u/Classic-Asparagus

Can be academic in nature, but if there is something that isn't very difficult to understand for someone not particularly knowledgeable about all of the terminology in Buddhism, I would love to hear about it. In particular I am interested in reading more about his general life trajectory, as well as the things he did and his specific contributions to Buddhism

I’m open to books in Japanese as well if you know of any

Is anyone else getting this error? And then when I try to go to the payment page on the website, it tells me that the page doesn't exist

Can be about anything, fiction or nonfiction, feel free to say what you thought about the movie or if you liked it, etc

Are there any specific pages or resources I should look into? And anything you think is noteworthy that I should keep in mind?

Like for instance feeling like you are inherently unattractive or repulsive, in your physical appearance or your personality. You haven’t gotten any counter evidence (in your opinion, and that you know of), but you desperately really want it

Then once you think you’ve found someone who might give you the validation you’re looking for and you obsess over that person, fantasize about them liking you and not being repulsed by you

You try to engage with them and get them to compliment you and really want to live in the praise forever, but also you worry that they actually don’t think you’re that special, that you just convinced yourself you like them and are overlooking all of their flaws because they’re the person who gives you the most validation in this moment

And in general you’re just worried you’re using a lot of the people you consider friends for your own validation without giving much back (at least in your own opinion, your friends might contest this), since maybe the reason you hang out with them is because they engage with your ideas and give you positive feedback and that inflates your ego but also makes you feel sorta indebted to them

Does this point to any specific type(s) or not necessarily? Is it ambiguous or unclear in any way?

Feel free to also bring up stuff like wings, triads, instincts, tritype, fixes, whatever else

This is something I’ve been wondering about, like why would Allah make alcohol haram full stop instead of merely in extreme cases where it leads to harm? Because I can understand that alcohol can lead to loss of control, links to violence, negative health effects, potentially alcohol poisoning and death. But then what about the cases where someone just has a small amount and nothing bad happens to their health and they don’t cause any harm to anyone? What would be the issue with that?

Also I read that the ban on alcohol was revealed in stages because it was deeply rooted in society at the time, like how Surah Al-Baqarah 2:219 talks briefly about how alcohol can have some benefits while saying that the harm outweighs the good, and I get the need to do that in order to appeal to people and reduce harm. But then given that this is Allah’s final message and His literal word to be followed by all of humanity forever, I’m struggling to understand why He would even say anything positive about it at all in the first place anywhere in the Quran if He later says what He says in Al-Ma’idah 5:90-91, like calling it the work of Shaitan

Like I understand intellectually the idea that you can’t do it alone, but I struggle to emotionally “get” it. Like in one sense it feels a bit difficult to accept because I feel like I have less agency over myself if I do so, and in another sense the idea of jiriki seems also interesting/attractive, maybe for those same reasons

And more generally I’m wondering what exactly drew you to believing in tariki over jiriki as is the case for Jodo Shinshu?

I often have either the problem of having a lot of definitions for hypothetical words but I haven't created words that correspond to them yet, or I have a number of potential words but no definitions for them

Actually right now I have both problems at once, but I can't assign the words to the definitions because they don't fit the vibe for each other 😔

I'd say one strategy I have is to listen to songs in foreign languages that I don't understand and then pick out some sounds from the song that sound cool, then maybe change it a bit, and then I have a new word

Like having an image in your head of the type of person you want to be or the types of things you want to do in life, but being held back by stuff like worrying about standing out too much by going after it, your goals being seen as boring and stupid, just general procrastination and stagnation and difficulty starting, knowing that specific people would disapprove and could make your life difficult, it just being difficult or scary to do in general

And just wanting someone to come magically into your life, take an interest in you, find you to be an actually interesting person, and being like "hey, your goals are wonderful and exciting, and I can tell that you already know what you want, all you need to do is to do it. Your worries are either insignificant and you're worrying too much, or you just need to learn to deal with the fact that some people are not going to like what you do and will find you boring or too much. Well, too bad for them, if they're not going to appreciate you for who you are and what you want to do, then you don't need to chase their approval or worry about what they think. What are they gonna do to you? Kill you? No lol. So don't worry. And sometimes the journey toward accomplishing what you want to do will be difficult. But that is part of the process, and you just have to go after it anyway."

Are there any type(s) where if they had this kind of scenario happen to them, it could be life-changing or at least extremely impactful? And are there any types that you'd say are unlikely to fit this description?

Feel free to talk about type, wings, instincts, tritype, triads, etc. And if you have any other comments or thoughts, feel free to share as well

I've heard some people talking about how it's painful, uncomfortable, tedious, etc., but I was wondering if the process, like the hormone injections, could potentially cause permanent changes to your body? Like stuff like changes in your body proportions. I suppose excluding stuff like catastrophic edge cases

Like maybe the reason is also a completely valid one and it is partially true, just potentially only a secondary reason for why you did a certain thing

And then that causing you to doubt yourself like “oh no, what if I’m actually not a good person, I’m just pretending to be a good person and pretending I do everything out of justified principle, even though I’m actually just living selfishly and then constructing reasoning post hoc”

So even if you see your principles as a core part of your self and inseparable from who you are as a person, maybe you’re not as good as a person as you believed yourself to be

Like for example, worrying that you mostly only left someone toxic and trying to manipulate you to betray your principles because you were scared of them and needed to protect yourself and get out of there, even if simultaneously felt it was unjust and you did not want to become someone who would also act unjustly, and then you worry that you later justify this to yourself as being completely motivated by principle, and sure it was significantly motivated by principle, but not fully and potentially not even primarily

And then you might worry that if you’re not fully and primarily controlled by your standards and your principles, then can you be trusted to be a good person and always acting correctly? Because your standards matter a lot to you and you can’t imagine being a different person than the person you are who has such strongly held principles, so if they’re not in control and you are in fact just going along with what is essentially your feelings with no inherent principle behind them, then what does that mean about you as a moral agent?

Or does this not sound like it’s 1?

Also, if any of you have any thoughts about stuff like wings, instincts, tritype, etc., feel free to say

Edit: here is some more elaboration in a comment: https://www.reddit.com/r/Enneagram/comments/1w9clic/comment/p8a572h

Feel free to also talk about other stuff like how wings, tritype, etc. could interact?

Like stuff like not knowing what you yourself want so just going along with the goals or desires of other people you wanna impress or get close to

Or feeling like it’s easy for you to get influenced by other people’s desires/demands, or feeling like other people’s desires are louder than your own

Or does this sound potentially like another type? Or even if it sounds more likely like another type, do you feel like it’s still plausible for a 3 to feel this way or not really?

Since there are few instances of your life taking a different, more positive pattern

Like is this a sign of unhealthy Si or underdeveloped Ne? Or something else? Or could be multiple things? Or not really indicative of any particular type or function?

Like specifically if the auxiliary function is not being used so much because of the loop