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Tie your camel and trust Allah, yaani, do your best and then leave it to Allah; in this case, doing your best would be ensuring that the man you're marrying is God-fearing and upon the correct manhaj, so that he fears taking away your rights from you. After that, you should complete your Islamic obligations towards your husband and trust Allah. Remember that your Islamic obligations towards your husband are also ibadah, and is ibadah for the creation or the creator? Of course, the creator's right, Habiba? Don't think like this: "I need to study/work in case so and so happens." Have good expectations from Allah; Allah won't disappoint you.

Working or studying in duniyai matters is not forbidden, of course; however, you should not give it such importance that, to obtain it, you put yourself into haram, like co-ed schools, free-mixing workplaces, or taking riba for college, etc.

Allah has made men the caretakers for women, so there is nothing wrong with depending on your male relatives in this duniya to provide for you financially, as Allah has given the men this duty. Do not take it upon yourself when there isn't a need. Have patience and trust in Allah.

Tie your camel and trust Allah, yaani, do your best and then leave it to Allah; in this case, doing your best would be ensuring that the man you're marrying is God-fearing and upon the correct manhaj, so that he fears taking away your rights from you. After that, you should complete your Islamic obligations towards your husband and trust Allah. Remember that your Islamic obligations towards your husband are also ibadah, and is ibadah for the creation or the creator? Of course, the creator's right, Habiba? Don't think like this: "I need to study/work in case so and so happens." Have good expectations from Allah; Allah won't disappoint you.

Working or studying in duniyai matters is not forbidden, of course; however, you should not give it such importance that, to obtain it, you put yourself into haram, like co-ed schools, free-mixing workplaces, or taking riba for college, etc.

Allah has made men the caretakers for women, so there is nothing wrong with depending on your male relatives in this duniya to provide for you financially, as Allah has given the men this duty. Do not take it upon yourself when there isn't a need. Have patience and trust in Allah.

Tie your camel and trust Allah, yaani, do your best and then leave it to Allah; in this case, doing your best would be ensuring that the man you're marrying is God-fearing and upon the correct manhaj, so that he fears taking away your rights from you. After that, you should complete your Islamic obligations towards your husband and trust Allah. Remember that your Islamic obligations towards your husband are also ibadah, and is ibadah for the creation or the creator? Of course, the creator's right, Habiba? Don't think like this: "I need to study/work in case so and so happens." Have good expectations from Allah; Allah won't disappoint you.

Working or studying in duniyai matters is not forbidden, of course; however, you should not give it such importance that, to obtain it, you put yourself into haram, like co-ed schools, free-mixing workplaces, or taking riba for college, etc.

Allah has made men the caretakers for women, so there is nothing wrong with depending on your male relatives in this duniya to provide for you financially, as Allah has given the men this duty. Do not take it upon yourself when there isn't a need. Have patience and trust in Allah.

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Can anyone who has contacts with mshaykh do the hard work of getting the contact information of some shaykh's wife/wives, so that I can ask fatwa without having to DM male scholars myself

(ones who are actually known to reply)

السلام عليكم ورحمه الله وبركاته

I'm a revert woman, and so I more than often get situations where I need specific fatwa, and I don't want to speak to male scholars, if anyone have contacts of female scholars who have the authority to give fatwa, please send them to me, I would be very helpful.

بارك الله فيك

I slept almost 10 hours today, and the moment I decided to sit at my desk to study, I feel sleepy as hell.

My mother ordered a burger from Zepto Cafe, but I don't wanna eat it until I know it's halal. I emailed them, and they said that they try to ensure halal meat, and they take from random places, which didn't sit right with me.

Does anyone know?

I am assuming it would be the October 1990 riots, as my mother is currently in her late 40s, and when she was young, she got caught up in the crossfire of a Hindu-Muslim riot, and her house was burnt down along with the houses of other Hindu neighbours by muslims, now I don't know which riot this is I just guessed because she doesn't wanna talk about it.

But since this was a localised personal experience with almost no backstory or context, I would like you all to tell me more. If any of you experienced this riot, what was it like for you? What actually happened? What was the context?

It's obviously horrendous what those people did and what happened to her, but I feel like there is a deeper rabbit hole than just one group being the villian.

I am assuming it would be the October 1990 riots, as my mother is currently in her late 40s, and when she was young, she got caught up in the crossfire of a Hindu-Muslim riot, and her house was burnt down along with the houses of other Hindu neighbours by muslims, now I don't know which riot this is I just guessed because she doesn't wanna talk about it.

