u/Expensive_Watch469

idk I’m intending to get met, idc if I have a small dick, I kind of always assumed if I was cis I’d have one anyway shrug. I also don’t want anything super noticeable just don’t wanna look flat down there anymore, I’ve tried socks and it always looks awkward for me

Hi, I have been so alone for a long time but I posted in my local cities subreddit and this girl reached out to me, shes so cool and we're going to hang out for the first time tomorrow and I am so happy, shes super cool and has very cool interests and she seems to like to hear me discuss music and I am so happy and I wanted to share.

I posted about wanting to make friends as someone with autism and she has autism too and I am so excited. I am 19 and shes 16 so I am a bit older and I am so excited. we're going to go to a local garden then walk to a coffee shop.

I'm so happy, we're talked a ton and called and shes super cool and smart and I don't really have friends

Okay, so there is some context needed before I explain fully, my friend as of now uses she/they, I will refer to her that way as thats what they have told me, she has complex feelings about her gender and mentions thinking shes trans masc a lot, which is why I think this is bothering them so much. we both also have autism, which adds another layer of complexity to this, we both struggle to communicate sometimes.

So my friend S is a very close friend of mine, we talk and hang out a lot. S has a friend I've never met, whom she used to be close to but not so much anymore, we will call this friend K, K has been on testosterone for years and has also gotten top surgery.

Basically, S according to K regrets transitioning fully, originally came out to S saying they wish they had gotten a reduction rather than full on top surgery and now they're saying they fully intend to detransition, if they're unhappy with their transition this might be the right choice for them, but this has made S feel really bad, both for her friend, but also now scared about what if they would transition then detransition despite desiring it regularly and for years. She keeps telling me about it, followed by how shes upset because her friend my experience dysphoria now from trying to transition to male even when they detransition and she keeps voicing a fear that she'll start to transition then regret it and detransition too. I've tried talking to her suggesting focusing on trying non-permanent things for now like pronouns or presenting masc or names, just anything she could try without anything permanent, but they're very fixated on this, which makes sense, I don't think their fears are unfounded, I think they have a reason this stresses them out and just need to vent about it a bit.

The only issue is I am really early in my transition, I know she needs someone to talk about this with and I think she goes to me because I have a very firm sense of my gender, she has no concern I'd detransition, she trusts me a lot. I just am struggling with the talk about regretting top surgery specifically, when thats all I really want. I feel bad for her friend, once again I know she just needs to talk about it, which is the only reason I have put up with my dysphoria and not asked for the conversation to be dropped, but due to how early I am in my transition it is really hard to talk about.

Just wanted to write it out and vent, really hoping my friends, friend is okay in all this and that my friend can feel better soon.

Hello I am 19 and I have autism and I am seeking new friends. I really like musical physical media and just music in general, I am already in all the local record facebook groups and a regular at the record stores and go to the record conventions, I just still struggle to make friends. I have no idea if the people at the record stores see me as a friend or anything even, but I am pretty good at having conversations about music or listening to others share their interests.

Where can I meet people outside my usual spaces to make friends in my age range? What advice would be good to know? How do I find friends?

So I have freaked out my friend and was suggested to go here by someone in the support server.

I have and have had delusions around being other people for literal years. It is one of my worse delusions because it keeps coming back no matter how much I fight against it.

Today was rough, after a extremely rough week I was at my breaking point, I was exhausted and I spiraled very very badly and almost tried to end my life. I started crying and I kind of just blurred out the rest of the day, I don't remember a lot, which is important, but I kind of came to myself hours and hours later.

Apparently I had a over 4 hour long conversation with my friend where I introduced myself under a different name and spoke of myself in the third person and had a full conversation with him. I don't remember this, I know he is telling the truth but I have no idea what was said in the conversation besides what my friend told me. My friend is concerned about me, he tried to talk to me about it, agrees I have psychosis but doesn't think this is psychosis, where as I pushed back and said I think I have a history of delusions around being other people and this has happened before and is just a delusion. I have no idea what to do, its honestly stressing me out badly, especially since the name given to my friend is a name I've seen used before by myself, but is neither my name nor a name I'd go by and is actually quite a uncommon name. I think this is just a psychosis state of mine, a consistent identity I sometimes think I am.

I just want to know if anyone else here has this experience because I feel so alone as is and now I am scaring my friends.