u/Plannet_Depressed

Is stretching supposed to sting? I feel a bit sick ngl

Tired one and it wouldn't go through the gap
Tried a size down and it went through ok
Just stings

What does the timeline look like between different size stretches?

Feel a bit dumb for asking but
I assume it's maybe a month between stretches? I've got no idea tho

Septum
First stretch
02 07 26

Apparently me inviting my partner over is a problem because I "didn't ask" which is true.. I told them it was happening.. I didn't ask
Alright mom..

Inviting my partner to stay over and help planing me moving out I gave a week or 2's notice to my flatmate because we share a hallway a kitchen and a bathroom

Originally it was going to be longer than a week but I guess compliance has to be somewhere to be reasonable?

I told my flatmate and gained such wonders as "How dare you MY ANXIETY" [that they refuse to treat] "MAX 7 DAYS!!".. the contract says a guest can stay up to 3 months.. "I'll involve the landlord!" and "NO HAVING SEX" these were topped off today with "inviting someone to stay over without my cons__t is the same as forc__g someone to have sex"
...not to mention my many years of s___al ab__e trauma..

The fuck?

Edit because I forgot to add details
Me [M / NB]
My flatmate [NB]
My partner [NB]

I share a flat and we share a hallway kitchen and bathroom between us

Normally me and my partner meet in hotels but that's super expensive and we wanted to focus up on moving

I have my laptop and my seeable screens at the flat so I invited my partner to stay in my space for a week while we sort out booking visits and moving out to our own place

I told my flatmate [also ex] "hey I've invited A over for a week so we can sort moving" we arranged it for early to mid July

I get back into the flat and get yelled at for "how dare you invite someone into the flat and not ask me MY ANXIETY CAN'T TAKE IT" then later "NO MORE THEN 7 DAYS" ok fine.. "NO HAVING SEX"...

Anything before

A warning about something has been ok

Letting them know an electrician is due round between xx:xx and xx:xx or that the landlord is most likely doing an inspection xx.xx.xx

That's been fine

Oh and after we'll be doing short stays to sort out moving depending on whats going on and I mentioned that a couple days ago because it's assuming we don't have a place sorted yet after the first viewings

I gave 1-2 weeks notice about my partner visiting AITA?

Since I'd be the one "baking" the child does that mean I'd have to go into the "mother" slot?

That sounds horrible to have to do ngl

I also know my partner isn't happy on the term "father" either for themselves

Me : M / NB / Intersex [Ambiguous Genitalia] / medically pre t ftm

My partner: Trans NB

I have the appearance of both genitalia but the doctor said I'm not intersex because they felt around and couldn't feel testicles

I know that's not the only way someone can be intersex tho

I had blood tests that came back as "more stereotypically F" so what the does it mean?

Its definitely there

It has forskin and a tip and everything its just finger width instead of anything more

It can also get hard and whatnot too

My [M / NB] boyfriend [NB] thinks I should get proper in depth testing done and a second opinion but i'm scared to feel upset again

I found what I was

So I thought..

Then I was worried it would affect transition so I asked a doctor to take a look the doctor smashed that answer that into 1000 peices because "the c______ is larger than normal" was all the doctor said so I don't really wanna go through that again

Stupid words giving me dysphoria damn it [hence why they're censored]

Note [I'm FTM I just don't like admitting it]

I haven't started T yet / haven't started the medical part of transitioning yet

I correctly fit an M Spectrum [UK] bunder but it also have a 2XL [Xuji zipped] binder that is 1000x easier to put on but doesn't bind I originally had this when I was heavily overweight and it did bind

My M binder I need help with so I don't wear it much because of that

Context The 2XL is a worse / bad binder because its more accessibility friendly [it zips] but it's loose enough that even tho it's super baggy it creates a flat enough area to look flat with baggy t-shirts over it

Is there a way to get a safe binder that's easier to put on that would bind?

