u/Logicandtea

I randomly remembered this story while I was walking tonight and thought I’d share it, I’ve never told anyone about it & so it’s first time I’m putting it to words

When I was around 13 I was in a group chat with this guy who was horrible to basically every girl there He would insult them publicly humiliate them and make sexual comments about them until some of the girls eventually left the group & eventually he started targeting me fyi he would never target the men in there

He would constantly talk badly about me in front of everyone including people I considered my friends He would insult me make inappropriate comments and embarrass me no matter what I said I tried defending myself but eventually I just stopped because nothing worked and some of the things he said genuinely made me hate myself, he had an awful big mouth

I remember I changed my profile & put a picture of my face on my profile after previously keeping it hidden He saw it and suddenly started treating me completely differently He began messaging me privately telling me how much he liked me and wanted to be with me or actually he wasn’t very dramatic or quick but slowly he began moving in a way where I thought this guy hit a rock

I was honestly confused because how do you go from humiliating someone publicly to suddenly telling them you like them cuz he literally ruined my whole self reputation & image everyone in my town was now mocking me by name he named me

I had also just come out of a toxic relationship ( my ex was his friend ) so I told him I wasn’t ready for another relationship and wanted to take things slowly I was extremely distant with him and would sometimes talk to him for a minute and then disappear because I honestly preferred being alone & always was an avoidant

He hated how distant I was and would constantly complain about it strange part is that I didn’t really want the relationship but I also couldn’t bring myself to end it because I was worried about hurting him + he was the kind if you hurt him he’d try blackmailing and all that stuff

Eventually I gave him the password to one of my accounts because I needed him to do something I completely forgot that account was connected to another one lo and behold he found conversations between me and another guy where I had talked badly about him

He was devastated I remember him confronting me and being so upset that he was almost crying I admitted that I had spoken badly about him but I also reminded him that he had spent months publicly humiliating me lots of argument and eventually he left

For years afterward I still remembered his username and occasionally checked his profile because part of me wanted to reconnect with him The last time I checked was about four years ago

Now I don’t even remember his username anymore don’t know how his life turned out but I genuinely hope he’s doing well I recall he mentioned having family problems but yeah after this incident I realized how differently people treat you when you’re attractive

I’m looking for someone who works as a receptionist I’ve some questions to ask let me know if you could help with the matter, some confusion

من يوم وأنا صغيرة دخلت بعلاقات ، وأكثرها كان أيام الجهل الحمد لله تبت وفترة ما دخلت أي علاقة، لين تعرفت على شخص وكملنا مع بعض ثلاث سنين
كنا نبغي نتزوج، لكن الظروف ما ساعدتنا

كان إنسان ملتزم ع دين وخلوق، علاقتنا ما كانت فيها مشاكل و كنت أول بنت بحياته وهو ثاني شخص أدخله حياتي بجد.
بس المشكلة إني كنت أمل بسرعة حتى وأنا معاه.

كنت أتعرف على ناس غيره ما كنت أخذهم seriously وإذا حسيت إن واحد منهم بدا يتعلق فيني ع طول انتهى الموضوع
هو ما كان يدري عن أي شي من هاللي صار بالنهاية انفصلنا
بسبب ظروف بين الأهل

الحين اللي مخوفني مو الانفصال اللي مخوفني إني حتى لو تزوجت أخاف بعد فترة أمل من زوجي أحس من كثر العلاقات والاهتمام اللي تعودت عليه وأنا صغيرة، تعودت على شعور التعارف والاهتمام من ناس يدد، وصرت أخاف أدور هالإحساس مرة ثانية

ما أقول بروح أخون زوجي بس أخاف أتجاوز الحدود وأدخل بعلاقات أو ارتباطات عاطفية وأنا متزوجة وأدري هالشي ممكن يدمر زواجي وأكثر شي أكرهه هو الطلاق وآخر شي أبي أوصل له

وللعلم: my relationships were never physical, just normal chatting or meeting them.

إذا في أحد مر بشي مشابه وقدر يغير نفسه، أو عنده نصيحة، الله يجزاكم خير.

