u/Technical_Step4410

I think that a lot of my darkest shadow s were my very young self trying to destroy myself and my life to get revenge on my parents. Im now 28 years old and what the 8 year old did has worked. Im speechless. I don’t know where to even start.

I need to build a stronger container because I feel like my shadow is stronger than my actual ego. Im burning so much energy repressing this shadow that I don’t feel like I can contain yet, that I sweat often.

I think usually Jung would say to engage in regular life, relationships, work, therapy, hobbies.

I feel like I can work and maybe do therapy. I am so identified with my shadow that I can’t really engage in real life relationships. Hobbies would be obnoxious because i would be constantly distracted by the overwhelming emotions that want to come out.

I feel like I’m kinda in a gridlocked situation.
If you can relate to me, please share what helped you to finally get to the place of being able to face the emotions and move through this stage. Ive been here for so many years already.

Im starting to come out of denial about the ways I behaved in my teens and early twenties and I want to find the right resources and educate myself so I can draw the line and consider this issue outgrown. Your suggestions would be helpful.

This is something I’m not really sure how to gauge- how long it will take for my nervous system to stabilize. I carry moral injury and it has makes me nearly dysfunctional in my day to day life.

Im planning on taking a a hiatus of 1-3 months and I hope that’s enough. Ive been carrying this stuff for most of my life and it needs to come out.

I know not all cases are the same, but if you could share your experience and the time it took you before you were able to function again, that would be helpful.

I heard there is a kiosk desk in Cancun that automatically gives 180 days that is open to Americans, Canadians or uk.

I was in Mexico twice in 2024. The first time they wrote 180 days and the second time they wrote 8.

Ive considered if I buy an insured ticket and demonstrated that I’ll be here for 180 days with hostel booking receipts and everything.

Are either one of these options more or less optimistic? I was thinking of booking a one way flight originally but thats probably not going to help
Me.

I want to travel to Mexico as a hiatus for as long as I can. I know officially as an American i can stay in Mexico for up for 180 days without a visa. That being said, I realize that they can easily stamp whatever they want and I have to leave the country before then. Do I just ask them nicely and this will resolve the issue?

I want to travel to Mexico as a hiatus for as long as I can. I know officially as an American i can stay in Mexico for up for 180 days without a visa. That being said, I realize that they can easily stamp whatever they want and I have to leave the country before then. Do I just ask them nicely and this will resolve the issue?

I heard this said in this jungian life and Im curious about it. I am having some really intense dreams. One being a vivid image of being in a suburban neighborhood as a 20 foot missile with front and back fins drops about 100 yards away from me and I woke up right when I was preparing to cover my ears and maybe die.

Now my dream ego (the perspective self in the dream) was absolutely terrified about this. It may have been the scariest dream Ive either ever had or Ive had in a long time.

Maybe the dream ego isn’t reliable though? Maybe this is a good thing. Im in the process of brining awareness to some really big mistakes that I haven’t brought to my consciousness yet. Maybe this isn’t such a bad thing after all.

This makes me wonder how reliable my dreams really are, If the perspective is unreliable.

As a 28 year old man Im reading a book about moral injury called “This too shall pass?” By Alex Parkview in which he basically says that relief never comes. Is this really true based on your experience? Because that would sound really awful. Im not sure how much reparative work he had engaged in when these injuries to his soul were made, mine were made in my formative years.

I know this is a heavy question but you guys have stood the test of time some if you can relate to my question, maybe you could shed some light on this issue.

As a 28 year who is beginning to accept the sober reality of my formative choices, Im starting to accept what is and that isn’t in store for my self. I can learn to accept of these things except for- the notion that I hear about in Alex Parkviews book “this too shall pass?” Which is that full relief never comes.

This sounds like an unbearable verdict. Is this true based on your experience? There must be another way.

Im not a former convict but Ive made pretty serious mistakes in my life. I used to have a naive attitude like I was on some kind of hero’s journey, and that if I face my demons, that I will be healed. Maybe I just haven’t earned it yet. Do you feel like you have redeemed yourself? Only you can ever really know.

