u/ARepeatedFailing

Stupid question but most info I find online is for the V6. Found a video of a guy moving the pump out the way but mine has a metal bracket on the upper part of the high pressure line that I can't move. The pump has never been changed just from how the bolt looks. If I could get the high pressure line off, I'd be golden but I can't seem to get a tool in there with enough force to break it loose. I see why some suggest dropping the k-member.

A year(?)+ ago I posted here in earnst and honesty about how long I'd been on trans Reddit as someone who was quite disliked. I was honest about my own mentation towards my own transness vs others.

Someone in the comments mentioned the intensity of the feelings + the length indicated ruminations and strongly suggested possible OCD. this person had OCD themselves and saw a reflection of their own selves in me.

Recently my mental health had started downturning bad. I decided to see a psychiatrist. I wanted to be diagnosed and not just vaguely talking through therapy. Sure enough, one of my diagnoses is OCD with one of my main ruminations being on transness (obsession with passing/being man enough).

I never would've even thought of OCD. I don't quite understand OCD outside the regular pure O OCD that is portrayed but I'm going to learn. I just really want to thank that person. Idk who it was. The post was on an old account. But you and someone else in another sub solidified that it wasn't just dysphoria or "concern" about this and another topic. It was intense ruminations. I am forever indebted to you.

It seems like it's full of socially maladapted teenagers. I know these subs skew young, but many that use them seem like borderline incels, right-wingers, etc. While they've always existed in FTM/trans spaces, it's gotten worse over the years.

I made a post a week(?) ago talking about my mom possibly getting alcohol and talking to someone who always popped up when she was on the verge of relapsing or deep into a relapse. This has been going on since I was a kid.

My mom has alcoholic dementia. If she drinks, it's going to make shit worse. I've begged her doctors for years for medications that can help quell the urges. But I've been ignored. I woke up this morning to my mom asking for her house keys. I tell her she doesn't have any (I took them because they're with the car keys and she can't drive anymore). She says she's going out with this person who always appears and leaves. She says she's back so I unlock the door but don't see her. Happen to look out the window to see her in this person's car with a bag from a liquor store.

I'm done. I've spent the prime of my life caring for my grandma, then my mom. My grandma was appreciative and great (despite having dementia). I'd do it again. But I can't do this anymore. My mom will not stop drinking or trying to drink. I know it's hard but when I try to keep her active, she says no. My sister comes over occassionally to take her out and it's like pulling teeth. I can't get her to go to an adult daycare center to socialize. Yet she gets up early this morning to go out with this person.

I can't do it anymore. I'm so isolated, lonely and depressed to the point of damn near derealization. My life is slipping by and I'm stuck here. My mom needs to be in a facility. She will never stop drinking. My sister won't allow it. But I'm burned out. My sister travels, has her own place, her own hobbies, etc. I'm just stuck festering. I need out.

I"m making an appointment with her PCP to ask for help again. If he doesn't give me medication, I'll find another doctor. I'm going to ask about the process to put her in an assisted living facility. They can sell the house. I dont' care. I'll move and put my cars in storage until I figure this out. I just can't keep doing this.

I never see tournaments for zero build or solo. One popped up today and decided to take a whack after work. Mistake. I have 2 games left and have no eliminations. I knew I sucked but good lord. A streamer that comes up on my feed on Youtube was playing and I was shocked to see that he was struggling despite supposedly being Unreal rank.

I know I'm chronically online but these excellent players are another breed. jesus.

Someone posted about whether they should move to Europe because it's hard to use PTO in America. It was obviously a bot account (shit ton of post karma, no interaction with the post to answer questions). It's the same line from Europeans: "We get 6+ weeks off, no one cares if we're sick", blah blah blah. No one ever tells me how much time minimum wage and *non* corporate Europeans get off. There's no slow season at hospitals for EVS, nurses and doctors. McDonalds and grocery stores aren't closing because it's summer. So do they get this time also or is it only corporate? If it's only corporate, it's quite comparable to the US. That's literally why some people want corporate jobs.

