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I'm currently looking at buying a used kindle im seeing lots of great deals on the basic but the gen 11 paperwhite is just abit more expensive. I won't be reading near the pool or require it to be waterproof and from what people have said the basic looks sharper due to not having the extra layer of glass ontop.

To the people who use the basic to read at night how is it just reading in dark mode? I hope to read in pitch black I may use a book lamp or I might put it in dark mode and read. The only reason I'd get a paperwhite is just for the yellow light but I don't want to compromise quality such as the extra layer of glass to make it flush.

Hi everyone,

I'm a 21-year-old male in the UK, and over the past couple of years I've started wondering whether I might be autistic. I'm not looking for a diagnosis from Reddit, but I'd like to know whether the traits I'm experiencing sound like something that's worth discussing with my GP and pursuing an autism assessment.

Some of the things I've noticed are:

- Since I was around 14 years old, I've cut my nails and shaved every Wednesday without fail. If I miss it, it feels wrong.

- I really struggle when plans change unexpectedly. Recently, my plans changed late at night and I became extremely distressed, shouting and struggling to regulate my emotions. A few days later, a delay to another plan also caused me to become very upset.

- I've been told throughout my life that I come across as blunt or overly direct, even when I don't mean to upset anyone. I usually think I'm just being honest or factual.

- I develop very intense interests. For example, I recently became fascinated by AI and spent weeks learning how reasoning models work, how they're trained, and the technical details behind them.

- I prefer routines and predictability, and uncertainty makes me anxious.

- I tend to overthink situations and worry about things I can't predict or control.

- experiencing burnout from time to time

I also have nightmares, hypervigilance, emotional numbness, and some unresolved trauma, so I'm aware that not everything I experience is necessarily related to autism.

I'm planning to speak to my GP, but before I do I'd like to hear from people who have been assessed or diagnosed.

Do these experiences sound like they would justify asking for an autism assessment, or do they sound more consistent with something else, such as anxiety, OCD, ADHD, PTSD, or another condition?

I'd really appreciate any thoughts or experiences. Thank you.

Recently I have been going through alot mentally and currently thinking whether to refer myself to an autism assessment. However I noticed many traits I have which link to the MBTI personality Intj often show up in autism so have held back from a diagnosis request as I thought oh it's just because I have the intj MBTI type.

I wanted to ask how many INTJ'S are on the autism spectrum?

For context I am currently waiting for my therapist to give me a start date on when my HI CBT is meant to start.

However I noticed that I could benefit from being screened for autism I do have a few symptoms but when I went to my GP he said I have to have some sort of evidence of me as a child being distracted at school etc.

Should I still ask the GP to refer me if I have no evidence?

I wanted to buy a kindle paperwhite 11th gen I have been looking on Facebook marketplace I was wondering if there are any other places to look apart from eBay and marketplace.

I am also torn on buying the 11th gen basic as it's 2024 or the 11th gen paperwhite. I have been seeing the paperwhite on FB marketplace for around £60 and the 11th gen basic (2024) for around 70 to £80.

I'm 21M currently on placement hoping to go final year in September. I don't know why but I have really rigid routine and it if it doesn't go my way I start to have a borderline mental breakdown. My family said I should grow up and it's apart of life for things to be done last minute.

I have mentioned repeatedly that I don't mind taking people anywhere as long as I am not told last minute and it doesn't effect my day in terms of my schedule I have mentioned this about 7x and still I get told last minute and when I voice my opinion (which they say I never communicate) I tell them if you tell me in advance I can get my stuff out the way (usually for me it's a bath) I can do whatever you want for the entire day.

Instead I get told to grow up and stop crying.

It makes me feel stupid that I act this way. That my routine is so rigid it makes me enter into this angry and frustrated being. I feel like they are right and I should just shut up and deal with it.

I have not been diagnosed with anything I am currently on the waiting list for HI-CBT due to being sexually assaulted as a child (they don't know about this).

I get told I don't open up or speak about my feelings but when I do this is the response I get.

I'm 21 and I'm 6'1 (idk if my height is required) even though I am abit chubby I am happy with my body I am not big enough it stops me from doing basic stuff or abit of hard labour.

How do I get in the gym?

I always think if I get ripped and a 6 pack I'll be in my prime However I am content with my body. I want to go to be the best version of myself in terms of health but then again I am happy with how I am. I only get told I am chubby from family members or cousins apart from that I don't get told it.

I have removed the post body as I thought it is better for me to seek a mental health crisis team. to stop me making a stupid decision.

