u/straightdrive18

On Reddit, whenever he is discussed, I mostly see hate and negative opinions. But on Twitter/X, Instagram and YouTube, the reaction is completely different. The support for him sometimes feels almost like a cult. And every Bigg Boss season, his name or some reference to him somehow comes up again. He even trended on Twitter recently.

If he was really that hated, then how did he win the show? And why does he still have such a loyal fanbase years later?

I also don't fully understand the "show was biased in his favour" argument. Even if the show was biased, people still had to vote for him. If most viewers genuinely disliked him, why did they vote for him and make him the winner?

If the show was really biased and he was actually that toxic, then why did the audience still vote for him?

And the biggest puzzle for me is why his popularity has lasted this long. Every season there are still references to him, people still talk about him, and he can still trend years later.

New fan here

I’m new to the sport and right now, honestly, I mostly just see the cars racing . I know a little about tires and the basic stuff, but I want to actually understand F1 as a sport.

How do you guys recommend learning it as a new fan? Like understanding the racing, strategy, tactics,etc.

I don’t want to just watch races without understanding what’s happening. I want to slowly get to the point where I can watch an F1 race and actually understand what I’m seeing.

What should I learn first, and what helped you guys when you were new?

We all love and respect this sport, but I think everyone has that one person they look up to for inspiration and motivation for to be fearless, stay confident, work hard, and keep pushing through the struggles.

So, who is that person for you?

For me, it’s Tyson Fury. Not just because of what he has achieved in boxing, but because of his struggles with mental health and the way he fought his way back. His journey reminds me that even when life gets dark, you can still find the strength to rise again.

Who’s yours?

I’m actually new to book reading, and I wanted to explore fantasy, so I bought Malazan. I’ve heard it can be pretty difficult to understand, especially for a first-time reader. Is that really true?

Also, no spoilers please. My main question is about the characters.

I’ve seen Zuko, Snape, Thorfinn, Jaime Lannister, and Itachi, and I like characters who are deeply flawed but have really strong character arcs and redemption.

Without naming anyone or giving me spoilers, does Malazan have characters that reach that same level of writing? Please don’t tell me who they are or say whether they’re “better” than the characters I mentioned. I just want to know if I should expect that kind of character writing going in.

Hey everyone, I’m completely new to the NFL and not American. I recently started getting into the Cowboys and I really want to understand the sport properly.

I love getting really deep into sports when I start following one. My main goal isn’t just to watch games or know the players .I want to understand the tactics and strategy behind what’s happening. The problem is, I’m basically starting from zero knowledge about the NFL

I’m willing to learn though. Are there any good books, apps, YouTube channels, websites, courses, or anything else you’d recommend for someone starting from zero but wanting to eventually understand the game at a deeper tactical level?

I’ll be watching all the Cowboys games, so I’m hoping I can learn as I go. I just want to know what I should be learning alongside watching the games.

Hey everyone, I’m completely new to baseball and not American. I recently started watching some Red Sox highlights and I actually really like it.

I’m someone who likes to properly understand a sport when I get into it. I don’t just want to watch randomly. I want to eventually understand what’s happening in the game and why teams/players do certain things.

But I’m confused about something. The Red Sox play 162 games, and because I’m outside the US, the timings don’t really work for me. So I obviously can’t watch all 162 games.

So how do people who don’t watch every game actually keep up with the Red Sox?

Like, if you only watch some games, how do you know what’s going on with the team throughout the season? Do you use an app, YouTube, highlights, stats, websites, podcasts, or something else?

And how do you actually learn the game properly? If I don’t watch hundreds of games, how do I eventually understand the strategy, the players, and what’s happening during games beyond just knowing the basic rules?

I’m basically trying to figure out how to become a proper Red Sox fan without needing to watch every single game. What do you guys recommend?

I feel like we all have someone we look up to, you know? Someone who inspires us and motivates us in our daily life. Who’s that person for you, apart from yourself? It could be anyone an athlete, musician, actor, or just someone you really admire. For me, it’s ronaldo.

Hey all! We all obviously love F1 deeply, but I’m curious what other sports do you guys follow just as passionately or religiously as F1?

For me, Its Football and Tennis.

Hey guys, I’m not American and I’m getting into the NFL. I chose the Packers as my team simply because something about the team and the whole fan culture resonated with me. So yeah, Packers for life .

I’m looking for some guidance from you guys on learning the game at a tactical level.

I know the basic rules and I can follow what’s happening, but I want to actually understand why things are happening on the field.

For example, when I watch a passing play, I see the QB and receivers, but I don’t really understand how the routes work together, why certain receivers run certain routes, how they create space, what the QB is reading, what the defense is trying to take away, etc.

I understand soccer much better, and that’s the level of understanding I want to reach with football. In soccer, I can look at a fullback moving into midfield and understand what space he’s trying to create, what space he’s leaving, and what the opposition might do about it. I want to eventually be able to watch an NFL play and have that same kind of understanding.

So basically, I’m looking for a from-zero guide to understanding football tactically . What should I learn first, what should I learn after that, and what should I be paying attention to when I watch games?

Any guidance from Packers fans who really understand the game would be awesome.

And yes, bears sucks

I'm 26, and I'm trying to understand what is happening to me.

From the outside, it probably looks like I'm lazy, wasting my time, or simply don't care enough. But the truth is that I genuinely want to change my life. I have had big dreams since childhood. I want to become successful, get a job, become independent, learn things, travel, experience life, and make something of myself.