Somehow we're also fat and lazy and work too much. how does that work? I can't be lazy and not get time off work. I can't work too much if I'm lazy. This doesn't even go into the fact that Europeans don't realize the COL differs greatly depending where in the US you live. Hell, even in the same city, the COL can change (usually in accordance to the socioeconomic state of the neighborhood). People during the pandemic had remote jobs paying city wages and moved to more rural areas where they could buy a house for almost half of what it cost in their home state.

This is why I'm very leery to even believe "life" is better in Europe because every discussion sounds scripted. The few people that talk about the downsides (such as having to take your vacation during a certain time of year) are downvoted. Same with Americans like myself who have worked with companies that give unlimited PTO.

I live in the Midwest and we got hit with a lot of hard storms recently. Trees were sheered and damaged the soffit and fascia of my house along with the gutters. I am getting estimates and I was given an estimate of $20k to replace the gutters, soffit, fascia, etc.

This was caused by wind and weather and I'm wondering if it would be worth it to submit a claim. I live in my grandmother's house and the homeowner's insurance has been on the house for decades without a claim.

Reading on Reddit makes it seem if I even consider a claim, I can be dropped. But this isn't wear and tear. We had unprecedented storms that uprooted trees and crushed houses and cars. I'd love your imput.

My grandparents bought a house back in the 60s. My mom inherited it in 2019 and I'm upkeeping it because I'm now her caregiver. We had storms that damaged the siding, gutters and roof. Whenever I try to do any research, I'm seeing that it's a risk to file a claim because I may get dropped.

We pay $3k a year for a house appraised at $175k. If I'd cancelled this BS when my grandma passed, I could easily afford to fix the damage in cash and not think twice about it. Car insurance at least makes some sense considering how bad drivers are. Homeowner's insurance is great if your house burns down but how likely is that outside of states with fire risks? I personally don't know a single person who's been in a house fire nor has any houses on my block ever caught fire. I'm not saying it won't happen. What's the sense of paying 50+ years of home owners insurance when I still have to get a $20k loan to fix the roof and siding because of storms?

Insurance premiums are shooting up. Once I cancel my sister's car insurance (because I found her cheaper insurance), the home owners insurance will be nearly $4k a year.

I know Reddit is full of insurance shills so I'm expecting comments saying I'm stupid.

No, I don't really have anyone to ask for suggestions. I just had one guy out here and he just walked around and threw out a number ($20k) to do the soffits, facia and gutters. I had a company last year quote $18k for roof, gutters, soffit, facia and was willing to go through insurance but I lost their number/name.

I called someone else and they prefer not to go through my insurance. The issue is, I don't have $10k+ to pay out of pocket. If the work is promised to be good, then sure I'll wait and do it but the guy was going on and on about how he gets a ton of calls and it's almost always a waste of time. I don't have money to waste. The house is over 100 years old, needs exterior work then interior work. I'm overwhelmed and the advent of bots to give good reviews makes this 100x worse.

My mom has alcoholic dementia. I've talked about it here before. She still craves alcohol and recently was looking for her laptop (and mistook my sister's old one for hers). Whenever she's looking for it, it's because she's attempting to order alcohol. That's why I took her laptop in the first place.

I just feel helpless. I asked her doctor about medications that can curb the craving and I just keep being told to "keep her from drinking". She smokes and he wants her to stop that too but there's no way that's happening. He doesn't have to live with her 24/7.

We have a relative coming into town next week who brought her alcohol before. I've told them that her cognitive issues are due to her drinking and still. I saw it in time enough and took it out the house before my mom got to it but another relative brought some and I'm pretty sure she drank it.

I am technically not her POA. Her name is on the house. She could kick me out even though she cannot live on her own as she doesn't have the wherewithal to pay bills, get groceries, etc. I'm just frustrated because the relatives don't even drink. It's not even a "Hey! Let's have a drink." It's just them bringing her handles of vodka and shrugging it off because she can sound lucid enough and they don't live anywhere nearby anymore.

If it were up to me, I'd put her in assisted living. She doesn't want to do anything. Everythiing comes with a complaint whether it's a doctor's appointment, attempts at putting her in adult daycare with other peers her age, etc. My best years are behind me and I'm becoming more depressed, isolated and borderline suicidal. I don't know what to do.

