u/Longjumping_Sea_8753

A lot of them ask about how we'll use our training to serve diverse communities. That includes different races, ethnicities, languages, and...women.

I feel so stupid writing this. Like I want to go into gynecology anyway but also it's so dumb to be like "As a woman I think women should get to have doctors" like WHAT? How is "women" part of "diverse populations?" We're just HALF the population. That's not diverse, that's just...not neglecting half the population.

The majority of medical students are women anyway! Maybe ask the men to write about how they feel being the diversity acceptees, smh.

(I have issues with the fact that we assume that white and English are the default as well but the woman thing got me today)

Or they'll add on a nominal amount of time like 5-10 minutes.

Like, you teach this subject! You wrote the exam! It should take me way longer to complete it than you, because I have had only a couple months' experience with the specific skill that you are testing me on and you have a full degree in it!

I'm at a point in my life where I've been okay being around children, I actually really like volunteering with them and I like when my relatives bring around their younger children because I just think they're great to spend time with.

My parents, siblings, and I recently went to see one of our cousins who just had a baby and she passed him around to be held. I thought I'd be okay doing that.

I did not anticipate that he must've been hungry because holy smokes. He tried to nurse from me and it just broke my heart.

I was homeless as a child (at some points in temporary housing and at other points literally living in a stranger's garage) and now that I'm in a more stable place, I was looking into making resources for working with homeless students. The schools near me are always offering speakers to come and give talks to teachers + students or just teachers sometimes, and I was wondering if it would be welcome to hear what would've helped me when I was a student, or is this a thing you guys are trained on already lol?

I just had a solo in a college choir concert but the floor was slick so I walked up to the microphone and fell on my back in front of everybody. And now I'm feeling really sad about it lol.

It made such a large thump noise and a couple people ran over to help me up. I didn't even sing well after that :(

I have synesthesia, which means that letters, words, and numbers have colors for me. The color of the word is generally based on the color I think that the letter is and different words don't blend together (e.g. Dance is a brown word and Moms is a pink word; together they don't turn into a pinkish brown, but each word is a distinct color).

I thought it would be fun to share the colors of some of the moms and girls. If you have any you'd like, please comment as I know I'll forget people.

Miller: Pink

• Abby: Red
• Lee: Dark blue

Ziegler: Yellow

• Melissa/Maddie/Mackenzie: Pink
• Kurt: Grey
• Greg: Orange

Lukasiak: Dark blue

• Chloe/Christi/Clara: Yellow
• Marc: Pink

Hyland: Light purple

• Brooke: Brown
• Paige: Yellow
• Kelly: Grey
• Randy: Red

Frasier: Light green

• Nia: Dark purple Sioux: Light yellow
• Holly: Light purple

Nesbitt: Dark purple Stein: Yellow

• Cathy: Yellow (important distinction: Kathy would be grey, the spelling does matter lol)
• Vivi: Light purple Ann: Red

Siwa: Really light yellow

• Jojo/Jess: Grey

Hilliker: Light purple

• Kira/Kalani: Grey but a little darker than the J names

Ray: Red

• Kristi: Grey
• Asia: Red Monet: Pink

Rumfallo: Red

• Brynn: Brown
• Ashlee: Red

Ketchman: Grey

• Lilliana: Light blue
• Stacey: Light yellow

Walmsley: Light blue

• Elliana/Yolanda: Orange (but Elliana is a lighter orange)

Caes: Yellow (Siwa is the lightest yellow, then Ziegler, then Caes)

• Maesi: Pink (so same color scheme as the Zieglers)
• Jaime: Grey (so same color scheme as the Siwas)

Bridges: Brown

• Camryn/Camille: Yellow

Broadway Baby: Brown

I am aware that doctors do what they need to do and so I know that this is a stupid complaint.

But did anybody else have a medical team that was being really cagey with the underwear situation?

I was a teenager when I got ovarian surgery and I remember walking into the OR with underwear on (and I asked, should I take off my underwear when I change into the hospital gown? They said no, you can keep it on, it'll stay on) and then waking up with a diaper on.

My mom said that the nurse gave her a bag with my underwear after they were done. I also had some issues with the catheter getting inserted but that was a whole separate thing. Either way, I remember at the time feeling mortified that I was in a diaper (because nobody told me it was just for the blood and they didn't mention that the contrast they used was yellow so I thought I had peed myself) and also feeling kind of vulnerable about the fact that they had taken off my underwear and put me in a diaper. Like, I know that they literally operated on my ovaries and that's a much more intimate thing, but I just had a lot of feelings about this.

I feel like a lot of discomfort would've been saved if they had said "We'll take your underwear off and put you in a diaper after we're done for the blood." Or just told me not to wear the underwear in the first place, being as I had asked. Especially to teenagers. I remember being paranoid that they had done other things I didn't know about too, as they lied about the underwear (which obviously I'm not accusing them of anything else, I just felt paranoid) and this is the worst part that I remember of it, not even the pain. Feeling exposed.

When I was 17, my therapist seemed very eager to diagnose me with PTSD. Like she said "Yay, I so rarely have pediatric patients who get a diagnosis, I'm going to tell my colleagues!"

