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My husband is in South Korea and I’m in New York as we’re waiting for a visa. It’s been such a long journey of us being apart. We have tried other visas that didn’t work for us. This has been a few years in the making. Long distance is such a handle thing to go through. I have been depressed for a very long time and I’m trying my best to keep myself going. Luckily, I have a lot of work breaks so I get to see him pretty often. I just came back this morning from seeing him and I’m seeing him again in August. Then after that we’re hoping the visa process will end and we’ll finally be together.

Of course there’s a chance it could get denied and I might move there. At this point I’m ok with that. I have been through so much pain and waiting that I don’t care about the outcome anymore. I just want to be with my husband and to be happy. Unfortunately, I don’t have a supportive mom. During this whole process she has made it about her like telling me I’ll only see her once before she dies, she’ll never meet her grandkids, and doing things like crying and not letting me talk about my pain. I realized that I’m all alone in this process and I can only take care of myself.

I’m so tired, irritable, and emotional from the jet lag. The flight from South Korea to New York is extremely far and draining. My mom’s friend was having a retirement party and I thought it would be nice to go. So I went but oh how I deeply regret it I should have stayed home. I saw many people and they all made me feel horrible about my situation.

The first person I saw told me her daughter married a man from England and they live in New York. My mom said that she’s so lucky to have a daughter that lives in New York and that she didn’t move aboard. I told them both that I just want to be with my husband and to be happy. My mom looked over at her friend and made a sad face like “poor me” and I tried to push it off. I walked away from my mom and took some time to myself.

Then the next person was telling my mom and I that her son lives in South Africa and how she’s too scared to get on a plane to see him. My mom went off saying “omg same!! we can so hangout and talk about this”. I did tell the lady that she seems to be handling it well with her son being away and that she seems strong. I mean maybe I shouldn’t have said anything and kept that to myself.

Ugh then this lady made me the most upset. She’s someone my mom used to be friends with and I can tell that she seems fake. She was telling my mom that she’s so happy to have her son in the same time zone as her. She kept saying it like she was bragging and I just glared at her. My mom noticed that I glared at her and told me to the side that I’m embarrassing her. Well I’m very embarrassed too that she made this visa situation about her when I’m the one in constant pain.

I feel like today confirmed that this long distance pain I’m going through is about my mom. She makes it all about her. She always makes comments about it and makes herself out to be the sad one if I have to move. She takes away my pain in public. Maybe I shouldn’t have been rude in public but it was just from all the comments, people feeding into my mom, and my mom doing all of this.

I know I posted before but here’s another summary of me. For the longest time I have suffered with body dysmorphia. I’m 29 and 4’11 but of course as you get older your body changes. I’m having a really hard time with my body but my clothes all still fit and I’m usually small-medium and I still fit into juniors clothes. Some items do feel snug but I guess the material isn’t the same years later. Even with all of that I hate how my body looks and I always think I look bigger. It’s the type of thing that destroys me and I’m toxic so I’m always weighing myself to see any change. I simply don’t love my body.

I always workout a lot with walking and other food workouts that I like to do. I get over 12k steps in a day to stay fit. I purposely park far away from work to get an extra workout in. So I always do everything I can to get fit and I heard a while ago if you walk more or exercise more you initially gain more weight as your body adjusts.

Lately, I have been hating my body like more than usual. I hate my stomach most of all. My mom has been making comments saying stuff like “you look pregnant are you sure you’re not?” , “you need to be mindful about your stomach” , “you’re developing a stomach” , all this stuff that’s stuck in my head. I have been watching my weight on the scale like crazy which we all know isn’t right.

Since it’s the summer time I’m not happy with wearing denim shorts. My stomach feels snug, I feel like they make my booty look bigger, and it squeezes my thighs. These shorts are mostly from old navy so I know the life span on them isn’t too long. All my cloth and comfortable shorts still fit really well like a dream. I’m just wondering if anyone else here absolutely hates denim shorts?

I know I posted before but here’s another summary of me. For the longest time I have suffered with body dysmorphia. I’m 29 and 4’11 but of course as you get older your body changes. I’m having a really hard time with my body but my clothes all still fit and I’m usually small-medium and I still fit into juniors clothes. Some items do feel snug but I guess the material isn’t the same years later. Even with all of that I hate how my body looks and I always think I look bigger. It’s the type of thing that destroys me and I’m toxic so I’m always weighing myself to see any change. I simply don’t love my body.

