u/ybicurious

I wonder if you live below your means and believe in saving/investing for future. Do you still make exceptions for something 'cause skimping on those aren't worthwhile in long term.

For example, currently I use public transit but I think I'd save so much time if I get a car. I know most people are against getting a car but is it an okay sacrifice if it provides you a lot of convenience and saves time. I don't live downtown or in a area close to station. Nearest bus stop is 12-15 min walk away. I have to use bus to go to a laundromat and carry groceries.

Some other examples could be Investing in a good chair or bed or shoes as someone said the thing that's between you and the ground, should be good quality.

Or spending on experience or eating out to socialize as it's good to connect with new people and have fun. Or good quality food, skincare etc.

What are you thoughts about this and do you have anything you don't think twice about spending on even if you are in geenral living a frugal lifestyle?

I wonder if you live below your means and believe in saving/investing for future. Do you still make exceptions for something 'cause skimping on those aren't worthwhile in long term.

For example, currently I use public transit but I think I'd save so much time if I get a car. I know most people are against getting a car but is it an okay sacrifice if it provides you a lot of convenience and saves time. I don't live downtown or in a area close to station. Nearest bus stop is 12-15 min walk away. I have to use bus to go to a laundromat and carry groceries.

Some other examples could be Investing in a good chair or bed or shoes as someone said the thing that's between you and the ground, should be good quality.

Or spending on experience or eating out to socialize as it's good to connect with new people and have fun. Or good quality food, skincare etc.Or good quality food, skincare etc.

What are you thoughts about this and do you have anything you don't think twice about spending on even if you are in geenral living a frugal lifestyle?

I wonder if you live below your means and believe in saving/investing for future. Do you still make exceptions for something 'cause skimping on those aren't worthwhile in long term.

For example, currently I use public transit but I think I'd save so much time if I get a car. I know most people are against getting a car but is it an okay sacrifice if it provides you a lot of convenience and saves time. I don't live downtown or in a area close to station. Nearest bus stop is 12-15 min walk away. I have to use bus to go to a laundromat and carry groceries.

Some other examples could be Investing in a good chair or bed or shoes as someone said the thing that's between you and the ground, should be good quality.

Or spending on experience or eating out to socialize as it's good to connect with new people and have fun. Or good quality food, skincare etc.

What are you thoughts about this and do you have anything you don't think twice about spending on even if you are in geenral living a frugal lifestyle?

Been living in Surrey for 10 years and ther driver never care about pedestrians. They take right turn without realizing there could br someone crossing the street. So many time I could get hit by a car if I didn't step back even when the driver had a red light and was supposed to come to a full stop, check the sides and proceed when it's clear. I think some people don't even know they are supposed to stop even if the right turn is allowed on red light. (I hate this red light rule btw).

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On top of that, the new e-biked and e-scooters makes it hard to even walk straight on a sidewalk. They go past you at such a high speed without warning you. It's so dangerous to be a pedestrian in Surrey.

26M, Few years ago I moved to Canada all by myself and started a new life. I'm generally a bit shy (at first) and introvert, so I find it hard to make new friends. I had some acquaintances in school and at work but not friends who stayed even after I left those places. As a result, I still stayed in touch with my old friends from my home country.

I know these old friends from school, so I'm very comfortable with them and we had a lot of interests in common. We played games online and talked to each other in a group call almost every day for last 2-3 years. Our friendship got stronger in a way as some of those friends were also living away from home and needed some support. They understood me well and I could be myself with them and I laughed a lot with them.

However, I'm a person who likes to learn and assimilate to the local culture. So, I've tried learning "Canadian" or "North American" things/culture and I've changed a bit. Over the time, I changed enough that now I don't have much common with those friends. They have different opinions for everything and never try to understand me. Instead, they make of me about how I've changed and how I'm not tough like other people from our region and have become "whitewashed".

