u/Logicandtea

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رشحوا لي أنواع زينة لأني تعبت كل قارورة أشتريها سواء غالية أو رخيصة يطلع للماي طعم معدن
أبغي شي جودته قوية ويعيش سنين وما يغير طعم الماي

I’ve noticed something odd and I’m wondering if there’s a psychological explanation for it

Sometimes I see a man and get an immediate impression just from his face, before we’ve even spoken that he’s experienced a major disappointment in love and never fully got over it

What’s strange is that when I later learn more about these men, that impression often turns out to be surprisingly accurate

I’m not talking about body language or conversation, just facial appearance Is there any research on people unconsciously picking up emotional history from faces?

I’ve noticed something odd and I’m wondering if there’s a psychological explanation for it

Sometimes I see a man and get an immediate impression just from his face, before we’ve even spoken that he’s experienced a major disappointment in love and never fully got over it

What’s strange is that when I later learn more about these men, that impression often turns out to be surprisingly accurate

I’m not talking about body language or conversation, just facial appearance Is there any research on people unconsciously picking up emotional history from faces?

I’ve noticed something odd and I’m wondering if there’s a psychological explanation for it

Sometimes I see a man and get an immediate impression just from his face, before we’ve even spoken that he’s experienced a major disappointment in love and never fully got over it

What’s strange is that when I later learn more about these men, that impression often turns out to be surprisingly accurate

I’m not talking about body language or conversation, just facial appearance Is there any research on people unconsciously picking up emotional history from faces?

I’ve noticed something odd and I’m wondering if there’s a psychological explanation for it

Sometimes I see a man and get an immediate impression just from his face, before we’ve even spoken that he’s experienced a major disappointment in love and never fully got over it

What’s strange is that when I later learn more about these men, that impression often turns out to be surprisingly accurate

I’m not talking about body language or conversation, just facial appearance Is there any research on people unconsciously picking up emotional history from faces?

Years ago when I was a teenager I met a guy I’ll call Hamad

We had great chemistry from the start and talked every day I had recently left a toxic relationship 🥲🥺so although I liked him I told him I wasn’t emotionally ready for another relationship yet and asked him for time

He was patient kind and clearly interested in me He would reply quickly send me gifts and made a lot of effort to stay in touch We got to know each other for about two months but I still wasn’t ready to commit
Then I made a mistake

Despite telling Hamad I wasn’t ready for a relationship I ended up dating another guy after only knowing him for about a week When Hamad saw it he completely withdrew He stopped reaching out rarely replied and avoided discussing what had happened whenever I asked

The relationship with the other guy only lasted a few weeks He started asking for intimate photos and I later found out he had a history of blackmailing women with those images so I ended things immediately, I wasn’t in the right state of mind for another relationship anyways cause I knew it’d end

Over the years Hamad and I crossed paths a few times Once he spoke negatively about me in front of other people but later called to apologize After that we went years without speaking regularly Occasionally he would message me on holidays or we’d have a brief conversation but every time we talked he would eventually bring up how hurt he was by what happened years ago

What surprised me was that he still had screenshots of our old conversations and even some of my old photos 🫠He told me directly that the reason he walked away was because I told him I wasn’t ready for a relationship only to immediately choose someone else

Now many years later we no longer have any romantic dynamic Our conversations are polite but distant I’ve hinted a few times that I regretted how things happened and wondered if there could ever be another chance he also didn’t date after me and now has a successful business, he is the only child of his family and they’re wealthier compared to us so it’s not like he lacks opportunities.

but he never entertains the idea and keeps things strictly formal

Now it has been 6 years since our situationship but if I were to talk to him today he’d still go back to things I did before, if I were to tell him about the goods I’ve baked this week he’d somehow find a way to go back to the incident , honestly I was a teenager at that time and I didn’t knew better I regret many things I did at that age and even if I were to go back time I don’t think I’d pick to get into relationship with him cause despite the fact I wanted it I wasn’t mentally in a state of good mind to do so. Relationships are responsibilities + I’ve blocked him before but he calls me to unblock him

TL;DR: I told a guy I wasn’t ready to date, then immediately dated someone else. He felt betrayed and cut contact. Six years later he still remembers it, while I regret how I handled things but each time we talk he goes back to the incident

Years ago when I was a teenager I met a guy I’ll call Hamad

We had great chemistry from the start and talked every day I had recently left a toxic relationship 🥲🥺so although I liked him I told him I wasn’t emotionally ready for another relationship yet and asked him for time

