u/Horrobla

I did the dreaded thing this weekend of getting upset my partner for thinking he was looking at other women.

I know it’s all in my head, I have body image issues and used to hate myself to the point of self harming over how I look.

I sometimes still do but rarely.

I’m never skinny enough for myself. I’m currently 5’2 and 56 kg which is on the higher end. I was around 50kg when I met him, until last year and I’m trying to get back.

I managed to patch things up with my husband though I feel the damage is done. How do I be better for myself and him?

I know one thing is I used to go on walks for at least an hour or two a day, more on weekends to help my mental health but that’s stopped now we live together at his parents (we’re in between moving house which shouldn’t take too long) and going from the city to the outskirts made me feel uneasy about going out alone like I used to. It’s again, all in my head, but it’s just less diverse and I just feel out of place as a person of colour.

We were walking and there was a couple in front of he touched her ass then her back and my husband made a comment about being uncomfortable which I laughed at.

Then he says she looks like his friend’s girlfriend. He claimed it was the hair and that she was as skinny. This upset me only because a year ago he told me a “funny story” about how she posted a photo in a bikini and his friend pulled it up at work and then made the “we’ll have a look, of course we’ll have a look” joke. I didn’t think it was funny. Definitely not funny enough to laugh while telling me about it.

I bought it up and he thinks I’m stupid for bringing it up, I’m not talking to him much and he isn’t talking to me either.

Another instance is when his face made the ooo look when a girl with abs walked past us on holiday, and he glanced at her a few times. We were drunk and I ended up crying about not being good enough (it now happens every time I get drunk around him). He denies he looked to this day.

I have a little bag of sanitary products, deodorant, cold sore cream and contact lenses in the boot of mine because it’s stuff I’ve been caught out without. Now have a new car and wondering what else you girls have.

I don’t know why it’s moved but I’ve had them on my top lip for over a decade when I get them, finding it strange it’s appeared just under my nose this time around?

As in what are your go to breakfast, lunch, and dinner foods?

I was lucky enough to save a lot of my income while I lived at home and now I’m buying with my partner and will be using a lot of it. I also had a few unexpected expenses which has meant I’ve used a lot of my monthly disposable and had to pay stuff on my credit card to avoid using savings. How to beat the anxiety of financial instability?

I know it’s subjective but I’m curious. Going from saving nearly all my income living at home to buying a house and losing over half of my savings makes me feel weird since I’m having to use a lot of my wages up now for all the expenses.

I’ve always gotten away with bralette types that just hold them in place instead of buying ones that have the proper lettering.

My sisters (in law) all seem to wear push up bras and it made me want to try some to make the girls look good when I wear something lower cut but I don’t know where to start.

I know a high street store near me does size appointments where a woman will find my size out but I just find that awkward.

I’m a size 8(UK) with less than a handful of boob on each side so I need a lot of padding to make them look any bigger.

Do I just try on something I know might fit?

What sort of bras do I get?

Every time I go, I’m overwhelmed by the options and just walk out.

Thank in advance.

Buying one after letting go of my end of life 2008 Ford fiesta so anything would feel like an upgrade. Curious to know your thoughts.

I know it’s silly but I’ve always looked at and bought my cars based on their colour. Never been a fan of silver, grey, black, white etc.

Must come from my mum since shes always had greens/blues until recently.

We’re in between houses so we’re staying at his dad’s since February. Originally it would have been just him but he asked me stay over and it just happened where I sort of moved in without really checking with his dad.

I constantly feel like an overstaying guest. Like when he makes food, he won’t say anything while I’m there but my partner there’s some. Or if we’re expecting his other kids over, he’ll only prepare food for them.

Just small things. It’s just awkward. Yesterday, his siblings came over and I don’t speak to them (one called me names before she even spoke to me via message to my partner) so I didn’t go out to sit with them.

How do I stop staying over without my partner feeling bad? My partner can stay at mine but my parents live on the other side of the city to his work.
Would it be better to stick it out for the next 1-2 months while the house is in progress or only stay over half the time?
I compromised since the road to my work from his is horrible with lots of potholes and speed bumps while it’s only a 10-15 min main road drive from my house.

Half the week, he’ll go to the gym so I’m home alone/with his dad for until 1830. I just feel weird and he doesn’t get it.

Edit we’re both 27, the sister is 24

We’ve been living with my partners dad for the last 3 months and will be doing so for the next month or two.

I’ve never gotten along with one of his sisters because she sent a message to my partner calling me a slag before she’d even spoken to me. I never got an apology but i noticed small passive things like offering me burnt/less appetising parts of dinner than the rest of the family. E.g. she made pizza bases for everyone and I noticed they all had proper ones and the one I got was thin and rock hard once cooked. Everyone else had thicker ones easier to eat. Or recently not wanting to sit next to me when her partner asked her to move down the table.

My partner says it’s nothing but I feel otherwise.

The other sister is friendly enough. I picked them up to bring them over for Father’s Day and only one said anything in the car and thank you so I figured the other still doesnt like me.

I’m okay with the dad, it’s just small talk but he likes to keep to himself so I leave him to it. I did notice he only left 2 drink cans in the fridge knowing only 2 sisters would be there, and I noticed in the past he’d only mention he has spare food bits only when my partner gets back, not when I spoke to him moments before.

I ended up staying in our room for all the evening and only came out to eat dinner, I just said my allergies were acting up when my partner asked if I wanted to join them.