But since this was a localised personal experience with almost no backstory or context, I would like you all to tell me more. If any of you experienced this riot, what was it like for you? What actually happened? What was the context?

It's obviously horrendous what those people did and what happened to her, but I feel like there is a deeper rabbit hole than just one group being the villian.

At 18 I voluntarily converted to a different religion, and she keeps rage baiting me with her disgusting dirty tongue, which I don't wanna get into at this moment, but one thing she says to completely violate my agency as an adult is "nothing is important for you, you're only doing this to please that man". Talking about my fiance/islamic husband.

At first thought it might sound understandable right? Except I converted to the religion way before I actually even decided to get married and she knows this, and she actually knows how passionately I follow this religion. I wake up every single day at 5 am without fail to pray, fast an entire month, despite of her trying to force feed me and her beating me for praying, since the past 3 years.

Why on earth would I do all that for a man? Especially when HE CAN'T EVEN SEE ME. If I were doing this for him and only his validation I would only practice when he's around? And even she knows that's not the case.

Plus she's see the way I speak about the religion so passionately I saved up to buy books, and I'm always studying about it.

Now I know she's projecting because, she's always crying about how miserable she is in her marriage and how she hates my dad so I always suggest separation and she always gets mad and says "how do you know the other guy will be better?" "Do you think I'm a prostitute?".

What other guy bro, there is no other guy, she's so male centric, that she cannot imagine her life without constantly pleasing a man, so she can't fathom the fact that I'm not doing the same.

The reason I'm so so angry right now, is because I genuinely sat down and thought, giving her some benefit of the doubt, thinking she loves me in her own twisted way and that's okay at least she loves me. Then she pulls this.

I'm actually so mad right now.

For those of you wondering why I'm with my parents while essentially married, it's because I'm not legally married yet, also because my family poses threat to him and his, and I don't want my mother to go berserk and harm him (which she has tried before) and she have tried to kill me when I tried to move out with a minimum wage job that I got, so I'm just trying my best atm to get out of the country along with him so that we can reunite somewhere else far from all this violence.

How can one claim to not be a porn consumer when they read "dark romance" and teenage romance genre?

The fact that sex scenes are depicted in these books so explicitly and in details that it gives the same dopamine rush as porn.

It's especially frustrating because, as a writer myself, it feels as though to write a book that actually gets a lot of views and revenue especially, all you need to do is write explicit smut in a descriptive way and boom you're viral.

You cannot compete with this genre as a new artist with modest storylines in the 21st century and I think that's depressing.

I would like to get some insight on what you think about this situation. When my mother was young she got caught in a crossfire of communal violence between two communities where both communities were constantly hurting each other.

My mother's house was set on fire by the other party and she and her family had to flee and spend the next few weeks very miserably.

Fast forward to almost 45 years later, I willingly, choose to follow the religion of the people who hurt my mother.

But I'm not indifferent to her trauma and pain, and I strongly condemn and am against the people who committed that act, and would never do something like that to anyone.

Am I morally a bad person?

Recently, I have been hearing all these news justifications and rules about if someone apostates, they are rehabilitated, given like 3 days to think about their decision, and they are given a scholar to clear their shubuhat, and if they aren't publicly causing havoc, then they aren't killed etc, but I don't know how much of these are actually true.

Please suggest some books, english or arabic, even urdu is fine, to help me understand these topics and find out the truth about these things.

Recently, I have been hearing all these news justifications and rules about if someone apostates, they are rehabilitated, given like 3 days to think about their decision, and they are given a scholar to clear their shubuhat, and if they aren't publicly causing havoc, then they aren't killed etc, but I don't know how much of these are actually true.

Please suggest some books, english or arabic, even urdu is fine, to help me understand these topics and find out the truth about these things.

I wanted to get some opinions so I posted a situation in AITK sub instead of AITAH, cuz I thought the AITAH sub being international won't understand the cultural implications of my situation.

And holy, I currently have 2 men extensively stalking my account, taking ss and replying to every single comment made under that post, since the last 4 hours I'm getting non stop comments from them.

They are claiming they've "exposed me" and I'm genuine laughing out loud to that, and they are so dumb and ignorant too one of them said I follow the "afghan people" just cuz I'm muslim. HELP?

But like why do they do this? And they always do it to women and kids never to men too.