He was patient kind and clearly interested in me He would reply quickly send me gifts and made a lot of effort to stay in touch We got to know each other for about two months but I still wasn’t ready to commit
Then I made a mistake

Despite telling Hamad I wasn’t ready for a relationship I ended up dating another guy after only knowing him for about a week When Hamad saw it he completely withdrew He stopped reaching out rarely replied and avoided discussing what had happened whenever I asked

The relationship with the other guy only lasted a few weeks He started asking for intimate photos and I later found out he had a history of blackmailing women with those images so I ended things immediately, I wasn’t in the right state of mind for another relationship anyways cause I knew it’d end

Over the years Hamad and I crossed paths a few times Once he spoke negatively about me in front of other people but later called to apologize After that we went years without speaking regularly Occasionally he would message me on holidays or we’d have a brief conversation but every time we talked he would eventually bring up how hurt he was by what happened years ago

What surprised me was that he still had screenshots of our old conversations and even some of my old photos 🫠He told me directly that the reason he walked away was because I told him I wasn’t ready for a relationship only to immediately choose someone else

Now many years later we no longer have any romantic dynamic Our conversations are polite but distant I’ve hinted a few times that I regretted how things happened and wondered if there could ever be another chance he also didn’t date after me and now has a successful business, he is the only child of his family and they’re wealthier compared to us so it’s not like he lacks opportunities.

but he never entertains the idea and keeps things strictly formal

Now it has been 6 years since our situationship but if I were to talk to him today he’d still go back to things I did before, honestly I was a teenager at that time and I didn’t knew better I regret many things I did at that age and even if I were to go back time I don’t think I’d pick to get into relationship with him cause despite the fact I wanted it I wasn’t mentally in a state of good mind to do so. Relationships are responsibilities

I’ve been dating for the last 8 years of my life constantly in the search of the perfect man

I take my time when it comes to knowing the other person and I don’t precede except if I’m interested and serious

But it’s getting harder to believe people are as serious and genuine as me, my longest relationship was 3 years old and we were the perfect couple

he introduced me to his family ( that is a big deal for us Muslims cause here dating is looked down at and so if someone takes the big step of introducing you that means they’re serious)

However despite a lots of trys our relationship ended but it didn’t end mutually it ended from his side one day out of the blue he says my family won’t accept I’m tired of trying, so we part ways and in beginning it was very difficult for me to adjust to now again being on my own and thus I look into dating other people

But although I’ve met many perfect matches with good chemistry, similarities and humor I find that only when we’re in talking stage everything’s good afterwards the men just start to hint me that they don’t like me for example someone I was getting to know wanted relationship but within a week & he began to call me sister

I feel like I’m being fooled by people who act sincere but aren’t, what are some signs someone is sincere? Well a man

I recall reading the letter al Pacino wrote to michella when he was in Italy ( as far I remember) it was a long letter of longing and sweet words

but then I opened comment section and saw someone say he cheated on her, honestly this has happened many times I see or meet men who seem devotedly loved a women in the extend some spend as long as 9 years in a relationship

or situationship but they don’t commit, alpacino wasted 20 years of that poor women’s life and although he cheated he’d still go back to her, what makes a seemingly devoting man to cheat yet still chose to be together with that women? You could’ve just left her

And many many times I get amazed by a ‘lovely man’ only to find out he cheated on someone.. how common this has became

Depressed if I don’t speak to people?

Something strange I noticed in my self is
if I don’t get attention for a day and
don’t speak to someone then It will affect my whole week

I’m someone who loves to talk and if I don’t I don’t feel at ease, this is such a strange thing it’s like I’ve to be in center of attention all time

and communicating otherwise I can’t accept normal routine or life, what is this feeling? Does anyone else feel the same?

When I talk to someone the more it is the better. Because it genuinely makes me feel happy and alive and I want to do it all day everyday

what causes this?

When it comes to dating I take my time before choosing a partner yet I often attract the same type of man ,kind patient loyal emotionally attached and willing to go out of his way for me

They’re usually not considered conventionally attractive but they have many of the qualities people look for in a husband

What confuses me is how attached they become despite how difficult I can be When my depression gets bad I distance myself I’m avoidant short tempered and sometimes snap at them even when they’ve done nothing wrong

Even when I tell them to leave they stay Some of these situations last 8 months or more and during that time they often become even more attached Despite having plenty of reasons to walk away they don’t

But there seems to be one thing they won’t tolerate
A few times men like this found out I’d told my male friends that they didn’t mean much to me I was usually being sarcastic or exaggerating but they didn’t see it that way

The moment they found out they left completely No arguments no second chances no looking back Even when I reached out afterward they never returned

What makes you walk away from someone you love?

what changes an unchangable person?

