u/Visible-Island-2408

I understand that people have preferences but nobody needs to have preferences while putting other people down which is often the case with men and women who openly discuss how they wanna “participate in the oxford study”.

Many women who “participate in the oxford study” claim that Asian men are more misogynistic and/or right wing and they simply “have no choice” but to date white men. Statistically this is not true. The other argument is that “asian men look too much like family members” which is blatant racism buying into the idea that all asians look the same. Both of these arguments simply serve the purpose of making asian men feel inferior, a goal of white supremacy that has seen an unprecedented rise within the past few years.

The “Oxford study” also hurts Asian women since it reduces them to objects who are either viewed as possessions by Asian men who have now developed complexes due to being ridiculed or white men who fetishize Asian women as part of some social media trend.

I understand that people have preferences but nobody needs to have preferences while putting other people down which is often the case with men and women who openly discuss how they wanna “participate in the oxford study”.

Many women who “participate in the oxford study” claim that Asian men are more misogynistic and/or right wing and they simply “have no choice” but to date white men. Statistically this is not true. The other argument is that “asian men look too much like family members” which is blatant racism buying into the idea that all asians look the same. Both of these arguments simply serve the purpose of making asian men feel inferior, a goal of white supremacy that has seen an unprecedented rise within the past few years.

The “Oxford study” also hurts Asian women since it reduces them to objects who are either viewed as possessions by Asian men who have now developed complexes due to being ridiculed or white men who fetishize Asian women as part of some social media trend.

I keep seeing tiktoks and dating app profiles of asian women discussing how they love the oxford study and want to date white dudes. It sucks as an asian guy because I’d love someone from my own culture since we could bond over similar experiences growing up and a shared culture. I am not misogynistic or anything, take care of myself, am fit, and have my own successful career.

I am also open to all different races but have just found that I bond the most with people in my culture and have lots of friends from my own culture and other cultures too. It’s just depressing knowing that due to my ethnicity I have the least amount of likes combined with asian women making tiktoks complaining about asian men and openly discussing how much they love white men.

I keep seeing tiktoks and dating app profiles of asian women discussing how they love the oxford study and want to date white dudes. It sucks as an asian guy because I’d love someone from my own culture since we could bond over similar experiences growing up and a shared culture. I am not misogynistic or anything, take care of myself, am fit, and have my own successful career.

I am also open to all different races but have just found that I bond the most with people in my culture and have lots of friends from my own culture and other cultures too. It’s just depressing knowing that due to my ethnicity I have the least amount of likes combined with asian women making tiktoks complaining about asian men and openly discussing how much they love white men.

I am not here to brag on myself or anything but I am doing fairly well in my career, do a lot by volunteering in the community, and stay fit by working out/training around 5x per week. I don’t mind being busy and enjoy all the growth and giving I get to do. Recently I entered an awful depressive slump where I didn’t wanna do anything because of how awful dating has been, and would like advice on getting out of that slump.

While I am part of some social groups mostly through sports I haven’t had any success dating irl and have only gotten dates through the apps. Lately I haven’t gotten any dates through the apps and my last date seemed to go well but she ghosted anyway. Life has just felt so pointless because I don’t have anyone to share it with. It also makes me feel worthless that everyone else can date so easily yet no matter how much work I put into my life I have the same level of success as someone who sits at home and does nothing all day. Some of the most awful people I know have no issue getting gfs.

I’m very lost on what to do and despite how great my life is all I have wanted to do lately is hide in my room all day and reflect on how I am such a failure at dating and what is wrong with me. Sorry for the long rant but any advice is appreciated. I would like advice on where I could be going wrong here and how to get out of this depressive slump.

I am not here to brag on myself or anything but I am doing fairly well in my career, do a lot by volunteering in the community, and stay fit by working out/training around 5x per week. I don’t mind being busy and enjoy all the growth and giving I get to do. Recently I entered an awful depressive slump where I didn’t wanna do anything because of how awful dating has been, and would like advice on getting out of that slump.

