u/BestBudgie

Like, I see straight men and other sapphics be all about boobs but they've never actually really done much for me, sure theyre nice and fun to play with but idk, theyre just not like... sexually appealing to me. Maybe its because before top surgery I hated having my boobs and nipples touched so they just never really seemed like a sexual body part? Idk

Howdy, im fairly new to oshikatsu, and I'm also poor, and i want to make more things for my oshi's shrine but i dont have many ideas as to what... exactly to make.

I have some stuff I'm sure I can use to make things, I have a printer, a mini photo/sticker printer, stuff like beads and charms for kandi (though its all packed away right now), a button maker that can make three sizes, and a bubble sticker maker. I've already made a bunch of buttons and a few bubble stickers for him, and i was gonna make some kandi but I had to pack my supplies away before I got around to it.

If anyone knows of any like.... fun decorative stuff i can make with what I have or stuff that wouldnt cost much to buy, i'd love to hear it, bonus points for stuff I can stick on a wall or on the front of his shelf.

I'm more on the masc/gender neutral side in my presentation and I was wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to decorate an ita bag in a more masc way, when I look at other people's bags they all seem to be like, lace and ribbons and gems, which are fun to see dont get me wrong, but its just not really "me" yknow? I currently have three ita bags, my main one which is multifandom, one on one of my crutches thats Joker and Akechi from Persona 5, and one that just stays in my room holding some medical supplies thats Aoba and Ren from Dramatical Murder. All three of them literally just have... buttons and enamel pins, plus a few keychains, but no like... flair or pizzazz, just the characters themselves.

I know you can do whatever you want and put whatever you want in your bag, but... I just want some inspiration or advice on how to decorate a bag in a more masculine fashion. Bonus points if anyone has any YouTube videos or tiktoks that could help me, or even share your own bags!

I'm a big fan of gross and fucked up yaoi visual novels, I've played through almost everything Nitro+Chiral has released, plus I have a few other horror yaoi VNs saved, but I kinda wanna get into yuri VNs too, the issue is it feels like most of them are really... soft and fluffy, but I want more gross fucked up ones, I played It Gets So Lonely Here and Amelie and really enjoyed both. I just want like... there to be a yuri counterpart to Nitro+Chiral tbh. They can be eroge or not, I don't care too much either way.

My only two stipulations is that I hate when a character gets SA'd by a love interest and then still falls in love and lives happily ever after with them, Nitro+Chiral pulls that a lot and it Bugs Me, but I can look past it if it's only in like, one route.... my other stipulation is that if it's an eroge, all characters involved in h-scenes have to be 18+... I dont wanna see minors having sex.

I'm looking for anime about queer characters, preferably romance, that are maybe more angsty and dramatic, like... I want these characters to face homophobia and deal with real world issues that come with being queer. It can be gay, lesbian, trans, etc. I do not care, I just want queer anime. I dont want anything that has like, the love interests assault each other though, like if i'm supposed to be rooting for them to get together dont have one SA the other like wtf?? Also I dont want anything that sexualizes children.

I've seen:

-Sasaki and Miyano (enjoyed it but not what i'm looking for currently)

-Stranger By The Shore (I remember I liked it but I dont remember much of like... the plot, though it's been a few years)

-The Summer Hikaru Died (LOVED this one holy shit)

-Yuri On Ice (enjoyed it but it wasn't anything super special)

-Banana Fish (this one committed a hate crime against me personally /j)

-No. 6 (liked it a lot)

-Given (God i thought this one was very boring sorry)

-Bloom Into You (just kinda thought it was boring sorry)

-Riddle Story of Devil (could've been gayer)

-Adachi and Shimamura (was too slow)

-Sakura Trick (felt... too fetishy)

-Konohana Kitan (loved this one so much omg underrated gem)

-Stardust Telepath (it was cute, but... idk i just never finished it)

-Ms. Vampire Who Lives in My Neighborhood (was cute but didnt really hook me)

- I cant find the exact name but the one with the girl getting isekaid into her otome game and being in love with the villainess (never finished it, but it seemed fun)

I'm a demiromantic asexual/cupiosexual, so I fall on the aroace spectrum, but I've been with my gf for 12 years and I'm in love with her and have sex with her, despite not feeling sexual attraction. So it's like, I feel I'm aroace in theory but not in practice? And it's made it hard to figure out what genders im attracted to because like... I dont want to date or have sex with anyone, regardless of gender, other than my gf. Like I think I might be demi-biromantic because my gf is trans and wasn't out yet when we first started dating, so I entered a relationship with my best friend who I thought was a "boy" and i was like "okay cool" and then she told me she's actually a girl and I was like "okay cool" so? I guess I can be in a relationship with any gender as long as we were best friends first?

I thought maybe I was a lesbian because when I imagine having sex or being with a man I feel kinda repulsed, but I also kinda feel that way towards women? Except for my gf... its like my orientation is just "attracted to best friend"... I've only had two crushes in my life and they were both on my bestie at the time.