I always workout a lot with walking and other food workouts that I like to do. I get over 12k steps in a day to stay fit. I purposely park far away from work to get an extra workout in. So I always do everything I can to get fit and I heard a while ago if you walk more or exercise more you initially gain more weight as your body adjusts.

Lately, I have been hating my body like more than usual. I hate my stomach most of all. My mom has been making comments saying stuff like “you look pregnant are you sure you’re not?” , “you need to be mindful about your stomach” , “you’re developing a stomach” , all this stuff that’s stuck in my head. I have been watching my weight on the scale like crazy which we all know isn’t right.

Since it’s the summer time I’m not happy with wearing denim shorts. My stomach feels snug, I feel like they make my booty look bigger, and it squeezes my thighs. These shorts are mostly from old navy so I know the life span on them isn’t too long. All my cloth and comfortable shorts still fit really well like a dream. I’m just wondering if anyone else here absolutely hates denim shorts?

For the longest time I have suffered with body dysmorphia. I’m 29 and 4’11 but of course as you get older your body changes. I’m having a really hard time with my body but my clothes all still fit and I’m usually small-medium and I still fit into juniors clothes. Some items do feel snug but I guess the material isn’t the same years later. Even with all of that I hate how my body looks and I always think I look bigger. It’s the type of thing that destroys me and I’m toxic so I’m always weighing myself to see any change. I simply don’t love my body.

I always workout a lot with walking and other food workouts that I like to do. I get over 12k steps in a day to stay fit. I purposely park far away from work to get an extra workout in. So I always do everything I can to get fit and I heard a while ago if you walk more or exercise more you initially gain more weight as your body adjusts.

I have been having a hard time lately with what the number on the scale is showing. I’m visiting my husband in South Korea and doing a lot of walking while eating a lot of amazing food. It’s nighttime and I weighed myself while wearing clothes and the scale showed 132. I’m so upset like my weight varies between 125-128. My body weight always goes up and down. I guess this time it really went up. I feel so sad that I got some weight on me from my vacation.

My husband and I are doing long distance as we wait for our visa to come through. So I regularly visit him in his home country. I take slynd birth control and I know it can leave you without a period for a while. That’s what happened to me like I haven’t had a period since January. But then in April I had my period, May I didn’t, and last week before I came to South Korea (where my husband lives) I got my period for a full week. After coming to South Korea this past Saturday I got my period again. I know traveling can throw your system out of wack. The first day was heavy then it relaxed. Last night, we were getting intimate lol you know doing the devils tango. My period came in full swing like even more (tmi in advance) bloody than my period last week and when I first came here. I now have annoying cramps and bleeding a lot more. I’m just wondering has this happened to anyone here?

My husband and I are doing long distance as we wait for our visa to come through. So I regularly visit him in his home country. I take slynd birth control and I know it can leave you without a period for a while. That’s what happened to me like I haven’t had a period since January. But then in April I had my period, May I didn’t, and last week before I came to South Korea (where my husband lives) I got my period for a full week. After coming to South Korea this past Saturday I got my period again. I know traveling can throw your system out of wack. The first day was heavy then it relaxed. Last night, we were getting intimate lol you know doing the devils tango. My period came in full swing like even more (tmi in advance) bloody than my period last week and when I first came here. I now have annoying cramps and bleeding a lot more. I’m just wondering has this happened to anyone here?

I flew to South Korea to see my husband for my vacation and that flight is 15 hours long! I downloaded fear street part 1 and 2. I have seen the whole series but these two are my favorite. I forgot how good it is!! It’s the perfect Summerween vibe. I tried watching totally killer and it didn’t stick out to me like fear street. I absolutely adore this series.

I flew to South Korea to see my husband for my vacation and that flight is 15 hours long! I downloaded fear street part 1 and 2. I have seen the whole series but these two are my favorite. I forgot how good it is!! It’s the perfect Summerween vibe. I tried watching totally killer and it didn’t stick out to me like fear street. I absolutely adore this series.

Disclaimer: Please don’t suggest to me losing weight. That’s not what I’m looking to hear right now.

