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Hade födelsedagsfest i lördags, och var en tjej jag inte kände sen innan där, som blev inbjuden av en kompis.

Hon såg min robotdammsugare och blev väldigt nyfiken på den och frågade om den. Hon såg också att den hade mopp och frågade. Sen säger hon "jag hoppas inte du moppar ditt parkettgolv dock?" och jag sa "Hmm, jo? Menar du?".

Hon sa då att man absolut inte ska mopa parkettgolv, och att det inte får vara blött mer än 1-2 minuter.

Frågade inte om det mer då vi hade betydligt mer intressanta ämnen att prata om, men jag är nyfiken.

Stämmer detta? Jag har moppat parketten i alla lägenheter jag har gjort, utan att det har gjort någon synlig skada på golvet, både med vanlig mopp med skurmedel och med robotdammsugare.

Ska jag sluta med det och helt skippa våttorkande av det?

Hej, från Sverige!

Jag gillar att lyssna på pods från "andra sidan" kring Ukraina-kriget för att höra deras synvinkel på saker och ting, och på senare tid har en norsk person, Glenn Diesen, börjat intervjua och intervjuas.

Ursäkta, men herre gud vilken jävla pajas. "Europa är på väg att dö. Bara partier som AFD kan rädda oss. Och just det, Ryssland kommer att atombomb oss i år. Ryssland är förresten det bästa landet i hela världen.".

Man blir mörkrädd att det finns såna här personer i Skandinavien.

Men vem är han egentligen? Är han någon gammal politiker, eller är han bara någon person som har blivit uppköpt av Kreml?

36M in Sweden, and my dating life has sucked big time. In these 24 years or so I've been interested in women, I've had one girlfriend... for 5 months. That's it. On top of that two one night stands.

Not sure if it's because of my looks (people say I'm not ugly though, and on rating sites online I score somewhere between 6-7 all the time so not top model but definitely more than an average 5), my Asperger's (even though people get surprised when I mention that I have it, and say that they couldn't tell) or something else.

It's also not like I don't try. Since my girlfriend 9½ years ago I've probably been on 50 Tinder dates, where only one of them lead to a ONS and another one to a kiss. I definitely screwed up by being too agressive on some of them, but after realising that I pulled back on my flirting and physical touch to almost non-existent other than a hi and good bye-hug, and it hasn't helped either. I'm also social on my dates. I'm the one who probably talks the most, but not about me. About her. I ask her questions I'm curious about, and then if she answers something that I feel like we can bond over I say something "oh cool! I also love Spain. My father lives there and I visit like three times a year in Mallorca. What are your favourite parts of Spain?".

Outside at the bar and club I'm a wreck though. I have no idea at all how to talk to strangers, so I just stay completely quiet if I'm out with friends and strangers join us. Then I go from the talker to the listener. Not because I'm shy. Because I just don't know how to talk with strangers. Literal mouth glue.

At the same time, I don't consider myself an incel. I love women. I have lots of female friends, and my best friend is a woman. I used to have more or less a 50/50 split between male and female friends, but after drifting off and losing contacts with some old friends I'm probably at 60/40 in the women's favour now .

That's also the thing. I make friends incredibly easy. It might sound a bit contradictory as I said I have a problem talking to strangers, but it's not. I still have trouble making that kind of friend you become best friend with in an instant. If I'm with friends and they bring some people I still won't be their friend right away, but if we keep seeing each other over a few weeks or months together with my friends, chances are huge that eventually we will also become good friends and hang out in private.

So it's not like I'm a dislikeable person. People really like me, and just this weekend when I had my birthday party I decided to invite an acquaintance that I usually talk to at one of my female friend'sparties and hangouts. She had other plans, but the moment she saw my invite she said that she thought "What? I never expected him to invite me to something like this. hell yeah I'm in, fuck my other plans!", and she added a lot to the party and she was so happy for being invited that she gave me a logn, hard hug. Boom, new friend added again.

