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My bua’s (dad’s sister’s) daughter copies almost everything she sees us have or do. Whenever she visits our house, she’ll see the kind of outfits we wear, and after she goes back home, she’ll buy something very similar. If I get my bangs cut a certain way, somehow she’ll have the same hairstyle a week after she returns home from our place.

It’s the same with footwear, accessories, the way we pose in pictures, etc. Even when we were kids, she would see the stationery we used and then buy similar ones.

I honestly don’t have a problem with her liking the same things or taking inspiration from us. But what bothers me is that I only start noticing these similarities after she visits us and goes back home. 😭

I really want to ignore it, but I can’t help noticing it.

There’s one incident that makes this even more frustrating. My elder sister used to make drawings and post them on Instagram. This cousin would take screenshots of my sister’s drawings, crop out her name, and post them on her own Instagram as if she had drawn them herself. We eventually found out and my sister confronted her about it. After that, she blocked my sister on Instagram.

She never used to wear short kurtis either, but this time she saw us wearing them, and now she’s posting pictures wearing similar ones.

Again, I genuinely don’t care if she likes the same clothes, hairstyles, or trends. But when you repeatedly see someone do something right after they’ve visited you, it becomes really hard not to notice. How do you deal with this without letting it get to you?

A guy himself saying this about guys.

👉🏻 "Most guys try to always have atleast one girl in their life with whom they can talk and just get the feeling that they are talking to a girl. So they are ok with any type of girl. But when it comes to a relationship especially these guys- they have a checklist like physical appearance, emotional and intellectual awareness etc."

I had a friendship that lasted 4 years, and we used to talk every day. Two weeks ago, some things happened, and I impulsively decided that I didn't want to stay friends anymore. I cried a lot like, a lot for three days, but after that, I started feeling very calm. I still felt bad during those two weeks, but there was also a sense of calm in knowing that no one was going to text me or send me reels anymore.

Yesterday, we decided to start talking again and continue our friendship. But now I'm feeling overwhelmed. I don't want the friendship to end, but at the same time, a part of me doesn't want to continue it either. I honestly don't know what I want.

I don't know, but my gut feeling tells me that maybe this isn't a genuine friendship and that it's just being maintained for entertainment or convenience. Because every time I try to talk about something, you tell me that I'm complicating things and ask me to stop or just chill.

I feel like our conversations are very shallow. If something hurts me, you say sorry, but you never really try to understand or talk about what exactly hurt me. And I don't know, maybe I'm asking for too much, but I feel like if a friend told me that something I did hurt them, I would genuinely want to know what exactly hurt them and why.

I had a friendship that lasted 4 years, and we used to talk every day. Two weeks ago, some things happened, and I impulsively decided that I didn’t want to stay friends anymore. I cried a lot like, a lot for three days, but after that, I started feeling very calm. I still felt bad during those two weeks, but there was also a sense of calm in knowing that no one was going to text me or send me reels anymore.

Yesterday, we decided to start talking again and continue our friendship. But now I’m feeling overwhelmed. I don’t want the friendship to end, but at the same time, a part of me doesn’t want to continue it either. I honestly don’t know what I want.

I don’t know, but my gut feeling tells me that maybe this isn’t a genuine friendship and that it’s just being maintained for entertainment or convenience. Because every time I try to talk about something, you tell me that I’m complicating things and ask me to stop or just chill.

I feel like our conversations are very shallow. If something hurts me, you say sorry, but you never really try to understand or talk about what exactly hurt me. And I don’t know, maybe I’m asking for too much, but I feel like if a friend told me that something I did hurt them, I would genuinely want to know what exactly hurt them and why.

I like this guy who was my sister's batchmate. We never really had very personal conversations, but we have talked normally about things like how we are doing and how life is going. In the last 2.5 years, I've probably talked to him only 4 or 5 times.

I started liking him about 2.5 years ago, when I saw him at my sister's engagement. It was more of an infatuation at first, but over time, I continued to have feelings for him.

Yesterday, I finally took a chance and told him that I liked him, even though I had never told him before. I also asked if he was single and interested, and said that we could get to know each other first before actually dating because he's doing PhD now and feeling exhausted for now.

Now I'm wondering if I approached him too suddenly. Maybe the proposal came out of nowhere for him, and that's why he rejected me by saying that his life isn't on track right now and that he isn't in the right state of mind for a relationship.

I'm regretting that I did it so early, especially because we barely knew each other personally. At the same time, I didn't want to play mind games, drop hints, or spend months overthinking whether he liked me back. I just wanted to be honest and ask him directly if he was single and interested in getting to know each other.

Now I don't know what I should do. Did I rush it? Should I give him some space, or should I just move on?

I like this guy who was my sister's batchmate. We never really had very personal conversations, but we have talked normally about things like how we are doing and how life is going. In the last 2.5 years, I've probably talked to him only 4 or 5 times.

I started liking him about 2.5 years ago, when I saw him at my sister's engagement. It was more of an infatuation at first, but over time, I continued to have feelings for him.

Yesterday, I finally took a chance and told him that I liked him, even though I had never told him before. I also asked if he was single and interested, and said that we could get to know each other first before actually dating because he's doing PhD now and feeling exhausted for now.

Now I'm wondering if I approached him too suddenly. Maybe the proposal came out of nowhere for him, and that's why he rejected me by saying that his life isn't on track right now and that he isn't in the right state of mind for a relationship.

I'm regretting that I did it so early, especially because we barely knew each other personally. At the same time, I didn't want to play mind games, drop hints, or spend months overthinking whether he liked me back. I just wanted to be honest and ask him directly if he was single and interested in getting to know each other.

Now I don't know what I should do. Did I rush it? Should I give him some space, or should I just move on?