u/TelephonePossible456

My friend and I have a predominantly texting relationship due to us living farther apart now. I’ve always noticed little texting patterns with her that would annoy me from time to time but lately it’s become excessive.

I’ll text her about something specific and she won’t acknowledge it or respond to it but hours later she’ll text me something totally unrelated and random without acknowledging what I said previously? And then when I acknowledge what she said she she’ll abruptly change the topic mid convo to something else. And then I’ll acknowledge her new point and then it just keeps going.

I apologize if that explanation is kinda confusing. In general she just texts very erratically? And it seems like she controls the whole conversation. It’s getting really annoying because it feels like I’m just there to respond to her and entertain her thoughts until she decides she’s over it. It doesn’t feel like I’m an active participant in the convo if that makes sense? And it’s like everything is on her terms. It’s getting to be really annoying. And lately after we talk I find myself just feeling irritated and drained.

My friend is recently unemployed so idk maybe she’s bored and just texts me everytime a random thought pops up throughout the day and that’s why it seems so random and erratic? but whatever the reason my point remains

I gotta know if this is a shared phenomenon or if it’s just my job, but I’ve noticed that the white people here loveeeee talking about their personal business and for the life of me I’ve never understood why?? All of the black people (myself included) keep to ourselves and keep it very surface level.

The white folks however, have no shame. They talk about everythinggggg from family drama to financial issues , relationship drama, to raunchy weekend behavior to TMI matters etc. I cannot even begin to imagine being that comfortable sharing such personal info with coworkers but they do it. Mind you we’re all fully grown adults at a fully grown job, we’re not teenagers or college aged. I do have to laugh sometimes because everytime one of them shares soemthing out of pocket the other black folks and I just exchange looks with each other like “yall hear this crazy shit too???” lol.

But seriously I’ve come to notice that white people seem to be notorious for being like this in the workplace and the black people seem to always keep their heads down and stay to themselves. I could also find this weird because of how I was raised? I was always taught that your coworkers are not your friends and to keep to yourself, mind your business, and go home. And I do just that as well as the other black people here.

I have one coworker in particular that’s notorious for oversharing and she complains about people “not taking her seriously” and viewing her as “immature”. So badly I wanna be like yeah no shit?? I don’t think her and the others realize that their oversharing does infact paint them in a very tacky and unprofessional light and what you share at work does warp people’s perceptions of you, both good and bad!!

The irony in this is that THEY (white folks) have always tried to paint US as the unprofessional and ghetto ones. And they’re so quick to cast judgement on us but be having the messiest lives behind closed doors. Can’t make it up.