u/Tough_Iron_6939

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I am in such a stupid and difficult situation.

Its all so complicated and I cannot stop crying.

I am so stuck.

I started a term time permanent job thats 2 days a week in September 2025. I work Monday and Tuesdays 6 hours an evening.

After years of having agency contract jobs, i was happy to find something part time, permanent and near my house.

Basically, as it's a College, they end for summer break earlier than schools.

I asked my manager by email twice when will be the last day of term for me as a staff member and she said 23rd june. Twice she said that..once in march and again in the beginning of June via Email. I think its because she assumed thats when evening classes end for the summer.

Then, i saw my contract and actually, I am on a 38 week term contract, not 36. This means my last week should be this week.

However this is the issue and where it gets very bad:

Via Email back in March, my manager confirmed to me that my last day is 23rd june.

So i applied for a summer residential role which is 5 hours away and that began literally the 4 days after 23rd june on Saturday. Since I work 2 days a week, I thought i was done for the summer. They offered me a role and I ONLY accepted because I honestly thought I was done.

A day after my supposed "last day" she sends me a text saying that i am needed the following week on mon and tues. By this point, I am so scared because I have started my new temp job. The text was sent on Wednesday which is my non working day (I only work mon and tues) She called me on friday 26th too to confirm I will come in. As I am a people pleaser and scared of authority and losing my job, i said Ok. I was on the spot and agreed stupidly.

This current temp job is very physical and intense so I was in a lot of pain anyway and I called in sick for those days.

Again, the next day (wed 1st july), she told me she needs me to come in on monday 6th july. I told her I can't as I am not in that city but I will see if i can. She then responded angrily saying that i am on a 38 week contract and need to come in.

I told 2 of the managers in my current temp role and they said unfortunately I cannot go because the British Council are coming in that day to inspect us and since I am the only one with this role, i need to be here...the other girl with the same girl quit after 2 days so I need to be bere!

My permanent job-They have no cover availabile and I am the only 1 who works that job and has those hours. I am needed. Ironically both jobs need me there on monday. Both roles, i am the only 1 with the specific role.

After so much back and forth, the temp manager told me that if it was literally any other day, they would have been fine with me going to that permanent job.

What do i do?

If i dont go into my permanent job tomorrow, I will be blacklisted or made redundant. I enjoyed the job and attended everyday.

I have not opened by work email ever since out of intense anxiety.

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I am in such a stupid and difficult situation.

Its all so complicated and I cannot stop crying.

I am so stuck.

I started a term time permanent job thats 2 days a week in September 2025. I work Monday and Tuesdays 6 hours an evening.

After years of having agency contract jobs, i was happy to find something part time, permanent and near my house.

Basically, as it's a College, they end for summer break earlier than schools.

I asked my manager by email twice when will be the last day of term for me as a staff member and she said 23rd june. Twice she said that..once in march and again in the beginning of June via Email. I think its because she assumed thats when evening classes end for the summer.

Then, i saw my contract and actually, I am on a 38 week term contract, not 36. This means my last week should be this week.

However this is the issue and where it gets very bad:

Via Email back in March, my manager confirmed to me that my last day is 23rd june.

So i applied for a summer residential role which is 5 hours away and that began literally the 4 days after 23rd june on Saturday. Since I work 2 days a week, I thought i was done for the summer. They offered me a role and I ONLY accepted because I honestly thought I was done.

A day after my supposed "last day" she sends me a text saying that i am needed the following week on mon and tues. By this point, I am so scared because I have started my new temp job. The text was sent on Wednesday which is my non working day (I only work mon and tues) She called me on friday 26th too to confirm I will come in. As I am a people pleaser and scared of authority and losing my job, i said Ok. I was on the spot and agreed stupidly.

This current temp job is very physical and intense so I was in a lot of pain anyway and I called in sick for those days.

Again, the next day (wed 1st july), she told me she needs me to come in on monday 6th july. I told her I can't as I am not in that city but I will see if i can. She then responded angrily saying that i am on a 38 week contract and need to come in.

I told 2 of the managers in my current temp role and they said unfortunately I cannot go because the British Council are coming in that day to inspect us and since I am the only one with this role, i need to be here...the other girl with the same girl quit after 2 days so I need to be bere!

My permanent job-They have no cover availabile and I am the only 1 who works that job and has those hours. I am needed. Ironically both jobs need me there on monday. Both roles, i am the only 1 with the specific role.

