u/smelly_cat2959

I feel super lonely and I need to share my situation :( can someone help me?

yesterday my friends P, S and I talked about going out tonight, so I assumed we already had plans.

today I texted the group chat asking “what’s the plan tonight?” and P replied “so are you going out?” which already confused me because I thought that was already established. I said “yes, wasn’t this the plan?” and she said yes.

then she texted me privately saying she wasn’t sure if she could go because of a headache/family stuff. later she confirmed and asked if I could be ready by around 10. I was still eating dinner and had to wash/dry my hair, so I said I’d try my best.

then she suggested that she and our other friend G (her personal friend, not the group's) go earlier because they were already ready, and me and S could join later around 11 since I wasnt sure i was gonna be ready.

that made me feel a bit weird because it suddenly felt less like “our plan” and more like they already had their own thing going and were trying to fit us in afterward.

In the end Luigi couldn’t make 10 either, I was stressed/rushing, and I ended up saying not to worry and that next time we should organize earlier because I have dignity and no one told me G was coming and could get her own car to own town, the plan is we always drive to her city cause there's more things to do.

now I genuinely can’t tell if I’m overthinking this or if they actually shifted into their own plans and I became an afterthought. does this read like exclusion to you or is it genuine disorganized planning?

I desperately need a website, if there is one, with all the roots connected to which words they create aka nouns, adjectives, verbs like k t b giving kutub, kitabi etc...

I am also looking for a website that explains arabic morphology and syntax in a simple way. so how to create a verb, how to create an adjective and how to insert vowels in a root. thank you so much in advance and God bless you!

I am so desperate you guys ahah

I desperately need a website, if there is one, with all the roots connected to which words they create aka nouns, adjectives, verbs like k t b giving kutub, kitabi etc...

I am also looking for a website that explains arabic morphology and syntax in a simple way. so how to create a verb, how to create an adjective and how to insert vowels in a root. thank you so much in advance and God bless you!

I am so desperate you guys ahah

i know it sounds stupid because they have opposite meanings but I'm curious to know if you knew more about it. thank you so much

I know it's nothing too serious but basically I find myself in this situation. I've always lived in many places during my 20s. now I'm back in my small close-minded hometown for just another year or less and all the people my age of course are not here, a part from my best friend, thank God. the problem is I befriended this person who is 5 years younger than me and she's mature enough for her age so I can communicate with her without feeling like a mother. though, we do have different interest. I domt have the energy to go clubbing anymore and she does. nothing wrong with none of these approaches, just different priorities. thing is, I've known her for a year now and we have our small group where she's the youngest. now, her old friend broke up with her ex. she is 9 years younger than me and, whenever we used to meet her, I could feel this intense gap in every aspect. also my friend gets gossipy with her and they talk bad about people together and you're standing there like 🧍🏻‍♀️.

one day she already dumped us last minute to spend the whole night with her while the idea was to meet us when we were getting to the event (later that night while they met earlier for dinner) but she bailed on us and told us to get where they were but she knew we already paid for drinks in another place.

now they decided to go out, my friend texted me "let me know if you're coming". I was gonna go out but "let me know if you're coming"????? yeah no. it feels like "you can come if you want but I already have my plans". I said "we can make plans for tomorrow, I'm available" and 30 mins after I told her i was going out with my cousin and that we could end up meeting if we went to the same place. that was just for her to know, I didn't decline her request to stay home.

I don't mind alone time especially when my energy is drained by people who don't align with me but I would love some kind of balance and I don't know how to deal with this.

I never ever ever experienced someone say "it's just a joke" if the joke wasn't offensive. we have this sad person in our friend group who is constantly insulting others thinking she is so funny. we know she is an angry person. she will say the most out of pocket things and, if you even have the audacity of confronting her, she will smile at you in the fakest way and say that it was just a joke and now you're too sensitive.

fortunately, we all live in different cities and we only meet for Christmas, Easter and a few weeks for the summer so it's not everyday and this made it so that she could keep hanging out with the group FOR YEARS.

but Christmas 2025 and Easter 2026 was our last straw.

