u/tenouttatwo

How long do you let people sit in your hidden
area before you unmatch ?

My dad was always emotional and sometimes physical abusive. But this is about my sister and mom. I’m trying to understand how it’s okay for them to make derogatory comments on my body, my clothes , my hair , my son , the way I talk. If I say a word incorrectly they jump on it to correct and ridicule me . I tried to deal with this by always complementing them because I thought that would make them stop behaving like this. But it didn’t help. One time i tried to explain why it’s hurtful and they just started giggling. We are all adults btw.

TW abuse :
After I had my son I was being stalked and emotionally abused by my son’s dad . There were also instances of physical and sexualviolence. I tried to tell my family because i was desperate for help. My mom eventually told me to come home. So I sold everything i owned. My mom said they would help me look for an apartment. After weeks of staying with them and trying to set up appointments to see places , i realized they did not want to help me. They live in a very rural area , they used their cars for work so i needed to rely on them for transport. My dad one day told me he would drop me and my son off at the homeless shelter because they were going on vacation.

Atp i was scared and i reached out to a friend who lived in another country. I bought tickets to go there some days after my family went on vacation. And i then slept in their living room for 5 months til i got enough money for a deposit.

I still had contact with my family. They tell
A very different side but I have emails and text to
Prove them wrong. I don’t get why do they want to be in contact with me since they clearly do not like me?

(Btw I’ve been to therapy and a psychiatrist to help me deal with some of these issues)

I see a lot of matches who straight after we match will tell me “hey I’m not on this dating app much so let’s talk on social media / whatsapp”

We’ve not even exchanged basic information and now you want access to my private pictures family etc. When I say this It’s met by insults or just silence.

I’ve a child. They know this. I’m trying to understand why we cant stay on the dating app ?

They can’t answer me this so I’m wondering if anyone else experience this?

Btw ive np telling them Bye and unmatch.

I’m back asking for advice on a guy I’ve met a few times and he wants my social media ; my instagram. As I have a child I’ve always kept my IG private and only have family and friends on there. I don’t bring dates or a bf around my child. That’s just always been my rule.

But while he’s away he wants to show me stuff on his IG. I love that but now I feel bad for not wanting to add him? . He also wants us to chat through there. Is that possible if i dont add him to my IG ? Sorry im so clueless. He is not pushy . We are chatting on text atm because he’s away and soon I’ll be away so will be some weeks before we see each other again.

You guys have given me great advice before so now I’m back for more. Thank you so much in advance.

My first date with this dude is coming up soon but what is basic first questions that’s important to be clear on in your opinion?

My period is every 2-3 months now and it’s been like that for over a year. Very light and only last 2 days. This month its back and feels like how my period was in my 20s; heavy bleeding and I’m on the 5th day. No end in sight it seems. Why is it now back to “normal” ? I’m happy I’m getting my period because it means I have less aches and pains. I just don’t know if any of this is normal? I’m 52

My first date with this dude is coming up soon but what is basic first questions that’s important to be clear on in your opinion?

My first date with this dude is coming up soon but what is basic first questions that’s important to be clear on in your opinion?

How do I solve this ? I wash my hair max twice a week. My scalp is usually dry and sometimes feels sore. After I wash my hair I rinse my scalp with cold water as it levitates the parts that aches. I use a baby shampoo. Could that be what cause the greasiness? I have below shoulder length Scandinavian blonde hair idk if that matters ?

I’ve a few head and upper body pictures on my profile but the only guy I’ve really been interested in says that it’s fishy I don’t have lower body pictures. I want to FaceTime before we go on a date and I’ve told him this . He’s on vacation atm so has to wait til he’s back . It feels like I’ve done something wrong or I’m trying to catfish the way he’s talking about this . Tbh I took my full body picture down because of the sexual comments I would get. The picture was me in jeans and a Tshirt. Nothing wild. I just want a regular connection that’s not about sex at first. Am I wrong here ?

Edit i should mention that he doesn’t have lower body pictures either so we both know what eachother look like from the waist up. I know everyone’s got preferences.

How do I stop the notifications in the Reddit app ( Reddit inbox) ? I’ve swiped right and stopped the notification but they keep coming. I’ve left that subreddit.

Someone said

"i do not debate men because debating feminists is pornographic to them. the point is to humble me, take me down, and dominate my point of view. debate does not remove the oppresssive dynamic between the sexes. it recreates it for an audience foaming at the mouth"

Muting and blocking them is far more powerful than going back and forth with them.

I washed a feather pillow . It’s 35 inches x 20 inches in size. I’ve dried it for 50 mins now but still not sure it’s all dry but I also don’t want to ruin it by drying it too much ? I added tennis balls to the dryer.

Må man spørge sin læge om man må komme på et bestemt medicin der er til angst og depression ? Jeg er blevet diagnosticeret hos en psykiater med angst depression og ptsd. Jeg er ikke længere hos den psykiater da jeg kun havde et vis antal gange jeg kunne komme der gratis.

Mht min egen læge er hun meget aggressiv i sin måde at kommunikere på så derfor undgår jeg så lidt muligt at se hende. Kan man stadig kontakte sin gamle psykiater og spørge om et bestemt medicin ?