After so much back and forth, the temp manager told me that if it was literally any other day, they would have been fine with me going to that permanent job.

What do i do?

If i dont go into my permanent job tomorrow, I will be blacklisted or made redundant. I enjoyed the job and attended everyday.

I have not opened by work email ever since out of intense anxiety.

3 weeks ago, I see he randomly deleted my number on WhatsApp. I thought I was blocked.

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Lmao, today i see he's added my number again 🤣

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Whenever I start noticing or liking a man, I realise afterwards that they're taken.

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They exude all the qualities I want in a man and have a great energy.

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Later on, I find out innocently that they are either taken or have a whole wife and kids.

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I am not having any affairs and they don't persue me for any affair.

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Its heartbreaking. It happens repeatedly.

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I come from a culture where marriage is common and an important part of the religion too. It's common for people in their mid late 20s to settle so I'm now very old (28), ofcourse many of the men i get interested in or develop feelings for are married.

I have been wearing it since age 9. Im 28 now

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Someone who'd drop everything

King charles uncle was disowned when he married a divorcee.

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Charles himself wanted his lover to divorce but couldn't so he married Diana and obeyed rules from his mother.

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Harry was the one who stood up for himself and married a Divorcee.

The area where I live, in the UK, many of the Pakistani women do not cover their hair at all but they are all muslim.

I am talking about married women too who come from very traditional families and marry into traditional families.

Hello

I would like to upskill and manage to get higher paying roles.

My job history has always been £25000 a year and my current is the worst... I earn £524 a month because its a part time job.

I am giving myself 3 months to finally break the salary ceiling and atleast earn £30k a year.

Im posting Here for your advice...can I do it? Is it achievable?

Is this normal?

That job was full time, had a narcissistic micromanager who was protected by the higher ups and I had horrible coworkers.

After I left, 3 months later, I got a 2 day part time evening job in another place but I'm still effected by my old job even now.

This job at first was a sigh of relief.

However my anxiety, truama and depression is spilling into my new job and unfortunately I am noticing hostile behaviour from colleagues and my manager which is making me want to hand in my notice.

I must add I live with a narcissistic toxic family since I was born too so idk.

Edit- when will it get better?

I am sick of this.

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Or narcissist family members?

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My whole family consists of narcissists or toxic people.

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I'm still unmarried to this day because of their actions, sabotage etc.

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I'm 28 now. F.

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In our family there are 6 siblings and the 22 year old is the biggest bully and narcissist.

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My other 25 year old sibling and 19 year old are also bad to me 22 year old takes the crown. I face alot of exclusion and them ignoring me and treating me like straight up crap. They're all close with eachother but ganged up against me.

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She has exhibited all signs of hostility and even does it to our mother. My parents are easily manipulated by her, especially my mother as shes quite naive. The 22 year old doesnt ask for permission to do anything.

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She's not scared of anyone and is disrespectful to our parents. It's sad but I think my own parents fear her but are also proudest of her out of all of us siblings.

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No matter what happens, everyone takes her side.

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She hates my guts and I have found out she gossips and says mean things about me behind my back such as showing pics of me to ppl and saying how I am a bitch. The day I found out about this I couldn't believe it... my own little sister didn't have a sibling loyalty towards me. I only found out this in Oct 2025 because the 25 year old blurted it out when we were sharing room in Mecca for pilgrimage.

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She really makes me feel like im a villain and problem . Out of all siblings, shes the one who has currently a legit close friend circle and was invited by them to their events and weddings etc. She'd always go alone and would be furious even if we asked her simple questions such as where was the venue or what did you eat there. She didnt ever show me pictures but would show 1 sibling and my mother.

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I remember a few months ago, she went to a baby shower of her friend and she would be secretive about her car boot...she'd angrily hide the stuff and close the boot in a pissed off way. I would ask mum what is that? Turns out it was a pile of hampers and gifts she made for her friends baby shower. I didnt even know she went to a baby shower until the day she came home. I dont understand what was the problem with telling us about it.

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She's very hot and cold and just scary to be around because you dont know how horrible she's going to be.

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She cant even smile or laugh with us and can't see us smile or laugh. I have tried smiling at her but she scowls.

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The other day, I had put a comedy movie on the tv and it was funny. Me and my mother were laughing. The sibling then said, why are we watching this with grandma in the room? She then upset me so I took the movie off and left the room. She didnt see wrong with her action.

