u/Hospital-Intelligent

Hello, my gf has BPD. Any recommendations for books I should look for to understand her feelings better?

thanks <3

Hello, İm a perfectly healthy M (18) and gf (19) has BPD-Depression and DEBH, im often trying to be understanding and caring for her, she's going to therapy and from what i know she is kinda getting stable in her feelings receptly, im not a professional or anyone who ever spoke to anyone who has problems like this other then her, its a long-distence relationship
im making this post becauses i am trying to find people who may give me nice advice that can help me understand her feelings better, recently she told me to be more selfish in this relationship and said she is effecting my lfie to much, i told her "you are not a burden to me, ur my motivation and it makes me feel bad that ur seeing yourself as burden" i am hoping she can be more clear with me but i understand the difficulties she has,
i know these illneses are nothing i can fix %1 of it whitout professinal help like therapy but i am very willing to help.
i think the reason she thinks she's a burden is im giving her 24/7 attention, regardless of when she texts me i always respond in the same second, when im at the gym,work,school or resting i always try to find couple of seconds to respond to her and make her understand she is not alone, any advice? i would be greatful if people can understand me rn because i really don't know what im doing and just trying to be a good partner for her.

im trying to always make sure she feels like she's the priority in my life,
any advice how can i keep this relationship healthy and secure for her?

im a calm person who can take responsiblity.

Hello, İm a perfectly healthy M (18) and gf (19) has BPD-Depression and DEBH, im often trying to be understanding and caring for her, she's going to therapy and from what i know she is kinda getting stable in her feelings receptly, im not a professional or anyone who ever spoke to anyone who has problems like this other then her, its a long-distence relationship
im making this post becauses i am trying to find people who may give me nice advice that can help me understand her feelings better, recently she told me to be more selfish in this relationship and said she is effecting my lfie to much, i told her "you are not a burden to me, ur my motivation and it makes me feel bad that ur seeing yourself as burden" i am hoping she can be more clear with me but i understand the difficulties she has,
i know these illneses are nothing i can fix %1 of it whitout professinal help like therapy but i am very willing to help.
i think the reason she thinks she's a burden is im giving her 24/7 attention, regardless of when she texts me i always respond in the same second, when im at the gym,work,school or resting i always try to find couple of seconds to respond to her and make her understand she is not alone, any advice? i would be greatful if people can understand me rn because i really don't know what im doing and just trying to be a good partner for her.

im trying to always make sure she feels like she's the priority in my life,
any advice how can i keep this relationship healthy and secure for her?

im a calm person who can take responsiblity.

i would also be glad if someone explains to me what should i expect in the future and what should i do in certaion situations, im kinda afraid i might hurt her feelings on accident one day.
i know everyone is diffrent in these illnesess and most people find themself in diffrentt situations but i would still be glad if i anyone can teach me what to expect.