u/wynwilder

I recently picked up a Kratom Kava shot from my local corner store on a whim. I felt a little loopy for maybe 20 minutes, but mostly felt tired and like my nervous system was super relaxed.

I'd like to partake every once in awhile, but would rather not be taking Kratom often. So, I got a liquid Kava extract from Whole Foods to mix with a seltzer and it basically did nothing.

Anyone have suggestions for re-creating that chill, relaxed feeling, but with only Kava? Is it powder, liquid, etc?

Kava Kratom shot ingredients:

Kratom Leaf Extract: 50mg

Kavalactones: 500mg

Kanna: 3mg

Who's been your favorite local solo performer that you've seen live and why?

I'm talking one person, one instrument, held the room for their whole set.

I'm talking one person, one instrument, held the room for their whole set.

Because I don't have friends to go out with I often go to events and things alone. Which is fine (?), I'm ok with being alone, and I can make small talk with people, but I'm struggling with how to approach people and talk to them.

What I've found is most people go to things with others, or meet their friends there. Meaning, there are groups of people all standing in their own little circles talking to each other, and trying to talk to a stranger would require walking up to the entire circle of people and interjecting yourself into their conversation.

(writing this after going to an event last night that maybe 10 people were at and I was the only one there that didn't know anyone. Talked to some people one on one, but basically everyone else was huddled in little groups the whole time.)

Any tips or advice would be amazing.

Because I don't have friends to go out with I often go to events and things alone. Which is fine (?), I'm ok with being alone, and I can make small talk with people, but I'm struggling with how to approach people and talk to them.

What I've found is most people go to things with others, or meet their friends there. Meaning, there are groups of people all standing in their own little circles talking to each other, and trying to talk to a stranger would require walking up to the entire circle of people and interjecting yourself into their conversation.

(writing this after going to an event last night that maybe 10 people were at and I was the only one there that didn't know anyone. Talked to some people one on one, but basically everyone else was huddled in little groups the whole time.)

Any tips or advice would be amazing.

40M & my 40 F wife (married 14 years) is currently having a very difficult time with ADHD and PMDD and does not have capacity or the ability to do basic day to day things like clean, cook (or often even eat), and can barely make it to work.

I know that partners are often there for support, and not solutions, so I can support in the ways I know how, cooking cleaning etc. I'm just wondering if there's anything I can actually do to help her get better?

She's hung up on this idea that if she got fired from her job then she'd get unemployment and have time off to rest and get herself together, but that really stresses me out as my financial stability relies on hers.

Any advice / thoughts would be appreciated.

I've struggled my whole life with maintaining and finding friendship and am now accepting that if I want to go do things and leave the house, I'm going to have to do it alone.

Which isn't that hard if I'm being honest (though still a bummer). I'm comfortable doing things alone, but the problem I keep running into is how to motivate myself to actually leave the house to do those things.

I can make a plan, buy a ticket to a show, say I'll do it, etc. but when the time comes I opt to enjoy the comforts of home which then makes me feel isolated and sad.

Anyone have any tricks or methods they use that have helped them with this?

I've struggled my whole life with maintaining and finding friendship and am now accepting that if I want to go do things and leave the house, I'm going to have to do it alone.

Which isn't that hard if I'm being honest (though still a bummer). I'm comfortable doing things alone, but the problem I keep running into is how to motivate myself to actually leave the house to do those things.

I can make a plan, buy a ticket to a show, say I'll do it, etc. but when the time comes I opt to enjoy the comforts of home which then makes me feel isolated and sad.

Anyone have any tricks or methods they use that have helped them with this?

40m here and spouse to a 40f. She's currently having an extremely hard time with both ADHD and PMDD and I'm trying to figure out ways I can help her. She says she's never felt more taken care of and I'm understanding that I have significantly more capacity for day to day things (housework, bill payments, etc.), but we've discussed that partners are there to offer support, not solutions, and 'trying to fix' everything often feels like you're spotlighting or trying to erase the issue.

And I don't disagree with that, I'm just at a loss of what I can do other than be supportive, which doesn't seem to be helping. We have a big doom room, which she's said make's her feel bad every day. I can help organize, but I'll need to body double while she cleans it, but her capacity and energy for that is really low.

She has a hard time feeding herself, and while I'm not a great cook, I do make myself dinner every night, but what I make never sounds good to her, so she doesn't end up eating.

She also spends hours on her phone, but also talks about feeling anxious, overwhelmed, etc. which I know plays a lot into that.

So, I'm just trying to think of ideas on how to help without nagging or advice.

Hey all, just looking for thoughts on this weekly routine. I've been having a lot of chronic muscle tightness and my PT recommended kettlebell training (over only isolated strength exercises) & pilates, so I'm trying to incorporate those in.

I'm also 40, have always been pretty skinny and would like to add some muscle weight, so I have some cardio in here, but not a ton.

