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Im not a very impressive 28 year old and I haven’t been before that either, but I’m trying to get my act together and make something of my life. I reckon it would take a bit longer before I’ve dealt with unfinished business and it would be nice to heard from others that Im not alone in this.

Ive spend my 20s being addicted and doing my shadow work. I was a realtor for a year and was relatively successful and I completed 3/4 of a college degree. That’s what I have under my belt, and I’m not satisfied with it.

I know external achievement isn’t everything, and I’d like to reframe that into a definition as what impresses you or what you area satisfied with, but I think most of us would like to explore our capacities.

Im not a fan of using the world loser, but were you someone who wasn’t satisfied with his sense of measured competence or achievement and who later rebuilt their life to do something that they were satisfied with? It would be nice to hear from others about this.

Im not a very impressive 28 year old and I haven’t been before that either, but I’m trying to get my act together and make something of my life. I reckon it would take a bit longer before I’ve dealt with unfinished business and it would be nice to heard from others that Im not alone in this.

I made another post earlier asking if people at this age managed to become a more impressive version of themselves in their mid to late 30s, and I now realize how silly that question is so I wanted to reframe it abit.

I know external achievement isn’t everything, and I’d like to reframe that into a definition as what impresses you or what you area satisfied with, but I think most of us would like to explore our capacities.

Im not a fan of using the world loser, but were you someone who wasn’t satisfied with his sense of measured competence or achievement and who later rebuilt their life to do something that they were satisfied with? It would be nice to hear from others about this.

Mental health struggles and unfinished business are showing me a discouraging situation at 28. I feel like most people who blossom later in life are pretty quiet and humble about it. Was that you? It would be encouraging for me to hear about.

This is something that jungian Donald Kalsched talks very specifically about, and he has a very good understanding of this phenomena. When a child or baby was so overwhelmed by distress that a split occurrs and the person oscillates from victim to perpetrator, within their own psyche and in the external world often as well. These people can be sadistic and aggressive and also very helpless, in order to protect a very fragile part of the psyche that another unconscious part despises and sees as too weak. Now that I come to think about it, it’s probably most similar to IFS.

This is my life essentially. I feel like I’m getting somewhat closer but i have been regressing once the consequences of this dynamic has started to emerge into ego consciousness.

It would be an understatement for me to say that I feel helpless. Im trying to follow my journey as best I can, and I feel like I’m getting much closer to the real material as opposed to the “feel good” spirituality that Hollis describes.

Has anyone actually made it to the Otha side of this challenge and merged the split ? It would mean a lot to
Me to hear you share abit about the process and how it’s changed your life. Im starting to feel like even this jungian individuation work can be a rat race and I don’t have much of a choice than to somehow save myself. It’s been so lonely and I’d like to think that I can one day find understanding for myself and my history.

This is something that jungian Donald Kalsched talks very specifically about, and he has a very good understanding of this phenomena. When a child or baby was so overwhelmed by distress that a split occurrs and the person oscillates from victim to perpetrator, within their own psyche and in the external world often as well. These people can be sadistic and aggressive and also very helpless, in order to protect a very fragile part of the psyche that another unconscious part despises and sees as too weak.

This is my life essentially. You guys see me asking the same questions day after day. I feel like I’m getting somewhat closer but i have been regressing once the consequences of this dynamic has started to emerge into ego consciousness.

It would be an understatement for me to say that I feel helpless. Im trying to follow my journey as best I can, and I feel like I’m getting much closer to the real material as opposed to the “feel good” spirituality that Hollis describes.

Has anyone actually made it to the Otha side of this challenge and merged the split ? It would mean a lot to
Me to hear you share abit about the process and how it’s changed your life. Im starting to feel like even this jungian individuation work can be a rat race and I don’t have much of a choice than to somehow save myself. It’s been so lonely and I’d like to think that I can one day find understanding for myself and my history.

I find self compassion to be a somewhat complex shadow and that people can sometimes use something that look similar into the journey. Almost like we let our selves off the hook to easily which can erode self trust or respect. I feel like at the same time, genuine self compassion is the only thing that can truly heal. When did you find yours and how did it remain ?

I find self compassion to be a somewhat complex shadow and that people can sometimes use something that look similar into the journey. Almost like we let our selves off the hook to easily which can erode self trust or respect. I feel like at the same time, genuine self compassion is the only thing that can truly heal. When did you find yours and how did it remain ?

Im starting to wonder, if you strip everything way, would you say that the only thing that makes you feel safe is your your integrity ? Im 28 right now and I kind of am fishing for answers. As Im doing shadow work I feel like so much is unreliable. Maybe it really is the only thing because you are then choosing to build your own structure to lean on rather than others. You would need to essentially outsource. What do you think ?