We still support each other but lately they've been opposing a lot of things I do. Like, I recently had a new haircut that they all hated and wanted me to change. But, when I asked a white person at my workplace, he liked it. They also make fun how I like to have a schedule/routine and follow it and that I have a skincare routine etc.(they find it feminine/gay to have a skincare routine)

They all want to stay the same and not learn and adapt according to the new culture. In some ways, they've also changed but they don't accept it and they just point out my things. Today, I had an argument with them 'cause I mentioned a song which has the word "MF" and they were opposing that it's not very cultural to listen to songs with profanity (Even tho I liked the song 'cause of the overall music and vibe).

Now, I'm almost thinking about ending friendship with them or at least not giving them the same acces to me and the same time I gave them. I was thankful to have their support when I felt lonely in a foreign country, will always be grateful. However, in a way, that also became the reason that I didn't go out enough to find new local friends. I get jealous when I see other people having fun with their friends and only friends I have are online and not local. I think I need new friends but I don't know how to make friends as workplace is the only place I go to and I feel like people there aren't looking for friends. Bit busy to start any hobby or something.

Question is to whether or not to continue friendship with them and how much importance should I give them. Am I wrong to feel this way or it's natural to outgrow your old friends? Hard to leave the only friends I have as I can't seem to find a way to make new good friends here.

P.S. I feel that I can't have the same level of friendship ever again as people I'll meet in a different country aren't gonna have a similar background/upbringing as me and would hard to have thing in common with them. I think childhood/school friends are the best and irreplaceable. Not sure if someone ever made a friend in adult life who became a close friend eventually.

26M, Few years ago I moved to Canada all by myself and started a new life. I'm generally a bit shy (at first) and introvert, so I find it hard to make new friends. I had some acquaintances in school and at work but not friends who stayed even after I left those places. As a result, I still stayed in touch with my old friends from my home country.

I know these old friends from school, so I'm very comfortable with them and we had a lot of interests in common. We played games online and talked to each other in a group call almost every day for last 2-3 years. Our friendship got stronger in a way as some of those friends were also living away from home and needed some support. They understood me well and I could be myself with them and I laughed a lot with them.

However, I'm a person who likes to learn and assimilate to the local culture. So, I've tried learning "Canadian" or "North American" things/culture and I've changed a bit. Over the time, I changed enough that now I don't have much common with those friends. They have different opinions for everything and never try to understand me. Instead, they make of me about how I've changed and how I'm not tough like other people from our region and have become "whitewashed".

We still support each other but lately they've been opposing a lot of things I do. Like, I recently had a new haircut that they all hated and wanted me to change. But, when I asked a white person at my workplace, he liked it. They also make fun how I like to have a schedule/routine and follow it and that I have a skincare routine etc.(they find it feminine/gay to have a skincare routine)

They all want to stay the same and not learn and adapt according to the new culture. In some ways, they've also changed but they don't accept it and they just point out my things. Today, I had an argument with them 'cause I mentioned a song which has the word "MF" and they were opposing that it's not very cultural to listen to songs with profanity (Even tho I liked the song 'cause of the overall music and vibe).

Now, I'm almost thinking about ending friendship with them or at least not giving them the same acces to me and the same time I gave them. I was thankful to have their support when I felt lonely in a foreign country, will always be grateful. However, in a way, that also became the reason that I didn't go out enough to find new local friends. I get jealous when I see other people having fun with their friends and only friends I have are online and not local. I think I need new friends but I don't know how to make friends as workplace is the only place I go to and I feel like people there aren't looking for friends. Bit busy to start any hobby or something.

Question is to whether or not to continue friendship with them and how much importance should I give them. Am I wrong to feel this way or it's natural to outgrow your old friends? Hard to leave the only friends I have as I can't seem to find a way to make new good friends here.

P.S. I feel that I can't have the same level of friendship ever again as people I'll meet in a different country aren't gonna have a similar background/upbringing as me and would hard to have thing in common with them. I think childhood/school friends are the best and irreplaceable. Not sure if someone ever made a friend in adult life who became a close friend eventually.