Ive had this question in my mind for a very
long time and it keeps going in circles each time i think i will forget it i get reminded again

When it comes to dating then i make sure to take my comforts time and knowledge before i pick a partner but i seem to attract a certain group of people very often, i call it the unchangable changable group,

these men are so attached to me and so desperately in need of my presence and attention theyre always buying me things getting out of their ways to impress me and it is always the kind guys

the ones that you can say are not very good looking and just nice guys who hate to hurt anyone theyre very kind with humans with animals theyre very obedient to their parents they’re everything its likr theyve whole worlds best qualities a person wants in a husband

but oh physically their attraction is just a matter of luck, theyre not everyone’s cup of tea when it comes to looks but thats okay, its the only thing theyre not good at but hey they cant control it so that’s a pass at least to me im someone who cares for personality,

but i still take my sweet time when it comes to choosing a partner its like choosing a good quality handbag you want it to be leather and long lasting and so you dont mind taking your sweet time to pick , you want to be careful, these men know that and they are such good men they go out of their way to do things for you things no one has done

each time i meet them its like they raise the bar even further but something i noticed is how can someone so attached so in need of me and my presence even when clearly at times when my depression takes a role

i distance myself from them and i m a short temper being so a lot of Times when they try for my attentions i still scold them, it is not cause of them it is cause of me, i am the problem here however even when i ask them to leave they wouldn’t theyd prefer to stay

now its everydays drama, some of my such unchangable changable situations they go on for as long as 8 months, in the mean time they tend to get even more attached to me , out of these 8 months maybe its 4 times where weve had a decent conversation where i m actually likable lmao

and the other rest are just me being an avoidant that im, and then the other half are me being an angry asshole who they tolerate for god knows what reason, however despite there being a hundred reasons for them to leave me

they wouldnt only one reason leads to their exit but when they exit then it is final exit i never hear from them again i never see from them again even if afterwards it means me reaching out and spam calling, they never look back, the reason is when they find out me speaking about them to my other guy friends saying they dont mean much to me

now honestly i get it itss harsh but im being sarcastic most of times this has happened with about 3 men in my life, they weren’t in order but well it happened they find out about the talk i had whether mistakenly or they willingly stalked, but after it they leave , completely they distance themselves completely, why?

Side note:, many spelling mistakes, I’m writing this in a hurry

أنا من النوع اللي يركز على التفاصيل بشكل زايد عن اللزوم
وأحلل الناس اللي حولي وايدover analyzing

ألاحظ أشياء غيري يمكن ما ينتبه لها مثل تغيير بسيط في الأسلوب أو نبرة الصوت أو حتى طريقة التعامل

مرات هالشي يفيدني ومرات يخليني أعلق في أمور ما ألقى لها تفسير
المهم عندي سؤال محيرني من فترة

أبوي يوم كنت صغيرة كان قريب مني وحنون وايد لكن يوم كبرت تغيرت علاقتنا during teenage years
صار كل واحد في عالمه ومرات تمر فترة طويلة وما يكون بينا أي كلام إلا إذا أنا بادرته أو كنت أحتاج منه شي

وللأمانة حتى يوم كنت أطلب منه شي مرات ما كنت أباه صدق كنت بس أدور أي سبب عشان أفتح سالفة وياه
بس كنت أحط له ألف عذر لأن شغله كان ماخذ حياته وهو من الناس اللي عليهمstress ضغط كبير بحكم شغله

المهم بالفترة الأخيرة صرت ألاحظ شي غريب
أبوي صار يتقرب مني أكثر ويسولف وياي من نفسه ويسأل ويهتم ويعطيني من وقته

وحسيت إنه صار أحن وأهدى وأكثر تفهم من قبل
أنا مب متضايقة بالعكس وايد مستانسة بهالشي والحمدلله
بس مستغربة من سبب التغيير?…

لأنه مب مرتبط بإنجاز achievementسويته ولا موقف معين غير علاقتنا
كأني فجأة قمت أشوف نسخة مختلفة منه

فحبيت أسأل إذا حد مر بشي مشابه
هل ممكن الشخص يتغير بهالطريقة فجأة
ولا يمكن أنا اللي كنت أشوفه من زاوية غير قبل

