u/Ok_Spare414

I had joined a group of friends and I had guys ask me out but it has not really happened before as much as I imagine other women getting that.

I see other ladies getting many types of attention all the time and it is annoying indeed I imagine or feeling unsafe sometimes.

I don't know if they go out in casual clothes or if they groom themselves. I think both.

I live in a country with extroverted people and if they see a good looking or a charming woman they won't hesitate to approach or compliment. I guess I don't fit the local beauty standards maybe or idk.

And how do some people have it naturally?

I'm quiet and people mostly dislike me though I have seen many quiet people being liked. I think it has to do with them picking up social cues, having regular NT conversations and communicating nonverbaly. Just that they are not loud or super talkative. People still mostly understand them. While for quiet socially awkward individuals this isn't the case.

I have an NT social sibling and she always examines people's emotions, what they will like or not like. What is proper and what is improper. This is just too much although they have social intelligence and those are as easy for them as easy it is for us to gather info about special interests and stuff like that.

I'm just tired of having to work extra and pick up the lowest and higher frequency or social norms and cues just hoping to be treated kindly. But I think this world is unkind in general and it is not hard for them to show a cruel face, especially to specific types of people. Such as those of other race for example.

I'm 25 and yeah, the title basically... Many times I have been locked down upon. I have an ableist family that bullies me and never supported me. In my country parents pay for university exam preparation classes and it is impossible to enter without them cause the schools are underfunded. Mine obviously didn't help. I entered a uni major I didn't like so I left it. They tell me I am a lost cause since I was little and they want others to bully me with them. They want to portray me as a failure.

I work in IT in data and I work from home. I left my first job and I regret it. I felt like it wasn't enough. My parents make fun of me, they say other people have a bunch of degrees (although the parents here pay for them). They want me to work in tech product sale stores. I do have an English proficiency C2 level certificate and it is seen as important here cause it is hard and most students don't pass it.

I talked to a therapist, I told him about my life and suddenly he insisted that I sign up for a community college "to socialize". I didn't mention wanting to study.

And I also talked to a career advisor. She seemed to have her services intended for school aged people. I told her I work and she kept pressuring me to take up the university exams for a degree. Though they'll take a lot of time and money for the prep classes.. She also kept suggesting to do a personality test and she told me I can follow what the result says, for example if it shows I have a tendency for psychology I will have to get that degree. Throughout the whole meeting she kept mentioning university studies. What I wanted out of it was to talk about more IT sectors but she had no idea.

TW, talking about medical stuff a bit.

She disliked me since the first moment, we were together in a friend group at school. She joined for a few months and then I left the group. She was so cruel to me and making fun of me.

All our friends were submissive to her. Her mother was narcissistic and her dad was kind. She was a b- but would act nice to most people. She was in a competition with her mother and it was weird. She would get straight As to spite everyone and she wanted to succeed out of ego. She would gossip about everyone. Most friends took a proficiency English exam together and me and her were the only ones who passed it but her result grades were much higher than mine. I found out after graduating that she entered some rural med school. Her parents used to live abroad in a rich country and she knew the language. I bet she will go there and make a fortune. I don't get how she will be a doctor while she's so mean, she will probably make a fool of people to take their money. In my almost third world country many public doctors ask patients for money illegally especially for surgery and if they don't give them they delay the surgery or leave tools inside them. That happened to my father, I was 12 and they didn't even pity that he had an underage kid, they delayed his surgery until we gathered money to give them.

She's probably making a bank while I'm just a person who has no degree, I was bullied by my whole family. I can't get hired in jobs and I have one now and I had another part time one that I left out of self sabotage. I just hate myself, how bad people succeed and how they have 0 remorse in life. They take care of themselves and love themselves despite being monsters while I hate myself over things I can't control like my audhd diagnosis or a bad family. I live in a poor country that's very discriminative and I tried to go abroad but I came back. I have a grandpa who's nice and he told me he thought I would get to be an army doctor cause I'm smart and it made me sad that my bully is actually becoming a doctor and her early adult life is full of success.