I also identify as fictosexual, because I am attracted sexually and romantically towards fictional characters in a way that I'm not towards real life humans, and only rlly towards animated characters, not live action ones. And I am attracted to both male and female characters.

I just feel kind of weird in that... I'm technically aroace... but I'm in love and have sex... idk, just kinda feel i dont belong.

I think I'm attracted to men but I am in a happy 12 year relationship with my gf, but if, God forbid, we ever broke up, I dont see myself pursuing men romantically. I think they're hot, I think they're cool, if I was good friends with a man and a crush developed naturally I would possibly pursue it then, but my gf and I tried having an open relationship once, and I noticed that I had no interest in looking at the men on dating sites.

I am somewhere on the aroace spectrum I think, ive only had two genuine crushes, both on my best friends at the time, and even though I enjoy sex, I dont feel that attraction or "pull" towards people sexually. I have no desire to date or have sex with anyone who isn't my gf, regardless of gender.

It might be worth noting that my gf is a trans woman and we got together before she came out and started transitioning, basically I entered a relationship with who I thought was a "boy" but soon after she told me she's actually a girl and I was like "oh okay cool" and we're still together to this day.

I've been trying to figure out my orientation for years, I feel bi but sometimes I think "oh but I dont really want to date or have sex with a man" so I think maybe im actually a lesbian, but also... due to being on the aroace spectrum... I dont want to date or have sex with anyone who isn't my girlfriend, which kinda makes this hard to figure out.

I lost my beloved bunny last September, and I thought I was done grieving, but I recently got an email about a new style of stuffed animal that this one company makes, and I had bought a custom one of my old rabbit soon after he died, but now they have ones you can heat up in the microwave and are more cuddlier and floppier (the one I have is stiff and more for decoration tbh) and I just... the idea of having another stuffed animal of him that I can warm up and hold and cuddle with got me in my feelings again, I ordered one almost immediately and I feel like it's kind of.... reignited my grief over his loss, its not as bad as it was when he passed in September, but just.... I feel like im going through a second mourning period.

He was so special to me, I never planned on getting a rabbit, mom just found him in the street and we kept him, we dont know how old he was, but the vet estimated him to be at least 2, I had him for about 5 years before he had to be put down. We were just gonna buy a cage for him until we found some rabbit youtubers and watched their videos and learned more, we got him neutered also. He was the sweetest little guy, he would come up to me and ask for pets, and nudge my hand with his head, I would sit and pet him for ages, all he wanted to do was cuddle and be pet, he never caused any trouble, never chewed cords or destroyed my stuff, he was such a little darling.

It was a combination of a persistent illness and old age, the vet thought he may have also had cancer... he stopped eating and couldn't swallow anymore, and with him being old, the vet thought the best course of action would be to let him go. I think he may have been older than 2 when we got him, as the vet said he seemed really old by the time he had to be put to sleep. I sometimes wonder if I could've saved him, if I had just paid for tests and more medicine for him, but the vet thought that with how sick he was and how old he was, it would be better to just put him to sleep.

I have another rabbit now who I love dearly, but my first rabbit will always have a special place in my heart, I never wouldve known how much I loved rabbits if not for him, ive had a lot of different pets but he made me realize rabbits are my favorite.

I saw a clip on YouTube Shorts I think of a scene from a BL anime where the characters mom (or possibly dad? But im pretty sure it was his mom) is standing in a doorway and I think its raining outside and she's yelling at one of the main characters about liking boys, like she's mad and upset that he likes boys, I think she says something like "so you're interested in men?" And calls him sick and disgusting... I absolutely could have sworn it said it was from The Summer Hikaru Died but I just finished watching it and no such scene exists.

I'll try to explain, I'm a bigender boygirl and bisexual, my "boy half" is attracted to men and women but it feels like my "girl half" only likes women, like.... thinking of myself as a man with a woman is good, and as a man with a man, and thinking of myself as a woman with a woman is good, but not as... a woman with a man, idk how to really describe it.

So... I've been struggling to pin down my orientation for over 6 years, and I'm pretty sure I'm abrosexual and fluid between bi and lesbian, only issue is that being abro is really frustrating and I constantly think "what if I'm actually just bi/a lesbian?" And then I identify as bi or a lesbian and right as I start getting comfortable and letting my guard down, poof! It changes again. It's just... when I'm either orientation, it feels so real, and like maybe I've just always been that way, and will be that way forever.

It also doesnt help that people online hate bi lesbians, ive been harassed severely for being open about my identity, and ive realized that all the times ive stopped identifying as an abro bi lesbian were right after someone gave me shit for being abro. I've talked with my therapist about this and she basically just thinks I need to learn to not care what other people think, especially since everyone in my life accepts me and the people who give me hate are all internet randos.

Idk, I just wish I could just be bi or just be a lesbian and not fight myself over it constantly, I wish I wasn't abro.