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She never ever will apologise but wants everyone to say please and thank you to her and apologise.

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She's got not a single bit of empathy and its like walking on egg shells around her yet suddenly she'll be a saviour for my other siblings and mother randomly and be their hero.

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She destroys our confidence and cannot stand to see us happy. She ruins all happy occasions and is a massive souce of misery in the house.

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She is very selfish and was given the most opportunities out of us siblings. She has the most friends, social life, was allowed to live far away for uni and even has her own car which she drives every where and has freedom. She often meets her friends every weekend.

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She acts like I'm a problem for no reason and is really weird. For example, yesterday, she and another sibling went out for a drive, they then came back and were holding drinks. I simple asked as a normal question, nice where did you get the drinks from? She replied coldly a shop...i asked which one? She said, a shop, you dont need to know which one.

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I also asked the sibling she went with why is she being secretive and not saying where's the drink from? She then didnt tell me either as if she was instructed to not tell me.

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Without a fail, she always makes me and a lot of us feel like shit no matter what and before she left for university, she was a horrible person too.

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For example, she was able to have a job since age 16 and has always felt superior to me. Luck has always been on her side. When I finally got my first job at age 23, she was furious. She was 17 and she was venting to another sister how angry she is that I have a job...how bizarre!

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When it was July 2020 and covid, I was going through bad mental health and needed to finish my final year of my degree. I always requested if I could have the frontroom to study as it was the only cleanest and tidy room of the home at the time...she was starting sixth form and she'd tell my mother "I need the frontroom they're telling me to read loads of books before I start classes as part of my course" so she was prioritized. I failed my degree.

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She always steps over my boundaries no matter how small. One is that she sneezes extremely loud no matter what time of night or day it is. It really bothers me. You can hear it from another room thats how loud it is. I have asked to please not do it. She still does it. In fact I heard her 30 minutes ago.

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She takes ideas from me of what I want to do and does them with her friends.

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Once she completed uni, unfortunately she had to come back home and life hasn't been good since then.

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She officially came back in 2025 last year and since then, its suffocating with her. When she wasnt here for 3 years, she doesnt know how much I was doing. From working to cooking for everyone to cleaning etc.

She is actually so evil. You can't reason with her.

She takes everything I say with offence no matter what.

I'm the eldest and before this, I was finally okay in life and respected as the elder sister and etc. I had the harshest and stricter upbringing out of us all.

Once my aunt and cousin apparently told her that they think she'll get married before us all (her elder sisters) and I knew she must have felt so happy with hearing that.

Once this sibling has come back, I suddenly turned into the scapegoat and she's the one whos most respected and listened to. Its like she has wanted all the respect that the eldest sister should have. No one sees me as a human in this house but they would rather please her and more and she wants it that way too.

She even started a job in my old workplace and I confided in her that I had a bad time there because of bullying and a micromanager but she's loving it.

She's a big bully.

2 years ago, I had a temp residential job for a company she knew and she was scoffing when she found out i had this job. 1 year later she did the same job to prove she can do it...during her training day last year she met one of the friends I made during that residential job.

This year, because I am out of work, I applied for that same job. That friend was avoiding me this year when I did a training. I strongly feel the sister of mine has sabotaged my friendship somehow.

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She speaks to us in such rude and cold ways but is an amazing empathetic friend to her friends etc. She forces my mother and other siblings to do things they dont want to do and the way she speaks to my parents is horrendous let alone me.

She has made me withdraw and get more depressed. She is a major source of my depression but I have suffered from depression for many years so shes not the only source.

I have told her many ways how I feel but she just doesn't care.

Since she made me withdraw, I am seen as lazy and pathetic in this house whereas shes seen as the active one who is productive and dependable. She has even complained that she feels like shes the eldest child but shes a big reason why suddenly I've become burnt out and depressed. Its like I'm just floating by.

It honestly seems like shes pissed off by my entire existence and has turned my other siblings against me.

Luckily if all goes well, I am doing a temp residential job again this year but I am keeping it a secret from my siblings because I cannot trust them. Im waiting to see how this sibling is going to punish me.

She's very envious of me even though I have had and have a more shit life than hers. I am traumatised by events in my life that have shaped me into a person I wasn't supposed to be.

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She has friends to go out with and much more.

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I dont have friends or a stable good life here so I signed up for a 4 day vacation with strangers who were liked minded women...this angered my sister so much and she said to my parents that shes not allowed to go abroad yet I am. I still live in the same house I was born in.