I'm a 2nd/3rd generation British Pakistani who has spent my whole life balancing British and Pakistani cultures. I've dealt with cultural expectations, identity questions, stereotypes, family traditions, and the realities of growing up between two worlds. Curious about anything? Ask me anything.

Salam,

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I'm a male and as a child I went through some sexual abuse, this woman introduced me to adult content along with making me do stuff to her body. She made me keep it as our "little secret".

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Throughout puberty and up until this year my urges have been extremely low to the point I was asexual. Which I didn't mind because had time to focus on things rather than chase women or think about them. However recently I'd say the start of this year my urges has increased alot to the point everytime an opportunity comes to have zina each and every time I find it hard to walk away and say no whether it be at work women inviting me on a date or women online.

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I'd say ever since that incident as a child I was always viewing adult content and still view it today as for some reason it makes my body calm down.

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However the urges are getting too strong and I fear I may commit zina if any other woman shows interest and invites me to it.

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How do hypersexual Muslims deal with this? It's honestly so exhausting stuff like that being on your mind nearly 24/7 it makes me feel disgusting and like a bad Muslim.

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Even though I don't pray as regularly I make dua everyday to Allah to make these thoughts come out of my head.

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If anyone has been through anything similar how did get over it? I have booked a therapy appointment to help me overcome this trauma and to deal with these urges.

Salam,

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I'm 21 year old male and as a child I went through some sexual abuse I'd say around 7 to 8 years old this woman introduced me to adult content along with making me do stuff to her body. She made me keep it as our "little secret".

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Fast forward to today I'm 21 now throughout puberty and up until this year my urges have been extremely low to the point I was asexual. Which I didn't mind because I had time to focus on things rather than chase women or think about them. However recently I'd say the start of this year my urges has increased alot to the point everytime an opportunity comes to have zina each and every time I find it hard to walk away and say no whether it be at work women inviting me on a date or women online.

I'd say ever since that incident as a child I was always viewing adult content and still view it today as for some reason it makes my body calm down.

However the urges are getting too strong and I fear I may commit zina if any other woman shows interest and invites me to it.

How do hypersexual Muslims deal with this? It's honestly so exhausting stuff like that being on your mind nearly 24/7 it makes me feel disgusting and like a bad Muslim.

Even though I don't pray as regularly I make dua everyday to Allah to make these thoughts come out of my head.

If anyone has been through anything similar how did get over it? I have booked a therapy appointment to help me overcome this trauma and to deal with these urges.

I have recently been getting into drawing colouring and art and I have been using Penup which has been great however I want to create an art piece which tells the story of my life experiences.

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I want the app to be easy to use an enriched with features I am still a novice so I want the feature to have an image overlay to trace over certain stuff. I would preferably like it to be as ad free as possible just like Penup is.

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What is the best app? Im currently stuck in between 4 apps which are Infinite paint, Hipaint and ibisPaintX or Krita (heard it's abit overwhelming for new digital art hobbyists).

I am in a limbo on whether to pursue a PhD however I recently spoke to someone who done a PhD in comp sci/cybersec and he said that his friends got into a grad job whilst he pursued a PhD. And they currently 4 years on get paid more than him and he said his PhD has not unlocked more doors.

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This got me thinking do people who do PhDs care more about the passion than the money. I come from a low socioeconomic background parents worked 2 jobs etc. I feel if I tell them I want to pursue a PhD they'd just look down on me or try and convince me to stop as getting a normal grad job would be higher paying in the long term compared to doing a PhD.

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I would like to know people's PhDs and whether they stayed in academia or did not and what is their life like now.

I am a 21M university student currently undertaking a placement in cybersecurity research and governance. I would appreciate any advice from people who are further along in their careers or life journey.

I'm particularly interested in career-related guidance such as networking, professional development, workplace skills, and things you wish you'd known in your early twenties. However, I'd also welcome broader life advice.

For context, by the time I graduate I will have around 4.5 years of work experience across both the private and public sectors, including customer-facing roles and cybersecurity research/GRC experience. I've also spent five years mentoring and tutoring students along with being fortunate enough to receive a cyber national award during my studies.

I feel I've built a solid foundation, but I'm conscious that there is still a lot I don't know. If you were 21 again, what would you focus on learning, improving, or doing differently?

All advice is welcome, not just career-related advice.

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I'm currently a 3rd year uni student on placement (UK home student) where I work within a lab at a hospital. We use techniques such as research, Al,machine learning to help us come to our conclusions. In my role I govern the projects to make sure patient data is used safely etc and follows iso standards. Apart from this have undertaken original research as the topic was in cybersecurity long story short my research project got recognised nationally and won an award for it.