I just don't know how to turn being that well liked amicably into being that well liked romantically, and it fucking sucks. Most of my friends (I have one or two who are also in my situation), have all these stories throughout the years with their GFs, and well wives because we are getting old, that I also want to do with a partner. I want to travel to countries, go see orcas in Norway, travel to Thailand and just travel around by bus, go to Akihabara and just nerd out among all the video games and electronics. With a GF that is. I've done two of these things alone or with friends, and while it's fun I get the impression it's on a whole other level with a GF. Kids are also on the back of my mind, but my priority is definitely to DO stuff with a partner. Create memories.

What also sucks is how much I feel like my motivation has drained. Right after my girlfriend, I was so motivated to jump back on the horse and went on like 12 Tinder dates the first year. But more and more as the women said "You were a lovely person, and I really enjoyed my time, but I didn't feel like we had a click", my motivation also faded. Last year I was probably on two dates, and this year I did chat and get a good connection with someone, but then we had a video call on snapchat for an hour, and then we got pissed that I had to go take a shower because it was getting late, and she wrote a message about how rude it was that I didn't want to talk for longer, and that she didn't want to meet up any more. Now I feel like I don't have the energy to try again for a couple of months. Dating is draining.

There was acually a situation this weekend at the previously mentioned birthday party, where a friend to the woman I mentioned previously, who got so excited that I invited her, started to talk to me when we were out at a bar. We were talking about how both of us have Asperger's and what our experiences with it were.

She suddenly started to become touchy feely and said that she thought I was a lovely person, started to brush my arm and gave me a long hug. I felt like we were flirting so we kept talking, and in the end I was like holding my arms around her and she was holding my hand. Then I saw her friend message me, and it basically said "I just don't want you to get disappointed, but that's not going to lead anywhere. She's a lesbian. She really likes you, though". I felt something like "Nooooooooooo!", but of course respected it and while we kept hugging and such, I didn't escalate it any more, and then I gave her a hug and went home as the night ended.

Anyways, it became quite a rant. But I hate this situation. This was not how I foresaw my dating life when I was 14. I didn't have any dreams of being the equivalent of Charlie Sheen or James Bond, but I still imagined myself maybe having a handful of one night stands, 2-4 girlfriends and maybe having lived together with someone at least once. Not sure I expected to have been married or have kids, though.

Yeah, I had no idea that dating would be this hard.

At least here in Sweden, when everybody goes to the Baltics, they visit either Estonia or Latvia. Lithuania is often forgotten.

It's difficult to find exact numbers online, but looking overall it does seem like Lithuania is the least popular of the tree.

How come Lithuania hasn't made its mark like their two Baltic brothers?

10 years ago, you could say kill, rape, porn etc. on youtube, Facebook etc. Now people have to go around the filter by writing words like unalive, corn and grape.

Why did social media suddenly decide that they don't want these words on their platform?

Just realised how similar they actually are in sound, even if they look different in spelling.

In the scandi languages, the word for woman is kvinna/kvinde/kvinne. Are they related somehow to the word queen, and in English it somehow took on a different meaning?

Or is it like in Returnal (albeit, it was forced on your in Returnal as you started in biome 4 no matter what), where it's "better" to start on a later biome?

How do you usually go for it?

Tänkte se på matchen mot Kanada på TVn istället för fulstream, men ser att den inte går på nån av standardkanalerna. Istället så går Finland-Tyskland på 6an.

Vad är det här för nya fasoner? Brukar inte alla Sveriges matcher spelas på kanaler som "alla" har, utom möjligtvis de med skogs-tv som bara har 1,2 och 4?

I USA har de visst stora problem med att barn knappt kan läsa, där någon som går i sjätte klass ligger på samma nivå som någon som går i andra klass. Lärare skyller detta på saker som Tiktok, som gör att barnen inte har tålamodet för att läsa längre texter längre och att de blir extremt upprörda om de bara ska läsa så lite som en sida text eller, än värre, skriva lika mycket.

Hur ser det ut i Sverige kring detta? Har vi samma problem?

Doing my first, out of two, workplace practices in my freight forwarding studies in Sweden, and loving it so far. What I don't love however, is Hapag-Lloyd, and I wanted to hear if they are this bad compared to other carriers across the world.

