u/Visible-Island-2408

High school and college are the last time that you will be around peers your age and when women will be forgiving if you don’t know basic dating skills like flirting. Afterwards it’s not only infinitely harder to date but the women you date will expect you to have some level of experience and will not have the patience to teach you if you did something wrong. Many people will claim that you can get experience later on but the dating market is very unforgiving if you don’t already have experience. It’s like trying to get a job without any experience at a later age. It’s a giant red flag and nobody has the patience to teach you job etiquette especially when so many people out there have held jobs before.

I’ve tried different ways to find a gf including apps and irl activities that I enjoy but nothing has worked for many years. I have a life that I enjoy including a good career and I am fit as well as I’m an athlete. Yet no matter what I always think about how I’ve never had a gf so something must be wrong with me. I need help with not obsessing over the fact that I’ve never had a gf despite having a good life otherwise. I want to try dating as I want to share my wonderful life with someone but all the rejections have ruined my confidence

Been trying to date for years now on the apps like Hinge, Tinder, and Bumble and lost track of the amount of times women will talk to me for days, maybe weeks then ghost once I ask for a first date or go on the date with me only to seem annoyed right when we meet and then ghost me after. I’ve consulted tons of people regarding improving my pics and bios and followed their suggestions only leading to marginally more success while many of my non asian, mainly white friends find gfs off the apps despite not improving their pics at all or doing things like being unemployed or not seeking any self improvement like many people here say to do.

I don’t know why as an Asian guy the stats say that I always do the worst on the apps yet I can only meet people through them as I am quite busy with work/being an athlete and there just aren’t spaces to meet people in my city. Does anyone have any advice for this?

Sorry if this has already been asked but I’m kind of at my wit’s end trying to make a solid group of friends to go on outings with. I’ve tried everything like run clubs, volunteering, sports leagues and people will kind of make friend groups and hang out for a bit only for it to fizzle out after a short amount of time. I just want people to do fun things like go to raves with. I’ve even posted on my city’s subreddit but it got ignored.

I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong, I show up to things, talk to people a little bit without becoming overbearing, and people even reach out to me for advice on personal things sometimes. I don’t understand why people get so flaky and I end up always alone :(

I have been trying to go to raves solo as I don’t know anyone else into it and I love the music but I had a pretty rough incident which made me rethink doing this and Id like some advice. I was in a large crowd of people and got pushed from behind causing me to bump into some dude who then began screaming at me. I apologized immediately but he was still pissed and later on him and his friends cornered me and began insulting my appearance and laughing at me. I didn’t really rake them seriously and I’d rather not get into a big fight over what essentially amounts to nothing but now I just feel pretty bad. I even wanted to go to a big show nearby but I’m rethinking it because that incident has kinda ruined raving for me. I can also be pretty socially awkward so idk how to make friends going out or how to get a group to go with me. I’d love any advice at this point :(

Looking to go to Scream this October with people as I don’t know anyone else who is into raves. M25.

Looking to restart my life in school and live what I missed out on. I don’t know if I am too old.

I understand that people have preferences but nobody needs to have preferences while putting other people down which is often the case with men and women who openly discuss how they wanna “participate in the oxford study”.

Many women who “participate in the oxford study” claim that Asian men are more misogynistic and/or right wing and they simply “have no choice” but to date white men. Statistically this is not true. The other argument is that “asian men look too much like family members” which is blatant racism buying into the idea that all asians look the same. Both of these arguments simply serve the purpose of making asian men feel inferior, a goal of white supremacy that has seen an unprecedented rise within the past few years.

The “Oxford study” also hurts Asian women since it reduces them to objects who are either viewed as possessions by Asian men who have now developed complexes due to being ridiculed or white men who fetishize Asian women as part of some social media trend.

I understand that people have preferences but nobody needs to have preferences while putting other people down which is often the case with men and women who openly discuss how they wanna “participate in the oxford study”.

Many women who “participate in the oxford study” claim that Asian men are more misogynistic and/or right wing and they simply “have no choice” but to date white men. Statistically this is not true. The other argument is that “asian men look too much like family members” which is blatant racism buying into the idea that all asians look the same. Both of these arguments simply serve the purpose of making asian men feel inferior, a goal of white supremacy that has seen an unprecedented rise within the past few years.