While I am part of some social groups mostly through sports I haven’t had any success dating irl and have only gotten dates through the apps. Lately I haven’t gotten any dates through the apps and my last date seemed to go well but she ghosted anyway. Life has just felt so pointless because I don’t have anyone to share it with. It also makes me feel worthless that everyone else can date so easily yet no matter how much work I put into my life I have the same level of success as someone who sits at home and does nothing all day. Some of the most awful people I know have no issue getting gfs.

I’m very lost on what to do and despite how great my life is all I have wanted to do lately is hide in my room all day and reflect on how I am such a failure at dating and what is wrong with me. Sorry for the long rant but any advice is appreciated. I would like advice on where I could be going wrong here and how to get out of this depressive slump.

Anyone have any tips for dating successfully as an asian man in mostly white North American city? I can’t move due to my career. Most profiles on dating apps seem to hint either subtly or blatantly that they want a white man and I don’t get matches here at all. When I go to any other city it seems that I get tons of matches so I’m not even sure if my Hinge or Tinder profiles are the problem. It just feels like there is a lack of diversity here and everyone in this city prefers white people compared to other North American cities.

I try to attend irl events like sports leagues but haven’t had luck meeting people to date because the women who show up are either taken or hit on a lot by guys there to the point where they feel uncomfortable.

How do you stay disciplined enough to go consistently? I have been going two to three times a week consistently while having a full time job, school, lifting, running, and volunteering. Recently I have had zero motivation to go all of a sudden even though I really love the sport and how it’s helped my confidence and ability to defend myself. People have said it’s due to a lack of discipline but idk how to get more disciplined especially with everything else I have going on. I’d appreciate any advice from people who have had similar situations.

I am not here to brag on myself or anything but I am doing fairly well in my career, do a lot by volunteering in the community, and stay fit by working out/training around 5x per week. I don’t mind being busy and enjoy all the growth and giving I get to do. Recently I entered an awful depressive slump where I didn’t wanna do anything because of how awful dating has been, and would like advice on getting out of that slump.

While I am part of some social groups mostly through sports I haven’t had any success dating irl and have only gotten dates through the apps. Lately I haven’t gotten any dates through the apps and my last date seemed to go well but she ghosted anyway. Life has just felt so pointless because I don’t have anyone to share it with. It also makes me feel worthless that everyone else can date so easily yet no matter how much work I put into my life I have the same level of success as someone who sits at home and does nothing all day. Some of the most awful people I know have no issue getting gfs.

I’m very lost on what to do and despite how great my life is all I have wanted to do lately is hide in my room all day and reflect on how I am such a failure at dating and what is wrong with me. Sorry for the long rant but any advice is appreciated. I would like advice on where I could be going wrong here and how to get out of this depressive slump.

Some girl I know found out I liked her (I never made any moves and was just friendly). We would talk and hang out sometimes and I found out from someone else that she knew the whole time that I secretly liked her and would make fun of me to someone we knew. I don’t know why she didn’t just come to me about it or decline to hang out/talk if she was so offended that I liked her.

Some girl I know found out I liked her (I never made any moves and was just friendly). We would talk and hang out sometimes and I found out from someone else that she knew the whole time that I secretly liked her and would make fun of me to someone we knew. I don’t know why she didn’t just come to me about it or decline to hang out/talk if she was so offended that I liked her.

I am not here to brag on myself or anything but I am doing fairly well in my career, do a lot by volunteering in the community, and stay fit by working out/training around 5x per week. I don’t mind being busy and enjoy all the growth and giving I get to do. Recently I entered an awful depressive slump where I didn’t wanna do anything because of how awful dating has been, and would like advice on getting out of that slump.

While I am part of some social groups mostly through sports I haven’t had any success dating irl and have only gotten dates through the apps. Lately I haven’t gotten any dates through the apps and my last date seemed to go well but she ghosted anyway. Life has just felt so pointless because I don’t have anyone to share it with. It also makes me feel worthless that everyone else can date so easily yet no matter how much work I put into my life I have the same level of success as someone who sits at home and does nothing all day. Some of the most awful people I know have no issue getting gfs.

