u/moonmlight

How to get revenge on a guy who used me as emotional unpaid therapist? I'm so hurt he is now ignoring me because he has friends no longer need me. For two years, he used me as an unpaid emotional therapist because he had no one else. Now that he has made new friends, he openly brags about them to me, leaving me forced to swallow my hurt feelings in silence. I sacrificed making my own friends for our closeness, and now I’m alone. What hurts most is feeling like I can't even speak up just because we were never in an official relationship. I'm meeting him soon i have to so that i can take revenge for all the way he used and abused me, what are the suggestions?

This hurts to even write because of what he did and continuing to do even now is making me feel betrayed. I never understood why someone would even want revenge until now. This guy whom I met 2 years ago on snapchat where we became friends to then slowly he got comfortable with me and started to trauma dump without me even asking. I used to listen to his lonely and his fake depression stories without judging and was there for him.

But he saw me only as a object to use for emotional labor and physical touch without giving anything back not even basic human respect or kind words. I should have left long time ago and I tried to leave him multiple times but he guilt tripped me saying how his ex left without any closure and if I leave after knowing all this about him it would be bad. Mind you, I didn't even ask about his ex or anything he trauma dumped me without me even asking.

He was disrespectful from the start calling me mean names when I got upset he used to make fun of me saying "don't you have any friends" and I thought that's how friends are. He called me ho for wearing simple tinted lipbalm while simultaneously liking pictures of girls who wear full makeup, made fun of my deceased father and bragged about how he respects a particular girl's father. When I blocked him, he messaged from his multiple friends accounts and started to tell ex story all over again so I felt bad again.

On the very first meet he begged me to go to room with him but I denied this so he aggressively kissed me, touched me without my consent and later said "but you liked it". The very first thing he asked after first meet is "did i makw you wet today". And blamed all this on his lack of dating experience. Should have left right there but stayed which i regret so badly now.

He got friends, girls and confidence because of me. He even got an instagram account which he made from using me and gained followers. All I did was being there for him, listening and understanding him never judging. I feel like he stole from me. It was my fault to show empathy on someone who operates on default user setting.

And when we met recently, he started to share his trauma with me and now he hates me for it. On top of this he cheated on me. He is with another girl now completely ignoring me. He said when he shared his trauma i should have mocked or made fun of him and stop him from sharing his trauma. Instead, I was there listening to him without judging. The fact that i didn't even ask for him to share, he trauma dumped on me and now hates me for it. All i did was understanding and listening to him. I don't know which one hurts more, him cheating or punishing me for being there for him. He could have said nothing, but instead, he blamed me for his own actions.

Now I'm feeling lonely and he is enjoying travelling while ignoring me and I'm forced to watch all this without expressing. I feel so betrayed and this is injustice. How can he do this with someone who was there for him? After using me as his emotional unpaid therapist he blamed me for listening and being there for him. I feel used

This hurts to even write because of what he did and continuing to do even now is making me feel betrayed. I never understood why someone would even want revenge until now. This guy whom I met 2 years ago on snapchat where we became friends to then slowly he got comfortable with me and started to trauma dump without me even asking. I used to listen to his lonely and his fake depression stories without judging and was there for him.

But he saw me only as a object to use for emotional labor and physical touch without giving anything back not even basic human respect or kind words. I should have left long time ago and I tried to leave him multiple times but he guilt tripped me saying how his ex left without any closure and if I leave after knowing all this about him it would be bad. Mind you, I didn't even ask about his ex or anything he trauma dumped me without me even asking.

He was disrespectful from the start calling me mean names when I got upset he used to make fun of me saying "don't you have any friends" and I thought that's how friends are. He called me ho for wearing simple tinted lipbalm, made fun of my deceased father and bragged about how he respects a particular girl's father. When I blocked him, he messaged from his multiple friends accounts and started to tell ex story all over again so I felt bad again.