The strange part is that I can be extremely confident when I'm only thinking or talking about doing something.

I'll say, "I'll do it tomorrow," "I'll learn this," or "I'll definitely go," and I actually mean it.

But when the actual moment comes, something changes.

I become anxious. My heart starts beating faster. I freeze, overthink, and avoid it.

For example, I genuinely want to learn to ride a bike. I even bought a bicycle because I wanted to learn. If you ask me today, "Do you want to learn to ride?" I'll confidently say yes. I can imagine myself riding it and I genuinely want to do it.

But when someone actually expects me to get on the bike and ride, my confidence disappears. I become anxious and back out.

The same thing happens with driving a car. I genuinely want to learn, but when it is actually time to do it, I become afraid and avoid it.

Another example is going to the cinema.

I really wanted to watch Spider-Man: Brand New Day on the first day. I kept telling myself, "I'll go tomorrow," then the next day, then another day. Eventually weeks passed and I still hadn't gone.

Sometimes I would actually open the ticket-booking app because I genuinely wanted to book the ticket. But when I started choosing the movie, time, or seat, my heart would start beating faster. I would become anxious and close the app without booking.

I worry about finding my seat correctly, people looking at me, someone laughing at me, doing something embarrassing, or needing to use the bathroom while I'm there.

The strange thing is that I really want to go. I'm not pretending. I actually want to watch the movie. But when it becomes real, I feel like I need to escape or postpone it.

The same thing has happened with my career.

In 2024, my mother enrolled me in technical coaching related to my field so I could prepare for a job. I knew how important it was. I knew how much my mother had sacrificed for me and how much she wanted me to have a good future.

I attended for around ten days and then stopped going.

I knew I was making a terrible mistake.

I cried about it many times. I felt guilty. I promised myself I would change and go back.

But I still couldn't make myself go.

This has happened again and again throughout my life.

I haven't seriously studied. I haven't consistently applied for jobs. I haven't built useful skills the way I wanted to.

I've bought books because I genuinely wanted to learn. Some of them have been sitting around for years, but I still struggle to get through even ten pages.

The same thing happens with hobbies and interests.

I can become extremely interested in something. I might watch two episodes of a show and become obsessed with a character, put that character as my wallpaper, and feel like I want to learn everything about it.

One day it might be football. I'll spend hours watching matches, learning about players and tactics. Then it might be Cristiano Ronaldo. Then the NBA. Then baseball. Then MotoGP. Then filmmaking.

For a few days or weeks, I can become deeply interested in something and even imagine making a life out of it.

Then suddenly I lose interest and move on to something completely different.

I've been doing this for years.

I don't understand why I can become so excited about something but struggle so much to actually stick with it.

I've also spent a lot of time imagining a different version of my life.

Sometimes I imagine becoming a successful football player. Sometimes a filmmaker. Sometimes I imagine building an incredible career from nothing.

In those moments, I genuinely feel like I can achieve great things.

I have big dreams.

But when I have to take a real step toward any goal, that confidence disappears.

It's like I can imagine the person I want to become, but I can't take the first step toward becoming him.

I lost my father when I was young, and my mother raised my sister and me by herself. She worked incredibly hard, spent her savings, and even took loans to give us opportunities.

My parents have taken care of us so much, and my mother still believes I'll build a good future.

Sometimes I think about how much she has done for us and how one day she won't be here to take care of us.

That should be enough motivation for me to change.

But somehow I'm still stuck.

Things started going downhill in high school. My grades got worse, and I couldn't get a seat in the college I wanted. Somehow I finished my graduation in 2022.

After graduating, I thought:

"Now I need to change my life."

But nothing changed.

2022 passed.

Then 2023.

And now I'm 26.

Years have passed, and I'm still almost exactly where I was.

I know I'm wasting my life.

I know I'm wasting years.

I know I'm postponing things that are important for my future.

I keep telling myself I'll change, but then I postpone again.

Sometimes I think, "If I don't change now, I'll wake up at 30 or 35 with even more regret."

That scares me.

I've also experienced a lot of humiliation because of this.

Some relatives don't talk to me anymore. Friends make jokes about me. People compare me with younger people who already have jobs.

People have called me useless, laughed because I can't ride a bike or drive, and treated me like a burden.

I've heard things like, "You won't even touch my salary in your lifetime."

One relative even said that if my father were alive today, he would be heartbroken and disappointed to see where I am in life.

That comment stayed with me for a long time.

It hurts deeply when people say these things.

But the strange thing is that even humiliation doesn't change me.

I cry. I feel terrible. I promise myself I'll change.

Then after some time, I'm back in the same cycle.

That's what scares me.

I know what I'm doing.

I know I'm avoiding things.

I know I'm hurting my own future.

I know my mother has sacrificed so much for me.

I know time is passing.

But knowing all of that doesn't seem to make me capable of changing.

It feels like there is some kind of inner battle going on.

One part of me genuinely wants to move forward.

Another part becomes afraid when I actually try to take a step.

Sometimes I wonder if I'm lazy.

Other times I wonder if it's anxiety, social anxiety, depression, ADHD, executive dysfunction, avoidance, extremely low self-esteem, fear of failure, or something else.

I honestly don't know anymore.

I also have some health issues that make things feel harder.