من يوم وأنا صغيرة دخلت بعلاقات ، وأكثرها كان أيام الجهل الحمد لله تبت وفترة ما دخلت أي علاقة، لين تعرفت على شخص وكملنا مع بعض ثلاث سنين
كنا نبغي نتزوج، لكن الظروف ما ساعدتنا

كان إنسان ملتزم ع دين وخلوق، علاقتنا ما كانت فيها مشاكل و كنت أول بنت بحياته وهو ثاني شخص أدخله حياتي بجد.
بس المشكلة إني كنت أمل بسرعة حتى وأنا معاه.

كنت أتعرف على ناس غيره ما كنت أخذهم seriously وإذا حسيت إن واحد منهم بدا يتعلق فيني ع طول انتهى الموضوع
هو ما كان يدري عن أي شي من هاللي صار بالنهاية انفصلنا
بسبب ظروف بين الأهل

الحين اللي مخوفني مو الانفصال اللي مخوفني إني حتى لو تزوجت أخاف بعد فترة أمل من زوجي أحس من كثر العلاقات والاهتمام اللي تعودت عليه وأنا صغيرة، تعودت على شعور التعارف والاهتمام من ناس يدد، وصرت أخاف أدور هالإحساس مرة ثانية

ما أقول بروح أخون زوجي بس أخاف أتجاوز الحدود وأدخل بعلاقات أو ارتباطات عاطفية وأنا متزوجة وأدري هالشي ممكن يدمر زواجي وأكثر شي أكرهه هو الطلاق وآخر شي أبي أوصل له

وللعلم: my relationships were never physical, just normal chatting or meeting them.

إذا في أحد مر بشي مشابه وقدر يغير نفسه، أو عنده نصيحة، الله يجزاكم خير.

Before dawn breaks, I found myself awake not because sleep had abandoned me, but because your memory has…
While half the world
surrenders to sleep, I sit alone with my thoughts,writing of you,

perhaps one day these words will find you though months have stood between us, still I look upon your memory with wonder, my heart has not forgotten your beauty, it still longs for you,
and in its stubbornness refuses anyone other than you…

My heart is no stranger to you, rather it was built for you, my days no longer pass, neither do my nights, it is as if time stopped the day you left me, my heart yearns for you, my beloved, return to me, I no longer know if I can love again, you went and took my happiness with you

you knew exactly where my heart’s wounds bled, yet you still left as though none of them belonged to you, you turned against the only heart that ever beat for you.

Its one of the idealization cases again happens way too often with me , im always attracting these people they’re intensely attached at beginning and very quick those relations end before even barely starting, they are also incredibly toxic

these men will always want to talk a lot almost all the time they will get anxious if i domt reply and slightest thing can disappoint them and result in them being possesive but as i said these relationships end before even starting, they last a good 2 weeks at best and then once the idealization wears off and they realize they’re talking to a actual human with faults

they lose interest and pull back immediately no explanation nothing they wouldn’t directly end the relationship like how me and you would but they will start already giving it off such as calling you sister or start treating you as one of their buddies

i unfortunately seem to attract this type always and as we were talking there’s already one in my insta dms barely know this guy and hes already sending “ may god protect her she is the most precious women i ever knew, the women i love the most” mind you he doesnt even knows my name my age or country, all our interaction ever was was me liking a few of his stories and him sending me religious content posts / memes now im not trying to guess him im wondering why do men in general do this? I’ve noticed it in my experience a LOT

now if i meet anyone who idealizes or puts me on a pedestal i get the immediate ick due to my past trauma with such men, Women have you ever been able to have a successful relationship with one of those types?

