u/Alarmed_Swan_4315

long story short, I used to cook professionally in hotels and restaurants even studied cooking formally but after working in the industry for years, I've lost passion for it

I've tried cooking for family but they don't like my cooking, I come from a chinese family so they aren't very open to western food or even other asian foods (chinese food from other provinces, japanese, korean, indian etc etc) they tend to see cooking as a pita and don't cook a lot at home and sometimes see it as a waste of time

How do I reignite the passion again? I know that I won't be cooking for my family but I need a hobby to keep me from rotting in bed and some healthy food

I have a friend who currently works in f&b as a cook and he always complains about how he isn't working enough and how he needs more money for his investments which is ilp, horrible investment I know, I've tried to talk him out of it but he won't listen

Just a couple days ago, I told him to just quit f&b altogether and I'm willing to set him up with a job at my workplace but he refuses, saying that "a man must suffer to make it big" and how he is going to get a part time job to make ends make for his investment. I've tried talking to him but he just outright won't listen, he will say that he must suffer for success and that if he must take up more jobs for his investments to make it big

He works 11 hours a day 4 days a week, as far as I know his family isn't in debt or anything, I just hate that he keeps bitching about his work and how his social life is ruined but refuses to change, is this a lost cause?

My mom has the habit of saying "You'll know once you get older" whenever I do something that she doesn't like, drinking tea, not working enough or even drinking cold stuff. She has this habit of marching into my room and telling me how to organise it and then say tells me to figure it out myself

She will go into mood swings then complain about how I don't tell her anything and ask me where is my family values and she is being as kind as I deserve, yeah right sure

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I recently told my mom that the mattress she got me 3 years ago is too soft and is now costing me back problems and spine alignment issues. She ended up calling me stupid and saying that it's not possible for a mattress to be too soft

My old mattress was a 7 or 6 firmness, this one feels more like a 4 or 5

I cut off a friend after realising that him being rough was just him being abusive

Firstly his frequent headsmacking is annoying, he would go all in and smack the back of my head and when I point it out, he said it was to "teach me respect" bro you're only like 2 months older than me, what respect is there to teach?

Secondly, he tried to suffocate me with a pillow when I was sleeping to wake me up. We were overseas and we haven't slept in 2 days now so he and I agreed that we'll wake up a bit later. Just about 2 to 3 hours in, he grabbed a pillow, put it on top of my face then sat on it. When I managed to throw him off me, his reasoning for doing it was "a real man shouldn't let his guard down when sleeping"

So I cut him off over text and he started saying that we were brothers and how what he did was for my wellbeing and so on. I said no and blocked him

I come from a traditional Chinese family and my mom is the unofficial matriarch of the family and I told her about my schizophrenia and why I was unable to get a job for the last 2 years and I was trying to stabilise myself which I did, I managed to get stable enough to get a job and I'm much better

The first thing that she said was "sleep it off" and it kinda downplayed my recovery but I thought it was just something that she'd said since she isn't very open to mental health especially men's mental health

When she came back from work the next day, the first thing she did was to nag at me saying how I should have slept more or the reason why I got schizophrenia is because I don't air out my room (very weird I know)

Then saying that she will call my aunt and my cousin to talk some sense into me, to try and get me to stop taking my meds and to stop going to the psychiatric hospital

And she ended it off with "this is why your ex girlfriend died, you need to suffer more to become a proper man" and ngl that stung me a bit

But I'm not angry at all tbh my dad was more understanding, he's the man of the house and usually holds more authority than my mom. He just asked me how I've been and if I need money I can ask him for some

It's an odd pairing, my mom thinks she knows everything but my dad is smart enough to know that he doesn't know everything

I need some advice here, so I'm in singapore which is sort of a city port for stuff coming in and out from asia to middle east and beyond. I'm currently 22m, pivoting over from culinary, I currently have a job as a packer but my contract ends this month and I'm looking for another job

Anyway, I've applied for an admin job which is just answering questions from customers on shipments, preping paperwork and coordinating pickups and delivery. Trying to see if I like working in this industry before I actually decide going to school for a diploma before moving on to getting a part time degree for it

Currently I have no certifications or paper qualifications for this industry so yeah

I'm not looking to make piles of dough, just looking for a stable job and hopefully work life balance but from what I've read, probably not

I recently noticed this about myself but when I speak in mandarin (native) my voice is deeper but softer sounding (I have a southern accent in mandarin) while in english (fluent) my voice is higher but sharper, in most of the bits of other languages that I speak, my voice is deeper for some reason

And for some reason, I have a slight lisp when speaking english but not in mandarin

My parents are both 62 and 56 respectively and my mom has always said that I must take care of them when they get older and she's always framed it as "我们养你，你一定要养我们“ but my dad has told me to not worry about him and to build myself. said that my 20s is the formative years of my life, I should go to school, get a job etc etc.

but my mom has always rebutted what my dad said, saying I must give up my 20s and 30s to care for them but the irony is that my mom doesn't even bother to care for my grandma (her mom) instead throwing her off to a nursing house and refusing to visit her despite my mom being the favourite child of hers

I want to follow what my dad told me because like he said, my 20s is the most productive/formative years of my life and I shouldn't be held back by my parents, I know that my parents are able to take care of themselves but my mom keeps insist that I must take care of them but that doesn't apply to my younger sister because my mom brings up the fact that back in the day, the eldest child stays back gives up their 20s to take care of the parents no matter what

I'm 21 now and I just feel like I got a lot going now right now and now my mom just spring this onto me

I take amisulpride and recently I've developed trouble sleeping, I'm currently only take 200mg which is quite low for a dosage, I've been taking 200mg for a while now about 4 months now, any help?