There have been moments when I've thought about dying, but I don't actually want my life to end.

I want to live.

I want to become independent.

I want to get a job, support my family, travel, learn new things, and experience the life I've spent so much time imagining.

Most of all, I want to make my mother proud while I still have the chance.

I don't want to wait until it's too late.

I'm not looking for sympathy or empty motivation.

I genuinely want to understand what is happening to me.

Why can I genuinely want something, confidently say I'm going to do it, imagine myself doing it, and then become anxious and avoid it when the actual moment comes?

Why does avoiding something make me feel better for a short time even though I know it is making my life worse?

Why can I know something is extremely important and still be unable to make myself do it?

And how do you finally break this pattern when you've wanted to change for years but still can't seem to take the first step?

Has anyone experienced something similar?

Does this sound like anxiety, social anxiety, an anxiety-avoidance cycle, ADHD, depression, executive dysfunction, low self-esteem, fear of failure, or something else?

More importantly, what actually helped you?

I also wonder whether having a strong role model or "blueprint" could help someone like this. Not just someone successful, but someone whose own life shows how to overcome fear, insecurity, failure, lack of confidence, and being stuck.

If you were in this situation, is there one person from history, sports, music, movies, philosophy, or anywhere else whose life you would study and use as a model for becoming a different person?

I don't want another year to pass like this.

I want to wake up one day and feel like I'm finally living instead of watching my life pass by.

I want to be able to do normal things without fear controlling me.

I want to work. I want to learn. I want to build something.

I want to become someone my mother can look at and feel proud of.

I don't want my life to be remembered as the years I spent hiding in my room, afraid to start.

I still have dreams.

That's probably why this hurts so much.

Because somewhere inside me, I still believe I can become something.

I just don't know how to reach that person anymore.

When I say "I want to win in this life," I don't mean money, fame, or proving everyone wrong.

I mean I want to win against this fear.

I want to win against the version of me that keeps giving up.

I want to get my life back.

I want to live.

And more than anything, I want to make my mom proud while I still have the chance.

I'm honestly looking for help and advice from anyone who has been through something similar. I don't know how to get myself out of this anymore, and I really want to change.

I'm trying to understand whether what I'm experiencing is anxiety or something else.

I genuinely want to do things, and when I talk about them, I'm very confident. I'll say, "I'll do it tomorrow," or "I'll learn this," and I actually mean it. But when the moment comes to take action, I suddenly become anxious, freeze, and avoid it.

For example, I genuinely want to learn to ride a bike. I even bought a bicycle because I wanted to learn. If you ask me today, "Do you want to learn?" I'll confidently say yes. I can imagine myself riding and feel like I can do it.

But when someone actually expects me to get on the bike, my confidence disappears. My heart starts beating faster, I feel anxious, and I back out.

The same thing happens with driving a car. I want to learn, but when it is actually time to do it, I become afraid and avoid it.

Another example is going to the cinema. I genuinely wanted to watch Spider-Man: Brand New Day on the first day. I kept telling myself, "I'll go tomorrow," then the next day, and eventually weeks passed without me going.

Sometimes I even open the ticket-booking app because I really want to book the ticket. But as soon as I start choosing the movie, time, or seat, my heart starts beating faster. I become anxious and close the app without booking. Then later I feel bad because I actually wanted to go.

When I think about going to the theatre, I worry about finding my seat, people looking at me, doing something embarrassing, or needing to use the bathroom while I'm there.

The most serious example is my career. My mother enrolled me in technical coaching so I could prepare for a job. I knew how important it was and how much she had sacrificed for me. I attended for around ten days and then stopped going.

I knew I was making a mistake. I wanted to continue. I felt guilty and told myself many times that I would go back, but I still couldn't make myself do it.

What confuses me is that I genuinely want to do these things. It's not that I don't care or don't want them. I can feel excited and confident when I'm only thinking about doing something. But when it becomes real, my anxiety suddenly appears and I avoid it.

Does this sound like anxiety or an anxiety-avoidance cycle? Could it be social anxiety or something else?

Has anyone experienced this kind of thing—where you genuinely want to do something, but when the moment comes, your heart starts racing and you feel like you have to escape or postpone it?

What helped you actually start doing things despite the anxiety?

I'm trying to understand whether what I'm experiencing is anxiety or something else.

I genuinely want to do things, and when I talk about them, I'm very confident. I'll say, "I'll do it tomorrow," or "I'll learn this," and I actually mean it. But when the moment comes to take action, I suddenly become anxious, freeze, and avoid it.

For example, I genuinely want to learn to ride a bike. I even bought a bicycle because I wanted to learn. If you ask me today, "Do you want to learn?" I'll confidently say yes. I can imagine myself riding and feel like I can do it.

But when someone actually expects me to get on the bike, my confidence disappears. My heart starts beating faster, I feel anxious, and I back out.

The same thing happens with driving a car. I want to learn, but when it is actually time to do it, I become afraid and avoid it.

Another example is going to the cinema. I genuinely wanted to watch Spider-Man: Brand New Day on the first day. I kept telling myself, "I'll go tomorrow," then the next day, and eventually weeks passed without me going.

Sometimes I even open the ticket-booking app because I really want to book the ticket. But as soon as I start choosing the movie, time, or seat, my heart starts beating faster. I become anxious and close the app without booking. Then later I feel bad because I actually wanted to go.

