u/Alarmed_Swan_4315

So as it says on the tin, I paid off all my debt and tbh it's hard to put into words since I can feel the stress up to my eyeballs but I think it'll fade since I've been dealing with this for over a year now so my body has been locked into survival mode for over a year so the release of the stress will come soon

Strangely enough, I didn't feel this amount of stress when I was in the process of paying it off but after the law firm confirmed that the client has received the final payment and they will start the process of closing the case fully that I feel this huge crash of stress landing on me

but besides that, while I was paying my debt off, I was slowly building up a small amount of savings so with that debt gone I can finally put more of my paycheck into that savings account I had setup but damn, the emotional crash is HEAVY but it's a good thing I feel

I would share the amount that I owed but I don't think it's allowed on here but I will say that I had owed money to two (now former) friends who I paid back first then the one that I just paid off a few days ago which was a company that had engaged a law firm which adding everything all, the amount of money I owed was within the lower to mid range of 4 figures which I paid it all off within a year which is tbh very mind blowing to me

like if I could work and pay off that amount of money within a year, what the hell was I doing with my life but anyway I'm out and free, finally!!

hello so I'm thinking about getting a whiteboard to hang it up near my door since my room is quite small and it helps me keep track of things that I should do and so on, I also wanna get one of those magnetic hooks to hang my keys on it but I also want a way to keep my loose change since my wallet can't hold a lot of coins

I'm thinking of getting a coin holder with a magnet to stick onto the whiteboard or a little box to keep it all in it and just put it on the tray attached to the whiteboard and just write how much money there is in it on the board, what do you think?

It'll be like a little grab and go spot where I can just grab all my stuff and head out and while I get home, I can just unload my keys, coins and everything in that spot

Do you guys know any singaporean VAs in video games? I was doing a replay of sleeping dogs after a long time and I never knew that the character Sonny Wo in the game is voiced by a singaporean actor and in the game is stated to be from Singapore. I never knew why this never clicked with me since almost all of the characters spoke with a hong Konger accent and I have a poor ear differentiating asian/Chinese based English accents unless it's very obvious

Been trying to stay off Instagram for a bit due to some recent stuff I've seen on there. I mostly use Instagram for keeping up with family, passively finding music through reels and keeping up with news from local and international orgs that I follow

I'm planning to get an FM radio for passive music finds and for local news but anything else?

I applied for a pt job while waiting for poly and they got back to me this morning around 9am and this is a mistake on my part since I was sleeping when they called me and I verbally agreed to a lower salary because I was sleepy at the time. They didn't low ball me but just offered the base salary per hour

It's a weird thing tbh, we haven't spoken since the start of this month and I noticed that my following count on my Instagram is down by one and she's not on my follower's list anymore but I'm not blocked for some reason. We handled the breakup as maturely as we both can be, we weren't each other's first but we dated like we were

It was fun but we had disagreements and we broke it off after 2 years of knowing each other. I still got her other contacts like on different social media but I don't want to send her anything. I wish her the best and I hope she finds someone who has what she wants even though she didn't find it with me

Enough of being sappy hahah well I find it a bit weird that I can move on faster than my previous relationship which took me 2 years to move on but for this, the breakup was over 2 months ago and I'd say about 2/3 of the lingering feelings have been let go. I don't wanna sound like a dick for moving on so fast but I think I am moving on and the last text she dropped, implied that she had moved on too

so this happened last year and nothing has came off it so I wanna just clear it from my head.

So this former friend of mine which I'll call james for the sake of privacy, james has always been a bit critical to people who are overweight since he was a former fat kid himself and he tends to use the tough love approach to people who are overweight. Now I've gained a bit of weight and I don't really mind him always bringing up my weight, fyi I'm around 71-72kg at 170cm but I maintain a more strong fat appearance due to my work and hobbies I do

Now I don't really mind him poking fun at my weight and I pretty much embrace my weight since I won't pretend to be seen as healthy or fit the beauty standards of where I'm from. One day I invited james and a couple other friends to my place to binge some movies together and when my friends reached my place, my sister wanted to join us in our movie binge and when james saw my sister, I saw this smug look on his face and it kinda rubbed me the wrong way

Now james went on to talk about my sister's weight (mind you, my sister isn't overweight, in fact she borders more on being underweight), I told him to drop it but he stopped for a while but later started talking about her again which made my two other friends tell him to shut up and he said this line that made me lost it and it was him trying to encourge her to pick up a very unhealthy weight loss method

And I completely lost it and told him to get out, he still kept on going about it and I know this is wrong but I ended up smacking him on the side of his head and he claimed to have briefly lost his hearing in his right ear and later said that I had overreacted and that he was simply "saying it as it is"

now it's been a year and I can't get over it, I hate the feeling of getting physical and hitting someone but I shouldn't have lost it in the first place. I didn't make a police report nor did james as far as I know since we have a cctv camera in the living room of my place where it happened and it was sort of sweep under the carpet and all of the mutual friends had cut james off after hearing about what happened

I've hit the one week mark and developed some flu like symptoms, I've been drinking plently of water and taking otc paracetamol (2 tablets, 2 to 3 times a day) and getting some fresh air

Anything else that can help me get through this?

hello this is my first post on here haha so this happened in 2025 so last year and it was within my friend group of 4 people and btw all names have been changed so there is no personal names or anything here

Some background:

Our friend group consist of me, Andy, James and john. All of us the same age and met in trade school in 2021 after our highschool education. The 'bully' within the friend group is Andy and he had a huge ego boost after he had lost some weight which the rest of us really cheered him on for, we even treated him to a really nice meal at a upscaled restaurant as a congratulations for him hitting his weight goal.

