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I don’t want to go into depth about what’s going on, so please distract me before I start crying again. If I don’t respond, I might’ve fallen asleep. I have work tomorrow, and I’m sick, so I’m trying to sleep, but I can’t. This will at least help me take my mind off of it. Ask away

It took me months to admit to my bf and be told me that he felt like I was just doing it for attention. Crushed is an understatement :/ took me at least 6 months to admit it to him, and it was a short convo since he wasn’t concerned about it despite it being concerning to me. At least now I know he looks at me as an attention seeker. Not really sure how to move on from this one.

I have struggled with food for as long as I remember. I caught some strays when I was a bit younger from people that have stayed with me like a comment made by my boyfriends current friend "So you only date fat girls?". That comment has stuck with me, and I have never been able to shake it, even after an apology from the guy that said it. Up until about a month ago, when I'd eat something "unhealthy", I'd have the "I thought you were trying to lose weight" comment from my boyfriend too, and that's all I can hear whenever I eat ANYTHING. I told him to stop because I had never claimed that I was trying to lose weight, and shortly after, told him I believed I had BED (I also have ARFID which doesn't help) and his response was "What do you want me to do about it?"

This has left me feeling totally alone, and I don't know where to turn. I don't necessarily want to go to the GP because I don't want them to refer me to therapy. I just want to be skinny. I know they won't help that side of it. I'm too ashamed to go to the gym in case my bf's friend is there, and because all I see at the gym are fit, skinny girls, and I keep thinking "That could've been me", then I binge to make myself feel better, and the trend starts all over again. I genuinely can't stand it anymore.

I wake up. I think of food. I eat food. I hear the comments. I feel bad. I eat food to make myself feel better. I hear the comments. I feel bad. I eat food to make myself feel better. I HEAR THE COMMENTS. I FEEL BAD. I EAT TO MAKE MYSELF FEEL BETTER...and so on.

I can't even go on Pinterest or TikTok anymore. I start uni next month and I'm so scared to be able to see so many skinny people. I'm so ashamed. The worst part is that the scale hasn't even moved in months yet, I feel like an elephant. I have consistently sat at>! roughly 75kg!<. I have a wedding to go to in April and I'm scared I won't be skinny enough to look good at it. I should've started dieting and working out months ago because now I'll look the exact same way I look now, and I am totally ashamed of that. I'm ashamed of how others see me, I'm ashamed of how I feel, and I'm ashamed that I have barely looked in a mirror in months because it makes me feel sick.

I genuinely don't know what to do, but I can feel myself get more and more distressed as the days go on. Should I seek therapy? Will it help? Should I get myself to the gym? Should I speak to my GP? I really don't know what to do. Please help.

It’s on her appendix. She had bowel cancer before and uses a bag. They don’t know if it’s cancerous. She has a colonoscopy on Monday. I’m scared.

HOW HAS IT GOTTEN THIS FUCKING BAD

I was on a cruise ship and at a massive room party. Lots of my friends were there and the gibes were pretty happy. In another room, my granda lay dying. Nobody was in the room with his but to occasionally check if he had kicked the bucket yet. He died a few times and then came back to life. The time that he finally died, we were playing a traditional Scottish sad/meaningful song for the party goers, and we were happy that my granda died heading a song he would like as opposed to all the modern pop crap.

Nurses came in to check he had finally died, and they called it. He didn’t wake up this time. They cleaned his body and managed to take it away without anyone seeing, so I didn’t get to say goodbye (this didn’t happen irl). Afterwards, they transformed the room into a grief haven of sorts. There was a table to write messages to my granda (assuming to go inside of his coffin), and a tint empty coffin full of seashells. My dad, who had a complicated relationship with his dad, made my granda a pancake so he wouldn’t be hungry “on the way”. I started writing a note, but all I could write was “I feel so guilty”.

I wasn’t overly close to my granda, so I believe my dream signified that he was always at the back of my mind until he died, then I realised how shit of a grandchild I had been to him. I’ve had a handful of dreams where I have interacted with my granda to apologise, so I assumed I had been “cured”, but I guess not.

