u/rasta-ragamuffin

Did I overstep? Am I in the wrong?

Dementia runs in my family. My maternal grandmother had it. Most of my maternal aunts and uncles have it. Now my mom is starting to show some signs (forgetfulness, repeating herself, personality changes).

Unfortunately my mom is married to a controlling manipulative abusive sociopath who doesn't want her to get an evaluation. They live in an old unsafe house with lots of stairs and no railings. They have both already experienced several falls.

They do not have a long term care plan and I don't think they have any documents in place other than a will. They think they're going to stay in this house until they die. But if my mom falls and breaks her hip and is bedridden or in a wheelchair, I don't think she'll be able to remain there. Their house is not equipped and would have to be completely remodeled which I know her husband would never do. He's too cheap to hire a home health aide and I don't think he's capable or interested in taking care of her either.

My mom is also in denial, I think she is scared of the inevitable and she doesn't want to get an evaluation either (and because she does whatever her husband tells her to do). I've asked her several times to make an appointment and she refuses.

So I called my mother's doctor and asked him to call her to ask her to come in. Unfortunately when they called her they told her I asked them to call. Well her husband became livid and called me yelling and shouting at me calling me nasty names and telling me " it's none of my goddamn business". Well it's my mother and I love her and I'm concerned about her. I think it is my business what happens to her. And I'm only trying to help her prepare for the future. But now she won't even talk to me.

And now my siblings are mad at me too and aren't speaking to me either. The doctor asked me to send him a letter outlining all our concerns, but now my siblings are refusing to say anything about what they've observed because they are afraid of her husband and afraid that he will cut them off from contacting our mother too. So all information will only be coming from me with no support/back up from my siblings.

Was I wrong to call her doctor? Is there anything I can do to fix this situation? Should I even bother sending a letter to her doctor or would that make the situation even worse? The doctor was not supposed to tell her that I asked him to call her. So now I'm worried that if I send a letter he will share it with her and her husband the next time they do go in for an appointment. I am also worried sick about her and I don't know how to stop. I feel very powerless to help her in any meaningful way.

Obviously our lovely Sinead has enchanted many boyfriends, lovers and husbands over the years, but I always felt like she was most head over heels in love with him of all the men in her life. I watched some of the concerts where she went on tour with him and you can clearly see how smitten she is. But in the same concerts he practically ignores her, seems disinterested and sometimes annoyed by her presence. I don't recall if he was married or separated when they had their relationship/went on this tour together, but it seems like he kind of led her on and then broke her heart in the most cruel way. It really makes me dislike and disrespect him. I will never understand how anyone could intentionally hurt such a beautiful gentle loving soul. Do you think she loved him the most? What do you think of how he treated her?

After continuing to hear about the US trying to import tainted meat that is fraudulently mislabeled and does not pass inspection, as well as numerous outbreaks of food borne illnesses, I'm strongly considering going vegetarian. As a small woman who loves her fruit and veggies, I think it would be easy for me to do. However I'm married to a large meat loving man and also have a large adult son still living at home. My boys are open to trying it, but I'm worried that a vegetarian diet won't provide all the necessary nutrients to fuel them. Any tips on how to get large men to successfully transition to this new lifestyle without compromising their health?

My son has some phonaks that are more than 5 years old, breaking more and more frequently and probably at the end of their lifespan. I read a lot of great reviews about hearing aids from Costco, and since money is an object for our family and they are the best value aids on the market we bought a pair of Sennheisers. Our rep told us they were the same manufacturer as phonaks. Unfortunately my son has been wearing them for a few weeks but hates them so far. He says the sound quality is really poor compared to his old phonaks and wants to return them. Has anyone ever returned their hearing aids to Costco, and what was the process like? Are the Jabras any better? I can't even get anyone to answer the phone or call back from the department. Am I going to have to get the store manager involved?

If so, what was your experience with them? Were they actually helpful?

Hello, I am almost 60, disabled and have been unemployed and job searching unsuccessfully for more than 5 years. Although I have a degree and more than 30 years of experience in sales, marketing and administration, I haven't had an interview in more than a year. Since I desperately need some income, I feel I have no other choice but to start my own business. I plan to offer outsourced business development services (coldcalling, prospecting, lead qualification, appointment setting, etc) by the hour to other small businesses that may not have a sales team or are short staffed. The problem is I'm broke.

Just some of the basic start up costs I can think of: fee for business license, usually a business bank account requires a hefty initial deposit to open, buy a domain, pay for website hosting, buy QuickBooks and other necessary software, would likely need to do some paid digital marketing to find clients, and I'm sure there's plenty more start up costs I'm not even thinking of. What is the minimum approximate amount I would need to get started?

Since I have no money and need to start as cheaply as possible, would it even be feasible to start a b2b service company without a website and/or any existing clients or contacts? If so, how would you go about finding potential clients? (I just don't think potential clients would trust doing business with an unfamiliar company that doesn't have a website, especially since I would require an advance deposit for any services to be performed.)

Thank you. I appreciate all and any insights you're willing to provide.

https://www.thesun.ie/tvandshowbiz/13794782/sinead-oconnor-lookalike-son-stamp-shane-macgowan/

Did you all know about this? Does anyone know if they are still available for sale and where someone can buy some? And WOW does Yeshua look just like her!!!! If he shaved his head you might not be able to tell them apart. It's uncanny....

