u/BestBudgie

Im not the typical poster child for pastel goth, the biggest factor being that im a fat hairy man... or at least half-man, im also half-woman, the thing is I dont want people to see me in pastel goth and have everyone assume im just a woman, right now im pretty androgynous and get a random mix of sirs and ma'ams by people, and I also dont want people to get like... creeped out by me?

Im not afraid of dressing more fem, though I usually lean towards a masc presentation, i just... want people to still see me as a man even if I dress in pastel goth clothes and accessories. My current plan is to not wear anything thats frilly or like a skirt/dress, i want to wear button-ups and pants and more gender-neutral accessories... the only thing is i wanna wear hairclips and most men simply do not do that lol

I'm looking for pastel goth T-shirts on Etsy but it feels like I have to question every shirt I find. Does anyone know of any artists, either on Etsy or their own website, that make cute shirts without AI images?

This is just for fun, but since so many cats are named after their disabilities or differences, I named my warriorsona "Twistedlegs" because I have HSD, which causes me to be knock-kneed, so I imagine as a warrior cat I'd also have bad legs. I think I'd be a Riverclan cat who just sits and waits for fish to pass by, as i cant walk or stand for very long, and certainly cant run. That is, if I'm not forced to be a medicine cat lmao.

So, if you were named after your disability, what would your name be? This can be physical disabilities, chronic illnesses, neurodivergencies, mental illnessess, etc. And how would your life as a warrior be? Tell me about your warriorsona

I saw an ad for a company that makes custom coloring books based off your pictures, but it looked to be AI so I'm just wondering... do any of you know of any actual artists who make coloring books or even just pages based off your photos? I understand it'll be more expensive than the AI ones but thats the price you pay for human talent.

I just moved in with my girlfriend and she has pretty nice pleather furniture, my kitty is still at my mom's house but I'm planning on bringing him here soon and I was just wondering if there was anything i can do to protect the furniture, he has a cat tree with a scratching post thats coming with him, but he would occasionally scratch the furniture at my mom's place, but he never did any major damage, but I'm just worried about him wrecking my girlfriend's stuff. I was thinking of getting some covers (it's two chairs and a loveseat) but custom ones are so expensive and the generic ones dont seem like they cover the edges, where a cat is most likely to scratch, and more are for like... being waterproof and protecting the seats where they jump up onto it

I used to use a wheelchair for a period of time, and I'm going to start using it again soon, and I'm just wondering, what are some handy and helpful accessories one can buy for a wheelchair? Or accessories that are just for fun/decoration, I know about push-rim covers, spoke guards, spoke straws and charms, those like... wheel bags, under-seat bags, and cup-holders, but I'm just wondering if there's any more niche or lesser known things I can use with my wheelchair that people recommend?

It seems like using mobility aids is seen as like, so sad and tragic, when to me, mobility aids are amazing, i love my knee braces and my crutches because without them, I wouldnt be able to go out. My options aren't: use my mobility aids or be Not Disabled, theyre: use my mobility aids or be in mass amounts of pain and misery.

I once saw a video about a baby/toddler who had a disability and used a wheelchair, and it said "this wheelchair isn't slowing her down!" And its like, yeah I sure hope it doesn't? If she didnt have it she'd have to crawl around on the ground by her arms. She was actually so fast in her wheelchair that her parents had to install speed bumps in their home.

One time my grandma told me that my great-aunt, who had been struggling with mobility for basically my whole life, was getting a wheelchair and i said "oh thats cool" and then realized that probably wasnt the response my grandma was expecting.

To be completely honest, I feel relatively privileged or lucky to have my mobility aids, my crutches I got for like $60 in an ebay auction but I think they go for around $250 new. Of course I'm not privileged compared to able-bodied people, but there are tons of disabled people out there who need mobility aids and just cant access them.

If you dont feel the same way, I understand, if you dont like your mobility aids thats valid, every disabled person has different feelings in regards to our situations, I just feel like society as a whole has a negative outlook on these devices that greatly improve my quality of life.

I have a stuffed bunny and I'm thinking of putting some essential oils on, his ears are very long and I think itd be cool to put some oil on the ends so i can sniff them while hes on my lap or while im holding him, but I'm worried they might like... hurt him in some way lol.

The one I'd use would probably be sandalwood, if that matters. I could also just find some diffuser earrings for him instead I suppose.