They are destroying us every time because it takes so long to get someone to run it, and because I can get someone to patrol the room, it’s causing them to double in size. How do I prevent this? Should I position that room in the middle of the shelter instead of at the edge of it? Thanks

I have pretty bad OCD, and it’s come in many forms. Religious paranoia OCD was a big part of it for a while. The worst part was when I used to think that God was watching everything I done to the point I would get changed in the bathroom so he couldn’t see my naked body. I was raised catholic, but now I am an atheist. I still get religious paranoia at times, and when my granda died, I felt like I couldn’t do anything bad or inappropriate incase he was watching. My s*x life sucked for a while lol. Ask me anything

I'm not writing this for a solution, just annoyed. The way the payroll worked, I only earned about 5 or so days' worth of work since I started at an awkward time, so I've been left with just enough to pay for my car until the end of August. This sucks :(

I believe I have binge eating disorder and it’s ruining my self image, and causing my OCD to flare up. I usually spend the entire day eating healthy/not eating, then just purge. I feel TERRIBLE after it, and always have stomach pains. How do I stop myself? I have a lock box and I’m considering putting all my treats in there, and giving the key to my brother so I need to ask for permission to eat it. Would this work? Has anyone done this? Thanks

What really irritates me about these right wing “protests” in Glasgow & Edinburgh is that I am currently writing my dissertation about the treatment of black people before and during the civil rights movement in the USA and IT’S THE EXACT SAME SHIT. It’s the same insults, the same hate groups, the same chants, the same “crimes” these poor people are being accused of, and the same fears from the public due to media manipulation and lack of education. The videos coming out about yesterday in Glasgow are beyond disturbing.

People, do yourself a favour. Open a history book. You are repeating history, and not in a good way. You look like an uninformed, uneducated knob.

I’m gutted. I’m almost crying. It was the right decision for this year though because I’m so busy with uni and another more solid part time job (that I’m still in the process of getting). I’m on a months probation for the part time job, so I couldn’t have even took the job on incase I got the part time job, and ended up with 2 jobs and a full time uni course. I’m about to go and get my hair done, but I will reply asap. I’m so sad.

The job would have been to work in events with people with Alzheimer’s.

I’m gutted. I’m almost crying. It was the right decision for this year though because I’m so busy with uni and another more solid part time job (that I’m still in the process of getting). I’m on a months probation for the part time job, so I couldn’t have even took the job on incase I got the part time job, and ended up with 2 jobs and a full time uni course. I’m about to go and get my hair done, but I will reply asap. I’m so sad.

The job would have been to work in events with people with Alzheimer’s.

I write (soon to be) because people get annoyed that I haven’t officially graduated yet and therefore, in their eyes, don’t deserve the title. I graduate in 2027, and study Christian theology, American modern history, and the sociology of religion almost daily. I’m the most interested in American Christian theology out of any other country. Before it is asked, no, I do not know the bible back to front however, I am reading it currently for my dissertation and to make myself a better theologian.

I do not believe in God, but in recent times, I have attended Catholic, Evangelical Baptist, and Mormon services. They were all incredible.

Ask away, kind people.

Please be aware that I am from Scotland, so please only give locational advice based on that. General advice from anyone anywhere however is welcomed!! :)

As the title says, I’m about to graduate next year. I will be leaving with a Modern History/Sociology degree at UofG. I do not regret it for a second, and I have loved the past 4/5 years. It’s taught me so much, and I have had so many amazing opportunities by studying this degree.

That being said, I’m going into a job market that isn’t fantastic. Luckily, I am a very optimistic person, and I have MANY ideas and plans for my future. Weirdly, with sociology, I can go into loads of different postgrads due to how versatile it is. Recently, I’ve become very interested in perusing a postgrad (or graduate scheme if I’m lucky) with an urban design or town/city planning company. I come from a poor, crime ridden area just outside of Glasgow, and have SO many ideas of how to make to better (holistic rehab centres, budget friendly community based restaurant/pub with themed nights, better usage of abandoned or underused buildings such as church halls and youth centres) but no idea how to do that logically. I have considered a few companies for grad schemes, but I don’t think they usually look for undergrads, so I’m just thinking ahead for next year. I’ve looked into a few things across a few different uni’s like MBA Business Management, or City Planning, both WITH project management, but not sure if these would be the correct approach.