I have a former client who owes me less than $500 and is now ghosting my requests for payment. It's not worth my time and energy to take them to small claims court for such a small amount, but it is extremely irksome that a supposedly successful "Christian" businessman would take advantage of a poor disabled person in this unethical manner. Do y'all have some creative ideas (that are not illegal) of how to pay them back for not paying me?

If so, when? If not, why not? They seem to have more similar complimentary stoner jam band vibes and fans than whisky myers. I'd love to see them tour together.

What was the person's disability? What was their education level? If the person had prior work experience, what was it in? How did OVR help them? What kind of job/role/title did they find? How much does the job pay? Thanks

Hello I am a visually impaired (not quite blind, but can no longer drive or see in dim or dark conditions) almost 60 year old woman who has been unemployed and job searching for more than 5 years. I have a bachelor's degree and certification in marketing and more than 30 years of experience in B2B sales. However I am also an introvert and terrible at coldcalling which all sales jobs now require. I've applied for many account manager/client success roles but I'm not getting any requests to interview. I'd make a great administrative assistant or sales support person but I don't see many job posts for those roles and not getting requests to interview for those either. I need to work from home because I don't have a car and my area (FL) has an abysmal public transportation system. I'm smart, love to learn, usually good at whatever I put my mind too (with the exception of coldcalling), an excellent planner, very detail-oriented, thorough and accurate, creative and analytical, and willing to work hard. What other roles should I consider applying to? Any other ideas for finding a remote job at my age? Does anyone know of any free or low cost training where I could learn some new in demand job skills? What job skills are even in demand now that I should try to learn (that would actually help me land interviews)? Are there any retired businesspeople here who would be willing to share their knowledge with me?

My auntie has pretty bad dementia and can't remember anything or anyone anymore, so I can't ask her questions because she doesn't have any answers. She also seems really depressed to me. Should I just do all the talking and tell her stories about the good old times? Tell her dirty jokes? Seeing her like this is depressing me too and I really don't even know what to say. Nothing I can say will change anything for the better anyway.

Hello, I was recently hired to do business development and set appointments for a small b2b professional services firm. Although I have many years of experience and training in sales, I've never done well with coldcalling. I took this job because it's the only one I've been able to find after searching for a very long time and I really need the income. The prospect list that was given to me has got to be the worst I've ever seen. Most of the leads only include a name and a cellphone number. No company name, no title, few email addresses, few business numbers. I've made several hundred calls so far, and I'm getting nowhere fast. Wrong numbers, disconnected numbers, voicemail boxes that haven't been set up yet, are full and/or don't have a name or greeting on them. Of the few leads that do have emails, it also appears that many of them are in a very similar industry to what my company does, and may actually be competitors (although I don't know for sure). A few people have answered when I called, and we're polite, but no one has shown any interest or need for my company's services. I'm getting really frustrated and feel like I'm wasting everyone's time and my company's money. I don't think my boss looked very closely at this list before he gave it to me and he may not be aware of the lack of contact information and number of potential competitors he's paying me to call on. I also have no idea how much he paid for this list. Should I let him know the list is very poor quality? Or should I just resign and not give a reason? Or should I resign and take all the blame and say I just don't have the skills needed to be effective in this role (and not even mention the bad list)? Or wait for them to fire me? Unfortunately I'm not optimistic about my future at this company with a call list like this, and it seems pointless to me to continue any longer.

Hello, I'm admittedly politically ignorant and need your help explaining the differences between a Progressive, a moderate Democrat, a Social Democrat, a Democratic Socialist, a Socialist, a Liberal, a Leftist and a Communist. Are they all the same? It seems many Republicans and conservatives use these terms interchangeably, and I don't think I ever learned clear definitions in school.

Hello, I'm admittedly politically ignorant and need your help explaining the differences between a Progressive, a moderate Democrat, a Social Democrat, a Democratic Socialist, a Socialist, a Liberal, a Leftist and a Communist. Are they all the same? It seems many Republicans and conservatives use these terms interchangeably, and I don't think I ever learned clear definitions in school.

I don't understand why we (voters) don't have a say. Especially with amendment 3 coming up, which will probably pass.

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1K7fqRWyQK/

I never saw this interview before today. Thought I'd share it in case any of you missed it too.

I work for a small unknown company and what my company does is not apparent from its name. So usually when I'm prospecting I'll say " Hi Tom, this is Traci calling from Company name and we help companies like yours save time and money by handling xyz for them. How do you currently handle xyz?". However I'm not finding anyone interested in learning more (maybe I just haven't called enough people) so I want to see if there's a better opener to get prospects talking. One thing I just read on LinkedIn recommended just immediately opening with a question (and don't even bother introducing myself or my company). Does anyone do that? What opener works best for you to get prospects talking when calling out of the blue and they've never heard of your company before?

I am poor, old, disabled, unemployed ,very isolated, very opinionated and strongly disagree with almost everyone I know on almost every single subject. I've struggled with communicating, making friends, finding jobs, and expressing myself my entire life. I feel misunderstood by every single person I know which is making me pretty miserable since I don't have a single person I see eye to eye with. I'm not stupid (but not a rocket scientist either) but apparently everything I believe, say or do is wrong. I have no friends and I don't get along with my husband, parents or siblings either. I am very very angry and it's taking a toll on my health (which isn't great to begin with). What can I do to better explain my thoughts and feelings without alienating the people I care about, convince them to discuss difficult subjects with me (instead of just shutting down the conversation altogether) and be more accepting of people who have a totally opposite worldview than I have?

What is a good argument to convince independents to pick a side? What is a good argument to persuade non voters to participate in their civic duty?