The “Oxford study” also hurts Asian women since it reduces them to objects who are either viewed as possessions by Asian men who have now developed complexes due to being ridiculed or white men who fetishize Asian women as part of some social media trend.

I keep seeing tiktoks and dating app profiles of asian women discussing how they love the oxford study and want to date white dudes. It sucks as an asian guy because I’d love someone from my own culture since we could bond over similar experiences growing up and a shared culture. I am not misogynistic or anything, take care of myself, am fit, and have my own successful career.

I am also open to all different races but have just found that I bond the most with people in my culture and have lots of friends from my own culture and other cultures too. It’s just depressing knowing that due to my ethnicity I have the least amount of likes combined with asian women making tiktoks complaining about asian men and openly discussing how much they love white men.

I keep seeing tiktoks and dating app profiles of asian women discussing how they love the oxford study and want to date white dudes. It sucks as an asian guy because I’d love someone from my own culture since we could bond over similar experiences growing up and a shared culture. I am not misogynistic or anything, take care of myself, am fit, and have my own successful career.

I am also open to all different races but have just found that I bond the most with people in my culture and have lots of friends from my own culture and other cultures too. It’s just depressing knowing that due to my ethnicity I have the least amount of likes combined with asian women making tiktoks complaining about asian men and openly discussing how much they love white men.

I am not here to brag on myself or anything but I am doing fairly well in my career, do a lot by volunteering in the community, and stay fit by working out/training around 5x per week. I don’t mind being busy and enjoy all the growth and giving I get to do. Recently I entered an awful depressive slump where I didn’t wanna do anything because of how awful dating has been, and would like advice on getting out of that slump.

While I am part of some social groups mostly through sports I haven’t had any success dating irl and have only gotten dates through the apps. Lately I haven’t gotten any dates through the apps and my last date seemed to go well but she ghosted anyway. Life has just felt so pointless because I don’t have anyone to share it with. It also makes me feel worthless that everyone else can date so easily yet no matter how much work I put into my life I have the same level of success as someone who sits at home and does nothing all day. Some of the most awful people I know have no issue getting gfs.

I’m very lost on what to do and despite how great my life is all I have wanted to do lately is hide in my room all day and reflect on how I am such a failure at dating and what is wrong with me. Sorry for the long rant but any advice is appreciated. I would like advice on where I could be going wrong here and how to get out of this depressive slump.

I am not here to brag on myself or anything but I am doing fairly well in my career, do a lot by volunteering in the community, and stay fit by working out/training around 5x per week. I don’t mind being busy and enjoy all the growth and giving I get to do. Recently I entered an awful depressive slump where I didn’t wanna do anything because of how awful dating has been, and would like advice on getting out of that slump.

While I am part of some social groups mostly through sports I haven’t had any success dating irl and have only gotten dates through the apps. Lately I haven’t gotten any dates through the apps and my last date seemed to go well but she ghosted anyway. Life has just felt so pointless because I don’t have anyone to share it with. It also makes me feel worthless that everyone else can date so easily yet no matter how much work I put into my life I have the same level of success as someone who sits at home and does nothing all day. Some of the most awful people I know have no issue getting gfs.

I’m very lost on what to do and despite how great my life is all I have wanted to do lately is hide in my room all day and reflect on how I am such a failure at dating and what is wrong with me. Sorry for the long rant but any advice is appreciated. I would like advice on where I could be going wrong here and how to get out of this depressive slump.

Anyone have any tips for dating successfully as an asian man in mostly white North American city? I can’t move due to my career. Most profiles on dating apps seem to hint either subtly or blatantly that they want a white man and I don’t get matches here at all. When I go to any other city it seems that I get tons of matches so I’m not even sure if my Hinge or Tinder profiles are the problem. It just feels like there is a lack of diversity here and everyone in this city prefers white people compared to other North American cities.

I try to attend irl events like sports leagues but haven’t had luck meeting people to date because the women who show up are either taken or hit on a lot by guys there to the point where they feel uncomfortable.