I thought it was kind of weird how she seemed happy about this. Is this normal?

I know that this is not really a huge deal, but I did a full pirouette, and was able to stop and stay on releve for a couple second after without putting my foot down.

My hack is turning on my left leg with my right leg being the one lifted up. I can't seem to get it to work the other way, standing on my right leg.

I don't know if anybody else has this issue but I have...robust thighs, and I wear holes through pants, shorts, and tights frequently.

I was just wondering if anybody had tights that they liked that I don't rip holes into every couple of months.

I've noticed something about the people I know. There's two camps: those who started therapy as adults and LOVE it, and those who did it as children and HATE it.

Myself, my sister, and many of my friends in high school and college who did therapy as children/teenagers have sworn off of it for life, never want to do it again, etc. But I know people who started in their 20s and older and swear by it, saying it saved their lives.

At this point I wonder if maybe we should stop having children's therapists because it seems to be turning people off of help, and it would be better to keep therapy for only those who are already adults.

I'm 20, my sister just turned 18. I've been taking care of her since I was 8. Our father was violent and I'd hide her in my closet and sit with her and read a book so that he wouldn't hear her cry and come after her.

Since then she'll say that she comes to me for her problems. In school we'd have to write who our safe people were and she'd write me. I'd write nobody. She'd wake me up when she has nightmares. I was her emergency contact starting when I was 11. I convinced my 6th grade teacher to let me leave early so that I could wait with the other parents outside her classroom door, because she had separation anxiety.

I know that none of these are all that bad but it was really tiring for me as a child. My parents have always told me to put my life on hold for her. After I applied and got into college, I had to do her application for her. Whenever she's confused with schoolwork, I do it for her. If she needs clothes or books or something, they just give mine to her. She jokes that I'm her substitute mother because I've done more mothering to her than they have.

Our father hurt our mother and got her hospitalized when I was 15. My first concern was how I was going to get my sister to her ballet lesson.

Now that I'm 20 and she's 18, I'm so done with it and I feel awful. I feel like I'm doing a bad job as a mother. My sister woke me up after a nightmare and I told her to go away. I've never done that before. She's going to leave to go to college and I don't know how to protect her. I genuinely don't know what to do with mine now that she's an adult and she doesn't need me.

I've noticed something about the people I know. There's two camps: those who started therapy as adults and LOVE it, and those who did it as children and HATE it.

Myself, my sister, and many of my friends in high school and college who did therapy as children/teenagers have sworn off of it for life, never want to do it again, etc. But I know people who started in their 20s and older and swear by it, saying it saved their lives.

At this point I wonder if maybe we should stop having children's therapists because it seems to be turning people off of help, and it would be better to keep therapy for only those who are already adults.

I've noticed something about the people I know. There's two camps: those who started therapy as adults and LOVE it, and those who did it as children and HATE it.

Myself, my sister, and many of my friends in high school and college who did therapy as children/teenagers have sworn off of it for life, never want to do it again, etc. But I know people who started in their 20s and older and swear by it, saying it saved their lives.

At this point I wonder if maybe we should stop having children's therapists because it seems to be turning people off of help, and it would be better to keep therapy for only those who are already adults.

I've noticed something about the people I know. There's two camps: those who started therapy as adults and LOVE it, and those who did it as children and HATE it.

Myself, my sister, and many of my friends in high school and college who did therapy as children/teenagers have sworn off of it for life, never want to do it again, etc. But I know people who started in their 20s and older and swear by it, saying it saved their lives.

At this point I wonder if maybe we should stop having children's therapists because it seems to be turning people off of help, and it would be better to keep therapy for only those who are already adults.

I'm in a weird situation where my sister (in high school) is being heavily pressured to go to therapy. My mom basically said that my sister isn't allowed to talk to her about her nightmares until she goes to therapy.

I have my own thoughts on this (my mom has emotional neglected us for all of our lives; my sister just wants somebody to hug her sometimes when she's sad, not a therapist)

I had somebody comment in a post about the logistics of this operation with

>You claim your parents emotionally neglect you but your mom literally wants your sister to go to therapy. As a teacher of 20 years, I’m gonna let you in on a little secret: no one who emotionally neglects their children sends their kids to therapy. Therapists are mandated reporters and parents know that.

I just feel like that's wrong. Our mom has never emotionally nurtured us, and I feel like she's using therapy as a way to continue to not do that; she wants my sister to go to therapy because she doesn’t want my sister to talk about her feelings or look upset at home.  Is that not emotional neglect? One hour of a therapist a week doesn’t make up for a lack of any affection from a parent.  

If I'm competing exclusively for tap, realistically how important would it be for me to take ballet lessons?

I know a lot of studios and people online recommend that everybody takes ballet for "technique", mine hasn't said anything to me about it (though they offer ballet classes), but I'm just kind of wondering what benefit it provides if I already supplement with strength/flexibility exercises? Like I don't really see what ballet technique I'd need aside from maybe releve strengthening due to the fact that I've gotten pretty specialized already.