When I think about going to the theatre, I worry about finding my seat, people looking at me, doing something embarrassing, or needing to use the bathroom while I'm there.

The most serious example is my career. My mother enrolled me in technical coaching so I could prepare for a job. I knew how important it was and how much she had sacrificed for me. I attended for around ten days and then stopped going.

I knew I was making a mistake. I wanted to continue. I felt guilty and told myself many times that I would go back, but I still couldn't make myself do it.

What confuses me is that I genuinely want to do these things. It's not that I don't care or don't want them. I can feel excited and confident when I'm only thinking about doing something. But when it becomes real, my anxiety suddenly appears and I avoid it.

Does this sound like anxiety or an anxiety-avoidance cycle? Could it be social anxiety or something else?

Has anyone experienced this kind of thing—where you genuinely want to do something, but when the moment comes, your heart starts racing and you feel like you have to escape or postpone it?

What helped you actually start doing things despite the anxiety?

I’m a new F1 fan, and I know this has probably been asked a million times, but I’m trying to understand F1 on a deeper technical level.

I don’t just want to watch the races or follow the community for the memes. I want to actually understand what’s happening technically**.** things like strategy, car setup, aerodynamics, tyres, braking, racing lines, and why drivers make certain decisions.

For example, in football, I can understand why a fullback leaves his position and moves into midfield, or why a player makes a particular run. I want to reach that same level of understanding with F1.

Are there any good books, websites, videos, or other resources that teach F1 from the basics and gradually go deeper, rather than assuming I already know everything?

Also, I have really basic questions like: if you put Leclerc or Max in a Mercedes, how much would the result actually change? How much is the driver, and how much is the car? I know these might sound like dumb questions, but I genuinely want to understand F1 properly.

From the outside, it probably looks like I'm just wasting my time, but I don't understand why I keep repeating the same pattern. I genuinely want to change. I've had big dreams since childhood. I want to achieve something, become successful, and make something of my life. But whenever it's time to actually take action, I freeze.

I'm an introvert and I've always had a lot of fears. I want to do things, I imagine myself doing them, and sometimes I feel like I can achieve anything. But when it comes to actually doing them, something inside me stops me.

I lost my father when I was young, and my mother raised my sister and me by herself. She worked incredibly hard, spent her savings, and even took loans to give us opportunities. My parents have taken care of us so much, and my mother still believes I'll build a good future. Sometimes I think about how much she has done for us and that one day she won't be here to take care of us. That should be enough motivation for me to change, but somehow I'm still stuck.

Things started going downhill in high school. My grades got worse, and I couldn't even get a seat in the college I wanted. Somehow, I finished my graduation in 2022.

After graduating, I thought, "Now I need to change my life."

But nothing changed.

2022 passed. Then 2023, 2024, 2025, and now I'm 26. Years have passed, and I'm still almost exactly where I was.

One of my biggest struggles is that I avoid almost everything that makes me anxious.

I can't ride a bike or drive a car. I even bought a bicycle because I genuinely wanted to learn. If you ask me today whether I want to learn, I'll confidently say yes. I'll imagine myself riding and believe I can do it.

But the moment someone actually expects me to ride, my confidence disappears. My heart starts racing, I panic, and I back out.

The same thing happens with almost every important part of my life.

A recent example is Spider-Man: Brand New Day. I really wanted to go on the first day. I kept telling myself I'd go, then thought maybe the next day. Now almost a month has passed, and I still haven't gone.

I don't even know why.

Is it laziness? Fear? Anxiety?

I genuinely don't know. Even while writing this, I'm feeling emotional because I can't understand why something so simple feels so difficult for me.

Going outside can make me anxious. Going to a theatre makes me worry about finding my seat correctly, people looking at me, someone laughing at me, or me doing something embarrassing.

I also worry about needing to use the bathroom when I'm outside and sometimes feel like I might need to go multiple times. I've tried things at home, but then I start thinking it will definitely happen later when I'm outside.

I don't know if it's anxiety, social anxiety, or something else, but it has made normal things extremely difficult for me.

In 2024, my mother enrolled me in technical coaching related to my field. I knew how important it was and how much she had sacrificed for it, but I barely attended. I went for around ten days and then stopped.

I knew I was making a terrible mistake.

I cried about it many times. I promised myself I would change. I knew I was doing wrong by not going.

But I still couldn't make myself go.

That wasn't the first time this happened.

For years I've struggled to take action. I haven't seriously studied, applied for jobs consistently, or built useful skills.

I've bought books because I genuinely wanted to learn. It's been around four years since I started buying some of these books, but I still struggle to get through even ten pages.

I'll buy a book feeling excited, thinking, "This time I'll finally learn something," and then I won't even open it.

The same thing happens with TV shows, movies, hobbies, and interests. I'll watch two episodes, become obsessed with a character, put that character as my wallpaper, and then somehow stop watching the show.

My interests are also all over the place.

One day I'll become obsessed with football and spend hours watching matches, learning about players, tactics, and everything about the sport. The next day it might be Cristiano Ronaldo or another football star. Then suddenly it's the NBA. Then baseball. Then MotoGP. Then filmmaking.

I'll feel like I want to learn everything about it. Sometimes I'll even imagine making a life out of it.

I can become deeply interested in something for a few days, sometimes longer, and then suddenly lose interest and move on to something completely different.