I have audhd and my parents are ableists, I've been bullied since I remember myself by them. I had posted about this briefly and was advised to move asap. I want to get more practical.

I work from home and they don't buy many groceries or cook much although they're retired. I can't go to the kitchen to cook cause they're all day there and start screaming. Plus it's very noisy with the TV being there. I order out a lot and buy groceries but it's not enough and it drains my money. I have many vitamin deficiencies and my bone density has decreased and I have joint pains. But I'm 25 and it can be reversed.

They have tried to lock me permanently in a mental ward many times since I was 21 but failed though they keep trying. They berate me and are mean to me, they have been physically abusive too. They never helped me much.

They have tried to lock me by rushing me to the E.R or by contacting the police and then a warrant gets issued for psychiatric evaluation. The local station has sided with them, telling me I'm ungrateful, weird and whatnot. They took me to get an evaluation through the police one time and the cops told them to feel free to ask them again. I live in a crappy south European country, one neurodivergent guy was travelling by boat and he got pushed at the sea to drown by the crew, they made fun of him. Also they dislike socially awkward people, they're seen as weirdos cause most locals are hyper extroverted

I live in a capital city, I was thinking of going to a nearby rural area cause they have cheaper rents but it is too close to the area my parents live and the same policemen could reach me. Another option is living in the center with roommates or going many hours away rurarly they have much cheaper rent but Idk how to arrange going there. I will need to rent an Airbnb and house hunt or something. My parents will go on vacation likely on august for about 3 weeks and I was thinking of doing that and then coming back before they come if I don't land a place. I used to live in northern Europe and it was very good, people are introverted, more accepting and the welfare system is good. My parents convinced me to move back sadly. There's a guy I was seeing and we keep in touch, he offered to accommodate me for a bit. Maybe I can go until I find a place there. But my parents may try to hunt me down there

I have audhd and my parents are ableists and I've been bullied since I remember myself by them. I had posted about this briefly and was advised to move asap. I want to get more practical.

I work from home and they don't buy many groceries or cook much although they're retired. I can't go to the kitchen to cook cause they're all day there and start fights. Plus it's very noisy with the TV being there. I order out a lot and buy groceries but it's not enough. I have many vitamin deficiencies and my bone density has decreased and I have joint pains. But I'm 25 and it can be reversed.

They have tried to lock me permanently in a mental ward many times since I was 21. They berate me and are mean to me, they have been physically abusive too. They never helped me much.

They have tried to lock me by rushing me to the E.R or by contacting the police and then a warrant gets issued for psychiatric evaluation. The local station has sided with them, telling me I'm ungrateful, weird and whatnot. They took me to get an evaluation through the police one time and the cops told them to feel free to ask them again. I live in a crappy country, one neurodivergent guy was travelling by boat and he got pushed to brown by the crew, they made fun of him. Also they dislike socially awkward people they're seen as weirdos cause most locals are hyper extroverted

I live in Europe in a capital city, I was thinking of going to a nearby rural area cause they have cheaper rents but it is too close to the area my parents live and the same policemen could reach me. Another option is living in the center with roommates or going many hours away rurarly they have much cheaper rent but Idk how to arrange going there. I will need to rent an Airbnb and house hunt or something. My parents will go on vacation likely on august for about 3 weeks and I was thinking of doing that and then coming back before they come if I don't land a place. I used to live in northern Europe and it was very good, people are introverted, more accepting and the welfare system is good. My parents convinced me to move back sadly. There's a guy I was seeing and we keep in touch, he offered to accommodate me for a bit. Maybe I can go until I find a place there. But my parents may try to hunt me down there

I have been so bullied in my life, I remember 13 year old me being sad about it. I wanted to be happy and these people would get in the way. It was so cruel, I was just a kiddo. Especially in middle school it was bad. But it has always happened.

Looking back I can see how different people are. I had no clue back then why I was excluded and bullied, I was a quiet and kind person. But that's not how it works cause people value popularity, status, small talk, beauty etc. Their communication is rigid and very nonverbal too.