For the longest time I have suffered with body dysmorphia. I’m 29 and 4’11 but of course as you get older your body changes. My weight is usually around 125 but of course daily weight always changes like goes up and down. I’m having a really hard time with my body but my clothes all still fit and I’m usually small-medium and I still fit into juniors clothes. Some items do feel snug but I guess the material isn’t the same years later. Even with all of that I hate how my body looks and I always think I look bigger. It’s the type of thing that destroys me and I’m toxic so I’m always weighing myself to see any change. I simply don’t love my body.

I always workout a lot with walking and other food workouts that I like to do. I get over 12k steps in a day to stay fit. I purposely park far away from work to get an extra workout in. So I always do everything I can to get fit and I heard a while ago if you walk more or exercise more you initially gain more weight as your body adjusts.

A few weeks ago I was trying on a dress and the way the dress was on me it looked awkward because I didn’t fully pull it down. My mom said “you can lose 5 pounds” and then she noticed the way the dress was hugging me that it wasn’t pulled down completely. Of course that all still hurt to hear and after that she said “you’re getting a bit of a stomach just stay away from the sweets and keep working out”. She followed it up with “just be mindful of that”. She also said that she’s noticing I’m developing a stomach and to cut down on the sweets. She asked if I’m pregnant which hurt to hear. I told her that I had ramen for dinner with a friend and maybe that’s why I look bloated since ramen is full of salt. She suggested I should lose 5 pounds and go back to 120. After all of that I just nodded and walked away. I feel like crying and I keep looking at myself in the mirror with disappointment.

Since then I have been trying my best to watch what I eat especially sweets. I limit myself to one sweet a day and constantly drink water. I haven’t been working out lately due to going on vacation to see my husband and doing immigration work to get him to the U.S. . I haven’t been pulling in many walks or workouts but I’ll get back to it after I come home from seeing him.

I needed a dress sewed for a graduation tomorrow. My mom is really good at sewing lol I’m simply not. She said she’ll do it but I knew what would come with this. I tried on the dress to show her what part needed sewing. She said to me “you need to tone your stomach” and suggested another dress I tried didn’t fit due to weight gain. I felt horrible about myself, let her fix the dress, and left.

My mom is on Ozempic there’s nothing wrong with that. More power to her! But I don’t know why she comments on my body and she tells my dad that he’s developing a stomach. She’s always been a bigger woman and I guess I’m worried that in the future that would be me. That’s why I’m extra hard on myself. I just feel horrible about her commenting on my body. I don’t know what else to do and anytime I’m around her I get anxious of her comments.

Disclaimer: Please don’t suggest to me losing weight. That’s not what I’m looking to hear right now.

For the longest time I have suffered with body dysmorphia. I’m 29 and 4’11 but of course as you get older your body changes. I’m having a really hard time with my body but my clothes all still fit and I’m usually small-medium and I still fit into juniors clothes. Some items do feel snug but I guess the material isn’t the same years later. Even with all of that I hate how my body looks and I always think I look bigger. It’s the type of thing that destroys me and I’m toxic so I’m always weighing myself to see any change. I simply don’t love my body.

I always workout a lot with walking and other food workouts that I like to do. I get over 12k steps in a day to stay fit. I purposely park far away from work to get an extra workout in. So I always do everything I can to get fit and I heard a while ago if you walk more or exercise more you initially gain more weight as your body adjusts.

A few weeks ago I was trying on a dress and the way the dress was on me it looked awkward because I didn’t fully pull it down. My mom said “you can lose 5 pounds” and then she noticed the way the dress was hugging me that it wasn’t pulled down completely. Of course that all still hurt to hear and after that she said “you’re getting a bit of a stomach just stay away from the sweets and keep working out”. She followed it up with “just be mindful of that”. She also said that she’s noticing I’m developing a stomach and to cut down on the sweets. She asked if I’m pregnant which hurt to hear. I told her that I had ramen for dinner with a friend and maybe that’s why I look bloated since ramen is full of salt. She suggested I should lose 5 pounds and go back to 120. After all of that I just nodded and walked away. I feel like crying and I keep looking at myself in the mirror with disappointment.

Since then I have been trying my best to watch what I eat especially sweets. I limit myself to one sweet a day and constantly drink water. I haven’t been working out lately due to going on vacation to see my husband and doing immigration work to get him to the U.S. . I haven’t been pulling in many walks or workouts but I’ll get back to it after I come home from seeing him.