She acts defensive my the littlest of things I say and do . She thinks all of my actions are revolved around her.

My parents raised me to be codependent, lack self esteem and confidence. I shrink myself no matter what. I was always well behaved and never rebelled. Im a people pleaser. I fear i will never change because i am 28 now. I am too obedient. My parents were and still are neglectful and I have never been properly heard or supported. I am an avoidant now with cptsd and people take advantage of me even in the workplace.

I am incredibly lonely even though I live with them all. They have always just left me alone and I have no one to talk with, laugh with, go anywhere.

Tl;dr - I have no one but my family. 1 in particular makes me miserable everyday.

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In our family there are 6 siblings and the 22 year old is the biggest bully and narcissist.

My other 25 year old sibling and 19 year old are also bad to me 22 year old takes the crown. I face alot of exclusion and them ignoring me and treating me like straight up crap. Honestly they're all one team. They hang out together and laugh together etc.

Everyone is on that siblings side.

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She has exhibited all signs of hostility and even does it to our mother.

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She's not scared of anyone and is disrespectful to our parents.

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She hates my guts and I have found out she gossips and says mean things about me behind my back such as showing pics of me to ppl and saying how I am a bitch. The day I found out about this I couldn't believe it... my own little sister didn't have a sibling loyalty towards me.

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She really makes me feel like im a villain and problem . Out of all siblings, shes the one who has currently a legit close friend circle and was invited by them to their events and weddings etc. She'd always go alone and would be furious even if we asked her simple questions such as where was the venue or what did you eat there. She didnt ever show me pictures but would show 1 sibling and my mother.

I remember a few months ago, she went to a baby shower of her friend and she would be secretive about her car boot...she'd angrily hide the stuff and close the boot in a pissed off way. I would ask mum what is that? Turns out it was a pile of hampers and gifts she made for her friends baby shower. I didnt even know she went to a baby shower until the day she came home.

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She's very hot and cold and just scary to be around because you dont know how horrible she's going to be.

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She cant even smile or laugh around me and can't see us smile or laugh. The other day, I had put a comedy movie on the tv and it was funny. Me and my mother were laughing. The sibling then said, why are we watching this with grandma in the room? She then upset me so I took the movie off and left the room. She didnt see wrong with her action.

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She never ever will apologise but wants everyone to say please and thank you to her and apologise.

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She's got not a single bit of empathy and its like walking on egg shells around her.

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She destroys our confidence and cannot stand to see us happy. She ruins all happy occasions and is a massive souce of misery in the house.

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She is very selfish and was given the most opportunities out of us siblings. She has the most friends, social life, was allowed to live far away for uni and even has her own car which she drives every where and has freedom. She often meets her friends every weekend.

I still live in the same house i was born in. I pray I can get married one day.

She acts like I'm a problem for no reason and is really weird. For example, yesterday, she and another sibling went out for a drive, they then came back and were holding drinks. I simple asked as a normal question, nice where did you get the drinks from? She replied coldly a shop...i asked which one? She said, a shop, you dont need to know which one.

I also asked the sibling she went with why is she being secretive and not saying where's the drink from? She then didnt tell me either as if she was instructed to not tell me.

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Without a fail, she always makes me and a lot of us feel like shit no matter what and before she left for university, she was a horrible person too.

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For example, she was able to have a job since age 16 and has always felt superior to me. Luck has always been on her side. When I finally got my first job at age 23, she was furious. She was 17 and she was venting to another sister how angry she is that I have a job...how bizarre!

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When it was July 2020 and covid, I was going through bad mental health and needed to finish my final year of my degree. I always requested if I could have the frontroom to study as it was the only cleanest and tidy room of the home at the time...she was starting sixth form and she'd tell my mother "I need the frontroom they're telling me to read loads of books before I start classes as part of my course" so she was prioritized. I failed my degree.

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She always steps over my boundaries no matter how small. One is that she sneezes extremely loud no matter what time of night or day it is. It really bothers me. You can hear it from another room thats how loud it is. I have asked to please not do it. She still does it. In fact I heard her 30 minutes ago.

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She takes ideas from me of what I want to do and does them with her friends.

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Once she completed uni, unfortunately she had to come back home and life hasn't been good since then.

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She officially came back in 2025 last year and since then, its suffocating with her.

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She is actually so evil. You can't reason with her.

She takes everything I say with offence no matter what.