I’m starting to overcome the illusion that I’ll ever go back to how it was beforehand. I want to think that there is still a possibility for living a fulfilling life, even if it may take a long time to get there. Have you managed to heal your moral injury or is it just something to tolerate or manage?

Im at a point in my life where I need someone to hold space for me so I can face difficult truths about my past. I don’t think it’s enough to use a random jungian who doesn’t have experience or understanding of my problems. If you know of anyone, especially in the state of Massachusetts, I’d be really appreciative, as I really need help in this stage of my life right now. I hope this doesn’t get taken down but I have to try anyway.

Im dealing with moral injury and I need help from someone who specializes in this. I’ve checked the ifs forum for the state and I haven’t found anyone who meets this criteria. Your suggestions and referrals would be greatly appreciated at this point in my life.

Im a 28 year old male and I want to take this part of my history out of the shadow and work through it with my therapist and other people who are struggling with this in their history as well.

I don’t think that this can effectively be done alone and although a therapist is part of my journey, I find it to be vital to have others to talk to about this who also want to work through the shame and guilt so I can eventually outgrow it and put it behind me.

I’ve already encountered a few people who are doing this work and it’s such a relief to talk with them about it, to realize that I’m not all alone. There are many actually. I did a pole on this sub a few weeks ago and 12% of 340 votes admitted to having had part that hurt or killed animals in the past. It would be better if we didn’t, but we did and we need to grow from it.

Feel free to dm me about it.

I haven’t found a sponsor yet and I’ve been wondering about this. Im working to transition into a functional adult from my late 20s into my 30s and I really want to just work through the things and bring them to the light so I can make peace with them and move on.

I don’t think that most people, particularly a future partner, will have any interest in hearing about my compulsive masturbation experiences and habits, and Im wondering if it may be reasonable to find a sponsor so I can work it through with them. I figure that it’s usually no one who wants to be “burdened” or “dumped on”, but I also think that an experienced sponsor would probably have heard of my behaviors before.

Have you done this as well? Do you mind sharing how it has benefited you or changed your perspective? I think most people outside of this community would be shocked at my kinks and my compulsive behaviors, and I have to just accept that as well, but if there’s anything I can do to help myself right now to lead a more dignified life in the future in spite of my history, Im all for it.

I’ve never been locked up but Ive made serious mistakes that I have been avoiding for a long time. I think it’s partly because I developed empathy and emotional maturity later in life, and because I didn’t grow up in a household where accountability was effectively modeled.

Im 28 now and owning what I’ve done feels like a death that my ego can’t handle. I know I have to do it and I’m not really sure how to go about it at the moment other than stretching my perspective a bit more each day and allowing more time for this process in my life.

I’ve decided to ask this question on this sub because you guys know real consequences and I’ve never learned them unfortunately, which is my biggest problem right now.

I have something about me that I really scared about. I don’t want to say it, but I have a certain thing that Im maybe most scared of myself being that is in my shadow. These thoughts and dreams come up.

It’s hard to gauge what this means and if the shadow is really that bad. Ive been told that it usually isn’t as bad as it seems, but thats not true. I’ve learned that some shadows are actually much worse than I have previously admitted.

That being said, I can do some investigative monitoring. My unconscious clearly knows who I am and my moral compass has a judgment on me. Now if I really was, per se, such a bad person or having this particular history or quality, then I’d probably not be able to be as socially functional as I am. I wouldn’t be as capable of being normal as I am, even if a lot of my behavior has been abnormal in terms of working through this stuff. So that could be a clue. I would probably be much less friendly or open if I had this trait. But then again, why would I constantly have this trait or behavior type flashing Infront of me. It’s really confusing.

Im very miserable right now in my late 20s. I realize autism is hard and all, but there are key areas in my life where I really need to grow up and it will take years. Did you finally get there in your 30s?