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How do you and your spouse split the expenses such as Bills, Groceries, food, kids expenses, rent/mortgage etc. ?
Also, what about vacation and trips, do you split half half or?
If say you both have decided that your spouse pays for groceries, but if the bill is majority of your personal items eg hair care, skin care, do you automatically offer to pay at the cashier or do you still wait for the other to pay?

Of course this is if both sides are working.

I'm a female solo traveller and planning to visit sandakan sometime in start of September, maybe about 5 days or so, have not decided yet.

Any recommendations of what to see?
And safer or recommded way to get around or stay as a solo female traveller?
How is the safety there for solo woman?

Thanks

I'm at a dead end of my career and i feel like it's not just the jobscope or culture that i hate, i just generally dislike the whole thing, so i feel like changing jobs will just make me end up in the same dead end again.

Anyone one of you had a surprising turn in your career when you felt like the front road is pitch dark and there are no paths? Do share your stories!!
And did you jump into it with no experience, minimal money, and full of fear?

Guys who don't like physical touch, do you not like it when your partner hugs or cuddle with you, Or just any type of motion that causes physical touch? Why?

People say to differentiate between intuition and whether its your anxiety/ego/stress speaking, is that intuition is calm, silent.

But what if an intuition is a negative one, it will cause fear no? Even if its the slightest.
So in that case, how would one know of its intuition or the mind/ego talking?

Sometimes i post in other general subreddit and they are very straight forward, they give judgements that are very self centred and doesnt take into account of other people. I do my way and thats that. If other people even family or friends come in my way i give zero consideration no matter what.
As the chinese says ”没有人情". But the comments i get from here are totally different and sometimes advice the opposite. Hmmm

Anyone who started off from nothing, bad family background, bad financial planning etc, but now is doing well and thriving. Please drop your stories!!
Include the deets such as
- how old when you started changing/realizing,
- how long did it take you to "turnaround", and
- how old when you started doing good financially and mentally
- what sacrifices did you have to make

There are many famous finance speaker who does it but i wanna hear from the "normal" people.

**TL;DR;** : does a guy's financial stability affect a sense of safety and trust in a relationship?

I know a lot of woman loves when she feels a sense of safety with a guy. So when a guy doesnt have financial stability, part of that safety is gone, because lets admit it, money plays an important part in securing a home, a car, food.. basic needs.

My partner has a full time career self employed, established, pay is alright, we're not rich, we dont spend on luxurious goods, but based on the economy now, its not enough. He always believed he will "make it" one day, he wants to be successful, to be something, so he's always venturing out here and there trying new things, which of course, costs money. He tries investments etc, and yes it looses money. And somehow it seems like his life is often faced with obstacles, mostly finance, where the money he earned somehow has to go out, eg. Family health issue, scam money loss, etc. so its not like he does bad stuffs like gambling, drunk etc, but the money earned/saved seem to always go out.

We've been together for 7 years and each time he ventures into a new thing he always sounds so hopeful and optimistic that this is gonna be the one, but not one year into it, he decided its not something for him. Its been this way until now and still nothing. My sense of trust in him is loosing as he always seem so optimistic in talking, which makes me feel like i can trust him, but there was no result in the end. And yes i understand rome isnt built in a day, and you gotta try and keep trying until one day it hits. He has a fair point that if he doesnt try, he wouldnt be doing anything or know what is right and wrong. But the thing is, i dont feel safe around him financially anymore and i dont know how to find that sense of safety back.

If you're both in your 30's but a guy still have no financial stability, would it affect the relationship?
Would it affect your trust and safety in the guy?

As from what i know woman usually loves when she feels safe with their man, be it in physical or financial, mental etc any aspects...

Considering the fact that he is still working full time, not spending lavishly, or drinking, gambling etc. He wants to build something and be successful but somehow life keeps hitting him with lots of obstacles which make him "loose" the monies he earned.

Did you guys have careers/jobs change after awakening or after getting into spirituality?

Did it affect your salary range?

Did it change your expectations/goals or hobbies in life? eg. Sold your house, no longer spend on cafes and expensive food, no longer like shopping, sold your expensive car for a basic one, etcetcetc

1. I want to reply/comment to that sentence only, instead of copy and paste in my reply/comment section.
   I have searched and some said to copy the sentence when you reply, some said there's a quote button when you reply. But I tried everything and its not working?? I'm on mobile.

2. if the above is possible, can i reply to different sentences in the same comment? Sometimes there are different points in a post, I want to reply to sentence/paragraph 1, then i want to reply to sentence/paragraph 5 etc both in the same comment. I cant be copy and pasting the whole paragraph right.

My life was going good all the while when i was "ignorant", good job, good salary, occasional vacations whenever i need a time off, a nice place to stay, meet up with friends, occasional cafes and nice meal, bought a house, found a nice place to stay. Etc. Nothing luxurious or over the top, but comfortable.

And over the last year, some shit happened, and i thought we were gonna bounce back up this year, but no, seems like the shit has been piled up with more shits. Last year I got to know about spirituality and so I have been changing my mindset, of course I'm not anywhere near, but my mindset have indeed shifted, even if it's a little. But it seems like the obstacles keep coming, when I have yet to settle the previous obstacle.

Not sure if I'm able to pay the mortgage in the next year, gonna be unemployed in a few months, literally have no idea what career to take, i cannot work with people anymore, i have no idea what business to start on my own, i have lost interest in anything, might have to move out to a smaller place, finance are tight, i'm trying to venture to find a new career path but it seems like finance is getting in the way, but i cannot see myself working a 9-5 facing colleagues and deadlines anymore...

And somehow there is this weird calm that everything is gonna work out in the end, but now i literally do not see anything in front of me, it's not like i even have options or roads to try, its not like i'm pursuing something but it hasnt come to fruition yet, No. Its literally I have nothing in front of me, no road. Some people have really strong intuition and they know to follow it, but i have never tap into it or "know" which is intuition, so i don't know if this is intuition or just simply ignorance? I'm scared if this weird calm is deceiving.

Realistically people tell you, just find any job now to pay, toughen it up, move out to a smaller place, reconsider your finance, maybe sell your house etc. but i dont know, i just feel like if i do so, i'm gonna loop back into my old patterns and in a few years i will be stuck in a job i hate.

I really don't know what I should do.

I need guidance?

I've been reading and hearing alot of people say the job market is bad. Anyone in the pharmacist field can enlighten me on if the job market for pharmacists are affected as well? And if yes or no, which field eg, retail, corporate, hospital etc.

With the amount of talks, podcast, books we can find online, i think we're more accesible to learning about spirituality as compared to our ancestors. However, it also drains away our energy and looses our focus to do the real inner work. It kind of cancels it out.

We gain the knowledge but we loose the focus to practice the real work.

What do you think?

So there's only one person in my role. So when I came in, there was only 1+ week for the handover from the previous employee to me, so honestly it was really rush and hard for me back then but I managed to pick up in the end and i've been here for quite a few years now. The previous employee (in my role) was nice and so whenever I had any questions I still contacted her through text and she still guided me and replied me when she was free.
So now that I'm resigning, I have to do the same to the new hire which is going to take over my role, do you think it's wise to do it out of good will for the new hire? Or isit dumb to still help the old company which I have left?

For me, I don't mind helping out a little as long as they don't bombard me or call me unreasonably. I would also be doing it to help the new hire, because I know how hard it was for me back then, but I'm not doing it for the company. But I also don't want to be dumb for helping out when I'm not responsible to or not paid to.