u/No_Association4068

i’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. my bf has adhd and he’s constantly switching hobbies and interests. at first i thought it was just him being random, but honestly, it’s actually kind of amazing. he’s like a human encyclopedia because he’s always deep-diving into something new, so there’s never a dull moment. she actually told me she loves it because it means our relationship is never the same everyday since she’s always bringing something new to the table. it honestly changed my perspective on it.

does anyone else here have a partner like this? i’d love to hear how you guys deal with the hobby graveyard or if you’ve started picking up any of their random interests too lol. it’s pretty cool to see how other people’s brains work.

Hi everyone! I'm 17f from southeast asia. I’ve recently fallen in love with Victorian and Edwardian era fashion specifically the structured look of 1800s menswear and Dark Academia. I know these interests can feel a bit rare or weird to people around me in my daily life, so I wanted to see if there are any others around my age (17-19) who share this passion? I'd love to connect with people who actually appreciate the history and silhouette of these clothes. It’s just so beautiful and I’d love to find some like minded friends who understand the vibe:)

Hi everyone! I'm 17f from southeast asia. I’ve recently fallen in love with Victorian and Edwardian era fashion specifically the structured look of 1800s menswear and Dark Academia. I know these interests can feel a bit rare or weird to people around me in my daily life, so I wanted to see if there are any others around my age (17-19) who share this passion? I'd love to connect with people who actually appreciate the history and silhouette of these clothes. It’s just so beautiful and I’d love to find some like minded friends who understand the vibe:)

Hi everyone! I'm 17f from southeast asia. I’ve recently fallen in love with Victorian and Edwardian era fashion specifically the structured look of 1800s menswear and Dark Academia. I know these interests can feel a bit rare or weird to people around me in my daily life, so I wanted to see if there are any others around my age (17-19) who share this passion? I'd love to connect with people who actually appreciate the history and silhouette of these clothes. It’s just so beautiful and I’d love to find some like minded friends who understand the vibe:)

so idk anymore but I really need advice on my relationship patterns. Whenever I like a guy and get comfortable, I start thinking about him 24/7, making big plans, and doing cute creative stuff like drawing for them or writing letters. But the problem is, the guys I work my ass off for always end up taking me for granted and abandoning me, leaving me completely brokenhearted. On the other hand, when nice boys actually chase me and tell me they like me, I’ll try to date them and make it work, but it just feels fake and like we're just pretending to like each other. I get the ick or feel totally disconnected because there's no overthinking or intensity. Why do I only feel obsessed when I'm fighting for someone who leaves, but get bored when someone actually wants me and treats me right? Has anyone else dealt with this?

okay so idk anymore but is it an INFP thing where whenever I like someone and feel comfortable I literally start thinking about them 24/7, making all these big plans, and doing cute creative stuff for them like drawing or writing letters? But the problem is the people I work my ass off for always end up taking me for granted and abandoning me, leaving me completely brokenhearted. On the other hand, when nice people actually tell me they like me, I’ll try to date them and make it work, but it just feels fake and doesn't give me that same deep feeling like, I get the ick or feel like we're just pretending to like each other because there's no overthinking or intensity. Why do I only feel obsessed when I'm fighting for someone who leaves but feel totally disconnected when someone actually wants me?

so idk anymore but I really need advice on my relationship patterns. Whenever I like a guy and get comfortable, I start thinking about him 24/7, making big plans, and doing cute creative stuff like drawing for them or writing letters. But the problem is, the guys I work my ass off for always end up taking me for granted and abandoning me, leaving me completely brokenhearted on the other hand, when nice boys actually chase me and tell me they like me, I’ll try to date them and make it work, but it just feels fake and like we're just pretending to like each other. I get the ick or feel totally disconnected because there's no overthinking or intensity. Why do I only feel obsessed when I'm fighting for someone who leaves, but get bored when someone actually wants me and treats me right? Has anyone else dealt with this?

okay so idk anymore but is it an INFP thing where whenever I like someone and feel comfortable I literally start thinking about them 24/7, making all these big plans, and doing cute creative stuff for them like drawing or writing letters? But the problem is the people I work my ass off for always end up taking me for granted and abandoning me, leaving me completely brokenhearted. On the other hand, when nice people actually tell me they like me, I’ll try to date them and make it work, but it just feels fake and doesn't give me that same deep feeling like, I get the ick or feel like we're just pretending to like each other because there's no overthinking or intensity. Why do I only feel obsessed when I'm fighting for someone who leaves but feel totally disconnected when someone actually wants me?

