went to an all inclusive holiday, gained 2 kg even though it took me ages to lose the said 2kg. i am 59.3 kg and i was 57.3 kg. i want to be 55 kg by september. what should my calorie deficit be? how much exercise should i do? i don't mind extremes.
In a debate with myself.
it's getting unbearable now. i know that it's common with being a teenager but because they're going through their own s***, it's hard to stay mad at them, but as someone who is trying to help them go through said problems, i do expect a little bit of kindness. this has elongated way longer than i can bear.
i don't want to drop them as friends, and i want to remain a good friend and stick by their side but blimey they can't just drop the attitude for a second when i speak to them.
i think i've been using the terms wrong.
please give me actual responses. i have previously gotten 'don't bother, no one could help me change' on other subreddits. i am not looking to be pessimistic and give up.
also sorry for my english, it is not my first language.
i know i'll be so mad at myself in the future, but i'm just so tired recently. any help?
i've often been told i have the emotional range of a older man, despite being a teenage girl, that being, i don't understand many mental health problems (according to other people).
but the part i do not understand, is when people have vented to me, they say 'what do i do, i just hope xyz doesn't happen' and they...ignore it? either straight up ignoring that text and continuing or when i guide them back to the advice i sent, they just blow it off and then they come back to me for venting or support or advice, i genuinely don't know, and they just ignore my advice again.
i'm trying so hard to be supportive. but almost more than half of my friends right now are having mental health crisises and coming to me, and yet when i help them they don't listen, and they just say 'it's fine, i'm fine' as soon as i mention any sort of solution. i totally understand helping yourself is hard but after FIVE months of you coming to me with the same problem and not changing anything about yourself, i can't help but get angry and then i feel bad for getting angry because that's probably why people say i have no emotional avaliability. but come on.
i've never felt like such an excited kid
my friend's got an ED. she's worried she will purge. what can i do and how can she support herself/try stop herself?
这是用谷歌翻译的，因为我本人不是中国人（而向我提问的那些年长女性是中国人）。如果这篇帖子读起来不太通顺，还请见谅。
just as it says on the tin.
my results day is coming up. i want to be a doctor, i want to go to a good uni in a different country.
and then i thought about the possibility of me not getting the grades i wanted, and having to stay living with my (to put it lightly, not-so-nice) parents for another year and having a year of feeling disappointed in myself with nothing to do.
and i thought, i genuinely would kill myself.
whenever i got depressed about something in the past, my first instinct was that i wanted to kill myself, in the sense that i wanted whatever specific bad thing that was going on to stop. never for my whole LIFE to stop. and i never thought in detail of how i could, plausibly do it, but today i did.
please may you guys pray for me to not fail my exams, get into uni the first time around and get preferably all A*s in my predicted? i know that God is the best of planners, and 'with hardship comes ease' but i actually cannot see my life continuing if i didn't manage to get into uni the first time around, i'm really sorry to be needy or demanding of God. but i just think, He's God isn't he? He can do it.
please reply, it's really annoying me. i want to know if it is my computer or not. i'll be typing something in, then suddenly it won't let me type anything else.