It just feels like being ganged up on because they have each other and i only really know my partner who will make excuses for it and not say anything in the moment. After the slag comment, he said nothing and only told me the next day he told her off but even that I’m doubting he did.

No one said anything after they left but it’s awkward now. I know it’s because of me. Is there any fixing this?

Me and my partner are 27, the sisters are 24-25.

We’ve been living with my partners dad for the last 3 months and will be doing so for the next month or two.

I’ve never gotten along with one of his sisters because she sent a message to my partner calling me a slag before she’d even spoken to me. I never got an apology but i noticed small passive things like offering me burnt/less appetising parts of dinner than the rest of the family. E.g. she made pizza bases for everyone and I noticed they all had proper ones and the one I got was thin and rock hard once cooked. Everyone else had thicker ones easier to eat. Or recently not wanting to sit next to me when her partner asked her to move down the table.

My partner says it’s nothing but I feel otherwise.

The other sister is friendly enough. I picked them up to bring them over for Father’s Day and only one said anything in the car and thank you so I figured the other still doesnt like me.

I’m okay with the dad, it’s just small talk but he likes to keep to himself so I leave him to it. I did notice he only left 2 drink cans in the fridge knowing only 2 sisters would be there, and I noticed in the past he’d only mention he has spare food bits only when my partner gets back, not when I spoke to him moments before.

I ended up staying in our room for all the evening and only came out to eat dinner, I just said my allergies were acting up when my partner asked if I wanted to join them.

It just feels like being ganged up on because they have each other and i only really know my partner who will make excuses for it and not say anything in the moment. After the slag comment, he said nothing and only told me the next day he told her off but even that I’m doubting he did.

No one said anything after they left but it’s awkward now. I know it’s because of me. Is there any fixing this?

Me and my partner are 27, the sisters are 24-25.

We’ve been living with my partners dad for the last 3 months and will be doing so for the next month or two.

I’ve never gotten along with one of his sisters because she sent a message to my partner calling me a slag before she’d even spoken to me. I never got an apology but i noticed small passive things like offering me burnt/less appetising parts of dinner than the rest of the family. E.g. she made pizza bases for everyone and I noticed they all had proper ones and the one I got was thin and rock hard once cooked. Everyone else had thicker ones easier to eat. Or recently not wanting to sit next to me when her partner asked her to move down the table.

My partner says it’s nothing but I feel otherwise.

The other sister is friendly enough. I picked them up to bring them over for Father’s Day and only one said anything in the car and thank you so I figured the other still doesnt like me.

I’m okay with the dad, it’s just small talk but he likes to keep to himself so I leave him to it. I did notice he only left 2 drink cans in the fridge knowing only 2 sisters would be there, and I noticed in the past he’d only mention he has spare food bits only when my partner gets back, not when I spoke to him moments before.

I ended up staying in our room for all the evening and only came out to eat dinner, I just said my allergies were acting up when my partner asked if I wanted to join them.

It just feels like being ganged up on because they have each other and i only really know my partner who will make excuses for it and not say anything in the moment. After the slag comment, he said nothing and only told me the next day he told her off but even that I’m doubting he did.

No one said anything after they left but it’s awkward now. I know it’s because of me. Is there any fixing this?

Me and my partner are 27, the sisters are 24-25.

We recently got married and have been living with him while we’re in process of buying our house.

It sort of happened unofficially which is the awkward but because he only thought my husband would be moving in and I started staying over more.

I’ll mention staying back at mine and my husband will get upset and think somethings wrong.

I get along with his family for the most part but it just feels like I’m not quite wanted and in the way of his dad eho isn’t the most chatty with me.

His sisters came over and I offered to pick them up, one barely made conversation so I ended up but staying in our room and letting them hang out together. My husband asked me to join but I just felt uncomfortable.
One of them is friendly while the only interaction I’ve had with the other is her messaging my partner to call me a slag. I got no apology and I’m expected to just move on like it didn’t happen.

My family puts in more effort and is chattier and friendlier, as opposed to his where it feels like the siblings are forced to even be in the same room as me.

How do I move back to my parents until we get our house without it seeming like somethings wrong. It should be in a month’s time. The only reason we don’t stay at mine together is because my house has a permit ran parking system and is on the other end of the city to my partners work so it’s not viable.

My partners sister doesn’t work or go to school and is now 25, and speaks to people how she wants. The other is also in the same boat but slightly more anxious and friendlier.

My first interaction with her was her sending my then bf a message calling me a slag when we were making too much noise.

We’ve not really spoken since, but they’ve warmed up me a little since weve gotten married. Yesterday at the dinner table, her bf joined us and wanted to sit down. There was a seat next to me but because the tables near a wall, he asked her to move in but she said no and had him squeeze through so she wouldn’t be next to me.

I get we don’t really talk but that’s not going to make me want to?

I like to think I would have told my brother to grow up if it happened the other way around. Should he have said something?

My partners sister doesn’t work or go to school and is now 25, and speaks to people how she wants. The other is also in the same boat but slightly more anxious and friendlier.

My first interaction with her was her sending my then bf a message calling me a slag when we were making too much noise.

We’ve not really spoken since, but they’ve warmed up me a little since weve gotten married. Yesterday at the dinner table, her bf joined us and wanted to sit down. There was a seat next to me but because the tables near a wall, he asked her to move in but she said no and had him squeeze through so she wouldn’t be next to me.

Am I being silly or is that not just rude? I get we don’t really talk but that’s not going to make me want to?

Me and my husband are 27.