I’m someone who notices details a lot
and I m always analyzing people around me I tend to notice even slightest difference in tone or language
of a person

and sometimes it is a blessing sometimes it’s a curse and this time I’m stuck in central not knowing if it’s a blessing or a curse

but what I’m more curious of knowing is what caused it? I’ve an unhealthy habit of asking way too many “what’s” but until I’m not answered I simply can’t be at rest and so I present to you my situation

for those who are like me who grew up with very caring father but somehow during teenage years he changed and became less affectionate

some months we wouldn’t even exchange a word and if we did it would only be when I want something and ask him

which even that isn’t entirely the case cause I’d purposefully ask him for things just so I could talk to him but my father is self employed and so I understand he had a lot of stress during that time

work made him spend less to no time with family , anyways after many many many years recently
I’ve noticed he’s started to speak to me and actually have conversations with me

which is odd cause we never did this before not only that but I also noticed he’s very empathetic and affectionate my father always was a good man but he has some narcissistic traits

and I’ve inherited some of his traits, but his sudden behavior is so out of the blue ? It’s not like I’ve had any achievements that I deserve this treatment

No matter how much I try to wrap my head around it I’m unable to understand this sudden change in atmosphere 😅

im very happy by the way he treats me now but I’m uncertain why , I wanted to have this conversation with someone

This is probably the first post I’ve written where I genuinely don’t know if other women have experienced this😅

For most of my life around 90–95% of the men I’ve interacted with seem to immediately go into “protective mode” around me and I honestly don’t understand why

I mean normal interactions authority figures, strangers, older men etc They often go out of their way to help me, give me advice or warn me about other men

One example when I was doing my driving theory test, the instructor was very strict and had about 40+ students in the room Yet he kept helping me throughout the test, hinting at answers multiple times. There were other women there too and people who had already failed several times, but he paid way more attention to me than anyone else

He also took everyone’s I’d to write down their name but he stared at mines for a whole min I think he saw my date of birth lmao (2006)

After everyone left, he asked me to stay behind I thought he was going to scold me because I honestly wasn’t doing wel he told me I would’ve failed without his help, then suddenly started sharing life stories and experiences with me. At one point we were talking face-to-face and after I said something, he just looked into my eyes and smiled without saying anything for several seconds before awkwardly snapping out of it and ending the conversation

Another example was at the airport I had an issue because my passport and ID had different birth dates An airport security officer went out of his way to speak to multiple people on my behalf and kept telling them to just let me through

Even with random everyday things men often help me carry groceries move carts even pay for me lift things or give me unsolicited advice about being careful around men I’ve had multiple men randomly tell me that some men are manipulative, that I should protect myself be cautious in relationships & not trust everyone but I’m like I didn’t even ask

Before anyone says it’s because I’m attractive: I wear niqab. People only see my eyes. I’ve been told I have nice eyes, but that’s literally all that’s visible

My female friends don’t seem to experience this to the same extent, which is why I’m curious

Men: what makes you feel protective toward a woman you’ve barely met?

يا جماعة صارلي فترة أدور شنطة أستخدمه
بشكل يومي وفي نفس الوقت يكون شكله حلو
ومرتب إذا طلعت مولات أو طلعات عادية

لفيت أغلب المحلات نص الأشياء اللي أشوفها مجرد تقليد لماركات أكبر big brands بس مع تعديلات بسيطة
Only difference is different font

أنا من النوع اللي ما يحب يكونsheep أمشي ورا كل ترند أبغي شي مختلف وجودته تعيش وياي سنين

خاصة إني قبل دفعت سعر كلية على شناط وبعد فترة قصيرة بدت الطبقة الخارجية تتقشر وتخرب

المهم إذا عندكم اقتراحات لماركات أو محلات عندهم شناط أو بَرسات جودتها قوية عملية وفي نفس الوقت مميزة ومب نفس Rare
شاركوني 🙏🏻🤍

يا جماعة صارلي فترة أدور شنطة أستخدمه
بشكل يومي وفي نفس الوقت يكون شكله حلو
ومرتب إذا طلعت مولات أو طلعات عادية

لفيت أغلب المحلات نص الأشياء اللي أشوفها مجرد تقليد لماركات أكبر big brands بس مع تعديلات بسيطة
Only difference is different font

أنا من النوع اللي ما يحب يكونsheep أمشي ورا كل ترند أبغي شي مختلف وجودته تعيش وياي سنين

خاصة إني قبل دفعت سعر كلية على شناط وبعد فترة قصيرة بدت الطبقة الخارجية تتقشر وتخرب

المهم إذا عندكم اقتراحات لماركات أو محلات عندهم شناط أو بَرسات جودتها قوية عملية وفي نفس الوقت مميزة ومب نفس Rare
شاركوني 🙏🏻🤍