The only real aspect of any job I get that I would like is that I would either get paid enough to go to the USA on holiday every year, or have the opportunity to relocate/do “business” trips. I love the USA, and I have just returned from a study abroad trip. This is mainly what sparked my drive to work within poor communities for the benefit of poor communities. I would love to be able to ASK communities what they need, and be able to give it to them.

Any advice at all? Any thoughts about what I’ve wrote? I’m hoping it all makes sense! I’ve just finished a shift and it’s boiling today lol!

As the title says, I’m about to graduate next year. I will be leaving with a Modern History/Sociology degree at UofG. I do not regret it for a second, and I have loved the past 4/5 years. It’s taught me so much, and I have had so many amazing opportunities by studying this degree.

That being said, I’m going into a job market that isn’t fantastic. Luckily, I am a very optimistic person, and I have MANY ideas and plans for my future. Weirdly, with sociology, I can go into loads of different postgrads due to how versatile it is. Recently, I’ve become very interested in perusing a postgrad (or graduate scheme if I’m lucky) with an urban design or town/city planning company. I come from a poor, crime ridden area just outside of Glasgow, and have SO many ideas of how to make to better (holistic rehab centres, budget friendly community based restaurant/pub with themed nights, better usage of abandoned or underused buildings such as church halls and youth centres) but no idea how to do that logically. I have considered a few companies for grad schemes, but I don’t think they usually look for undergrads, so I’m just thinking ahead for next year. I’ve looked into a few things across a few different uni’s like MBA Business Management, or City Planning, both WITH project management, but not sure if these would be the correct approach.

The only real aspect of any job I get that I would like is that I would either get paid enough to go to the USA on holiday every year, or have the opportunity to relocate/do “business” trips. I love the USA, and I have just returned from a study abroad trip. This is mainly what sparked my drive to work within poor communities for the benefit of poor communities. I would love to be able to ASK communities what they need, and be able to give it to them.

Any advice at all? Any thoughts about what I’ve wrote? I’m hoping it all makes sense! I’ve just finished a shift and it’s boiling today lol!

My granda died in November 2024. It was a traumatic death for him, and the dying process lasted several months. It took me a while to get over, despite not being overly close to him. I held a lot of guilt. The thing that got me through were dreams. In these, I got to apologise. I got greater clarity of the death process, and I saw that he was going to be okay wherever he was. I am not religious, but I believe that there is “life” after death, even if that life just exists in my mind.

My granda’s brother, who am I not close to whatsoever, is in hospital with a severe chest infection. He’s not looking good, and is on palliative care. Either yesterday or the day before, I saw a white feather. I was sweeping, and I could not seem to get rid of this feather. Although some may think “it’s just a feather”, I thought that, since everything was happening with my grandas brother, that may have been a sign that his time is almost up, and my granda is here to collect him. He decided to stop by my new work to say hello.

His brother has gone downhill over the past 24 hrs, and it doesn’t look good. I wonder if my granda really is here.

Firstly, I’m from the Uk, but I would love to hear about perspectives all over the world too incase one day, I get an international work opportunity.

I have been looking at urban studies/city planning postgrads which would cover design, budgeting, geography, policy, and the ability to do a project management elective. However, when I showed this course to my partner, he asked why I wouldn’t just do specially project management as a postgrad.

As someone who’s just researching for now, I think it would be better to have a specialisation in urban studies AND project management, since I would be covering both fields. Am I wrong to think that? Would I be better focusing my entire energy into project management? Or am I right to think about casting my net a bit further by doing a mixed program.

Thanks!

I am considering doing this as as postgrad next year at Uofg, which will also make me eligible to do real estate, but I don’t want to jump right into it without knowing what the job is like day to day, if the pay aligns with the amount of work, and if it is worth pursuing before I apply. Would love to know if anyone does this for work, and if so, would u be up to telling me about your job? Thank you!