There were people who were absolutely mean, bullies, abusive and they had friends.

I just have so much accumulated self hate because of people's treatment. I got into abusive relationships and I thought I had to endure it cause that's just how people treat me, I was used to it. I didn't take care of myself due to ADHD and due to being concerned with the bullying I received. I thought that people were more similar to me and I had an ingrained sense of justice so I thought that they probably have a good reason to treat me like that.

Abusers are so weird, they're so fixated with breaking another person. I was dating one a couple months ago, luckily I landed a job and gathered enough strength and self esteem to leave him.

Many of his cousins would invite him to hang out and he wouldn't want to go, he preferred staying with me and abusing me. Also when he did go a few times he would show me what he wears so that I feel more comfortable showing him when I go out without him. He always controlled my outfits and wanted me to ask for his approval.

It was just odd how he had no hobbies or close relationships apart from his parents and sister. He was very preoccupied with abusing. People around him didn't pick up that he's abusive, when he talked about his love life he would just complain that one woman after another leaves him cause they're not committed or serious enough while he is.

Aka third world?

About 152 countries in the world are that according to the developing vs developed countries statistics.

How come humanity hasn't advanced? Asking this as an aspire who struggles to understand how the world works.

I want to adopt this type of style. It's not the same as dark feminine cause it lacks makeup styles like siren eyes, overly smokey or red lips. I don't know how it is called, hoping to get some tips and wonder if anyone here looks like that.

It has some elements of clean girl, just with specifically dark brown or black hair, tan skin of any shade, toasty makeup and an overall put together look. I have seen many foreign girls in Germany having this style. I'm south European and I really like it, I have dark hair+eyes but pale skin though I use self tanner and my hair is a bit curly and oily, this style requires lots of hair styling for me and that sucks cause I'm scared of heat damage. I want to get a straightening treatment but then I'm scared of health concerns lol. Their hairstyles are usually sleek, straight, curled ends and some hairstyles like braids, updos.

Lots of emphasis on the lips with lip liner, lipglosses etc usually in brown or brown-pini shades, also cute pointy nose contour, bronzer, brush, long lashes and the eye makeup is in brown shades and it kind of contours the eye. Often eyeliner and brows are always well down, mostly straight or slightly arched.

Dressed well and neat. Usually jeans and those smooth polyamide black shirts and a belt. Leather jacket or denim, hoodies too, sweatpants, uggs, jewelry. Long nails and neatly done most of the time in nude or white shades. I can share some Pinterest images https://pin.it/1aztxSpr3 https://pin.it/3EyCzqVcx https://pin.it/5icqTyklb

I did a lash lift at home at myself today first time

It went okay but the thing is that my lashes are long while my eyes are deepset/hooded. I bought a lash lift kit I have seen a lot online by iconsign but I used another perm, one by Noemi with cysteamine only no tgi but any other products were from the kit, including the fixation. This perm can be used from root to tips and I did that

So I used the small shield from the pack but my lashes were going above the curve. Once I finished the process, I wore mascara later, it looks great overall, not over processed or clumpy. Just that the tips are upright and wavy-ish cause this is the form the had when they were on the shield and it becomes obvious with mascara. I tried on other sizes, they had medium, M1,M2, large and whatnot but those didn't fit my eyelid while the small one did, however it didn't fit at the outer eye corner and all the lash tips were overflowing above the shield curve like I mentioned. Those bigger ones were fitting like straight line, they wouldn't curve along with the eyelid. What happens in this case l? Do I try out different types of shields to see which one fits or do I only put product at the roots?

As a 1st time it looks nice, just want to avoid wavy upright tips and the outer corners could be more lifted.

I started working full time 7 months ago, I had a part time job before and another full time that didn't pay well. My current job allows me to do overtimes as well if I choose. I cover all my groceries plus my parents sit at the kitchen a lot watching TV and they start arguments so I can't cook there. Buying groceries and takeout consumes most of my money. I also haven't had any new clothes since high school and I'm almost 26 now. I had to buy all my wardrobe from scratch. I bought from cheap places but they still cost money.

