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Why are people listening to this woman? Especially young women. She repeats the same words over and over again. She just told this young girl that she has low self esteem and poor impulse control, the girl was so polite to her and Chantal completely shredded her

She’s just plugging her books, that is all she is doing, she’s not actually giving any healthy helpful advice - she isn’t even qualified to advise on these topics

I’m going to hot yoga 4-5 times a week and absolutely loving it. It was my birthday last week so considering treating myself to a Liforme yoga mat!

They are spenny! Are they worth the investment? Are there any better options out there?

I’m so so happy, preparing already so that I can (hopefully) smash it. It’s for an equivalent role to the one I’m in now, there is no uplift to pay (same pay) BUT I’ve worked at this organisation before, it’s a very stable organisation and much better culture, I’m actually quite excited for the interview! I am so miserable in my current role and have been searching for a year.. this is the first interview I have secured 🥹

Wish me luck!!!!!

Please no judgement, I’ve already judged myself.

I have been in a very draining and difficult four year relationship. There have been some okay or even good times but these are all pretty much tainted.

For example, two years ago I took my ex on holiday to Italy for his 30th birthday. Everyday was perfect apart from the last day when we had a bit of an argument. I tried to deescalate when we got back to our hotel but he was adamant he wanted to argue with me. Still, we woke up the next day, made up and went home. Everything was then fine.

But whenever we argue now, he brings up this argument in Italy and has washed the entire holiday with this negative brush. All he says is how he sat in the bathroom crying in Italy (I didn’t know that and he won’t tell me why - I don’t even know when he would have done it without me knowing as I was in the room next door).

I flew to see him in his home country later that year. Parts of the holiday were tricky, but overall I thought it was lovely. He again, tarnished the entire holiday because of 1 or 2 difficult moments. He makes me feel like nothing I do is good enough, and I’ve internalised that as him not really loving me but more wanting to see what I’ll do for him if that makes sense.

I find that he does this with everything, and I’ve reached the end of my patience. I have done so much to try and show him that he’s important to me - I feel like he’s never given me the same in return. I’ve had to beg for the bare minimum, and even though I’m giving him a lot more than that, it’s still not good enough.

I feel like today is the last straw. He made a comment about it how I’m mentally ill because I was brought up by a single mum…. And how people who are from single parent families are always “damaged”. This really hurt me as my mum has done an incredible job raising me and is a really successful business woman, I never felt hindered or weird about having a single mum, she is my best friend. I’m really proud of her. She could have taken an easy route but she worked damn hard and gave me the absolute best of everything. He says it as though it’s a negative thing to have a single mum. His mum is married but doesn’t seem very happy if I’m honest, and his family dynamics have always concerned me a bit.

He also makes really deep comments about me as a person- for example he says I’m evil and he sees “vile” in my eyes. This is so hurtful as I feel that no matter what I do he just sees me as this negative lowlife person. I’m forever trying to prove myself and nothing is ever enough. He implies that I sleep around and tells me he doesn’t enjoy being intimate with me anymore. He says I’m not “normal” and that a “normal” person won’t want to be with me.

Then a day or two will pass and he says he didn’t mean any of it and only said it out of anger. Today he told me he doesn’t love me anymore and that he hasn’t wanted to be with me for a year - but he’s spent the past year watching me cry and get upset about how things are with us, knowing he didn’t even want to be with me.

It was my birthday last week and I don’t want to spend another year like this. I don’t believe in trauma bonds but this feels impossible to break, it’s like I want to split up and move on but part of me is scared to let go because what if it turns out he meant all of these horrible things and doesn’t care that I leave after I gave him so much of me?

I feel depressed, hopeless and alone. None of my family know what I’m going through and I live by myself. I feel really low.

My grievance was partially upheld - the two most serious points — the points I actually had the strongest evidence for — were rejected. These were around unfair process, lack of consultation, and demotion, plus inappropriate conduct from colleagues.