I've been doing this for years. I don't know why I can become so excited about something but struggle so much to actually stick with it.

Sometimes I think I'm lazy or negligent. Other times I wonder if it's anxiety, depression, ADHD, social anxiety, avoidance, extremely low self-esteem, or something else.

I honestly don't know anymore.

The hardest part is that I know I'm doing something wrong.

I know I'm wasting time.

I know I'm avoiding things.

I know I'm hurting my own future.

But knowing all of that doesn't seem to make me capable of changing.

I don't even have some major bad habit that I can blame everything on.

I'm just stuck.

And being stuck like this for years feels like hell.

I've also faced a lot of humiliation.

Some relatives don't talk to me anymore. My friends make jokes about me. People compare me with younger people who already have jobs. People have called me useless, laughed because I can't ride a bike or drive, and treated me like a burden.

I've heard things like, "You won't even touch my salary in your lifetime."

One relative even said that if my father were alive today, he would be heartbroken and disappointed to see where I am in life.

That comment stayed with me for a long time.

It hurts deeply when people say these things.

But the strange thing is that humiliation doesn't change me.

It hurts. I cry. I promise myself I'll change.

And then, after some time, I'm back in the same cycle.

I also spend a lot of time imagining a different version of my life.

Sometimes I imagine becoming a successful football player. Sometimes a respected filmmaker. Sometimes I imagine building an incredible career from nothing.

In those moments, I genuinely feel capable of achieving great things.

I have big dreams.

But when I have to take a real step toward any goal, that confidence disappears.

It's like I can imagine the person I want to become, but I can't take the first step toward becoming him.

I've wanted to achieve something big for years.

I want to become successful.

I want to win in life.

But I'm sitting in my room watching the years pass.

Sometimes it feels like I'm not even living my life. I'm just watching it happen.

And I know I'm sabotaging myself, but I don't understand why I keep doing it.

I also have some health issues that make everything feel harder.

There have been moments when I thought about dying, but I don't actually want my life to end.

I want to live.

I want to become independent. I want to get a job, support my family, travel, learn new things, and experience the life I've spent so much time imagining.

Most of all, I want to make my mother proud.

She has sacrificed so much for me. She worked, spent her savings, took loans, and gave me opportunities because she believed I could become something.

I know she still believes in me, and sometimes that makes me feel even worse because I feel like I'm letting her down.

I don't want to wait until it's too late.

What scares me most is that I've already spent years telling myself that I'll change. I remember thinking that if I didn't change, I'd wake up at 26 full of regret.

Now I'm 26.

And I'm scared that if I don't do something, I'll wake up at 30 or 35 with even more regret.

I'm not looking for sympathy or empty motivation.

I just genuinely want to know how to get out of this.

Has anyone experienced something similar?

Does this sound like anxiety, depression, ADHD, social anxiety, avoidance, low self-esteem, or something else?

More importantly, how do you finally break a pattern when you've wanted to change for years but still can't seem to take the first step?

I don't want another year to pass like this.

I want to wake up one day and feel like I'm finally living instead of watching my life pass by.

I want to be able to do normal things without fear controlling me.

I want to work. I want to learn. I want to build something. I want to become someone my mother can look at and feel proud of.

I don't want my life to be remembered as the years I spent hiding in my room, afraid to start.

I still have dreams.

That's probably why this hurts so much.

Because somewhere inside me, I still believe I can become something.

I just don't know how to reach that person anymore.

So when I say "I want to win in this life," I don't mean money, fame, or proving everyone wrong.

I mean I want to win against this fear.

I want to win against the version of me that keeps giving up.

I want to get my life back.

I want to live.

And more than anything, I want to make my mom proud while I still have the chance.

I'm genuinely seeking help. If anyone has experienced something like this and found a way out, I'd really appreciate hearing your story or advice.

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From the outside, it probably looks like I'm just wasting my time, but I don't understand why I keep repeating the same pattern. I genuinely want to change. I've had big dreams since childhood. I want to achieve something, become successful, and make something of my life. But whenever it's time to actually take action, I freeze.

I'm an introvert and I've always had a lot of fears. I want to do things, I imagine myself doing them, and sometimes I feel like I can achieve anything. But when it comes to actually doing them, something inside me stops me.

I lost my father when I was young, and my mother raised my sister and me by herself. She worked incredibly hard, spent her savings, and even took loans to give us opportunities. My parents have taken care of us so much, and my mother still believes I'll build a good future. Sometimes I think about how much she has done for us and that one day she won't be here to take care of us. That should be enough motivation for me to change, but somehow I'm still stuck.

Things started going downhill in high school. My grades got worse, and I couldn't even get a seat in the college I wanted. Somehow, I finished my graduation in 2022.

After graduating, I thought, "Now I need to change my life."

But nothing changed.

2022 passed. Then 2023, 2024, 2025, and now I'm 26. Years have passed, and I'm still almost exactly where I was.

One of my biggest struggles is that I avoid almost everything that makes me anxious.

I can't ride a bike or drive a car. I even bought a bicycle because I genuinely wanted to learn. If you ask me today whether I want to learn, I'll confidently say yes. I'll imagine myself riding and believe I can do it.

But the moment someone actually expects me to ride, my confidence disappears. My heart starts racing, I panic, and I back out.

The same thing happens with almost every important part of my life.

A recent example is Spider-Man: Brand New Day. I really wanted to go on the first day. I kept telling myself I'd go, then thought maybe the next day. Now almost a month has passed, and I still haven't gone.