I’m very lost on what to do and despite how great my life is all I have wanted to do lately is hide in my room all day and reflect on how I am such a failure at dating and what is wrong with me. Sorry for the long rant but any advice is appreciated. I would like advice on where I could be going wrong here and how to get out of this depressive slump.

I am not here to brag on myself or anything but I am doing fairly well in my career, do a lot by volunteering in the community, and stay fit by working out/training around 5x per week. I don’t mind being busy and enjoy all the growth and giving I get to do. Recently I entered an awful depressive slump where I didn’t wanna do anything because of how awful dating has been, and would like advice on getting out of that slump.

While I am part of some social groups mostly through sports I haven’t had any success dating irl and have only gotten dates through the apps. Lately I haven’t gotten any dates through the apps and my last date seemed to go well but she ghosted anyway. Life has just felt so pointless because I don’t have anyone to share it with. It also makes me feel worthless that everyone else can date so easily yet no matter how much work I put into my life I have the same level of success as someone who sits at home and does nothing all day. Some of the most awful people I know have no issue getting gfs.

I’m very lost on what to do and despite how great my life is all I have wanted to do lately is hide in my room all day and reflect on how I am such a failure at dating and what is wrong with me. Sorry for the long rant but any advice is appreciated. I would like advice on where I could be going wrong here and how to get out of this depressive slump.

I’ve been going to my gym for a while now and I love the training and the people are pretty chill. My only problem is that lately I don’t have the most motivation to go as much because I don’t have friends who share this hobby. I know it is stupid but it kinda feels isolating having nobody to bounce off of in terms of training ideas or even to talk to for motivation.

I talk to a few people at my gym and have some regulars who like training with me. At most we say hi and make a bit of small talk about our day but besides that I don’t talk or hang out with anyone outside of training. My friends either don’t value fitness the way I do or value fitness but don’t engage with martial arts at all. I’m just wondering if anyone else has had this problem and if there’s anything I can do to fix it.

My friends constantly call me socially inept and force me into hours long conversations to discuss “why I behaved so awkwardly” because they may have noticed I said thank you too quietly at dinner or or did something wrong. They said they have to do this so I don’t keep fumbling girls or losing friends and I appreciate the help but it’s becoming a lot especially because I’m always tired and busy from working multiple jobs, volunteering, school, and working out. My parents are similar in that they keep asking me why I’ve never brought home a girl to meet them.

It’s gotten to the point where I want to isolate myself in my room for hours just on my phone bc I don’t wanna deal with the world anymore. I know my friends and family are right in a way because I recently held a birthday party where half the people cancelled last minute.

I don’t know how to fix my social skills because something always seems to go wrong and people legitimately hate me no matter how hard I try to be perfect and do nothing wrong.

My date today ghosted me last minute and I was just hoping to take a break from the constant grind. Looking for solo date ideas or encouragement to keep hitting the gym. Whatever works better in your opinion :(

My date today ghosted me last minute and I was just hoping to take a break from the constant grind. Looking for solo date ideas or encouragement to keep hitting the gym. Whatever works better in your opinion :(

Whenever I use dating apps as an asian man I have it way worse than my white counterparts in terms of matches and getting dates. I’ve asked other asian guys I know and apparently the fact that i’m getting matches and dates means I’m doing well. Is this true for Asian men? I pursue women of all races, not just white women.

Whenever I use dating apps as an asian man I have it way worse than my white counterparts in terms of matches and getting dates. I’ve asked other asian guys I know and apparently the fact that i’m getting matches and dates means I’m doing well. Is this true for Asian men? I pursue women of all races, not just white women.

Whenever I use dating apps as an asian man I have it way worse than my white counterparts in terms of matches and getting dates. I’ve asked other asian guys I know and apparently the fact that i’m getting matches and dates means I’m doing well. Is this true for Asian men? I pursue women of all races, not just white women.