I am looking for some advice on how to handle a situation in my relationship. Everything else is going well, but my partner has started using a specific term as a joke that is starting to really bother me. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a bit, and everything is usually great. But lately, he keeps telling me that I’m grooming him because I’m a year older. When I get confused or upset, he jokes around and says things like, "Yeah you're grooming me but I like it though."We are literally 16 and 17 so we are peers and this is obviously not grooming. I think he is just repeating edgy internet jokes or TikTok memes, but it is a really heavy, serious accusation. It makes me feel super uncomfortable, stressed out and grossed out every time he says it.

I want something beside video calls and stuff. I think I want to write a letter and then send a voice message reading it to him I'm not sure how to do this. Any ideas you guys have? :))

Hi, everyone I'm looking for some ideas on what to do for our anniversary and we are long distance. I want to try write a letter and then send him a voice message reading that. Do you guys have any other ideas;)

Thank you!

I want something beside video calls and stuff. I think I want to write a letter and then send a voice message reading it to him I'm not sure how to do this. Any ideas you guys have? :))

I feel so guilty and sad. So I brought a female kitten home like last week and it's a stray and like she was doing fine and growing bigger so it's good and she was okay with my two other cats. So just yesterday when I got home from school around 8Pm, my male cat got in heat around my kitten and he kinda bite her neck and stuff and we separated them and all was good for the night until morning I didn't see my kitten but I thought she was asleep somewhere so I went to school as usual and when I came back home around 11am my mom told me that she couldn't find the kitten at all like in the house she already checked for her but there's no sign and we thought she was hiding or yk cats always do that after soemthing happened to them. And I waited like 3-6 hours to pass and to see if the kitten would come out at all and she didn't and I didn't even hear any noises she made like nothing. She's gone and my mom left the balcony door opened this morning so I'm so sad I mean my mom said the cats were like playing and chasing with eachother this morning especially my kitten and my male cat and I know my male cat might bite her or whatever too hard I'm so sorry and I feel so guilty for not being there on time because when I got home the kitten already gone. And there's no sign of her. Like I'm so sorry I feel so guilty I brought her here to take care of her and I couldn't do that I'm so useless and pathetic I'm such a bad owner. It was raining so hard this afternoon, I'm not sure how's she doing. I wonder if she's cold or not because if she's outside she must be so scared and cold because it was raining so hard and she's just a baby I'm so fucking guilty I'm so sorry I hate myself sm for not taking her properly I hope the kitten is doing fine because I still haven't heard anything from her:(

I'm such a bad fucking owner. I feel so fucking guilty. It's almost 9 pm now and we still haven't seen her anywhere in the house. I'm so sad rn. Poor little thing. I know you might feel so cold and scared under thunderstorm. I'm so sorry for not being a good owner I'm sorry for even bringing you here I'm sorry. I'm not sure If this is the right place to post this but Idk what to do anymore. Should I wait until morning or no? Im not sure I'm so worried about her rn but it's raining and cold and it's so dark we cant do anything rn. I'm not sure how silent cats can be but I haven't heard her making noises for once today in the house. I'm so sorry omg I feel so guilty. You can call me terrible owner because I wasn't there when it happened. I'm so terrible. Please what can I do???

I wanna know please lemme know what you INTJ people think of INFP people?

Is there anyone who's an Infp dating an INTJ? What is it like? LEMME KNOW. Thank you!

I wonder why I never thought positively for once. I know people like me and accept who I am but sometimes I always try to find something to make it sound like nobody likes me and I'm miserable because I think they don't and they just say it to make me happy. I'm so miserable and pathetic