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I'm the eldest and before this, I was finally okay in life and respected as the elder sister and etc. I had the harshest and stricter upbringing out of us all.

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Once my aunt and cousin apparently told her that they think she'll get married before us all (her elder sisters) and I knew she must have felt so happy with hearing that.

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Once this sibling has come back, I suddenly turned into the scapegoat and she's the one whos most respected and listened to. Its like she has wanted all the respect that the eldest sister should have. No one sees me as a human in this house but they would rather please her and more and she wants it that way too.

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She even started a job in my old workplace and I confided in her that I had a bad time there because of bullying and a micromanager but she's loving it.

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She's a big bully.

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2 years ago, I had a temp residential job for a company she knew and she was scoffing when she found out i had this job. 1 year later she did the same job to prove she can do it...during her training day last year she met one of the friends I made during that residential job.

This year, because I am out of work, I applied for that same job. That friend was avoiding me this year when I did a training. I strongly feel the sister of mine has sabotaged my friendship somehow.

She speaks to us in such rude and cold ways but is an amazing empathetic friend to her friends etc. She forces my mother and other siblings to do things they dont want to do and the way she speaks to my parents is horrendous let alone me.

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She has made me withdraw and get more depressed. She is a major source of my depression but I have suffered from depression for many years so shes not the only source.

I have told her many ways how I feel but she just doesn't care.

Since she made me withdraw, I am seen as lazy and pathetic in this house whereas shes seen as the active one who is productive and dependable. She has even complained that she feels like shes the eldest child but shes a big reason why suddenly I've become burnt out and depressed. Its like I'm just floating by.

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It honestly seems like shes pissed off by my entire existence and has turned my other siblings against me.

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Luckily if all goes well, I am doing a temp residential job again this year but I am keeping it a secret from my siblings because I cannot trust them. Im waiting to see how this sibling is going to punish me.

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She's very envious of me even though I have had and have a more shit life than hers. I am traumatised by events in my life that have shaped me into a person I wasn't supposed to be.

She has friends to go out with and much more.

I dont have friends or a stable good life here so I signed up for a 4 day vacation with strangers who were liked minded women...this angered my sister so much and she said to my parents that shes not allowed to go abroad yet I am.

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She acts defensive my the littlest of things I say and do . She thinks all of my actions are revolved around her.

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My parents also conditioned me to have no confidence and to be a people pleaser. I was extremely well behaved since childhood and didn't speak to the opposite gender and do anything without their permission. I never rebelled. I shrink myself.

Im 28 now and im afraid I can't change.

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In our family there are 6 siblings and the 22 year old is the biggest bully and narcissist. My other 25 year old sibling and 19 year old are also bad to me 22 year old takes the crown. I face alot of exclusion and them ignoring me and treating me like straight up crap.

She has exhibited all signs of hostility and even does it to our mother.

She's not scared of anyone and is disrespectful to our parents.

She hates my guts and I have found out she gossips and says mean things about me behind my back such as showing pics of me to ppl and saying how I am a bitch. The day I found out about this I couldn't believe it... my own little sister didn't have a sibling loyalty towards me.

She really makes me feel like im a villain and problem . Out of all siblings, shes the one who has currently a legit close friend circle and was invited by them to their events and weddings etc. She'd always go alone and would be furious even if we asked her simple questions such as where was the venue or what did you eat there. She didnt ever show me pictures but would show 1 sibling and my mother. She doesnt share anything.

I remember a few months ago, she went to a baby shower of her friend and she would be secretive about her car boot...she'd angrily hide the stuff and close the boot in a pissed off way. I would ask mum what is that? Turns out it was a pile of hampers and gifts she made for her friends baby shower. I didnt even know she went to a baby shower until the day she came home. Why hide that? We wouldn't do anything if we knew.

She's very hot and cold and just scary to be around because you dont know how horrible she's going to be.

She cant even smile or laugh around me and can't see us smile or laugh. The other day, I had put a comedy movie on the tv and it was funny. Me and my mother were laughing. The sibling then said, why are we watching this with grandma in the room? She then upset me so I took the movie off and left the room. She didnt see wrong with her action.

She never ever will apologise but wants everyone to say please and thank you to her and apologise.

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She's got not a single bit of empathy and its like walking on egg shells around her.

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She destroys our confidence and cannot stand to see us happy. She ruins all happy occasions and is a massive souce of misery in the house.