How do you stay disciplined enough to go consistently? I have been going two to three times a week consistently while having a full time job, school, lifting, running, and volunteering. Recently I have had zero motivation to go all of a sudden even though I really love the sport and how it’s helped my confidence and ability to defend myself. People have said it’s due to a lack of discipline but idk how to get more disciplined especially with everything else I have going on. I’d appreciate any advice from people who have had similar situations.

I am not here to brag on myself or anything but I am doing fairly well in my career, do a lot by volunteering in the community, and stay fit by working out/training around 5x per week. I don’t mind being busy and enjoy all the growth and giving I get to do. Recently I entered an awful depressive slump where I didn’t wanna do anything because of how awful dating has been, and would like advice on getting out of that slump.

While I am part of some social groups mostly through sports I haven’t had any success dating irl and have only gotten dates through the apps. Lately I haven’t gotten any dates through the apps and my last date seemed to go well but she ghosted anyway. Life has just felt so pointless because I don’t have anyone to share it with. It also makes me feel worthless that everyone else can date so easily yet no matter how much work I put into my life I have the same level of success as someone who sits at home and does nothing all day. Some of the most awful people I know have no issue getting gfs.

I’m very lost on what to do and despite how great my life is all I have wanted to do lately is hide in my room all day and reflect on how I am such a failure at dating and what is wrong with me. Sorry for the long rant but any advice is appreciated. I would like advice on where I could be going wrong here and how to get out of this depressive slump.

Some girl I know found out I liked her (I never made any moves and was just friendly). We would talk and hang out sometimes and I found out from someone else that she knew the whole time that I secretly liked her and would make fun of me to someone we knew. I don’t know why she didn’t just come to me about it or decline to hang out/talk if she was so offended that I liked her.

Some girl I know found out I liked her (I never made any moves and was just friendly). We would talk and hang out sometimes and I found out from someone else that she knew the whole time that I secretly liked her and would make fun of me to someone we knew. I don’t know why she didn’t just come to me about it or decline to hang out/talk if she was so offended that I liked her.

I am not here to brag on myself or anything but I am doing fairly well in my career, do a lot by volunteering in the community, and stay fit by working out/training around 5x per week. I don’t mind being busy and enjoy all the growth and giving I get to do. Recently I entered an awful depressive slump where I didn’t wanna do anything because of how awful dating has been, and would like advice on getting out of that slump.

While I am part of some social groups mostly through sports I haven’t had any success dating irl and have only gotten dates through the apps. Lately I haven’t gotten any dates through the apps and my last date seemed to go well but she ghosted anyway. Life has just felt so pointless because I don’t have anyone to share it with. It also makes me feel worthless that everyone else can date so easily yet no matter how much work I put into my life I have the same level of success as someone who sits at home and does nothing all day. Some of the most awful people I know have no issue getting gfs.

I’m very lost on what to do and despite how great my life is all I have wanted to do lately is hide in my room all day and reflect on how I am such a failure at dating and what is wrong with me. Sorry for the long rant but any advice is appreciated. I would like advice on where I could be going wrong here and how to get out of this depressive slump.

I am not here to brag on myself or anything but I am doing fairly well in my career, do a lot by volunteering in the community, and stay fit by working out/training around 5x per week. I don’t mind being busy and enjoy all the growth and giving I get to do. Recently I entered an awful depressive slump where I didn’t wanna do anything because of how awful dating has been, and would like advice on getting out of that slump.

While I am part of some social groups mostly through sports I haven’t had any success dating irl and have only gotten dates through the apps. Lately I haven’t gotten any dates through the apps and my last date seemed to go well but she ghosted anyway. Life has just felt so pointless because I don’t have anyone to share it with. It also makes me feel worthless that everyone else can date so easily yet no matter how much work I put into my life I have the same level of success as someone who sits at home and does nothing all day. Some of the most awful people I know have no issue getting gfs.

I’m very lost on what to do and despite how great my life is all I have wanted to do lately is hide in my room all day and reflect on how I am such a failure at dating and what is wrong with me. Sorry for the long rant but any advice is appreciated. I would like advice on where I could be going wrong here and how to get out of this depressive slump.