I want to move asap but it's so hard. I had to buy a laptop too cause the one I had was from like 2014, it just broke apart at some point.

A few times when I ask for advice I just get the "you're working , what are you waiting for? Leave!" Like when I talked on a voluntary counselling service and one therapist said this. We talked two times about three months apart and she asked why I haven't left yet and started yelling at me that I'm seemingly not doing enough steps towards rhat. I can't prepare to move in such a short amount of time.

The situation at home is very bad, my parents had tried to put me in a mental ward, they failed but I'm very scared after that. I was living on my own for a year when I was in my early 20s and moved back, the abuse ramped up since that. They started saying that I have mental health problems and run away from home.

I started working full time 7 months ago, I had a part time job before and another full time that didn't pay well. My current job allows me to do overtimes as well if I choose. I cover all my groceries plus my parents sit at the kitchen a lot watching TV and they start arguments so I can't cook there. Buying groceries and takeout consumes most of my money. I also haven't had any new clothes since high school and I'm almost 26 now. I had to buy all my wardrobe from scratch. I bought from cheap places but they still cost money.

I want to move asap but it's so hard. I had to buy a laptop too cause the one I had was from like 2014, it just broke apart at some point.

A few times when I ask for advice I just get the "you're working , what are you waiting for? Leave!" Like when I talked on a voluntary counselling service and one therapist said this. We talked two times about three months apart and she asked why I haven't left yet and started yelling at me that I'm seemingly not doing enough steps towards rhat. I can't prepare to move in such a short amount of time.

The situation at home is very bad, my parents had tried to put me in a mental ward, they failed but I'm very scared after that. I was living on my own for a year when I was in my early 20s and moved back, the abuse ramped up since that. They started saying that I have mental health problems and run away from home. My GC sister left at the same time I did and went NC

So my original skin tone is olive/yellow and I don't like the colour self tan gives me. It is too orange and not only that but it has an olive yellow pigment and I look like beeswax

My hair is also dark brown or black depending on lighting and I feel like it gives a lot of contrast and intensity to the tan.

I don't know why it doesn't suit me while it does for others. I have noticed that most people who suit the fake tan shades have lighter hair, either blonde or light/medium brown. Or they have black/dark hair and light eyes, it softens the orange tones.

It looks okayish when I put small amounts although it doesn't make a huge difference. But if I try to build it up I get that waxy tone

So we get weekly quality reports and they are serious cause not meeting targets means quality and contract review. This week they counted half of what I did although usually they are correct, it has only happened once or twice before. I am on 2 departments. The first manager tries to fix it most of the time cause the mistakes previously were on her side. Now this time it happened with the other manager and she just doesn't care. I work remotely and message her to review it but she hasn't even checked out the sheets.

Maybe she thinks I'm lying to get away with it? She doesn't care and won't bother. I told her the reporting formulas may be off so she just said oh yeah maybe and didn't say much else. I regret mentioning the formulas, I should have just said that my numbers are wrong and should be reviewed. I don't know if there's a HR but I think she has a manager above her.

I was first in another department unrelated to them and when I came from the first impression they didn't like me cause I'm socially awkward but I'm one of the best workers. I've been working for 7 months. I think she may have done this to fire me, they fire people very easily and there's a very high staff turnover. I think they got bored of me and think it's my time likely.

So we get weekly quality reports and they are serious cause not meeting targets means quality and contract review. This week they counted half of what I did although usually they are correct, it has only happened once or twice before. I am on 2 departments. The first manager tries to fix it most of the time cause the mistakes previously were on her side. Now this time it happened with the other manager and she just doesn't care. I work remotely and message her to review it but she hasn't even checked out the sheets.

Maybe she thinks I'm lying to get away with it? She doesn't care and won't bother. I told her the reporting formulas may be off so she just said oh yeah maybe and didn't say much else. I regret mentioning the formulas, I should have just said that my numbers are wrong and should be reviewed.