Now after the weight loss, he got very aggressive when things don't go his way and sometimes he would resort to feinting hits or grabbing collars or even shoving one of us into walls or other people in public, he would also say a bunch of stuff which would really tip us off about how he saw women and other men. We later pieced together that he was (as much as I hate to use this word online, it's the only word I can describle him) fragile about his masculinity, it was an elephant in the room that we tried to ignore as much as possible and it was a "we looked at each other and gave a nod" kinda thing and we would try as much as we can to help him with it without directly addressing it.

Now all of us knew that our group wouldn't last very long due to our country having mandatory military service and that we'll meet new people while we were serving and this group would disband and we'll go our separate ways in life

Now time for the event that ended our friend group prematurely, the main story starts here:

It was in 2025 at least 6 months before we get our enlistment notice, we were having ramen at a casual ramen restaurant. We were talking about what branch of the military we would enter and we gave the usual and often exaggerated answers to each other as a joke and the ramen were served to us. Andy for some reason, thought it was funny to shove john's face into the very obvious pipping hot bowl of ramen and when he did, it wasn't very funny afterwards.

John ended up with slight burns on his eyelids and parts of his forehead and when all of us freaked out over what just happened and Andy looked at us and said "it's a joke guys, cheer up" and told john to "walk it off since it was steam that got into your eyes". Me and james got pretty angry about it and we yelled at him to get lost and that we didn't want him around anymore. We didn't finish the ramen (sadly) and we got John to the hospital.

It was pretty quiet in the gc for a few days and Andy dropped a text saying that he will foot the bill for john's burns and when he did, and he actually said this btw "all's forgiven right? Paid and forgotten right?", I got really angry when I read that text and I just booted him from the gc.

Both me and james would visit john uptill we entered the military. Last I heard from some mutual friends, Andy was bullied and isolated in his section for the usual stuff he pulled like feinting hits and stuff, he even pointed a loaded rifle at someone who jokingly implied that he couldn't get a girlfriend and he faced some disciplinary action is what I was told so who knows what happened with him and tbh I don't care much about what happened since I've moved on from it all.

my mom always nags at me whenever I get iced teh or milo beng to have with my food and she will wag her finger at me and say "when you grow old you will know, don't say I never tell you" or in hokkien "drink cold, eat hot, say also no use"

When I mean by lying, I mean white lies and I wouldn't under any circumstances tell an actual lie but to me, a white lie is still a lie

I've always gotten into the habit of telling white lies like when someone texts me and ask me where I am, I'll say that I'm at the city centre while I'm actually at the waterfront by the ocean or when my mom asks me if I've hung out the laundry I'll say I have but in actuality I haven't and I quickly go hang it out before she comes home. These sorts of lies with a few times that I would embellishing part of my personal experience for jokes by adding a few extra details

I know that these aren't very good examples but I absolutely hate myself for doing that, I wouldn't lie to get myself out of actual trouble like at work or something else as I feel that if I have done something actually wrong I will own up to it but these little white lies are quite literally making me feel bad

hello!! is there much of a difference between going to imm at JE than jb for shoes? I'm looking to buy a pair of shoes most likely something on the formal side but I'll take what I can since it's just for work and it's pretty casual there, I spoke to a family member about it and they said to just go to jb for them instead of going imm. I'm learning more towards imm since things tend to be on sale a lot there and there's a bata there

btw if you guys think jb is better, do let me know which mall since iirc city square at jb is still under reno

This happened to my friend before I met him and we were talking about bad bosses to pass time so I'll keep it brief. So my friend worked as an intern at this company for 6 months and had to take 4 days of no pay leave due to compassionate reason but since it's within his probationary period, he accepted to just take no pay leave and he left the company once his contract was up but nearly a year later, the HR contacted him to ask him to pay up for "Lost profits" which according to him was nearly 1/3 of his salary as an intern at the time

He told the HR that his pay for the month he took no pay leave was prorated and already deducted from his salary, to cut to the chase, he didn't pay up and said he has no obligations to that company since his contract was already up and it's been nearly a year, he blocked the HR and nothing came of it

It's illegal right? I haven't heard of any company doing this and my friend didn't breach the contract by damaging company property or poaching employees or anything, he simply took no pay leave and it was an fnb role I think

a bit of a dilemma, I just put in my 3 calendar day notice on thur last week on a contract/temp job with a recruitment agency, I've texted the recruiter last week on where I should give back the keycard but still no reply and even texted them this morning but no reply. I still got the keycard and I'm not sure whether I should mail it to the recruitment agency or the client company

edit: Just to add, I told my supervisor at work on where to return the keycard and they said to ask the recruiter