Have now appealed, and am being asked what resolution / outcome I want. Is this code for “do you want us to offer you a settlement package” and if so how do I negotiate this to ensure I get the maximum possible compensation available to me? I have tried speaking to my union they are useless and take weeks to respond.

I’m nervous about saying I want a settlement offer, what if this is a trick?

Hugely passionate about skincare, aesthetics and facial / body treatments. I studied beauty therapy years ago (2009!), the college doesn’t exist anymore and I didn’t pursue this as my career, but for the last year or so I’ve been really considering doing a complete career change and retraining to work as a facialist and advanced aesthetics practitioner.

The only problem is the amount of info out there is so overwhelming and confusing.. I want to do an accredited course that will give me recognised qualifications, then continue my training to develop my skills. This is something I’m 100% serious about and committed to doing, it’s a career I can see myself thriving in!

I would be so grateful for any advice as to what the best qualifications are - particularly for facials, advanced aesthetic treatments, massage, and body treatments. Also any particular pathways that help to maximise your chances of success in this career.

Thanks so much.

Hello all,

A few months ago I started to experience a sudden change to my menstrual cycle.

Since my 20s, I’ve dealt with extreme period pain- leaving me in bed, unable to walk, and unable to carry out my daily life activities for the first 2-3 days of my cycle.

However, my cycle was always relatively short and light, with the exception of those first couple of the days in which I would experience heavy bleeding. This has been my pattern for over 10 years.

Now all of a sudden I’m having this change where I will have the same level of pain with light to normal bleeding, then no pain the next day, then random, sudden, intense cramping once a day. It is very intense and when it happens I feel the urge to “push” something out. I then pass a lot of fresh blood and usually large clots. Then, the pain subsides after a while and the same thing happens the next day.

Has anyone else experienced this? It’s so painful and feels like early labour pains. I’ve been taking ibuprofen, but I’m worried the sudden change could point to an underlying health condition.

Also, they have made many contradictory comments in the outcome letter. Some of what they have written is just complete lies - making up that I was offered a wellbeing check in whilst signed off sick which I was not, making up that my colleague reached out to find out about my “condition”, which he did not!

I was off for 6 weeks and nobody checked in, I had to start my own return to work process.

On the other points, such as hostile / bullying conduct from colleagues and improper process / consultation around changes to my role, they have completely contradicted themselves with what they’ve said. They haven’t upheld my points, but with what they’ve written, it reads like my points should have been upheld. Especially as I have also submitted a huge amount of evidence clearly supporting the points I’ve raised.

Is this common? My grievance was only partially upheld and they rejected the most serious parts completely.

Have another class booked for this evening! No other way I’d want to spend my day right now!

I’ve received the outcome to my grievance just now, incredibly disappointed.

They’ve only partially upheld my grievance and the two most important points they haven’t upheld. These were about changes to my role which they’ve said they view as acceptable and conduct of another colleague which they’ve have said was not unprofessional or inappropriate - it absolutely was.

I’m so exhausted by this whole thing. I don’t know what my next steps should be now. I guess I’ll have to appeal but who knows how long that will take.

I went this morning and feel okay but it was a stretching slow class. I’m due to go again this evening but I don’t know if I can manage…

I really need to invest in some decent, breathable yoga clothes as right now I’m just wearing any gym clothes I’ve got (I only started practising again a few weeks ago).

I’m staying hydrated and what not. Are other UK based people still attending their classes as normal during this high heat?

EDIT AGAIN: since I moved in January this year I’ve invited my boyfriend over several times, I’ve said he’s welcome here whenever I’ve even offered to give him a key. I buy all his favourite foods I run him baths I do everything to make him feel welcomed. So I am not trying to make him feel like he isn’t part of this. I simply didn’t tell him anything further than me putting in an offer until it had completed, I posted it and then immediately told him.