Even on Jung sub I think that this question can very a lot from people who have what they would like to tell others as being embarrassing flaws whereas others, like myself, have very controversial flaws that have dominated a lot of my fears and have preoccupied a lot of my inner development. It may be the case that we all actually deal with a similar level of shame about our mistakes but I don’t think it’s necessarily true. If I take away the heroic thinking, I’ll admit that im quite scared of other people marginalizing or judging me for my flaws. I can act tough and like I don’t care, but at 28, I care.

I haven’t owned my mistakes yet. The fantasy of my bravery of me facing my dragons and the reality of other people rejecting me, without trying to project or be cruel, are like two different worlds. It seems almost abit mystical, but have you ever gotten to the point of being able to genuinely accept your flaws enough to be able to tolerate such a reaction from others?

I’ve asked this type of question in different ways Im different subs. I used to think that the hardest thing would be to face my mistakes or my ugliness in my shadow but I’m starting to realize that the hardest thing I can think of is to face my grief.

I’ve heard advice such as - just face it already. I cannot follow that advice right now. What made you finally face it? I guess one needs to be ready for it. There is, after all, a reason why ive run away from it and built so many defenses for so long.

Im in such a quagmire and I feel as though a lot of my authority is in my shadow. There are a lot of lessons that are needed to be learned objectively, such as intergenerational victimhood thinking and passing of burdens.

There is my particular work and what I have to do and my complexes are making it so hard to navigate the path. Maybe my saving grace is if I do things to get better with myself to help quite some of the noise and to make the path more visible/ audible.

Im not going to convince myself that I can do things ideally or even rationally right now so I have to focus on what will work to get me to the next step.

The reason I ask this question is because ive heard that Iboga can be a quite blunt and at time, negative. I feel like I need some direct lessons to overcome my victim belief system but I wonder if it can become too negative and then be a bit counter productive. I can imagine there’s also a time and place to receive this message.

To me it feels like the darkness in my shadow could go on forever. I felt quite proud of myself when I saw how brave i was to do my shadow work, but at this point when I really see the full extent of my choices, I don’t see how I can realistically take my life into my hands and move onto something bigger. It’s just too much, the shadow is too dense and I was too young when the split happened. I don’t know if I’ll ever find my way out of this darkness.

Ive posted this type of question on Jung several times. I’ll try again. Were you able to get to a point where you were eventually able to make sense out of your mistakes?

Im 28 and my siblings are both moving forward with their lives. My sister is already a Dr and my brother is on his way to become a pilot.

At my age Im still unable to see myself objectively and im still feeling like I’m in a fog about what it what it will take for me to get to a better place. Ive been vacillating from the idea that I have limitless opportunity and that I am essentially unchangeable.

Im getting bored of the notion that things happened for a reason or that my life should be this way and it’s part of my spiritual journey.

The truth is that my siblings avoided making the terrible mistakes that I made and they worked for where they are at. I’ve worked for very hard where I’m at and I’m living with my mom and I’m picking up bags of trash to rebuild my integrity.

Im so confused. I was the intuitive and sensitive one who was divergent, but that isn’t an explanation for my track record. I wish I was able to see things more clearly and to have a general understanding of what and how long it will take for me to progress into adulthood. I know I have latent potential which I have been able briefly explore in these depth related subreddits, but that all means nothing until I can catch up to speed.

When I take away blame, excuses like people suggest, Im left with a black hole of confusion. The why me story has been playing often in my head. I don’t even want to convince myself that i won’t suffer the grief of my unlived life once I have paid my dues so to speak. Maybe my life will change in ways that are healing once I find my tribe so to speak.

I guess if I didn’t want to have kids I wouldn’t have to race against the clock. I just want things to make sense. Even if things are worse then I would have hoped. I just want to have a stable understanding of what’s going on and what it will take so to speak. Maybe that’s too much to ask for considering the depth of this sub.

I love camcantrun but his advice is exclusive to pc. Is there almost like an Xbox version of him?

Hi all! I know I already posted about this recently but just need 6 more locations! Maybe I’ll get some fresh eyes on this one. Does anyone know of any locations on public land that is heavily littered and that is in need of collecting ?

Hi all! I know I already posted about this recently but just need 6 more locations! Maybe I’ll get some fresh eyes on this one. Does anyone know of any locations on public land that is heavily littered and that is in need of collecting ?

Hi all! I know I already posted about this recently but just need 6 more locations! Maybe I’ll get some fresh eyes on this one. Does anyone know of any locations on public land that is heavily littered and that is in need of collecting ?

Hi all! I know I already posted about this recently but just need 6 more locations! Maybe I’ll get some fresh eyes on this one. Does anyone know of any locations on public land that is heavily littered and that is in need of collecting ?

Hi all! I know I already posted about this recently but just need 6 more locations! Maybe I’ll get some fresh eyes on this one. Does anyone know of any locations on public land that is heavily littered and that is in need of collecting ?