Also wanna add that I have no contact with the hr of the client company, just my supervisor and the recruiter at the agency

I gotta make this clear, my dad is alive, he is still in my life and he is NOT dead

I often tell people that my dad is my hero and role model but I prefer to tell people the version of him that I have in my head. When I was a kid, he was someone who tried to be as active in my upbringing as possible, him having declared bankruptcy when his business failed around the time I was born meant that he was always working odd job to improve our social economic situation, I grew up in a room in an apartment that my dad had rented from his friend and no matter what he always came home with a smile and I remember when I heard the door being unlocked, I run towards it to hug him

He'd always try to take me and my sister out as much as possible when we didn't have school, to the playground to teach us how to ride a bicycle, to fun fairs, take us swimming and the such. Fast forward a couple years and my dad managed to buy a bigger apartment in a newly renovated neighborhood and this is when the version of my dad which I looked up slowly became someone who was weighted down by the decades of hard labor and a wife who has very frequent mood swings has changed him

I'm much older, I'm 22 this year and my father is 62. I'm sorry if this post is a bit bleak but I just wanna ask if you guys have a more naive view of who your dads are since my dad right now is an entirely different person, he has always said "don't be like me, study hard and get an office job"

I wanna say this first that I am not hating on dan, I just wanna get some updates on him since I stopped watching him around 2016-2017 because my parents wanted me to focus more on my studies. I'm an older fan, used to watch a lot of his minecraft mod reviews as a lot of kids during that time did and his gameplay of other games like skylanders, spore, that one stakeboarding game which I can't remember the name of and a lot of other games, I even remember seeing a video of him getting a cast removed after I think he tripped or something and smacked his hand on his table in his kitchen

okay so to the point, since I haven't watched him in quite literally a decade now and besides the whole lunchly drama with ksi which I think he came out as the better one, was there ever any other big updates on him? Btw the only drama I could think of besides the one I mentioned above is when he swore in his earlier videos, calling a dog in minecraft a crazy son of a bitch but it wasn't a big deal to me at least

I was recently hired as a temp worker at a warehouse and tbh a lot of stuff happened and it kinda pisses me off since today was supposed to be my second day but I couldn't go in since a family member entered the icu and I did text the supervisor yesterday whose number I didn't have and wasn't even listed in the contract until I asked for it from a colleague before work ended

so I texted him after work since I got the message that a family member had entred the icu around the same time, I told him that I couldn't go into work tomorrow and he just sent laughing emojis and when I told the recruiter about it, he ghosted me. So this morning, I got a message from the supervisor asking where I am and why I'm not at work and I told him about the message I had sent him yesterdat and he just said "OK" added on "you should have informed the recruitment agent and me before you started working"

Oh yeah sure sure, inform you guys like I can predict the future about my very own family member entering the hospital when they were perfectly alright. Tbh I knew something was up since on my first day, there wasn't any onboarding while my colleagues said I was supposed to have and when I first reached the location, I waited in the lobby for over one and half hour for someone to get me while constantly being told by the front desk to keep waiting

I already felt like quitting but if I don't put in my 3 day notice, I'll need to forfeit my pay which tbh I don't even care about that but somehow if I wanna quit early and cancel the contract I would need supporting documents for it and without it I would need to pay a panelty

edit: I know that it's my second day of work and it does look bad especially to a supervisor since someone like me not coming to work on the second day is a red flag but he didn't need to be that big of an asshole about it especially when someone's family is quite literally in the icu and he replied with laughing emojis

I was hired as a contingent worker for a medical manufacturing company and yesterday was my my first day of work but I can't help but to think that it was very weird day. So I'll just list them down

• was told to wait in the lobby which turn out to be over an hour before anyone came to get me
• The person who eventually came to get me was not the assigned manager I was told to report to but a senior technician with a similar name who manages for the manager who is almost never seen
• Received my keycard and locker, the safety boots which were supposedly already prepared for me when I gave them my size last month but was never ordered and was told to just do the work without them
• Was not given the standard, mandatory onboarding and tour of the bulding that I was told all new hires and even contingent workers were supposed to get
• Was just told that I wouldn't be paid for the first day of work since the clock in system didn't have my name in it yet

So according to my colleagues in the department, I was supposed be given a tour of area and onboarding which they said it was very weird and out of place for someone like me to not go through one but my colleagues were really nice and went out of their way to improv most of what the onboarding would be and even gave me a tour of the building that I was supposed to have but still said that there was still a lot that only management could do

They even messaged the senior technician and they never got an answer. Strangely the agent at recruitment agency I got the job through didn't even have a line of contact to the manager. A couple of other contingent workers I spoke to said they never got an onboarding either and was just thrown into work without any training but they are in a different department than me

but there is a kicker which is if I were to leave without valid supporting documents I would need to pay a 200 dollar penalty even if I did serve my 3 day notice