Its one of the idealization cases again happens way too often with me , im always attracting these people they’re intensely attached at beginning and very quick those relations end before even barely starting, they are also incredibly toxic

these men will always want to talk a lot almost all the time they will get anxious if i domt reply and slightest thing can disappoint them and result in them being possesive but as i said these relationships end before even starting, they last a good 2 weeks at best and then once the idealization wears off and they realize they’re talking to a actual human with faults

they lose interest and pull back immediately no explanation nothing they wouldn’t directly end the relationship like how me and you would but they will start already giving it off such as calling you sister or start treating you as one of their buddies

i unfortunately seem to attract this type always and as we were talking there’s already one in my insta dms barely know this guy and hes already sending “ may god protect her she is the most precious women i ever knew, the women i love the most” mind you he doesnt even knows my name my age or country, all our interaction ever was was me liking a few of his stories and him sending me religious content posts / memes now im not trying to guess him im wondering why do men in general do this? I’ve noticed it in my experience a LOT

now if i meet anyone who idealizes or puts me on a pedestal i get the immediate ick due to my past trauma with such men, men why do you do this? Women have you ever been able to have a successful relationship with one of those types?

My father, may God grant him a long and blessed life, never neglected us, even when his financial situation was difficult He provided for us and never let us feel deprived

Anyway recently I started working part-time while studying to save money and start my own busines The job is exhausting, sometimes up to 15 hours a day I even stopped buying makeup, perfumes, and abayas to save every penny

The problem is that every time I save up, he asks me for a large loan I give it to him because my father used to give me back some of it, but now he doesn't give me back anything What bothers me most is that the money goes towards things I don't consider necessary, like gifts and fruit for his friends, or he sends it to unemployed relatives

If my mother hints to him about my money he says my daughter is generous and doesn't mind because she takes after me Once, when I asked for my money, he said that what I've spent on him throughout my life is more than what I've saved Since then, I've been too embarrassed to even bring it up with him. Regarding the topic

I have no problem standing by my father, but it hurts me to see years of hard work go to waste, and every time my project dream gets postponed I even started telling him I don't have that amount of money so he wouldn't ask for it

I don't know what to do. If I bring up my feelings, he makes me feel guilty, saying, "After all he's done, I shouldn't hold onto it." If I don't bring it up, it's never mentioned again. Last time, two years of my savings went

+ he takes loan from my brother and mom as well but never returns it, sometimes my brother is broke mid month and goes to his friends for patrol expenses

أبوي الله يطول بعمره ويبارك له عمره ما قصر معانا حتى يوم كانت أموره المادية صعبة كان يوفر لنا اللي نبيه وما خلانا نحس بالنقص

المهم
من فترة بديت part time أشتغل دوام وأنا أدرس عشان أوفر وأفتح مشروعي الدوام متعب وأحيانًا أوصل 15 ساعة حتي وقفت أشتري مكياج عطور وعبايات عشان أوفر كل درهم

المشكلة إنه كل ما أجمع مبلغ يطلب مني debt
بمبلغ كبير وأنا أعطيه لأنه أبوي كان قبل يرجع لي جزء منها أما الحين ما عاد يرجع شي وأكثر شي يضايقني إن الفلوس تروح على أشياء ما أشوفها ضرورية مثل هدايا وفواكه لربعه أو يرسلها لأقارب ما يشتغلون

إذا أمي لمحت له عن فلوسي يقول بنتي كريمة وما تمانع لأنها طالعة علي ومرة يوم طلبت فلوسي قال اللي صرفته علي طول عمرك أكثر من اللي وفرتيه ومن يومها صرت أستحي حتى أفاتحه بالموضوع

أنا ما عندي مشكلة أوقف مع أبوي لكن يعورني يوم أشوف تعب سنين يروح وكل مرة يتأجل حلم مشروعي حتى إني صرت أقول له ما عندي هالمبلغ عشان ما يطلبه
I don’t know what to do if I bring up my feelings he makes me feel guilty saying after all he’s done I should not hold onto it if I don’t bring it up it’s never mentioned again, last time 2 years of my savings went

From a young age, I was the type of person who if I set my mind to something, I usually succeeded whether it was my studies or any other field I pursued I was always a high achiever and consistently stood out among my sisters My family had high hopes for me because they believed I had the potential to go far

After my breakup, everything changed Our relationship wasn’t toxic, it ended because his family didn’t approve of us and after years of trying to make it work, he eventually gave up

Before I had a side business in something I was highly skilled at and I reached a point where I had a steady stream of clients and was almost always fully booked Now I have no desire to work and have become financially dependent on my family, even though, alhamdulillah, they’re well off and don’t need anything from me

The hardest part is knowing what I’m capable of, yet feeling like I’ve lost all my drive and become completely unmotivated My family tries to encourage me, but even they can see I’m not the same person I used to be

Has anyone else been through something similar? What helped you regain your motivation and ambition?