I don't even know why.

Is it laziness? Fear? Anxiety?

I genuinely don't know. Even while writing this, I'm feeling emotional because I can't understand why something so simple feels so difficult for me.

Going outside can make me anxious. Going to a theatre makes me worry about finding my seat correctly, people looking at me, someone laughing at me, or me doing something embarrassing.

I also worry about needing to use the bathroom when I'm outside and sometimes feel like I might need to go multiple times. I've tried things at home, but then I start thinking it will definitely happen later when I'm outside.

I don't know if it's anxiety, social anxiety, or something else, but it has made normal things extremely difficult for me.

In 2024, my mother enrolled me in technical coaching related to my field. I knew how important it was and how much she had sacrificed for it, but I barely attended. I went for around ten days and then stopped.

I knew I was making a terrible mistake.

I cried about it many times. I promised myself I would change. I knew I was doing wrong by not going.

But I still couldn't make myself go.

That wasn't the first time this happened.

For years I've struggled to take action. I haven't seriously studied, applied for jobs consistently, or built useful skills.

I've bought books because I genuinely wanted to learn. It's been around four years since I started buying some of these books, but I still struggle to get through even ten pages.

I'll buy a book feeling excited, thinking, "This time I'll finally learn something," and then I won't even open it.

The same thing happens with TV shows, movies, hobbies, and interests. I'll watch two episodes, become obsessed with a character, put that character as my wallpaper, and then somehow stop watching the show.

My interests are also all over the place.

One day I'll become obsessed with football and spend hours watching matches, learning about players, tactics, and everything about the sport. The next day it might be Cristiano Ronaldo or another football star. Then suddenly it's the NBA. Then baseball. Then MotoGP. Then filmmaking.

I'll feel like I want to learn everything about it. Sometimes I'll even imagine making a life out of it.

I can become deeply interested in something for a few days, sometimes longer, and then suddenly lose interest and move on to something completely different.

I've been doing this for years. I don't know why I can become so excited about something but struggle so much to actually stick with it.

Sometimes I think I'm lazy or negligent. Other times I wonder if it's anxiety, depression, ADHD, social anxiety, avoidance, extremely low self-esteem, or something else.

I honestly don't know anymore.

The hardest part is that I know I'm doing something wrong.

I know I'm wasting time.

I know I'm avoiding things.

I know I'm hurting my own future.

But knowing all of that doesn't seem to make me capable of changing.

I don't even have some major bad habit that I can blame everything on.

I'm just stuck.

And being stuck like this for years feels like hell.

I've also faced a lot of humiliation.

Some relatives don't talk to me anymore. My friends make jokes about me. People compare me with younger people who already have jobs. People have called me useless, laughed because I can't ride a bike or drive, and treated me like a burden.

I've heard things like, "You won't even touch my salary in your lifetime."

One relative even said that if my father were alive today, he would be heartbroken and disappointed to see where I am in life.

That comment stayed with me for a long time.

It hurts deeply when people say these things.

But the strange thing is that humiliation doesn't change me.

It hurts. I cry. I promise myself I'll change.

And then, after some time, I'm back in the same cycle.

I also spend a lot of time imagining a different version of my life.

Sometimes I imagine becoming a successful football player. Sometimes a respected filmmaker. Sometimes I imagine building an incredible career from nothing.

In those moments, I genuinely feel capable of achieving great things.

I have big dreams.

But when I have to take a real step toward any goal, that confidence disappears.

It's like I can imagine the person I want to become, but I can't take the first step toward becoming him.

I've wanted to achieve something big for years.

I want to become successful.

I want to win in life.

But I'm sitting in my room watching the years pass.

Sometimes it feels like I'm not even living my life. I'm just watching it happen.

And I know I'm sabotaging myself, but I don't understand why I keep doing it.

I also have some health issues that make everything feel harder.

There have been moments when I thought about dying, but I don't actually want my life to end.

I want to live.

I want to become independent. I want to get a job, support my family, travel, learn new things, and experience the life I've spent so much time imagining.

Most of all, I want to make my mother proud.

She has sacrificed so much for me. She worked, spent her savings, took loans, and gave me opportunities because she believed I could become something.

I know she still believes in me, and sometimes that makes me feel even worse because I feel like I'm letting her down.

I don't want to wait until it's too late.

What scares me most is that I've already spent years telling myself that I'll change. I remember thinking that if I didn't change, I'd wake up at 26 full of regret.

Now I'm 26.

And I'm scared that if I don't do something, I'll wake up at 30 or 35 with even more regret.

I'm not looking for sympathy or empty motivation.

I just genuinely want to know how to get out of this.

Has anyone experienced something similar?

Does this sound like anxiety, depression, ADHD, social anxiety, avoidance, low self-esteem, or something else?

More importantly, how do you finally break a pattern when you've wanted to change for years but still can't seem to take the first step?

I don't want another year to pass like this.

I want to wake up one day and feel like I'm finally living instead of watching my life pass by.

I want to be able to do normal things without fear controlling me.

I want to work. I want to learn. I want to build something. I want to become someone my mother can look at and feel proud of.

I don't want my life to be remembered as the years I spent hiding in my room, afraid to start.

I still have dreams.

That's probably why this hurts so much.

Because somewhere inside me, I still believe I can become something.