Maybe an L [from Xuji] would bind a bit but be big enough that the zipper method wouldn't cause damage? [Zip is in the middle of my chest]

To save on space I usually try to just take the 1 charger thats 65w

While it has 3 ports I normally only use 1 at a time [normally 2 100w cables are plugged in but not actively charging something]

Just curious why it takes so much longer to change that way

Isn't the OLED charger 45w? And if I'm only mostly charging one thing at once [rare that I need to use both [100w] cables at the same time both are just plugged in for convenience] shouldn't the charger charge the same speed?

Edit
1 port charges at 65w and the rest charge at split 65w to what's needed

So I just need to use the right port I guess

Edit 2
Shares its 65W total power across all connected devices:Power Distribution: • USB-C1 alone: Delivers full 65W output

• Two ports active: Power is intelligently split between devices

• Three ports active: Total 65W is distributed among all connected devices The charger automatically detects each device's charging requirements and allocates power accordingly.

The doctor said I'm not intersex because they felt around and couldn't feel testicles

I know that's not the only way someone can be intersex tho

I had blood tests that came back as "as more stereotypically F" so what the does it mean?

Its definitely there
It has forskin and a tip and everything its just finger width instead of anything more

It can also get hard and whatnot too

My [M / NB] boyfriend [NB] thinks I should get proper in depth testing done and a second opinion but i'm scared to feel upset again

I found what I was
So I thought..

Then I was worried it would affect transition so I asked a doctor to take a look the doctor smashed that answer that into 1000 peices because "the c_______ is larger than normal" was all they said so I don't really wanna go through that again

Stupid words giving me dysphoria damn it [hence why they're censored]

Note [I'm FTM I just don't like admitting it] I haven't started T yet / haven't started the medical part of transitioning yet

We agreed to live together at a month in and marry at 5 months

We both click so well
We're similarly traumatized and we just wanna settle down so that's what happen

Why do people think that's too fast tho?

We're both nurospicy and trans and just wanna not have to deal with broken heart and more trauma again

When did y'all get married?

When I was a student there was a convention at Staffs Uni at some point

If they still do it when is it?

Bf [NB]
Chronic pain and audhd
Me [M / NB]
Very disabled

He helps me with things like helping me get to appointments and stuff as well as helping with my wheelchair and movement issues

*lcfw
Low capability for work

After a failed s*****e attempt I thought I'd try to book myself in to a mental health place for my own safety

They put me through to the local crisis team when I called

... I started in position 1 and I've been in position 1 for 01.50.00+...

UPDATE
I'm at the mental health clinic waiting to be seen / become an inpatient

I remember me and a friend trained my DS and their GBA SP for a week when we were kids and that's how I played the game but I don't have a clue what the game was called

From what I remember it was top down / 3rd person perspective

I wanna hold them

I know their feelings disappeared and they don't want pressure of any form

Bit we LIVE together and I can't stop thinking about holding them and crying

1.5 years in er had to move and we ended up living in a toxic environment for 4 years.. after getting outta there realized we.. 6+ years [relationship total] and now "I love you" felt like a lie and.. what we had years ago is gone..

It hurts so much.. We're friends who live together..

And since they're incapable of emotions they don't feel the hurt I do.. We should wait for a while
Maybe 6 months.. see how things are then in our friendship

But it HURTS so much when I feel lonely..

Me and my friend currently rent a 1 bed flat that we put dividers up to make a 2 bed flat

We wanted to move to a bigger flat as friends [2 bed] because we still get along but we originally moved here as a couple over a year ago and it feels really clostraphobic

When we got accepted for this place 20,000 ish joint income over a year [benefits] was enough to not need a garentor

Apparently now [according to the estate agents] to move to a slightly more expensive place that's around 100 more each month and live together as friends we would BOTH need 20,000 [benefits or otherwise] over a year not the joint 20,000 that was fine before
And likely now would need a garentor anyway

.. Why the change? We're still both paying split rent from a joint bank account

Spelling issues? - blame the dislexia
Cheers for any imput