I needed a dress sewed for a graduation tomorrow. My mom is really good at sewing lol I’m simply not. She said she’ll do it but I knew what would come with this. I tried on the dress to show her what part needed sewing. She said to me “you need to tone your stomach” and suggested another dress I tried didn’t fit due to weight gain. I felt horrible about myself, let her fix the dress, and left.

My mom is on Ozempic there’s nothing wrong with that. More power to her! But I don’t know why she comments on my body and she tells my dad that he’s developing a stomach. She’s always been a bigger woman and I guess I’m worried that in the future that would be me. That’s why I’m extra hard on myself. I just feel horrible about her commenting on my body. I don’t know what else to do and anytime I’m around her I get anxious of her comments.

For the longest time I have suffered with body dysmorphia. I’m 29 and 4’11 but of course as you get older your body changes. I’m having a really hard time with my body but my clothes all still fit and I’m usually small-medium and I still fit into juniors clothes. Some items do feel snug but I guess the material isn’t the same years later. Even with all of that I hate how my body looks and I always think I look bigger. It’s the type of thing that destroys me and I’m toxic so I’m always weighing myself to see any change. I simply don’t love my body.

I always workout a lot with walking and other food workouts that I like to do. I get over 12k steps in a day to stay fit. I purposely park far away from work to get an extra workout in. So I always do everything I can to get fit and I heard a while ago if you walk more or exercise more you initially gain more weight as your body adjusts.

A few weeks ago I was trying on a dress and the way the dress was on me it looked awkward because I didn’t fully pull it down. My mom said “you can lose 5 pounds” and then she noticed the way the dress was hugging me that it wasn’t pulled down completely. Of course that all still hurt to hear and after that she said “you’re getting a bit of a stomach just stay away from the sweets and keep working out”. She followed it up with “just be mindful of that”. She also said that she’s noticing I’m developing a stomach and to cut down on the sweets. She asked if I’m pregnant which hurt to hear. I told her that I had ramen for dinner with a friend and maybe that’s why I look bloated since ramen is full of salt. She suggested I should lose 5 pounds and go back to 120. After all of that I just nodded and walked away. I feel like crying and I keep looking at myself in the mirror with disappointment.

Since then I have been trying my best to watch what I eat especially sweets. I limit myself to one sweet a day and constantly drink water. I haven’t been working out lately due to going on vacation to see my husband and doing immigration work to get him to the U.S. . I haven’t been pulling in many walks or workouts but I’ll get back to it after I come home from seeing him.

I needed a dress sewed for a graduation tomorrow. My mom is really good at sewing lol I’m simply not. She said she’ll do it but I knew what would come with this. I tried on the dress to show her what part needed sewing. She said to me “you need to tone your stomach” and suggested another dress I tried didn’t fit due to weight gain. I felt horrible about myself, let her fix the dress, and left.

My mom is on Ozempic there’s nothing wrong with that. More power to her! But I don’t know why she comments on my body and she tells my dad that he’s developing a stomach. She’s always been a bigger woman and I guess I’m worried that in the future that would be me. That’s why I’m extra hard on myself. I just feel horrible about her commenting on my body. I don’t know what else to do and anytime I’m around her I get anxious of her comments.

My brother has a girlfriend of 3 years and let me say she’s a nice girl but she’s not my type of person. I always had a good connection with my brother’s ex girlfriends but with her I don’t feel it. Which I understand like you won’t feel connected to everyone you meet. She has said and done things that really has rubbed me the wrong way.

For starters, I’m in a long distance marriage as my husband and I are waiting for our visa. Luckily, I’m being interviewed on Tuesday and my husband will be getting interviewed soon as well. It’s been a long time coming with a lot of pain and sadness. I always wish that we can be together but I appreciate the time we have together when I go to his home country to visit him. My brother’s girlfriend has made some comments that I found uncomfortable she has said to me “I can’t imagine doing long distance when your brother went to Italy for 2 weeks I couldn’t handle it”. She has said that to me numerous of times like I get trying to make a connection with a shared experience but I don’t want to keep hearing it.