I confronted her and GUESS WHAT? she didn't say she didn't remeber or that she was joking. she remember what she said and, after trying so hard not to take responsibility and accountability, she apologized.

now she's finally out.

gossiping takes away a lot of trust. I end up not trusting the friend in my group who gossips all the time. like she has knowledge about random people's life and talks bad about them because she thinks she always attacked by random people.

be careful with gossip because it's draining and the Bible Itself says that it's like killing someone with a sword.

I'm trying so much to not do it because sometimes it is SO easy to indulge. but there is so much more to discuss in life that other people's lives.

hi guys. I'm humbling asking you to give me tips on how to write a thesis. i do know what I'm gonna be researching already but I don't know how to actually write it down and how to structure it since its my first time ever so please be patient with me 🥹🥹 thank you in advance!!

I like to keep my mindset and energy as positive as possible so one thing I do is go through the people i follow/who follow me on social media (especially ig tbh) and do a "clean up" every other month on there.

this is because I sometimes compare my life to other people and its not fair because all of us have a unique journey and also because I want the time I spend on social media to be informative or at least a pleasure (like music I like etc). let me know if this happens to you too :)

i want to say first that i have no hard feelings anymore. i got hurt in the past, but now i’m in a good place. i just wanted an opinion on how i handled a former friendship.

i have a childhood friend group and i’m the only girl. we’ve always been super close, basically like cousins. we know each other from kindergarten!!! years ago, during uni years, i became friends with a girl from my hometown and she slowly joined the group, while i was dating my (now) ex (who was not a part of my group btw).

later i found out she liked him and was upset when we became official. (she also made a pass on him and i confronted her. I stopped trusting her here). after discovering allcof this, i started noticing a lot of passive aggressive behavior: backhanded compliments, copied outfits and even the way I take photos (i know it sounds crazy but TRUST ME), looks FILLED with h 4 t 3 and hurtful comments always justified as a joke.

she acted badly with others too, but the guys usually ignored it and never addressed it. i always tried to stay calm and set boundaries instead of fighting (idk why the guys never said anything but they usually are very passive and i didn't want to make it look like """"""a problem between girls""""" AS THEY WOULD SAY. cause she had the problem, not me).

the final straw was my birthday last year. people were complimenting my dress and, after looking at it for 5 minutes with h4tr3d in her eyes, she said i looked like “a p r 0 s t i t u t 3”. everyone was shocked and my best friend immediately defended me. after that i decided i OFC didn’t want to spend time with her anymore, even in group settings. my best friend agreed with me because she was treating him badly too.

despite that, she kept asking for my attention and time privately while still humiliating me in public. my girl friends, who met her on a few occations, always told me she was jealous of me but still needed my validation for some reason. eventually she got upset because i hid my instagram stories from her (she likes to pry too much) and she noticed IN A MATTER OF 30 MINS???!?!!!?! so i finally confronted her calmly and told her that her behavior really hurt me. I also gave her EXACT dates cause because she was conveniently forgetting.

she tried avoiding responsibility at first, asking my best friend for help too (as I said above she bullied him too, so he was not having it) so she finally apologized 20hrs later. i accepted it, but told her my boundary would stay because she needs to work on her anger (i didnt use these harsh words though ahaah I implied it tho). i wished her well and removed her from instagram. just one last thing, i remove everyone i dont talk to from my ig. i curate what I see on my socials and I dont need clutter or knowing im being monitored by certain people and I know she was one of them. sorry if this was too long.

do you think I handled this well? sometimes i feel like I was a bit harsh but I didnt raise my voice, never insulted her, never got to her low level and only getting to the "humilating" confrontation after setting boundaries and boundaries and clapping back at insults in a classy way when needed or ignoring her when needed. it always depends on the context. i didnt want to be to long with the examples ahah. anyway thank you for reading all of this.

hello guys. I am approaching myself to arabic for the first time. I would just like to know which dialects are more similar to one another and which ones are more particular. I know moroccan is the hardest one. I'm curious to know the relationship between like Tunisian arabic, Egyptian, levantine, Lebanese etc. and which one, as a beginner, should I start with. thank you guys so much :)

this is something I think about all the time since I got to chance to move abroad for a year and discovered just how much my personality is not the same all the time. I'd like to know if it's the same for you. what is your first language, what is/are the other language(s) you speak and how do you think your personality changes? I'd like to write an experimental paper about it so I need as much data as possibile :) thank you!