It's mainly when I have to make amendments to their booking confirmations problems arrive. They never seem to understand what it is that I want to change and ask in almost every mail "What is it that you want to change?". For example, last couple of weeks they have given me empty pick-ups from a container yard that just does not work for us as we first have to drive it by rail to the client for stuffing, and only a specific terminal has a railway system connected.

Or when I needed to change a booking two days ago, because they had booked a route where the main leg arrived one day after the third and final one departed. I asked them to change that, but they didn't understand my amendment through the site that basically said:

"Hi!

Please change the routing so that the second leg does not arrive after the third one departs.". Thought I was super clear. So did my mentor.

I don't have this issue with the other carriers we use, CMA, MSC, Maersk, ONE and OOCL. They understand perfectly, but Hapag gives us a constant headache and has kind of a bad rep in our office.

Is it the same globally?

Here in Sweden, when you rent an apartment it comes with "everything". Modern ones also often include a dish washer and laundry machine.

Spoke to some German and Dutch friends, and I was really surprisd that in these countries, it's common that rental apartments don't even come with proper floor, and you have to bring it yourself, put it on, and then when you leave you bring your floor with you. This also applies to kitchen cupboards in some cases.

Is this common internationally, that you have to bring even the basics to your new apartment?

36 år gammal, och fortfarande inte lärt mig detta. man sitter med kompisar och tjötar. Nån främling sätter sig, och man slår om från social till helt knäpptyst :/

Inte för att man är blyg, jag har inga problem att snacka med främlingar en och en utanför krogmiljö, exempelvis på en dejt eller med nya klasskamrater en och en, men så fort det blir krogmiljö och man vet noll om personen så blir det tunghäfta.

Förra helgen var jag ute och firade en bekant som fyllde år, och satt och tjötade med två kompisar. Ena kompisen snackar också med en tjej, varav han sedan går iväg, men innan det säger han "snacka med X, hon söker förhållande och är skitgo". Ja det gör hon säkert, och hon verkade helt klart intressant, men problemet var att jag mest satt och tänkte "Jaha, vad ska jag säga nu?" och bara fick fram ett "oj sorry", när jag råkade stötta henne med axeln när hon reste sig upp för att ge min kompis plats att gå ut. Annars satt vi två mest bara och tittade upp i luften.

Då kände jag att det var dags att börja något åt detta. Redigt trött på att bli tyst som en mus bara nån främling tar sig in i gruppen.

Problemet är som sagt inte att jag är blyg. Det är snarare att jag inte vet något om personen, och sedan sitter jag och övertänker vad man ska säga. Samtidigt har jag autism, det som tidigare kallades Aspergers, så jag vill samtidigt inte spy ut en groda första jag gör, vilket gör att man sitter och tänker ännu mer över vad man ska säga.

Samtidigt har jag inte svårt att få vänner alls, oavsett om det är killar eller tjejer. När folk väl lär känna mig så är jag oerhört omtyckt, men problemet är vägen dit. Det brukar mest bli så av exponering. Att jag t ex umgås med bekanta mer och mer med en gemensam kompis och så börjar vi umgås. Däremot brukar det kanske ta en 4-5+ gånger, alltså inte optimalt för att bli tjenis med främlingar dag 1.

Att kunna snacka med främlingar öppnar upp möjligheter, möjligheter jag gärna vill ha. Men hur gör man egentligen? Vad snackar man om?

In Sweden people care about them way less than they should, considering that they affect you directly far more than the country-wide elections.

Not sure if it's because we bake local, regional and countrywide elections into one day so the latter takes all the spotlight, but I don't know anyone who really knows much about local and regional politics and just pick the same party they pick for parliament and then they just eeny meeny miney moe the person to sit in the council.

I thought this was one of those pros robots were incredibly good at, but it leaves big stripes. I had to spray the window myself with detergent as I haven't got the automatic spray function to work as it should.

It's a Liectroux HCR-10, if anybody else has this model.