Typical Redditor question I know. I got into cars in my late 20s when I could finally afford to buy a car. I've since been focusing on learning about how they run, how to fix them, etc. I don't know the depths of specific cars like others. I can't tell you what year Ford switched certain parts in the New Edge mustang.

Anyway, I went to my first car show. It was pretty small and full of built Fox Bodies, Cobras, newer Mustangs and of course some Hellcats and Scat Packs. Many of the guys there knew each other so they were standing around talking and I just looked. I don't know much about building up a race car and am scared of looking stupid. But I'm eager to learn. Especially from guys who are building cars that I have (New Edge mustang).

How do I engage without looking like the overbearing or dorky fat guy? I love cars. I love mustangs. I want to be more involved in the local scene outside of shows. Over the years, I've stumbled across guys with shops that build hot rods just by buying parts from Facebook Marketplace but I'd love a crew of my own.

Thanks.

My mom has alcoholic dementia. I've talked about it here before. She still craves alcohol and recently was looking for her laptop (and mistook my sister's old one for hers). Whenever she's looking for it, it's because she's attempting to order alcohol. That's why I took her laptop in the first place.

I just feel helpless. I asked her doctor about medications that can curb the craving and I just keep being told to "keep her from drinking". She smokes and he wants her to stop that too but there's no way that's happening. He doesn't have to live with her 24/7.

We have a relative coming into town next week who brought her alcohol before. I've told them that her cognitive issues are due to her drinking and still. I saw it in time enough and took it out the house before my mom got to it but another relative brought some and I'm pretty sure she drank it.

I am technically not her POA. Her name is on the house. She could kick me out even though she cannot live on her own as she doesn't have the wherewithal to pay bills, get groceries, etc. I'm just frustrated because the relatives don't even drink. It's not even a "Hey! Let's have a drink." It's just them bringing her handles of vodka and shrugging it off because she can sound lucid enough and they don't live anywhere nearby anymore.

If it were up to me, I'd put her in assisted living. She doesn't want to do anything. Everythiing comes with a complaint whether it's a doctor's appointment, attempts at putting her in adult daycare with other peers her age, etc. My best years are behind me and I'm becoming more depressed, isolated and borderline suicidal. I don't know what to do.

I've been dealing with existential dread and the reality that life ends. I'm 31M and feel like my life is just...over. Sounds dramatic but I'm being honest. I see young kids and think of all the years they have ahead of them, the innocence and fun they still experience. I see college kids and think about what I'd do different if I could go back to college. I see elderly people and feel a sense of dread knowing that's going to be me sooner than I'd like.

I don't particularly enjoy living so I don't know why i'm so hung up on this. I turn 32 in 2 months and I'm ready to puke nearly. How can I cope with aging and embrace it?

I know many here and elsewhere talk about people needing to take accountability for their lives. I've been told it by some people I've hung out with online. But I guess I don't know how to because in my eyes, accountability and changing are 2 different things.

Examples that I've been chastized for: Weight and social skills

I am extremely obese. I qualify for every weight loss intervention out there. I don't blame my weight on anyone else. Even though I was fat as a kid I could've lost this weight 2x over by now. However, I don't think I'll realistically lose the weight. Most people my size never get down to a healthy weight and keep it that way. GLP1s are still too new to know if this changes that statistic.

The biggest one where this comes in is social skills/dating/etc. This is what I tend to whine on about online. I accept that my subpar social skills are to blame. however, I dont' think I'll make friends in this life. I'm in my 30s. Most of my peers are married/have kids. They aren't looking to add to their friends group which means I'll need to have young friends or friends who are empty nesters. On top of that, there just aren't enough activities near me to facilitate making friends. It's almost asked daily in local subreddits (how do I make friends here?).

Are these examples of not taking accountability? If so, why? I personally see myself as a realist and don't believe in sugar coating reality.

I know we live in a world where everyone swears they're the best most kind person and no one appreciates them. But I guess I'm the opposite. I'm just not a nice or pleasant person to be around. I'm very jealous, sensitive and negative. I'm not delusional about that. I think looking on the positive side is delusional.

