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I so badly need a happy hour with a big fat chocolate chip cookie on the menu. Recommendation please?

I really love trying new stuff. So I guess, what's something quite unusual you would recommend in the city? Something that many many Americans have never tried or perhaps even heard of. Gimme something weird to try please.

Basically as title states. I've got some time to kill before a flight so the later the better and something I can't typically get in American cities.

NYer here. Never done the statue of liberty funny enough. Do you guys recommend the hard hat? Or just the general admission to both statue and ellis island at 25 bucks?

Anyone make this move? Did it work out? Did you want to move right back? overwhelmed? Happy and more fulfilled? Thoughts please.

I'm entering the dating pool after a LTR and SO CURIOUS. Please feel free to share initials if you feel comfortable 😂

EDIT: You guys SO many men are DMing me. I'm crying 😭

Hello!

My esthetician refused to microneedle me because the inflammation on my cheeks is so out of hand. She was really pushing for me to use a salycic acid and retinol combination cream. Recommendations please?

We're at the 4.5 month mark and his birthday is this week. I feel like I'm blowing everything up. I'm trying to move, trying to change careers. Find a new partner. Make new friends. Workout. Rest. Cook fresh meals. Try new restaurants. Travel. Or maybe not I can't decide.

It feels like I'm on a treadmill and I don't know what to do and I'm not sure which way to go. I feel like I'm blowing things up and I don't know if it matters or if I even care.

Hey, here is the situation:

I contacted a woman in early July. Wasn't able to do a viewing until like 1st week of July.

She got back to me about a week ago and said she would really like me because I'm one single person and her parents live downstairs. She had other people interested but some have young kids and then there was a couple but she was worried about her parents downstairs with the noise of a couple.

Her name checks out with the property records. And it checks out that it appears her parents live downstairs.

But here's the thing:

She has 3 separate phone numbers?? And 2 are VOIP numbers that trace back to Oklahoma?

It does appear she does a lot of property investment in NYC with different individuals. They're all Chinese.

We've been emailing back and forth and she offered me a lease. So now, I'm supposed to sign and send a security deposit.... But why does she have 3 phone numbers?? 1 is Oklahoma based VOIP just on the listing. Then 1 is Oklahoma based VOIP she's been texting and calling me from. And the other is NYC based where she did the virtual tour from. In her email, she mentioned to call her on the NYC number but I accidentally did the Oklahoma one instead and she still answered.

What is happening? Any world in which this is legit? Her name matches up to the property, she's up to date with reports on the building, her story checks out about the parents, the virtual tour went well. But the VOIP number thing is freaking me out. And then I was talking to her on the VOIP number and then she hung up and called me from a different cell for the virtual tour?

I have been speaking to someone and she sent a lease my way. Everything seems good for me but her phone number is Oklahoma based so I'm a little suspicious.

Please just contact me with your rate and availability for tomorrow and I will communicate to her that I want her to meet someone before signing. Ideally you could kind of secretly record the interaction.

The apartment is off the Q in sheepshead bay so I understand this isn't convenient for a lot of people. Looking for someone available during day hours to go make sure unit is real who can get to sheepshead bay relatively easily

I'm out of state and hesitant to spend 500 on a last minute flight if it's fake.

Hi there! Moving back home from out of state. If anyone is interested in this job please lmk. I want to pay you tomorrow to go to Sheepshead Bay and meet this lady and see the unit to ensure it's not a scam. Her # is Oklahoma based so I'm a little suspicious. But at the same time, she's very easy to deal with and I'm kind of in a weird spot because I'm out of state. Please hit me up. Ideally you would like secretly record it or something idk.

Again, apt is in sheepshead bay so looking for someone that this might be on your way to the beach or something.

Hi

I contacted a listing in early July. She got back to me this weekend with a lease offer. When we did the virtual call, she had to hang up on me to do the virtual call through a different cell phone. The other call number for the virtual call was NYC based. She is just asking for 1/2 month rent and security deposit to lock down the unit. The phone number is Oklahoma based. The virtual call was definitely of the unit and of Brooklyn, the entrance was shown...

I've never really had my nails done! I want them to shape the nail and then I want to do classic French tip style. Like dipped in a light pink with a white tip. Ideally west loop or Lincoln park, bucktown, Roscoe, or gold coast maybe. Thanks!

I've been in the Midwest for 5 years now and I'm struggling with lack of mental stimulation. HOWEVER, I'm making great money here imo. 1k/week, 4 day work week, great bonuses, PTO, sick days.

This is what I would want if I were to make the move: $30/hr after tax rate. I'm getting 27.50 in Chicago. 10 PTO days of my own choosing. 5 sick days. Guaranteed hours. Out the door by 5 at the latest. No weekends. Paid week off between Christmas and New Years.

That's basically what I'm getting right now and I'm really happy with my families. I'm just so bored here to be fully honest, already having anxiety about Midwest winter/what my gas bill will look like. My partner died in March very unexpectedly and I just need things to change and switch up for my mental health. However, I don't want to make the move and end up in a bad situation job wise. Is what I'm looking for too difficult?

Will someone please review this lease wording to ensure it's up to par for the city?