EDIT: a lot of people are saying they’d be hurt if their partner kept this from them and I completely understand why, however I want to add that when I originally put the offer in and told him, it was obviously with the belief that eventually we’d live together here. Initially, my purchase was delayed because I had to wait for my seller to find somewhere, then I had to do my mortgage application etc. over the year it took to actually complete, a lot happened that made me feel like I wasn’t a priority in my boyfriends life- he didn’t want to celebrate our anniversary together for example, he kept his birthday plans with friends hidden from me and didn’t want to do anything with me, I’ve actually been through so much with him that I don’t want to detail here because it’s more suited to the abusive relationship sub. Me not telling him was partly because I wanted to wait until it had all gone through, and partly because he made me feel like we were living separate lives anyway. He doesn’t seem to have any plans for us to move in together, even though I made it clear I want that from the start.

I bought a home October 2025. It’s my first home. It was a very, very long process having originally put my offer in November 2024. I told my boyfriend when I went to view the property that I’d put an offer in, but didn’t discuss it any further as it progressed through each stage.

This was a personal decision because I know that anything can fall through right up until completion, and in my case it nearly did all fall through several times. I’m quite an “internal” person in which I don’t want to discuss things when I’m stressed I just want to keep it to myself and muddle through.

Anywho. Completed last October and I posted a picture of my keys etc. just before telling my boyfriend, my boyfriend then says “I knew you were buying somewhere as your home Instagram page popped up” and “how could you do this without telling me” and “you probably bought it because you saved money spending the weekends with me” “you kept this all a secret from me because you think I’m jealous of what you have”

I found this all really hurtful and quite selfish- we’re not buying together, I don’t feel like I owed him constant updates. This is my property, we don’t live together even.

Anyway, whenever we argue he brings up my house and credits himself by saying I managed to save because I spent my weekend with him over the years instead of going out with friends. I find this incredibly insulting because I saved £2,000 a month for two years and I originally began saving in 2020 when I was earning less than half of what I earn now. How dare he minimise my accomplishment and try to take credit for it? It’s disgusting. What’s worse is that when we’re together I pay for a lot more than he does, sometimes he won’t tell me he doesn’t have the money to pay for something until we’re in the queue and then it’s left to me.

We went for lunch one day last year and I had £60 left in my account until payday, he didn’t tell me he hadn’t been paid until we were about to pay for lunch and then left it to me to cover the bill. When I pointed out that it’s not fair he said “I’m not being rude but you have savings you can transfer money” - I did have savings but it’s not the point, why do you think you can burden me? If he’d told me in advance okay but to just rely on me and expect me to dip into savings (that was for my house purchase) isn’t cool.

Anyway fast forward to now it’s been 9 months since I bought he once asked me what house warming present I want I said nothing I just want a card and he hasn’t got me it when I ask him why not he says he will but then never does. He did the same thing when I passed probation at work 3 years ago promised to get me flowers as a congratulations then never did and called me materialistic when I asked about it.

Am I in the wrong here? Am I blind? Have I made a mistake?

Currently I’m doing 1 x class in the morning, 1 x in the evening around 4 x a week.

I’m struggling with how to stay full and nourished without feeling heavy and sluggish, given I need to eat before, after then before, after.

Mornings are ok - I eat a small bowl of kefir with berries and some peanut granola.

It’s the evening classes I struggle with - I don’t want to eat a big meal before a 60 min heated yoga class and by the time I’m done I’m too tired to make anything. Would you suggest eating something light beforehand and maybe skipping dinner?

Thoughts welcome !

So I first started using WeGovy in 2024. I could feel the difference almost immediately and had some noticeable weight loss for the 5 months I was on it.

It particularly helped with this heavy/ puffiness I have, and with my belly fat.

I’ve started using it again and it’s not doing much this time, if anything at all. The prescriber recommended I start again on the lowest dose as I haven’t used it for 2 years, could that be why? May I still have a tolerance for it and need to increase my dose?

It’s been over a month so far and no difference to my weight at all.

I’m really disappointed as it worked wonders for me before- I have insulin resistance and struggle to lose weight generally, this helped so much when I combined it with my regular exercise and improved diet.

Any suggestions/ tips/ thoughts very welcome.