On the very first meet he begged me to go to room with him but I denied this so he aggressively kissed me, touched me without my consent and later said "but you liked it". The very first thing he asked after first meet is "did i makw you wet today". And blamed all this on his lack of dating experience. Should have left right there but stayed which i regret so badly now.

He got friends, girls and confidence because of me. He even got an instagram account which he made from using me and gained followers. All I did was being there for him, listening and understanding him never judging. I feel like he stole from me. It was my fault to show empathy on someone who operates on default user setting.

Now I'm feeling lonely and he is enjoying travelling while simultaneously ignoring me and I'm forced to watch all this without expressing. I feel so betrayed and this is injustice. How can he do this with someone who was there for him?

I'm crying while writing this. I wasted two years on someone who pretended to be a cool guy, but now he is super cringe, he said and did unforgivable things to me. I can't even recognize him anymore. I'm so hurt that I stayed with someone like this and wasted my time. Nothing feels the same anymore. The old him is gone, and I miss how things used to be between us. I will never get the old him back, will I? How do you move on from this genuinely? He only needed me when he was lonely, and now that he has friends, I'm no longer his priority. When we met, he said that because he had no one else, it was good that I was with him. I never thought he actually meant what he said. He changed, and I can't recognize him anymore. It hurts badly. I wake up thinking about him and go to sleep crying about how things changed. The contradiction hurts so much. I was always there for him when he felt lonely, but he hasn't been there for me. I'm crying over a man who ruined my peace and happiness. And all this for nothing? What should I do with these nostalgic feelings? I fell for the fantasy version of him that NEVER existed

I'm crying while writing this. I wasted two years on someone who pretended to be a cool guy, but now he is super cringe, he said and did unforgivable things to me. I can't even recognize him anymore. I'm so hurt that I stayed with someone like this and wasted my time. Nothing feels the same anymore. The old him is gone, and I miss how things used to be between us. I will never get the old him back, will I? How do you move on from this genuinely? He only needed me when he was lonely, and now that he has friends, I'm no longer his priority. When we met, he said that because he had no one else, it was good that I was with him. I never thought he actually meant what he said. He changed, and I can't recognize him anymore. It hurts badly. I wake up thinking about him and go to sleep crying about how things changed. The contradiction hurts so much. I was always there for him when he felt lonely, but he hasn't been there for me. I'm crying over a man who ruined my peace and happiness. And all this for nothing? What should I do with these nostalgic feelings?

I'm crying while writing this. I wasted two years on someone who pretended to be a cool guy, but now he is super cringe, I can't even recognize him anymore. I'm so hurt that I stayed with someone like this and wasted my time. Nothing feels the same anymore. The old him is gone, and I miss how things used to be between us. I will never get the old him back, will I? How do you move on from this genuinely? He only needed me when he was lonely, and now that he has friends, I'm no longer his priority. When we met, he said that because he had no one else, it was good that I was with him. I never thought he actually meant what he said. He changed, and I can't recognize him anymore. It hurts badly. I wake up thinking about him and go to sleep crying about how things changed. The contradiction hurts so much. I was always there for him when he felt lonely, but he hasn't been there for me. I'm crying over a man who ruined my peace and happiness. And all this for nothing? What should I do with these nostalgic feelings?

I'm crying while writing this. I wasted two years on someone who pretended to be a cool guy, but now he is super cringe. I'm so hurt that I stayed with someone like this and wasted my time. Nothing feels the same anymore. The old him is gone, and I miss how things used to be between me and him. I will never get the old him, isn't it? How do you move on from this? What should I do with these nostalgic feelings

My ex started drinking and is now blaming me for it, what should I do?

My ex started drinking and is now blaming me for it, what should I do?

My ex started drinking and is now blaming me for it, what should I do?

He is ignoring me while being super active on social media. Why? Usually, he doesn't act this way

My ex called me and said he met a girl he likes and asked if I want her Instagram ID. Why in the world would I want her ID? He just started saying all this out of nowhere, I didn't even ask.