However as I approach final year I want to continue this type of research etc which is why I was thinking of doing a PhD after graduating. The only dilemma I have is either graduate and spend 4 years in my career and progress or I spend 4 years doing a PhD.

In my field, I can't see a PhD being useful unless become a lecturer, whereas with other PhDs, you essentially level up in terms of employability or jobs in the area. If I done a PhD id probably still only be able to go into entry level jobs and work my way up.

This is something that's conflicting me because I'd love to do a PhD, but these things are on my mind. When I saw how much change my project made, I opened my mind to do a PhD.

If anyone has any guidance or advice would be greatly appreciated.

I'm a placement student in September I'll be in final year. This month I got laid off as a team member and delivery driver. I found a delivery driver job at royal mail and went to the induction today. I found it okay but boring this might've because when I was going through a mental health crisis last year it was when I was still a delivery driver and the long hours would just make me suicidal. Starting at 12pm and finishing at 10pm sometimes 11pm.

When I went to induction I didn't feel no sense of being excited for the job rather it was just get this over and done with and go home.

However even though I dislike this job I feel like I have some sort of pressure on me to accept the job. It's coming up to 1 million young people who are unemployed and I feel like if I don't take this I am being ungrateful for the opportunity. And I should just put my feelings away to the side and just accept and do the job.

I need advice I feel lost. Half of me wants to refuse the job other half wants me to accept it and push my feelings to the side and just get on with it.

I might plan to work a few more shifts to get a better conclusion but today I've came home drained just hoping keep applying for another job where they accept me so I can refuse this one. On top of that final year hasn't started yet I am already feeling stressed especially since finishing off with a 2:2 during second year.

I'm a placement student in September I'll be in final year. This month I got laid off as a team member and delivery driver. I found a delivery driver job at royal mail and went to the induction today. I found it okay but boring this might've because when I was going through a mental health crisis last year it was when I was still a delivery driver and the long hours would just make me suicidal. Starting at 12pm and finishing at 10pm sometimes 11pm.

When I went to induction I didn't feel no sense of being excited for the job rather it was just get this over and done with and go home.

However even though I dislike this job I feel like I have some sort of pressure on me to accept the job. It's coming up to 1 million young people who are unemployed and I feel like if I don't take this I am being ungrateful for the opportunity. And I should just put my feelings away to the side and just accept and do the job.

I need advice I feel lost. Half of me wants to refuse the job other half wants me to accept it and push my feelings to the side and just get on with it.

I might plan to work a few more shifts to get a better conclusion but today I've came home drained just hoping I keep applying for another job where they accept me so I can refuse this one.

3rd year cybersecurity student on placement it's going to come to an end soon I was wondering is there any part time jobs I could get just so I can get more experience in the field. I know it won't be directly to cybersecurity but just a job which I have more in the technology industry. I do have experience but it's more retail and fast food restaurant experience. Along with my 1 year cybersecurity placement.

Just wanted advice on any jobs within technology which is easy to get and not too much focus on certs etc as I am in uni still.

I have laid off for about a month my previous job was a good delivery driver and I worked 2 years in that role about a month ago I got let go.

I have been job searching hoping for a job but this job is I'm not feeling happy about it rather than I'm feeling sad and depressed. This may because when I did used to work as a delivery driver I was often depressed and suicidal due to the stress of university, exams and finding a placement.

Half of me wants to accept it and go to the induction half of me wants to reject it and think it's maybe because I had a month of not working that's why I feel this way. I have a induction day this week I don't know whether to go ahead with it don't want to waste my time or the agency's time.

I know how bad the job market is right now so I don't want to turn down an opportunity. But at the same time I don't want to end up like I was last year.

Any advice would be appreciated.

EDIT: (Not directly by royal mail but an agency which works with it)

I'm currently a 3rd year uni student on placement (UK home student) where I work within a lab at a hospital. We use techniques such as research, Al,machine learning to help us come to our conclusions. In my role I govern the projects to make sure patient data is used safely etc and follows iso standards. Apart from this I have undertaken original research as the topic was in cybersecurity long story short my research project got recognised nationally and won an award for it.

However as I approach final year I want to continue this type of research etc which is why I was thinking of doing a PhD after graduating. The only dilemma I have is either graduate and spend 4 years in my career and progress or I spend 4 years doing a PhD.

In my field, I can't see a PhD being useful unless I become a lecturer, whereas with other PhDs, you essentially level up in terms of employability or jobs in the area. If I done a PhD id probably still only be able to go into entry level jobs and work my way up.

This is something that's conflicting me because I'd love to do a PhD, but these things are on my mind. When I saw how much change my project made, I opened my mind to do a PhD.

If anyone has any guidance or advice would be greatly appreciated.