i am a woMAN…
I would begin this post with a question, and I want everyone to answer from their heart:
When we use the word "person" in our language, what pronouns do we use with it?
Okay, another one: What comes to our mind when we think of a "human being"?
And what about an "individual"?
He. His. Him. Right?
What does that mean?
Is it merely a coincidence?
Or is there something deeper hidden behind the fact that half of our species is not even considered when we talk about the species as a whole?
Born as a guy and raised by two women from different generations, I never really understood what they had gone through their entire lives.
My 75-year-old grandmother would often look for some piece of cloth to cover her breasts when a man visited our house.
My mother used to feel proud of her fair skin that remained protected from the sun and therefore did not tan.
My five-year-old cousin loved pretending to be a grown-up. She would always carry a doll with her and call it her baby.
And all those years, I was blind to what was happening around me.
That a huge segment of our species had been reduced to a body.
Then I started looking at the world.
I saw a woman behaving like a young girl. She would go to a young girl and behave as if she too had just turned twenty. Then I met someone even older, and she too was displaying the same behavioural patterns.
I was like, what's wrong with all these women?
Why are they trying to act a certain way irrespective of their age?
Then I hit that phase of my life where I started seeing huge lumps of mass around me.
My hormones started regulating my behaviour.
I would act very casually around men, but the moment I saw a girl, something inside me would start controlling me. My feet would move towards her automatically. I would give her my attention, trying to make her feel special.
This wasn't some conscious decision. It was more of a mechanical activity.
And then the dots started connecting themselves.
I started getting clarity on questions that had been suppressed deep within me.
I researched the reasons behind my behaviour and found that it is nature's game to keep itself rolling.
My eyes are attracted to a specific kind of skin among the other gender, the kind that is fresh and tight, without wrinkles.
Among my species, I am drawn towards a specific shape of body, certain organs, certain physical features.
And it is all serving one cause:
Reproduction.
Then I imagined being a woman.
All my childhood, I have been told to behave a certain way, to follow certain rules, to not go outside after dusk, to cover parts of my skin all the time, to be responsible for protecting myself from a brutal segment of my own species, to learn how to be a woman.
Now I am turning eighteen, and my body is almost ready to hypnotize those who have controlled the way I live.
Now I am getting all the attention.
Wherever I go, I find guys chasing me. They make me feel like a queen.
All of a sudden, I have become very special.
Now I have adapted to living like a queen.
I know that wherever I go, I will be treated specially, and I have learned to use this factor as a weapon to fulfil my desires.
Now I have entered my thirties.
I see that their behaviour has started changing again.
Some of them have started treating me normally. Others are still lustful.
I realize that what I always thought was an asset was actually a depreciating one.
But I am still glad.
Because I live in the age of technology.
I have all sorts of makeup to hide my wrinkles, all sorts of treatments to look young and feel young.
I am still special.
Now I am in my fifties.
I still put on heavy makeup to look younger. Perhaps I cannot beat nature.
My body language and the way I walk are those of a young girl.
My voice box is accustomed to changing its pitch and tone even when I see a young boy in front of me.
I still use colourful nail paints and big eyelash extensions.
I have somehow become successful at deceiving myself into feeling young, though I don't look young anymore.
Now I have really grown old.
I have slowly started accepting that I am not young anymore.
I don't get attention anymore.
Though I have become an attention seeker and expect everyone to make me feel special, just as they used to do in the past.
I stay restless.
Not because I am not special today, but because I used to be once.
Those memories scare me.
I want to be young again.
I want to be at peace.
All my life, I developed no skill, no physical fitness.
I did workouts, not to become strong, but to look attractive.
I gained no inner strength.
All I am left with is those haunting memories...
and a lot of regret.