TLDR: my downstairs neighbors have been excessively slamming/banging around since they moved in about seven months ago. management has warned them multiple times, but tonight it’s almost 1am and the banging is still shaking my floor and keeping me awake while i’m recovering from surgery. what do i do when it’s disruptive but not necessarily loud music this time?

i’m 22F, so i understand partying and having friends over. i’m not expecting complete silence. but i’ve also lived in this apartment for over two years and genuinely never heard my previous downstairs neighbor, so i know this isn’t just normal noise for the building.

ever since these neighbors moved in, they’ve constantly slammed their front door, stomped, banged into walls, and had late-night parties. the slamming is hard enough to vibrate through my floor and send my normally chill cats running.

management has already spoken to them multiple times. i previously reported a weekday party that lasted from 6pm-2am with screaming, smoking, drinking, and banging outside. and before anyone asks how i know they were drinking, i literally have a video of one girl screaming, “EMMAAAA, I’M SOOOO DRUNKKKK, i’ve NEVER been this drunk!!” 🙃 my landlord specifically told me “not to hesitate” to call the police next time they’re partying late and keeping me awake.

tonight there’s no loud music or screaming though. it’s just constant slamming/banging every couple minutes, including their front door slamming 10+ times and counting (not rlly but still). i had an ovary removed Monday and i’m trying to sleep, but every time it gets quiet another BANG shakes the floor.

at this point, what am i supposed to do? what would YOU do?? keep reporting every incident to management? call the non-emergency line even when it’s just frequent banging/door slamming, rather than a “music” party? i just want to be able to sleep and relax in my own apartment.

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TLDR: my downstairs neighbors have been excessively slamming doors/banging around ever since they moved in about seven months ago. management has warned them multiple times, but they’re doing it again tonight at almost 1am and keeping me awake while i’m recovering from surgery. there’s no loud music tonight.. just constant banging hard enough to shake my floor every couple minutes. what do i even do?

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i’m 22F and i’ve been dealing with extremely loud downstairs neighbors for months. ever since they moved in they constantly slam their front door, stomp around, bang into walls, slam things around and have people over to party late at night.

i’m young so i completely understand partying and having friends over every now and then, that isn’t my issue. i’ve also lived in this same apartment for over two years and had a great relationship with my previous downstairs neighbor. i genuinely NEVER heard a peep from her, so i know what normal noise in this building sounds like.

the door slamming is probably the worst part. it’s so loud and hard that i can physically feel it through the floor. i always know when the guy is home because the floor vibrates and my cats immediately go scurrying.

i already complained to management, and apparently they had spoken to them before about the noise. after my most recent complaint, they were given a more serious warning that if it continued there could be consequences with their lease.

i specifically told my landlord about one weekday party that went from 6pm-2am. at 2am they were still outside banging around, smoking, drinking, and SCREAMING. and before anyone asks how i know they were drinking, i literally have a video where one of the girls can be heard screaming, “EMMAAAA, I’M SOOOO DRUNKKKK, i’ve NEVER been this drunk!!” 🙃 when i told my landlord my mom had suggested calling the police that night, he told me “not to hesitate to call them” the next time they’re partying late and keeping me awake.

there’s apparently been another issue with them smoking too. my landlord noticed cigarette butts scattered around the property and asked if they were mine. i told him i don’t smoke cigarettes and that i’d seen them smoking on their porch a couple times (i’m a snitch idc, sue me). he said he also believed they were coming from the “college-aged guy” below me.

and yet tonight it’s happening AGAIN 😀🔫

their front door slammed more than 10 times within a couple minutes earlier, and now there’s some kind of banging, slamming, or crashing underneath me every couple of minutes. i had surgery to get an ovary removed on Monday, it’s almost 1am and i cannot sleep.

i feel ridiculous even keeping track of how many times a door gets slammed, but this has been going on for so long that i’m genuinely at my limit. every time things finally get quiet, another BANG vibrates through my floor and sends my cats running, startling both me and my bf.

i even turned my porch light on tonight hoping they’d realize i’m clearly still awake and maybe take the hint that they’re being insanely loud, but they’re still going. after all of this, it’s getting hard not to feel like they either do not care or are doing it deliberately.

management clearly knows there’s a problem, so what am i supposed to do at this point? keep complaining? call the non-emergency police line when they’re partying this late? has anyone actually dealt with neighbors who continued after several warnings from management?