A few Friendsgivings ago I invited her and my brother over for a Friendsgiving dinner. At that point my husband and I had to make plans for our marriage visa and we planned to make it easy and get legally married in South Korea (his home country). My parents weren’t happy that they couldn’t attend the marriage and heavily suggested that we should get married in Canada since it’s closer to New York (where I live). So during dinner my brother and his girlfriend kept telling me in front of my friends that I should get married in Canada. At that point I only met my brother’s girlfriend two times prior and she kept going on about how I need to get married in Canada. I’m sorry but I felt like who are you to comment on my life if you only met me twice?? The dinner got so bad with their comments that it led to my friend and I are arguing after the dinner. She told me that she didn’t feel comfortable at the dinner due to my brother and his girlfriend’s comments. From all of that I lost my best friend and that was truly a heartbreaking experience.

She has also made comments along with my brother of how my mom is so happy that my brother is with a U.S. citizen. They would randomly mention this when I would ask about their beginning stages of the relationship. I have heard my brother say this before and I just found it to be a rude comment. My husband isn’t a U.S. citizen as he’s from South Korea so that comment stings. Then last time I saw her she has said the same thing “when we started dating I knew your mom would be happy that your brother found me a U.S. citizen”. It’s sooo hard not to say anything and to tell her to mind her own business.

There have been other things but this stands out to me the most. I have tried forming a relationship with her and going out to do things with her like just her and I. I have also tried including her in hangouts with my friends. I’m always trying to find stuff for us to do. I really want to try and form a good relationship.
Whenever I text her she doesn’t reply until days later after the event were to take place. I understand being busy like I’m busy too with work, friends, immigration stuff, and my relationship with my husband. My brother was away for a long weekend and I felt bad that she was alone.

My friend’s and I were going to a NYC fashion popup event and were getting lunch. I asked her if she wanted to come and she replied days later after the event that she was busy. After that I decided I don’t want to chase after her and have a relationship with her. I’ll be nice and kind but I don’t feel the need to keep making plans with her if she won’t reply. I told my mom about this to get her opinion and she said she has the same issue with my brother and his girlfriend. I just wish it wasn’t like this and I don’t know what else to do.

Hi all! I’m just wondering how long does it take for the cr1 I130 to be sent from uscis to nvc and then I guess to my husband’s embassy? My husband’s embassy is located in Seoul, South Korea.

Hi all! I’m just wondering how long does it take for the cr1 I130 to be sent from uscis to nvc and then I guess to my husband’s embassy? My husband’s embassy is located in Seoul, South Korea.

My husband and I have been doing long distance for the longest time. We’re doing a marriage visa and I’m being interviewed next Tuesday so at least there’s some process in our case. But sadly, our lawyer has never heard of the U.S. citizen (me) being interviewed. I don’t know if this is a new development or something is wrong with our case.

My husband and I met in the U.S. when he was on a student visa and then went back to his home country to renew his visa. Sadly, that visa got denied. Since then my life has been horrible. We tried a few other visas that ended up getting denied. I’m without the love of my life the person that makes me feel complete. My life just feels so empty. I do have a good amount of work vacations and I get to see him whenever I have a break.

I have suggested that I move to his home country. My mom loses her mind every time I say that. She starts crying, getting upset, shuts me off when I try to talk. She would say things like “you’ll only see me one more time before I die” and “I’ll never see my grandchildren”. It makes me feel like a horrible person for wanting to move to my husband’s country to be with him.

Yesterday I saw my lawyer and she said after I get interviewed the next step can take anywhere from 6 months to 1 year to get approved. I heard 1 year and said “yeah no I’m not doing that”. After I left the lawyer I was crying in the car. I told my mom that I can’t do another year and then after that she said she can’t lose me. She told me she didn’t have children for one of them to move, how she’ll never see her grandchildren, and how she’s so depressed that she can’t even pay her bills on time. I’m sorry I don’t want to hear it. Who has children just to keep them in proximity?? I’m sorry then she shouldn’t have had me. Also, I’m depressed and have been for years but I still go to work and get things done. I’m sure it’s hard on her like how she always tells me but I can’t help her with that. I can’t deal with other emotions and feelings. I can’t imagine another year of this. I just want to be with my husband.

Hi all! I’m just wondering how long does it take for the cr1 I130 to be sent from uscis to nvc and then I guess to my husband’s embassy? My husband’s embassy is located in Seoul, South Korea.

Hi all! I’m just wondering how long does it take for the cr1 I130 to be sent from uscis to nvc and then I guess to my husband’s embassy? My husband’s embassy is located in Seoul, South Korea.