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She is very selfish and was given the most opportunities out of us siblings. She has the most friends, social life, was allowed to live far away for uni and even has her own car which she drives every where and has freedom. She often meets her friends every weekend.

She acts like I'm a problem for no reason and is really weird. For example, yesterday, she and another sibling went out for a drive, they then came back and were holding drinks. I simple asked as a normal question, nice where did you get the drinks from? She replied coldly a shop...i asked which one? She said, a shop, you dont need to know which one. I also asked the sibling she went with why is she being secretive and not saying where's the drink from? She then didnt tell me either as if she was instructed to not tell me.

Without a fail, she always makes me and a lot of us feel like shit no matter what and before she left for university, she was a horrible person too.

For example, she was able to have a job since age 16 and has always felt superior to me. Luck has always been on her side. When I finally got my first job at age 23, she was furious. She was 17 and she was venting to another sister how angry she is that I have a job...how bizarre!

When it was July 2020 and covid, I was going through bad mental health and needed to finish my final year of my degree. I always requested if I could have the frontroom to study as it was the only cleanest and tidy room of the home at the time...she was starting sixth form and she'd tell my mother "I need the frontroom they're telling me to read loads of books before I start classes as part of my course" so she was prioritized. I failed my degree.

She always steps over my boundaries no matter how small. One is that she sneezes extremely loud no matter what time of night or day it is. It really bothers me. You can hear it from another room thats how loud it is. I have asked to please not do it. She still does it. In fact I heard her 30 minutes ago.

She takes ideas from me of what I want to do and does them with her friends.

Once she completed uni, unfortunately she had to come back home and life hasn't been good since then.

She officially came back in 2025 last year and since then, its suffocating with her.

She is actually so evil. You can't reason with her. She takes everything I say with offence no matter what.

I'm the eldest and before this, I was finally okay in life and respected as the elder sister and etc. I had the harshest and stricter upbringing out of us all.

Once my aunt and cousin apparently told her that they think she'll get married before us all (her elder sisters) and I knew she must have felt so happy with hearing that.

Once this sibling has come back, I suddenly turned into the scapegoat and she's the one whos most respected and listened to. Its like she has wanted all the respect that the eldest sister should have. No one sees me as a human in this house but they would rather please her and more and she wants it that way too.

She even started a job in my old workplace and I confided in her that I had a bad time there because of bullying and a micromanager but she's loving it.

She's a big bully.

Im struggling financially but none of the siblings are lending me even 50p. Since the 25 year old and this 22year old work, they go out together all the time to shop and eat out. They never ask if anyone in the family wants anything. The 22 year old is able to help everyone else financially apart from me. The 25 year old owes me so much money because I gave her loads when she was struggling financially and especially when she went to do a semester abroad.

2 years ago, I had a temp residential job for a company she knew and she was scoffing when she found out i had this job. 1 year later she did the same job to prove she can do it...during her training day last year she met one of the friends I made during that residential job.
This year, because I am out of work, I applied for that same job. That friend was avoiding me this year when I did a training. I strongly feel the sister of mine has sabotaged my friendship somehow.

She speaks to us in such rude and cold ways but is an amazing empathetic friend to her friends etc. She forces my mother and other siblings to do things they dont want to do and the way she speaks to my parents is horrendous let alone me.

She has made me withdraw and get more depressed. She is a major source of my depression but I have suffered from depression for many years so shes not the only source.
I have told her many ways how I feel but she just doesn't care. Since she made me withdraw, I am seen as lazy and pathetic in this house whereas shes seen as the active one who is productive and dependable. She has even complained that she feels like shes the eldest child but shes a big reason why suddenly I've become burnt out and depressed. Its like I'm just floating by.

It honestly seems like shes pissed off by my entire existence and has turned my other siblings against me.

Luckily if all goes well, I am doing a temp residential job again this year but I am keeping it a secret from my siblings because I cannot trust them. Im waiting to see how this sibling is going to punish me.

She's very envious of me even though I have had and have a more shit life than hers. I am traumatised by events in my life that have shaped me into a person I wasn't supposed to be. She has friends to go out with and much more. I dont have friends or a stable good life here so I signed up for a 4 day vacation with strangers who were liked minded women...this angered my sister so much and she said to my parents that shes not allowed to go abroad yet I am.

She acts defensive my the littlest of things I say and do . She thinks all of my actions are revolved around her.

I think her aim is to be the parents favourite.