but like I just don’t know what to do. I’m only 29 years old. I’m uneducated in this field

They came, and my mom was on the phone with my brothers wife.. and she’s just coming at me, saying IM the PROBLEM, and that my mom needs to put her foot down, and kick me out, and take me to court, and I should’ve never moved back in. And is giving my MOM advice on what to say to the cops (because my brother and his wife are/were cops)

So I’m just baffled like, only if you knew the stuff my mom says about you, yet you’re defending her. She’s telling my mom not to get emotional, because that’s what I want, to get her emotional and to make her look crazy, and that I want her house…and she’s goin to help her get me kicked out the house….

So the cops come and the ambulance, and my mom is going CRAZYYYYYY, she’s breaking down, yelling, talking about how Barack Obama came to her house to use the bathroom room and that I said she was lying and what’s the big deal? And as she’s saying that my brothers wife, is calling my mom name and is like STOP TALKING !! STOPPPP!!! STOPPP!! And my mom would not STOP…. Barack Obama came to my house when he was campaigning , he used my bathroom…. The paramedics asked her who was the president and then my mom struggled to answer the question and one of the officers were talking to me he said yeah I can see that she just struggled right there to answer that question… and I’m showing them what she scored on her MMSE test and what that is, I’m showing them that she had to get tested for dementia, but she hasn’t been diagnosed yet… pretty much they said they couldn’t do nothing because she answered all their questions and she seems to basically be alive and aware….

So after they leave, I go into work, which is my first day, I worked from 3pm to 4am… and then it took me two-3 hours to get home… and as I was working all day this was in the back of my head, I do not have a key to the house.

I know she’s not gonna let me in… and my assumptions came true….. I had to call out of work, which I have to be there for 3pm again… and it’s currently 10:35am….. i spoke to my aunt and she said my sister said my mom won’t open the door because I’m telling everyone she’s crazy….

And I’ve called her phone Atleast 150 times. She won’t answer, and she actually accidentally called me back.. I’ve been knocking and she won’t answer….

And now I just called the cops again…. To deal with a lockout….

I’m tired, my feet hurts I’ve been walking all day, I’m starving, I’m sleepy. I’m genuinely trying to help my mom and she’s just fighting me and fighting me and fighting me… I’m trying to also get my life together, and she knows I need a place to stay while I get back on my feet and she’s just being spiteful and petty…. And controlling… this lady needs help.. no one in my family is willing to help me….. NO ONE.. idk if they are just waiting for her to die, to get her house and maybe her 401k.. or something.. idk man they my brother said I need to leave her to live by herself, but that doesn’t solve anything… which, I can’t, if I could I WOULD.. BUT IM BROKE MY CREDIT IS SHOT…..I LIVE IN NYC FOR GOD SAKES ITS HORRIBLE OUT HERE……But how are we supposed to be a family at a family reunion or a family gathering if she still has dementia and doesn’t get diagnosed or the help she needs.. me leaving won’t fix anything… she constantly complains to my aunts how she’s lonely…

I’ve already contacted APS by filing a forum.. about 3-4 days ago. Idk how long this will take I’m going to submit another one….

I know I keep coming on here and venting about this whole family situation but it’s like damn nobody in my family is wanting to help her. It’s like they’re all scared of her.

Everyone has their own husband or wife and kids and their own home and I’m the last child. The baby child of the family and I have really basically nothing but free time besides working….

My mom is being an asshole, I’ve been banging on the door.. no answer.. called her least 80 times on the phone, no answer… and I just worked a 13 hour shift and I have to go back to work in seven hours… for 3-11.. possibly till 4am again…. I’m still in my uniform from work. Outside in the heat, I’m tired, everything hurts.. and what sucks. It was only my first day of work, and it’s looking like I’m going to have to miss work. I can’t work with no sleep. .. it’s currently 8:25am… I’ve been working since 3pm and clocked out for 4am.. and spent 2 hours and 30 mins traveling home…

What would happen if I changed the locks? And cut her a key? And left it on the table….

We are currently on bad terms. And she has a lot of people in her ear that doesn’t need to be in her ears, she also is suffering from vascular dementia which is making things worse… she hasn’t been diagnosed, but there was a white matter of microvascular disease found in her MRI reports we still have to take the PET scan to find out what dementia she has…

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So I’m 29, meet this girl on the app called DOWN. She’s 18 currently in college..

After talking we came to the conclusion we would have sex, okay cool, she was down to me the same down but I was like nah I gotta clean my room maybe tomorrow. Tomorrow comes, I was finna ahead over to her house. And she like my period came… hmm okay weird… then the next day we were talking and she said she wanted to see it. I said okay. I sent her a video. And she left me on seen??

Now here’s the thing, she’s definitely over weight, I’d say.. chubby/obese.. something like a queen latifah or a Mo'Nique from meet the Parker’s.. but with a huge fat ass.

And I sent a message twice… the first one she left me on seen. And the second one I was like hey can you speak? If you’re not interested please let me know.

To be honest. Her ass is fat and idk if I have enough dick for it, but I was up for the challenge…. I’d say I’m around 7 inches, & I have about 17-20 bodies. Never heard a complaint….

I’m just baffled.