I was first in another department unrelated to them and when I came from the first impression they didn't like me cause I'm socially awkward but I'm one of the best workers. I've been working for 7 months. I think she may have done this to fire me, they fire people very easily and there's a very high staff turnover. I think they got bored of me and think it's my time likely.

So we get weekly quality reports and they are serious cause not meeting targets means quality and contract review. This week they counted half of what I did although usually they are correct, it has only happened once or twice before. I am on 2 departments. The first manager tries to fix it most of the time cause the mistakes previously were on her side. Now this time it happened with the other manager and she just doesn't care. I work remotely and message her to review it but she hasn't even checked out the sheets.

Maybe she thinks I'm lying to get away with it? She doesn't care and won't bother. I told her the reporting formulas may be off so she just said oh yeah maybe and didn't say much else. I regret mentioning the formulas, I should have just said that my numbers are wrong and should be reviewed.

I was first in another department unrelated to them and when I came from the first impression they didn't like me cause I'm socially awkward but I'm one of the best workers. I've been working for 7 months. I think she may have done this to fire me, they fire people very easily and there's a very high staff turnover. I think they got bored of me and think it's my time likely.

So we get weekly quality reports and they are serious cause not meeting targets means quality and contract review. This week they counted half of what I did although usually they are correct, it has only happened once or twice before. I am on 2 departments. The first manager tries to fix it most of the time cause the mistakes previously were on her side. Now this time it happened with the other manager and she just doesn't care. I work remotely and message her to review it but she hasn't even checked out the sheets.

Maybe she thinks I'm lying to get away with it? She doesn't care and won't bother. I told her the reporting formulas may be off so she just said oh yeah maybe and didn't say much else. I regret mentioning the formulas, I should have just said that my numbers are wrong and should be reviewed.

I was first in another department unrelated to them and when I came from the first impression they didn't like me cause I'm socially awkward but I'm one of the best workers. I've been working for 7 months. I think she may have done this to fire me, they fire people very easily and there's a very high staff turnover. I think they got bored of me and think it's likely my time to push me out.

So we get weekly quality reports and they are serious cause not meeting targets means quality and contract review. This week they counted half of what I did although usually they are correct, it has only happened once or twice before. I am on 2 departments. The first manager tries to fix it most of the time cause the mistakes previously were on her side. Now this time it happened with the other manager and she just doesn't care. I work remotely and message her to review it but she hasn't even checked out the sheets.

Maybe she thinks I'm lying to get away with it? She doesn't care and won't bother. I told her the reporting formulas may be off so she just said oh yeah maybe and didn't say much else. I regret mentioning the formulas, I should have just said that my numbers are wrong and should be reviewed.

I was first in another department unrelated to them and when I came from the first impression they didn't like me cause I'm socially awkward but I'm one of the best workers. I've been working for 7 months. I think she may have done this to fire me, they fire people very easily and there's a very high staff turnover. I think they got bored of me and think it's my time likely.

...and not science intelligence, this is likely why good students are a small portion. Many individuals who can socialise well don't bother to learn stuff cause most people are like them and they don't get hardship in life being that way. They see that they can get jobs just by using social skills and they can just learn the basics of every occupation they have to do just to be able to stay afloat. They don't feel insecure about their lack of wisdom cause they are able to get by just fine.

Meanwhile let's say nerdy people who are socially awkward get bullied, even in American school movies it's the typical bullied person. Realistically they are more likely to contribute to a better society.

I have met people who bullied me even though they failed grades or they didnt know basic things. Like one popular girl was wondering why the school will be closed tomorrow day and it was a very big national holiday like 4th of July in USA equivalent. This girl had failed 2 year grades. Yet these people are popular and the social norm but we are defective?

I think knowledge according to those pack instincts can elevate status but only if someone has high confidence, then they are viewed as the wise or the smart of the group. Or if they gain lots of money from that wisdom