26M, I've never had a GF even after trying to find someone. Grew up as a shy kid and didn't talk much to anyone. I never had a lot of friends, just a few throughout the life. In my 20s, I started changing myself and tried to learn to communicate better and not be socially awkward. I changed myself enough that some people considered me funny (only close friends tho) and some people found me to be good at talking. However, I still feel nervous to talk to women and no women show me interest.

I'm Smart, funny and creative but only when I'm with close friends. I'm good at professional communication at work or when ordering food somewhere but I can't get frank with random people quickly. Most of my friends or people around me are dating and I'm the only one who's always been single. Some friends talk about how they meet new girls every week and I can't seem to relate.

I don't want too many, I just want 1. Someone I can love and have them love me back but I almost feel like no one will ever love me. No girl has ever complimented me and I think I'm probably not conventionally attractive. No girl has every approached. Only my mom think I'm attractive (when I tell that I can't find girl 'cause I'm not tall and handsome).

Most of my life I focused on studies and wanted a good career and didn't work on finding a partner and now in mid 20s, my career has still not started and I'm also the only single guy wherever I go. Most people around me enjoyed the life, had fun in school, have GFs and now also have decent career.

I feel so unlucky and have suicial thoughts sometimes and most days my normal mood is actually sad and I can't seem to find any reasons to be happy. My career isn't starting (finding a job in my field) and no girl seems to be interested in me.

Currently, I have no social life, barely any close friends (just some acquaintances). I usually try to find women around me at school or work but so far I've only been rejected or friendzoned. I don't have any women at my current work and basically no female interaction for months.

I have tried bunch of dating apps just to be disappointed. I never get any likes, matches. Women just ignore me. I wanted to have certain set of values listed that I wanted in a partner but at this point, I don't think I have a choice. I'd be happy to meet anyone who is alive.

I don't play games and I don't fake it to impress anyone. I try to be real and find someone with intention to have a long term relationship. I don't know what women want. I can't be a bad boy even if I act like one. Why is there no demand of nice guys?

I feel like I'm gonna die alone.

Some friends say I'm kinda negative even tho I just try to be realistic. Do I need a therapy?

Is there any way to find it. I have both of the earbuds and the app only gives the ability to find the earbuds but the case. I had it few hours ago and I didn't go out other than just out to the driveway to throw something in the bin.

I had the buds case in my pocket and sometimes when I'm sitting on the couch or bed, the slip out of my pocket but I have tried to find everywhere in my living room and bedroom. Can't find the case.

Is there any way to find it. I have both of the earbuds and the app only gives the ability to find the earbuds but the case. I had it few hours ago and I didn't go out other than just out to the driveway to throw something in the bin.

I had the buds case in my pocket and sometimes when I'm sitting on the couch or bed, the slip out of my pocket but I have tried to find everywhere in my living room and bedroom. Can't find the case.

Someone commented on of my posts that they saw my old posts and it was weird and creepy that they were stalking me or found a way to see my old posts from completely different communities.

I have already called wealthsimple customer service and they changed it to online only and no paper mails but I still grt their mails every week. Sometimes they send a whole damn booklet. I don't even have much invested but I have some stocks I bought and most mails are about them asking me to vote even though I only have 2-3 shares that I own.

They've spent more money on the mails than the money I invested in their company. I also don't know if I'm supposed to vote for all of them? I never do.

I already checked on the app that I've opted for no paper mails and online only but they still send so many. I don't like they waste so much paper and bigger problem is that my landlord thinks that I'm a rich guy who invest a lot of stocks so keep jacking up my rent.

Do women feel anything physically or just mentally? And is mental feeling almost same as men? Men feel some pleasure in penis itself, do women feel the same?

I'm so dumb as I haven't been with women yet.

People wait for sunny days and aummer but I kinda life overcast weather and I enjoy running in rain with some music on headphones (preferably sad music).