My gf's little brother is 7 and I just met him today, the first thing called me was "big and broad" my body is strong and sturdy from what my gf's dad said

I've always struggled with my body since I'm a stocky body type, I'm strong but short while the common body type is big and strong like 180cm tall but I'm 170cm tall and being called big by my gf's little brother really helped my self image. 170cm is pretty below average height for people from my country

I know that he'll probably grow to be taller than me, his dad is like 6 feet tall so he'll grow to be taller but I'm happy

For about 3 years now I've been having back problems and had trouble sleeping but it started around the time I got a new mattress, my mom bought it for me and I thought that the mattress was too soft but I thought that it didn't mattered

I can't remember where or when the pain started but it surely can't be from work, I work in a warehouse, I'm mostly on my feet and my back is mostly straight throughout the work day and my back has become quite stiff that if I bend over it hurts a bit but it gives some relief

I know that 3 years is a bit of a "oh shit that long to make you realise?" But I'm just checking and well yeah it did take me that long to realise

Edit: tldr, mattress feels soft, developed back pain and insomnia and a stiff back, should I get a new harder mattress or go see a doctor

hello this is my first time posting in this subreddit (not sure if this is the right subreddit) but I am asking if anyone has recovered from brief psychotic disorder? I was diagnosed with it 2 years ago and I've had some up and downs so I want to ask if anyone has recovered and if someone could tell me what the timeline is

I'm almost there I think, I am able to work part time since november last year but I've slowly been calling out of work and feeling quite depressive and not much will to work despite the months prior I am able to work quite well. I thought I was going back into remission but I'm not, I even had my meds (amisulpride, swapped over from risperidone) reduced a couple months back and I am planning to taper off my meds once I'm doing well but I need to talk to my doctor about it

so far as of typing this post, I'm doing alright, no signs of anything but it could change since I'm going through mood swings easily but I think it'll be resolved when I go for my appointment at the end of this month

I like to think that I'm near the end of the road but who knows right?

So I've had schizophrenia for quite sometime now like about 3 years now and I just told my mom about it and her reply was "sleep it off" as if like it's something you can sleep off

Then the next day (which is today) she woke me and yelled at, saying the reason why I have schizophrenia is because I sleep too much then after she calmed down, she went on to get angry again saying how am I supposed to work like this and told me to sleep it off again

I'mlucky that I'm stable enough to appear normal so I called my doctor to ask her if she could explain what schizophrenia is to my mom. Long story short, during the call, my mom yell over the phone at the doctor, saying that men's mental health isn't a thing and how I just need manual labour to get over it and saying that she'll just beat out of me if needed

so here I am, ngl I ain't even angry or scared, it's normal for her to say things like then not act on it and besides, she hasn't raised her hand against me even since I got bigger and stronger than her so I know that those were just empty words

My part time contract work ends this month and I don't plan on renewing but I am looking to apply for a course in poly next year, the course in question is supply chain managment and my part time job is related to it (packing and sorting) and I wanna keep continuing working in the industry

one of my colleagues told me about wsdip in ite for it and said that I have a higher chance of entering it than poly because my nitec gpa is around 3.2 so I can enjoy it since I have some experience in logistics. So I am considering wsdip now but the main thing is I'm not sure what to do from now till wsdip application opens

I have an overseas trip planning on feb next year so I'm stressing out over what should I do

like should I do part time or should I do full time then quit when my overseas trip comes over and what part of the industry should I work at now since I'm completely clueless and will the added work experience help in my application for wsdip?

i'm sorry if this is a very basic question since I'm switching careers and I'm only 21

Hey I'm looking for people who like to read and enjoy music, a bit about myself I'm 21m, currently working part time and I'm getting my life together after some stuff that happened, am starting to eat clean and trying to get fit

I'll drop some music that I enjoy so anyone who is interested can just comment below and let me know if you wanna be friends and also I have a gf so I'm not interested in dating

It's hard to say in genres so I dont' stick to a specific genre but I like songs from miyavi, duran duran, Falco (New german wave artist), Yakuza/Like a dragon OST, Bonnie and Clyde by Red Leather. I also like jazz and blues rock and more, I don't mind dropping my tidal playlist for you guys to check out

As for books, I again like a wide range of books most of fiction. I like osamu dazai, akutagawa, souseki, I have a habit of buying books and collecting them but not reading them haha BUT I will get through them slowly

Anyway that's all from me, if any of you are interested in being friends then drop a comment below, I might make a tele/discord gc if a lot of people join, any gender/age are welcome and maybe we can even meet up once in a while

I find that whisper of the heart is a film that I really relate to, I think a lot of people can relate to it. The feelings of being an artist, the doubt and troubles of teenage love, the way that kondo created this story that I really relate to

Sometimes, we watch media to escape. Sometimes, to relive memories and I can really feel that I was a kid in high school again but enough of me rumbling, so what films do you think that kondo would have made?

I remember seeing a few sketches by him which I will link here, let me know what you guys think