i don’t expect complete silence in an apartment. i just want to be able to exist and sleep in my own home again without my floor vibrating underneath me all night.

i posted yesterday..

i’m now 3 days post-op from having my right ovary removed and extensive endometriosis surgery. i’m still barely able to walk, i’m bloated, sore, and on pain meds.

all i wanted was a gatorade for my sore throat. i’ve barely been eating, and honestly it just sounded nice. i thought it’d be good for me to get out of the house for a little bit.

my boyfriend said he’d take me if i’d pay him back sunday for gas. cool… whatever.

we get to the gas station and suddenly he’s pissed because his account is at $0 after putting gas in. i had offered earlier to just use my own money because i knew where the conversation was headed, but he kept giving me attitude.

so i said, “that’s what we get for paying for premium gas.”

he got angrier, “no. this is what happens when you don’t help me.”

then he turned the car around (mid-road) and started swerving every corner while i was in the passenger seat.

i had surgery TWO DAYS AGO. every little movement hurt.

he knew this. it kept getting more aggressive as i screamed at him, “what is wrong with you?”

he drove me back home, told me to get out, and left me in the parking lot. no gatorade. nothing.

i was waddling back to my apartment trying not to cry because my stomach hurt so bad.

my next-door neighbor (who i’m close with) saw me and asked if i was okay.

i told her, “i’m just in a lot of pain… all i wanted was a gatorade.”

10 minutes later she came back with gatorade, chicken noodle soup, and breakfast sandwiches. she hugged me, told me i’m like a daughter to her and said if i needed anything to let her know.

after that conversation i cried more..

i think what broke me was realizing a woman who isn’t related to me showed me more kindness in 10 minutes than the person i’m dating did all day.

i’m just exhausted.

Rome has made it pretty clear since being evicted that he wants Lyric out ASAP so they can be together.

On BB Unlocked he basically said he hopes she’s next because he doesn’t want to wait all summer to be with her.

Meanwhile, after he left, Lyric told Kamu they “didn’t really kiss that much,” said she wanted to see who she’d want to bring home before deciding, started flirting with him, and then in the DR said she loves Rome and that he’d want her to do whatever helps her win the game.

Do you think Rome will be upset watching this back, or do you think he’ll understand it’s just gameplay?

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I (29F) got married last weekend. My husband (31M) and I were very clear that the wedding was childfree. We wanted one peaceful adult event without screaming, sticky fingers, or children interrupting important moments.

My younger sister, Lily (27F), was my maid of honor and nine months pregnant. Her due date wasn’t until two days after the wedding, so I didn’t think it would be an issue.

Halfway through the reception, Lily disappeared. About twenty minutes later, my mom pulled me aside and told me she had given birth in the bridal suite.

Thankfully, two guests were nurses, and both Lily and the baby were healthy. However, almost everyone abandoned the reception to crowd around them. Even our photographer started taking newborn photos despite being paid to photograph my wedding.

When the paramedics carried the baby through the ballroom, everyone cheered, the DJ played “Isn’t She Lovely,” and my cousin announced the baby’s name over the microphone.

This happened immediately before our first dance.
I quietly asked the wedding coordinator to remind Lily that the event was childfree. I wasn’t saying Lily had to leave… just that her husband or my mom could take the baby to the hospital while she stayed for the speeches and cake cutting.

My mom looked horrified and said, “She just gave birth.”
I said I understood, but the baby had still technically arrived without an invitation.

Lily started crying and insisted on going to the hospital with her newborn. Almost my entire family followed her, leaving around 40 empty seats. Nobody watched our first dance, and we had to cancel the sparkler exit because there weren’t enough people left to hold the sparklers.

Now Lily refuses to speak to me. My mom says I’m jealous because she “stole the spotlight,” but I’m not angry that she gave birth. I’m angry that everyone turned our $63,000 wedding into an impromptu birthday party.

AITA for expecting the childfree rule to apply to every child, regardless of when they entered the venue?

EDIT: Yes, we knew her due date before choosing the wedding date, but this was the only Saturday the venue had available. You only get married once. People give birth every day.

EDIT 2: Since everyone keeps asking about the photos, yes, I was concerned about Lily’s weight affecting the photos. I placed her at the end of the bridal party so she could be cropped out if necessary. Unfortunately, she still found a way to become the focal point.