Every Saturday my parents go to Kali mandir, and then when they come back, they put the flower on everyone's forehead, and then give us a little prasad sweet from it.

No one is allowed to refuse even if they refuse my mother will basically shove it in their mouth forcefully, and we're not even allowed to say later and eat it later if we want. If she catches us we're getting prasad force fed.

Now, I'm almost 21 and I, by choice follow a different religion, an Abrahamic one, and my mother knows this, though she's not accepting of it, but knows my routine and dietary choices, which I don't expect her to meet, I like cooking my own food, except I have to do it secretly because I'm not allowed to make food for only myself and eat.

Regardless, she knows I don't find her gods revered or even consider them holy. I usually lock myself in the bathroom for a while when she's distributing or if she forces in my mouth I spit it out later, not in front of her.

I don't do any act of worship of my own religion around her or in front of her to respect her, I keep it personal and private.

Yesterday I was watching TV with my brother, I was half lying down and my brother was sitting beside me, and my mother came to give us the prasad, she asked me to get up and shove it in my mouth, and I lied back down, so that she couldn't see my face and was basically waiting for her to go away.

Literally 5 mins go by and she's still standing there for no reason and I can't see her but I could feel her standing there so, I look up and she is literally staring at me, waiting to eat it with a grim face.

She goes "are you planning to spit it out?"

I literally started laughing to keep the atmosphere light and said "yeah" and spit it out in front of her on the empty plate that was there.

Then she tried to emotionally blackmail me like "how could you spit out kali ma's prasad" and I'm like "don't guilt trip me with things you know I don't care about".

Am I The Kameena? Also for context if anyone ever dares to say no to my mother or don't do things her way she goes abusively berserk, so I try my best to keep the cool of the house with all these tactics. But one thing that I don't do is lie, I don't like lying.

Edit: guys I am not allowed to eat anything that has been spelled by scriptures from a different religion, made in the name of a different god, or offered to a different god, in my religion.

Edit 2: can't believe I actually have to write this but, my parents don't let me move out, even when I had a job, my mother is very violent and became extremely abusive when I tried to move out, because according to her only sluts live alone. Unmarried women shouldn't live alone and should live with their parents.

My friend who's in her 40s owns an apartment building basically she owns the entire property, and she sold and rented out almost most of her flats to hindus without any discrimination.

The actual audacity of these pigs, they bought their housing from a muslim woman, and they still have the nerve to openly discriminate against muslims calling them terrorists and murderers. These stupid dogs literally speak behind her back insulting her all the time.

There was a peepal ka paudha that was growing in front of the building, it wasn't a tree yet, and to avoid it being worshipped and causing a road block (cuz the road there is extremely narrow) once it grew into a tree, my friend asked for it to be uprooted.

The guard who she asked was also a hindu and he went and told the Hindu residents, and they literally plotted an entire drama against her, I actually can't believe that people are this jobless irl.

They told the guard to do it at midnight and that "we will come and beat you for it, and you turn on her" something of that sort. Then you could visibly see like all the residents trailing around the path, for no reason pretending to go for a night walk or walk their dog it doesn't even make sense like y'all so jobless bruh 😭😭😭

My friend realised that something was up, and then yeah they did the entire drama idk if they actually beat him up but they basically publicly started bullying my friend calling her pakistani and terrorist, all over a plant.

Then these people are crying about "we won't give residents to muslims" stop buying residents from muslims then? Lol.

I made a post in a different sub advising women who are scared of marriage to just have trust in Allah and do good and obey their husbands for the sake of Allah that way goodness is guaranteed back to them, from the verse in Surah Rahman.

Some girl in the comment was doing whataboutism, talking about "you should be girl's girl and support women" like what?

Then I asked her to stop creating negativity in my replies so she posted a screenshot about a vent post from a completely different sub I had made anonymously about what happened to me when I was 14, to shame me, when I became muslim at 18.

She stalked me hard enough to find a post I made a long time ago but somehow missed the ones where I mentioned over and over that I became muslim at 18? I'm all for assuming the best but this is hard to believe.

She basically exposed an old sin just because she didn't wanna accept my advice, and I'm a girl and she knew that. This is liberal women's definition of being "girl's girl".

As a new muslim the hadith about women being majority in hell used to give me the ick, but seeing this generation of women I completely completely understand that hadith. I don't see myself above it either, hopefully Allah has mercy on me and admits me to Jannah.

But wallahi I wouldn't do this to my worst enemy سبحان الله.