I just don't know how to reach that person anymore.

So when I say "I want to win in this life," I don't mean money, fame, or proving everyone wrong.

I mean I want to win against this fear.

I want to win against the version of me that keeps giving up.

I want to get my life back.

I want to live.

And more than anything, I want to make my mom proud while I still have the chance.

I'm honestly looking for help and advice from anyone who has been through something similar. I don't know how to get myself out of this anymore, and I really want to change.

From the outside, it probably looks like I'm just wasting my time, but I don't understand why I keep repeating the same pattern. I genuinely want to change. I've had big dreams since childhood. I want to achieve something, become successful, and make something of my life. But whenever it's time to actually take action, I freeze.

I'm an introvert and I've always had a lot of fears. I want to do things, I imagine myself doing them, and sometimes I feel like I can achieve anything. But when it comes to actually doing them, something inside me stops me.

I lost my father when I was young, and my mother raised my sister and me by herself. She worked incredibly hard, spent her savings, and even took loans to give us opportunities. My parents have taken care of us so much, and my mother still believes I'll build a good future. Sometimes I think about how much she has done for us and that one day she won't be here to take care of us. That should be enough motivation for me to change, but somehow I'm still stuck.

Things started going downhill in high school. My grades got worse, and I couldn't even get a seat in the college I wanted. Somehow, I finished my graduation in 2022.

After graduating, I thought, "Now I need to change my life."

But nothing changed.

2022 passed. Then 2023, 2024, 2025, and now I'm 26. Years have passed, and I'm still almost exactly where I was.

One of my biggest struggles is that I avoid almost everything that makes me anxious.

I can't ride a bike or drive a car. I even bought a bicycle because I genuinely wanted to learn. If you ask me today whether I want to learn, I'll confidently say yes. I'll imagine myself riding and believe I can do it.

But the moment someone actually expects me to ride, my confidence disappears. My heart starts racing, I panic, and I back out.

The same thing happens with almost every important part of my life.

A recent example is Spider-Man: Brand New Day. I really wanted to go on the first day. I kept telling myself I'd go, then thought maybe the next day. Now almost a month has passed, and I still haven't gone.

I don't even know why.

Is it laziness? Fear? Anxiety?

I genuinely don't know. Even while writing this, I'm feeling emotional because I can't understand why something so simple feels so difficult for me.

Going outside can make me anxious. Going to a theatre makes me worry about finding my seat correctly, people looking at me, someone laughing at me, or me doing something embarrassing.

I also worry about needing to use the bathroom when I'm outside and sometimes feel like I might need to go multiple times. I've tried things at home, but then I start thinking it will definitely happen later when I'm outside.

I don't know if it's anxiety, social anxiety, or something else, but it has made normal things extremely difficult for me.

In 2024, my mother enrolled me in technical coaching related to my field. I knew how important it was and how much she had sacrificed for it, but I barely attended. I went for around ten days and then stopped.

I knew I was making a terrible mistake.

I cried about it many times. I promised myself I would change. I knew I was doing wrong by not going.

But I still couldn't make myself go.

That wasn't the first time this happened.

For years I've struggled to take action. I haven't seriously studied, applied for jobs consistently, or built useful skills.

I've bought books because I genuinely wanted to learn. It's been around four years since I started buying some of these books, but I still struggle to get through even ten pages.

I'll buy a book feeling excited, thinking, "This time I'll finally learn something," and then I won't even open it.

The same thing happens with TV shows, movies, hobbies, and interests. I'll watch two episodes, become obsessed with a character, put that character as my wallpaper, and then somehow stop watching the show.

My interests are also all over the place.

One day I'll become obsessed with football and spend hours watching matches, learning about players, tactics, and everything about the sport. The next day it might be Cristiano Ronaldo or another football star. Then suddenly it's the NBA. Then baseball. Then MotoGP. Then filmmaking.

I'll feel like I want to learn everything about it. Sometimes I'll even imagine making a life out of it.

I can become deeply interested in something for a few days, sometimes longer, and then suddenly lose interest and move on to something completely different.

I've been doing this for years. I don't know why I can become so excited about something but struggle so much to actually stick with it.

Sometimes I think I'm lazy or negligent. Other times I wonder if it's anxiety, depression, ADHD, social anxiety, avoidance, extremely low self-esteem, or something else.

I honestly don't know anymore.

The hardest part is that I know I'm doing something wrong.

I know I'm wasting time.

I know I'm avoiding things.

I know I'm hurting my own future.

But knowing all of that doesn't seem to make me capable of changing.

I don't even have some major bad habit that I can blame everything on.

I'm just stuck.

And being stuck like this for years feels like hell.

I've also faced a lot of humiliation.

Some relatives don't talk to me anymore. My friends make jokes about me. People compare me with younger people who already have jobs. People have called me useless, laughed because I can't ride a bike or drive, and treated me like a burden.

I've heard things like, "You won't even touch my salary in your lifetime."

One relative even said that if my father were alive today, he would be heartbroken and disappointed to see where I am in life.

That comment stayed with me for a long time.

It hurts deeply when people say these things.

But the strange thing is that humiliation doesn't change me.

It hurts. I cry. I promise myself I'll change.

And then, after some time, I'm back in the same cycle.

I also spend a lot of time imagining a different version of my life.

Sometimes I imagine becoming a successful football player. Sometimes a respected filmmaker. Sometimes I imagine building an incredible career from nothing.