3 Days a week:

• 15-20min Pilates
• 45min Kettlebell Routine

1 Day a week:

• At the gym Full Body for things the kettlebells don't hit, ie. Bench Press, Pull-Ups, some leg work

3-4 Days a week:

• 20min Stationary Bike or Running

Mixing in morning & night Mobility or Yoga

I've struggled my whole life with maintaining and finding friendship and am now accepting that if I want to go do things and leave the house, I'm going to have to do it alone.

Which isn't that hard if I'm being honest (though still a bummer). I'm comfortable doing things alone, but the problem I keep running into is how to motivate myself to actually leave the house to do those things.

I can make a plan, buy a ticket to a show, say I'll do it, etc. but when the time comes I opt to enjoy the comforts of home which then makes me feel isolated and sad.

Anyone have any tricks or methods they use that have helped them with this?

I don't know why, but Discoteque perfumes are the only fragrances I've found that actually last on my skin and I'm trying to figure out why that brand specifically. I've tried multiple others that people recommend and have a reputation for longevity, but they end up disappearing after a couple hours.

Terres D'Hermes, Boy Smells, Habit Rouge, Black Afgano, Sauvage, they all smell decent, but are gone quickly. Not event skin scent or on my clothes, just completely no smell.

I'm a musician and while I'm not looking to "make it" or get famous, I do want people to listen to my songs. I'm good at coming up with ideas - for videos, the whole aesthetic I want, etc. but when it comes to actually making the 'content' I immediately think, whats the point?

In the past I've stuck to a posting schedule, made videos based on current trends, done the whole social media thing and it doesn't ever seem to translate to anything substantial (getting listens, getting gigs).

So my question is, how do you reframe making content for social media to feel less like self promotion and more like you're sharing your art with the world?

(also, this is less 'I need advice' and more a discussion)

I'm a musician and while I'm not looking to "make it" or get famous, I do want people to listen to my songs. I'm good at coming up with ideas - for videos, the whole aesthetic I want, etc. but when it comes to actually making the 'content' I immediately think, whats the point?

In the past I've stuck to a posting schedule, made videos based on current trends, done the whole social media thing and it doesn't ever seem to translate to anything substantial (getting listens, getting gigs).

So my question is, how do you reframe making content for social media to feel less like self promotion and more like you're sharing your art with the world?

(also, this is less 'I need advice' and more a discussion)

I woke up earlier this week to a $715(!) pending charge to Ticketmaster that was not mine. Immediately cancelled my debit card and contacted Chime.

Spoke with a representative, then to a supervisor and was told I needed to wait up to 90 DAYS to get a refund, then the supervisor hung up on me, saying "there's nothing else I can do." *click*

Are you serious?!

Called in today about my dispute and was told because I don't have "photographic evidence" of the fraudulent charge my dispute has been denied?? I asked evidence of what, someone stole my information and made a purchase and I woke up to a fraudulent pending charge.

The person said "do you have evidence of your being at home in bed, like home camera or surveillance footage"? Not even kidding.

This is a ton of money for me, my rent, my groceries, my stability. And Chime is denying me a return, please help.

I woke up earlier this week to a $715(!) pending charge to Ticketmaster that was not mine. Immediately cancelled my debit card and contacted Chime.

Spoke with a representative, then to a supervisor and was told I needed to wait up to 90 DAYS to get a refund, then the supervisor hung up on me, saying "there's nothing else I can do." *click*

Are you serious?!

Called in today about my dispute and was told because I don't have "photographic evidence" of the fraudulent charge my dispute has been denied?? I asked evidence of what, someone stole my information and made a purchase and I woke up to a fraudulent pending charge.

The person said "do you have evidence of your being at home in bed, like home camera or surveillance footage"? Not even kidding.

This is a ton of money for me, my rent, my groceries, my stability. And Chime is denying me a return, please help.

I feel like its necessary to stay informed of what going on in the world and your country. However, I don't know how to get into politics. When I look at news websites (NPR, CNN, etc.) it's just a mess of information, and links to articles, and I don't know how to navigate it. Do I click on the top one? The most recent? I try to listen to podcasts that offer daily briefs, but often find myself tuning out or confused about the relevance of anything that's being said.

Another issue I run into is, what am I doing with this information? Is staying informed and being politically savvy just inputting the information and saying 'ok now I know about that thing"? If none of it is interesting to you why stay informed at all?

I'm an INFJ and saw this recently:

INFJ Common Strengths (when healthy): conceptual, single-minded, long term planners, idealistic, cautious and warm

INFJ Common Weaknesses (when imbalanced): overly vague/unspecific, sensitive, inefficient, emotionally manipulative, disconnected from reality, closed off to spontaneity and adventure

I'm feeling very on the imbalanced side of things at the moment; disconnected, closed off, low energy, just generally burnout.

Any other INFJ's dealt with this or advice on how to get into the healthy / balanced side?