u/guessirs

I have a 2016 Subaru forester. Been a great little car. Just hit 112k miles. I do the regular maintenance schedule stuff that Subaru recommends. Did the 90k last and got the 120k comin up probably in a year. Beyond that I get regular oil changes/tire rotations and within those I ask my mechanic to check things over. I’ve replaced the PCV valve (trying to find an oil leak haven’t found it yet), replaced a AC fuse last year and replaced a headlight bulb that burnt out.

Is there other things that need to be maintained outside of the regular maintenance schedule? And outside of fixing issues as they come up?

I feel like a horrible person and I would never admit this to anyone in my family. But I often come up with excuses or schedule conflicts if invited to a gathering with them. I have never had any sort of fondness for or an ability to interact with children. I find them very loud and annoying. Even when I was a child myself I had no interest in interacting with young children. It’s gotten slightly better now that some of them are past 10 because you can just like have a normal conversation with them.

My apartment has a recently installed ge GDF535PSRSS

I’m used to dishwashers with the dial so you can easily tell where in the cycle it is. In so far as I can tell this one does not. So I went to run it right before bed as normal. And thankfully I noticed oh weird the water’s not running also it now smells like burning in my apartment. So went to check the dishwasher and apparently it was still on its last cycle on the last bit where it gets quite hot and dries the dishes. Except the dishwasher was bone dry so instead it was trying to burn crap off my dishes. Would it set itself on fire? I don’t know.

I am generally very anxious about house fires to the point of paranoia. I’ve never used my oven. I will never deep fry anything indoors. I have a camera pointed at my dryer. Just so I can peak in when I’m upstairs to make sure it’s not doing anything shifty.

I always thought oh well a dishwasher it’s a machine that’s full of water I don’t need to be suspicious of it. Apparently I do. And now I don’t trust it. This time it was because I didn’t see it was mid cycle because how could I have? But what if it randomly decides to clog a water intake? I’m not sure I’ll ever feel confident in letting it run overnight anymore despite the fact I’ve been doing it for literal years.

I walked through ankle high grass for five minutes and got bit twice. Two lone star ticks of course. Ugh. I feel like I have to give up touching plants basically ever (and I love hiking) or accept I will have alpha gal forever.

If I hike I wear permethrin, duct tape my pants to my socks, wear DEET and yet I’ve still gotten bitten. And then of course I walk through my yard thinking it’s a yard there’s no way I could get bit. And yet I do.

I’m seriously considering moving out west to get the hell away from them.

I’m frustrated to no end that my social media feed has been inundated with “bill gates is sprinkling ticks around to make everyone allergic to red meat!!!”

I want more research into alpha gal to get a cure or a preventative. And this nonsense I worry has people all up in arms and may cause there to be less research into it. Generally it’s very silly and frustrating to see.

I’m not sure exactly how to explain this phenomenon. I am not autistic but I have adhd. But I’m also almost 30 and a working professional. And yet others often speak to me like they’re talking to a child. Like I tell someone about an achievement I’ve made or something I’m excited about and they respond like I’m a child telling them about my new light up shoes. The “oh I love that for you” (I hate that phrase now), or “wow that’s so cool” in, again, more of a tone you’d use for a child. I’m sick of it. I’m treated with condescension constantly. I thought as I grew older I’d have to be taken seriously why would you talk to an adult peer like that? I don’t understand.

I also get a lot of specific condescension from older men. Like “oh aren’t you a cute young lady”. Sir we’re coworkers at a business I’m an adult.

By that I mean I’m an adult. And yet others talk to me like I’m a child. I’m almost 30. And if I tell someone oh I’m excited for this thing or whatever the reaction I get is “oh I love that for you” (in a non genuine way) or they talk to me like I’m a child telling someone about my new light up shoes. I don’t know exactly how to explain it. But the overly like enthused “oh wooow that’s soooo cool”. All I can surmise is it’s because I look like a little ugly goblin freak show. That suddenly everything I do even in earnest is “cute”

I’ve had children ask me “are you a boy or a girl”. I’m AFAB, identify as female and want to look like a woman. Instead I look androgynous. Big hooked nose. Masculine face against my will. I try to dress cute and I look like a man in a dress. My voice isn’t deep but I sound like a mix between fuckin Kermit and a prepubescent boy. I even tried like voice training. But I think it’s my giant hooked nose.

I hate that even in full makeup and a dress I still look awful. Gangily and my proportions are just so off. I dress feminine and get called sir constantly. It’s not the way I dress im literally called sir in a full face of makeup.

I’d heard it was extremely sycophantic to the point you could say you were gonna rob a bank and ChatGPT would be like “wow you’re so valid for that”

Recently was weighing the pros and cons of buying a new used car. And I really wanted one. But in my heart of hearts I knew I didn’t *need* one. So I asked ChatGPT and once I laid out all the facts surprisingly it said no that’s not a good idea. Which I’m grateful because seeing a pro and con list laid out chilled out my “impulsive need for new shiny thing”. And it was right.

Not to glaze ChatGPT too hard but it’s interesting it won’t always just affirm you on everything.

Like I keep trying. I go out do things. Slam my head into the torturous wheel that is the dating apps. But I just can’t find someone. I thought I found someone but turns out we had some irreconcilable lifestyle differences and that was that. All my friends are married, engaged or dating seriously. I’ve never had a long term relationship. I’m still a virgin. The other day even my neighbor was like shocked and weirded out I didn’t have a partner. He was like an old school boomer type but when I told him I didn’t have a husband he about lost his mind. My parents don’t even ask me about my dating life anymore after a string of “oh are you still seeing \[name of person I was dating briefly\]” and getting the awkward uh no.

And it’s not like me having crazy standards. I mostly am on the receiving end of ghosting and “we should just be friends” texts. (They never actually mean it). I feel so broken. I even once have an ex stare at me and go “your brain is so weird”.

I fostered an incredibly sweet puppy years ago. Only foster I’ve ever had because I quickly found out it stressed my resident dog out. But I got the foster adopted and have spent the last years imagining the wonderful life he was having.

I found out today my former foster escaped his adopters house immediately and was struck and killed by a car. He didn’t even make it 24 hours. I’m devastated. I wish I would have kept him. Worked it out with my resident dog. He was a beagle from a lab testing facility. He never knew a home. Had never touched grass before. He had made such great strides in the four weeks I had him. He was scared but so sweet. And he never got to experience a home. It’s horrible. Why didn’t I just keep him?