In those moments, I genuinely feel capable of achieving great things.

I have big dreams.

But when I have to take a real step toward any goal, that confidence disappears.

It's like I can imagine the person I want to become, but I can't take the first step toward becoming him.

I've wanted to achieve something big for years.

I want to become successful.

I want to win in life.

But I'm sitting in my room watching the years pass.

Sometimes it feels like I'm not even living my life. I'm just watching it happen.

And I know I'm sabotaging myself, but I don't understand why I keep doing it.

I also have some health issues that make everything feel harder.

There have been moments when I thought about dying, but I don't actually want my life to end.

I want to live.

I want to become independent. I want to get a job, support my family, travel, learn new things, and experience the life I've spent so much time imagining.

Most of all, I want to make my mother proud.

She has sacrificed so much for me. She worked, spent her savings, took loans, and gave me opportunities because she believed I could become something.

I know she still believes in me, and sometimes that makes me feel even worse because I feel like I'm letting her down.

I don't want to wait until it's too late.

What scares me most is that I've already spent years telling myself that I'll change. I remember thinking that if I didn't change, I'd wake up at 26 full of regret.

Now I'm 26.

And I'm scared that if I don't do something, I'll wake up at 30 or 35 with even more regret.

I'm not looking for sympathy or empty motivation.

I just genuinely want to know how to get out of this.

Has anyone experienced something similar?

Does this sound like anxiety, depression, ADHD, social anxiety, avoidance, low self-esteem, or something else?

More importantly, how do you finally break a pattern when you've wanted to change for years but still can't seem to take the first step?

I don't want another year to pass like this.

I want to wake up one day and feel like I'm finally living instead of watching my life pass by.

I want to be able to do normal things without fear controlling me.

I want to work. I want to learn. I want to build something. I want to become someone my mother can look at and feel proud of.

I don't want my life to be remembered as the years I spent hiding in my room, afraid to start.

I still have dreams.

That's probably why this hurts so much.

Because somewhere inside me, I still believe I can become something.

I just don't know how to reach that person anymore.

So when I say "I want to win in this life," I don't mean money, fame, or proving everyone wrong.

I mean I want to win against this fear.

I want to win against the version of me that keeps giving up.

I want to get my life back.

I want to live.

And more than anything, I want to make my mom proud while I still have the chance.

I'm honestly looking for help and advice from anyone who has been through something similar. I don't know how to get myself out of this anymore, and I really want to change.

I’m new to boxing and just want to know who do you think is the most motivational boxer?
Not just in the ring, but someone who can inspire us and push us in life, because boxing is a sport of life.

Hey guys, I’m 26 and currently jobless. I completed my M.Tech in 2024 and I’m trying to get into VLSI Physical Design.

I had taken coaching for VLSI around a year ago, but honestly, I wasn’t able to make much progress and I’ve forgotten a lot of things. I’ve been struggling with career and job-related stuff, but now I’ve decided that I’m willing to put in whatever hard work is needed and seriously build a career in VLSI PD.

I want to start again from absolute basics and build myself properly, instead of just watching random YouTube videos or jumping between topics.

Please suggest me:

• If I’m starting from zero again, what should I study first and in what order?
• What are the main books I should follow for Digital, CMOS, Physical Design, STA, etc.?
• Which books/resources are actually worth spending time on, and which ones can I skip?
• Are there any good free or paid resources/courses that can take me from basics to an industry-level understanding?
• How deeply should I learn things like Digital Electronics, CMOS, MOSFETs, VLSI basics, STA, Linux**,** Tcl, scripting, etc**.** for a PD role?
• What technical topics should I make absolutely sure I don’t miss?
• If you had to start learning VLSI PD from scratch today, what exact resources/books would you use?

My main goal is that if an opportunity comes tomorrow, I should be prepared enough to actually clear the interview and do the job.

I know I’m late and I have a lot of catching up to do, but I’m genuinely ready to give this everything I have.

If anyone here is working in VLSI PD or has gone through a similar journey, please tell me what you would learn if you had to start again from zero.

Please guide me. I really need some direction.

So basically I’m new to UFC and wanted to get into it properly as a fan. I used to know UFC mainly because of Conor McGregor back in the day, but haven’t really followed it much since.

Recently started watching again and bhai I’m so confused .I don’t even know who all the important fighters are, which divisions matter, who is fighting who, what rivalries are going on etc.

Also one thing I don’t understand is this whole matchup thing. Like I saw Topuria beat Holloway, Holloway beat Gaethje, and then you see people comparing all these fighters and their wins/losses. I understand MMA isn’t exactly “A beat B, so A automatically beats everyone B beat”, but still I have no idea how to understand who is actually good and where everyone stands.

So for someone getting into UFC in 2026, what should I know? Which fighters/divisions/fights should I watch to get up to speed?

Hey everyone, I’m working on a project about Kanye and how his influence goes beyond just music. I want to show how he has inspired people in different fields not only singers or musicians, but also people interested in fashion, design, art, business, creativity, and just pursuing their own vision.

I’m mainly looking for really inspiring and motivational Kanye content like quotes, interview moments, speeches, song lines, clips,edits, etc.

If there’s a Kanye moment that genuinely motivated you, changed the way you think, or made you want to chase your goals and believe in yourself, please share it!

I’d really appreciate any recommendations 🙏