My ex called me and said he met a girl he likes and asked if I want her Instagram ID. Why in the world would I want her ID? He just started saying all this out of nowhere, I didn't even ask.

When we met (me and my ex) he said not to have any expectations from him and now after a month, he is asking why I'm not texting enough and said he met a girl he likes and asked if I want her Instagram ID. Why in the world would I want her ID? He started saying all this out of nowhere, I didn't even ask

My ex called me and said he met a girl he likes and asked if I want her Instagram ID. Why in the world would I want her ID? He just started saying all this out of nowhere, I didn't even ask.

My ex called me and said he met a girl he likes and asked if I want her Instagram ID. Why in the world would I want her ID? He just started saying all this out of nowhere, I didn't even ask.

My ex called me and said he met a girl he likes and asked if I want her Instagram ID. Why in the world would I want her ID? He just started saying all this out of nowhere, I didn't even ask.

My ex (we decided to stay as friends but now it's more complicated) sent me a video of himself lying in grass with a caption "now that I ruined everything, I'm free". When I asked him what does it mean, he's not saying anything properly. I didn't ask for this dramatic caption from him. Why would he send it out of nowhere at midnight? Next day he ignored me for hours and then acted casual.

Few days later i called him to ask this, he refused to explain why he sent such emotional video and continued to say that i should have made fun of him when he shared his trauma with me. When we met, he shared his trauma and now he hates me for it. On top of this he cheated on me. He is with another girl now completely ignoring me. He said when he shared his trauma i should have mocked or made fun of him and stop him from sharing his trauma. Instead, I was there listening to him without judging. The fact that i didn't even ask for him to share, he trauma dumped on me and now hates me for it. All i did was understanding and listening to him. I don't know which one hurts more, him cheating or punishing me for being there for him. He could have said nothing, but instead, he blamed me for his own actions.

Now, after a month of this, he invited me to meet, but I'm scared to go out with him anymore because he already blamed me for simply being kind and empathetic. He is angry and uncomfortable that he shared his trauma with me (i didn't ask him to share). Now that I know his trauma, maybe I trigger him. I still want to know the reason he blamed me and the video caption, so i thought maybe we could meet and talk. Is it best to go out with him or not?

My ex (we decided to stay as friends but now it's more complicated) shared his trauma with me and now he hates me for it. On top of this he cheated on me. He is with another girl now completely ignoring me. He said when he shared his trauma i should have mocked or made fun of him and stop him from sharing his trauma. Instead, I was there listening to him without judging. The fact that i didn't even ask for him to share, he trauma dumped on me and now hates me for it. All i did was understanding and listening to him. I don't know which one hurts more, him cheating or punishing me for being there for him. He could have said nothing, but instead, he blamed me for his own actions.

Now, after a month of this, he invited me to meet but I'm scared to go out with him anymore because he already blamed me for simply being kind and empathetic. He is angry and uncomfortable that he shared his trauma with me (i didn't ask him to share). Now that I know his trauma, maybe I trigger him. I still want to know the reason he blamed me, so i thought maybe we could meet and talk. Is it best to go out with him or not?

My ex (we decided to stay as friends but now it's more complicated) shared his trauma with me and now he hates me for it. On top of this he cheated on me. He is with another girl now completely ignoring me. He said when he shared his trauma i should have mocked or made fun of him and stop him from sharing his trauma instead I was there listening to him without judging. The fact that i didn't even ask for him to share, he trauma dumped on me and now hates me for it. All i did was being understanding and listening to him. I don't know which one hurts more, him cheating or punishing me for being there for him. He could have said nothing but instead he blamed me for his own actions. What should I do?

Now after a month of this, he invited me to meet but I'm scared to go out with him anymore because he already blamed me for simply being kind and empathetic. He is angry and uncomfortable that he shared his trauma with me (i didn't even ask him to share), now that I know his trauma maybe I trigger him. Is it safe to go out with him or not?