من يوم وأنا صغيرة من أنواع الناس إذا ركزت على شي أو liked it غالبًا أنجح فيه سواء بالدراسة ولا بأي مجال أدخله
وكنت دايم بين خواتي the high achiever & at top
وأهلي كانوا متعلقين بآمال كبيرة فيني لأنهم كانوا يشوفون إني
عندي قابلية potential أوصل بعيد

عقب انفصالي breakup كل شي تغير مع إن علاقتنا ما كانت toxic بس انتهت لأن أهله ما وافقوا علينا وبعد سنين من المحاولات هو استسلم

قبل كنت أشتغل بشي وايد شاطرة فيه side business ووصلت مرحلة كان عندي زباين بشكل مستمر و محجوزة طول الوقت
أما الحين ما عندي أي رغبة أشتغل، وصرت معتمدة على أهلي، مع إنهم الحمد لله حالتهم المادية زينة وما هم محتاجين مني
شي

أكثر شي يقهر إني أعرف عندي الإمكانيات بس أحس فقدت motivation وصرت خاملة وأهلي يحاولون يرفعون معنوياتي،
بس حتى هم لاحظوا إني مب مثل قبل
حد مر بهالفترة؟ وشو اللي ساعدكم ترجع لكم الرغبة والطموح؟

Does anyone else get heartburn from electrolyte drinks?

I’ve noticed that sometimes when I drink electrolyte drinks (like Hydra Boost), I get a burning feeling in my chest that starts shortly after It gets uncomfortable enough that I can’t even finish the drink

I also get the same thing with soda, Arabic coffee, and even Oreo cookies and probably a lot more food that I can’t remember,My family has a history of H. pylori and gastritis, so I’m wondering if that could be related.

Has anyone experienced this? Did you find out what was causing it

Every time I buy an abaya I feel like it
doesn’t suit my body shape and somehow ends up looking awkward on me and I look like a walking penguin 🐧

I also have no idea how to figure out my measurements or what I should tell the tailor so they can alter it to fit properly The tailors I go to don’t usually take measurements themselves, so I’m left guessing

Honestly, this isn’t just an abaya problem it applies to clothes, dresses, and even undergarments I don’t even know whether I’m a size S or M, and it feels like nothing ever fits or flatters me

How do you measure yourself accurately? Which measurements should I be taking and keeping track of? I’d really appreciate any tips from those who’ve figured this out
Thank you!

Every time I buy an abaya I feel like it
doesn’t suit my body shape and somehow ends up looking awkward on me and I look like a walking penguin 🐧

I also have no idea how to figure out my measurements or what I should tell the tailor so they can alter it to fit properly The tailors I go to don’t usually take measurements themselves, so I’m left guessing

Honestly, this isn’t just an abaya problem it applies to clothes, dresses, and even undergarments I don’t even know whether I’m a size S or M, and it feels like nothing ever fits or flatters me

How do you measure yourself accurately? Which measurements should I be taking and keeping track of? I’d really appreciate any tips from those who’ve figured this out
Thank you!

Every time I buy an abaya I feel like it
doesn’t suit my body shape and somehow ends up looking awkward on me

I also have no idea how to figure out my measurements or what I should tell the tailor so they can alter it to fit properly The tailors I go to don’t usually take measurements themselves, so I’m left guessing

Honestly, this isn’t just an abaya problem it applies to clothes, dresses, and even undergarments I don’t even know whether I’m a size S or M, and it feels like nothing ever fits or flatters me

How do you measure yourself accurately? Which measurements should I be taking and keeping track of? I’d really appreciate any tips from those who’ve figured this out
Thank you!