This has been a theme throughout my life and likely one of many reasons I never had friends or dated. Recently went through some old Discord messages from people I used to think I was chill with. I realized that them being honest had the same theme. I'm not pleasant to be around and can sour the mood and it's like talking to a brick wall with me because of my opinions.

I just want to accept it and stop thinking I'm something that I'm not. I'm past the age of being able to find someone to have kids and certainly past the age of having friends. Life sucks. Everyday is like the last but that's just reality for me. My subconscious did what my conscious didn't want to: isolate myself. It's for the larger good.

I made the dumb mistake of joining a discord server where they knew my Reddit account (not this one). I was told that my life sucks because I dont' touch grass and am on Reddit too much. These are people who are in long-term relationships with a plethora of friends. Of course you'd feel that way.

When you have no friends, no dating prospects, life sucks. Hobbies are almost always around friend groups doing the activity or couples. You go to things and everyone already knows each other or are with their partner. There is no adult life when you don't have someone. That's the reality of it.

The internet is probably the only reason I haven't offed myself. There's things to do online that keep my brain somewhat occupied (shout out to people who rebuild cars lol). When people haven't been in this position, they think it's easy to just give useless advice. I rant to Reddit. I'm allowed to do that. At least I'm not another bot shilling for a company or something.

I'm fat+ugly and have been a wallflower all my life. I'm easily ignored and people "forget" I'm there. I've listened to people say heinous things about "Friends" and then smile in their face. I've always had severe social anxiety but as I get older, I'm realizing that it's probably not misreading a situation. I just don't have the blinders on everyone else does.

They fall for average people when they lose weight. I see so many people say they use to be treated like shit (even when they were just minding their business) and they lose weight and suddenly people are nice and positive towards them.

When you don't have anything to offer people, you see them for who they are.

I have been a caregiver in some capacity since I was 21. I'm 31, turning 32 soon and am still in for a long while. I helped care for my grandmother who had dementia. Now, my mom has alcoholic dementia and is only 67.

I feel like there's trauma in caretaking and seeing family like this but I feel bad because most here have it worse. My grandma was not a wanderer. She didn't get nasty. She was sweet and her paid caregiver and PT loved her. Her PT came back to visit after discharge. She was a shell of herself but had so many of her maternal instincts (she seemed to know who was and wasn't home. She'd call for my sister all day then when I leave for work, my sister says she'd call for me. lol). She never forgot when my mom (her daughter) got home. She didn't need additional meds. Just the ones she took for decades. So many don't get that experience.

My mom is still able to do her ADLs but it's like living with a literal shell of my mom. We'd gotten so close then she drank herself into this state. She has no real memory of anything before probably the late 80s, early 90s. She doesn't remember when she got married or divorced, when she graduated high school/college, etc. Doesn't remember that she had my sister and I later in life. It hurts because she sounds like my mom sometimes but...it isn't.

But I don't have to wipe butts. I don't have to stay home 24/7. My mom can be left alone and be trusted to cook and clean up (as best she can). But I feel so much trauma and grief. I don't have the mom I used to. The mom that would be proud I finished nursing school, that remembered I knew how to work on cars. But that's peanuts compared to what most of you all are going through.

Been living as male for 10+ years but I feel I'm still extremely clockable. Been on T for 12 years next month, over a year post top surgery. I don't feel I can live a normal life like many trans men I see.

I have a few as Facebook friends from back when Facebook groups used to be chill and fun. One is extremely cis passing with a gorgeous girlfriend and his own business. Same with several others in relationships that are moving towards marriage.

I feel I'm stuck having to socialize within the LGBT community despite not really relating to many there. While I am gay, I'd probably be extremely DL if I were cis. I'm not attractive enough to find a partner and am now considered "old" to most gay men. I have no desire for hookups so that's made meeting other gay men harder.

This is honestly one of the reasons I'd never go to Camp Lost Boys. I'd be the epitome of second hand embarrassment.

Anyway: Anyone else feel like this? especially those who are post transition/longer into their transition?