PART1:

New York Residential Lease Agreement

THIS LEASE AGREEMENT (hereinafter referred to as the "Agreement") made and entered into this 30th day of July 2026,

by and between L (hereinafter referred to as "Landlord") and (hereinafter referred to as "Tenant").

WITNESSETH :

WHEREAS, Landlord is the fee owner of certain real property being, lying and situated in Kings County, New York,

such real property having a street address of (hereinafter referred to as the "Premises").

WHEREAS, Landlord is desirous of leasing the Premises to Tenant upon the terms and conditions as contained herein; and

WHEREAS, Tenant is desirous of leasing the Premises from Landlord on the terms and conditions as contained herein;

NOW, THEREFORE, for and in consideration of the sum of TEN DOLLARS ($10.00), the covenants and obligations

contained herein and other good and valuable consideration, the receipt and sufficiency of which is hereby acknowledged, the parties

hereto hereby agree as follows:

1. TERM. Landlord leases to Tenant and Tenant leases from Landlord the above-described Premises together

with any and all appurtenances thereto, for a term of 18 months [specify number of months or years], such

term beginning on September 1, 2026, and ending at 12 o'clock midnight on March 1, 2028

2. RENT. The total rent for the term hereof is the sum of two thousand six hundred DOLLARS ($2,600.00)

payable on the 1st day of each month of the term. All such payments shall be made to Landlord at Landlord's

address as set forth in the preamble to this Agreement on or before the due date and without demand.

3. DAMAGE DEPOSIT. Upon the due execution of this Agreement, Tenant shall deposit with Landlord the sum of

two thousand six hundred DOLLARS ($2,600.00) receipt of which is hereby acknowledged by Landlord, as

security for any damage caused to the Premises during the term hereof. Such deposit shall be returned to

Tenant, without interest, and less any set off for damages to the Premises upon the termination of this

Agreement. (N/A – lease renewal)

4. USE OF PREMISES. The Premises shall be used and occupied by Tenant, consisting of

exclusively, as a private single-family dwelling, and no part of the Premises shall be used at any time during the

term of this Agreement by Tenant for the purpose of carrying on any business, profession, or trade of any kind,

or for any purpose other than as a private single-family dwelling. Tenant shall not allow any other person, other

than Tenant's immediate family or transient relatives and friends who are guests of Tenant, to use or occupy the

Premises without first obtaining Landlord's written consent to such use. Notwithstanding the foregoing,

Tenant may request approval for one roommate, provided that such prospective roommate submits to

Landlord’s standard screening process and is fully approved by Landlord in writing prior to occupancy.

Tenant shall comply with any and all laws, ordinances, rules and orders of any and all governmental or

quasi-governmental authorities affecting the cleanliness, use, occupancy and preservation of the Premises.

5. CONDITION OF PREMISES. Tenant stipulates, represents and warrants that Tenant has examined the

Premises, and that they are at the time of this Lease are all in new construction conditions with new appliances.

6. ASSIGNMENT AND SUB-LETTING. Tenant shall not assign this Agreement or sub-let or grant any license to

use the Premises or any part thereof, without the prior written consent of Landlord. A consent by Landlord to

one such assignment, sub-letting or license shall not be deemed to be a consent to any subsequent

assignment, sub-letting or license. An assignment, sub-letting or license without the prior written consent of

Landlord or an assignment or sub-letting by operation of law shall be absolutely null and void and shall, at

Landlord's option, terminate this Agreement.

7. ALTERATIONS AND IMPROVEMENTS. Tenant shall make no alterations to the buildings or improvements on

the Premises or construct any building or make any other improvements on the Premises without the prior

written consent of Landlord. Any and all alterations, changes, and/or improvements built, constructed or placed

on the Premises by Tenant shall, unless otherwise provided by written agreement between Landlord and

Tenant, be and become the property of Landlord and remain on the Premises at the expiration or earlier

termination of this Agreement.

8. NON-DELIVERY OF POSSESSION. In the event Landlord cannot deliver possession of the Premises to

Tenant upon the commencement of the Lease term, through no fault of Landlord or its agents, then Landlord or

its agents shall have no liability, but the rental herein provided shall abate until possession is given. Landlord or

its agents shall have thirty (30) days in which to give possession, and if possession is tendered within such

time, Tenant agrees to accept the demised Premises and pay the rental herein provided from that date. In the

event possession cannot be delivered within such time, through no fault of Landlord or its agents, then this

Agreement and all rights hereunder shall terminate.

Hi there! Essentially as the title states. I've had abysmal experiences with laundromats in my neighborhood. I will admit I'm a germ freak with a little bit of contamination OCD. I previously had in unit laundry in the city. If I don't going forward, I'm wondering if anyone has good recommendations of how to handle this? I would happily pay someone $100 or so per month to have access to a private washer/dryer unit.

Thanks!

I guess just here to gather some opinions! I have a few weeks PTO I can use this year. In your experiences, is travel worth it now? Or do I simply use it to rest? My loss happened mid March. I'm so torn. My heart wants to get out of here and travel but then I cancel because I'm so exhausted and overwhelmed.

Hello! I might be coming in August for almost two weeks. I know to do Begen for a couple of nights. But beside that, what would you recommend? I do not drive at all, never have. I love: history, film, clothes, literature, and art. I enjoy activities like going to see theater or ballet. Thank you.