u/Ecstatic_City_1529

I broke up with my bf of one year because he was texting this other girl stuff like I like you and I broke up with her (me) and he is sending her the same songs he used to send me
Talking to her in the same way he did with me all those words like I’m proud of you and my mom really likes you
Sending her the songs he used to post me on
It’s so funny that he’s just doing what he does everytime with a girl he just repeats it
Well that girl was talking to him for the sole purpose of showing me the texts
She’s literally insulting him saying things like oh bro sees me as an option and this fuckass guy isn’t even stoppping he just keeps going on and on
He lied about multiple things like even his job and other stuff
Like once lied about getting into an accident
And like the thing is he’s telling his family still That he would never cheat on me and stuff like she should talk and I’ll tell her everything about the other girl her and I knew eo since 8 years (A LIE AGAIN I CONFORMED THAT FROM HER)
The worst thing is his family seems to believe him too
I don’t know if it’s their fault cause he curates reality in such a way he’s a master manipulator, I loved him so much I have given up so much in my life for him I couldn’t go out see my friends cause my parents thought they are all involved in getting us both together (they always knew he was a liar but I never saw it I always believed him ) my parents got really hard on me
I had to give up so fucking much can’t go out of my city to do internship cause
They’re so paranoid all the time
They always saw through his lies
But I couldn’t never see cause it’s not that he didn’t do anything for me
He also had done some stuff that would make anyone believe he is loyal and cares about me the most but he doesn’t
And he’s still posting on his Instagram like it’s another normal day while I left him with no confrontation
It doesn’t even make sense to me how can someone have a whole another life and make me believe he loves me and would marry me he would say things like I will take care of you if ur parents abandon you I will help u out with your education (ALL WHITE LIES) cause he never reallly loved me and would still keep texting other women
Even after I gave up so much for him
I relied on him so much for emotional support and he was my unpaid therapist or I thought he was but he’d always color up my life I didn’t ever knew he would turn out to be this way
None of his friends even believe he would cheat on me like this cause he did put efforts apparently but I can see now that those efforts were directly benefiting him that’s why he did those things
He’s a loser liar narcissist but I can’t stop thinking about the version of me that loved him so deeply and would even die for him i can’t stop thinking about the light in his eyes when we used to meet
What is even real ?
I have been cheated on before but this one sucks cause I would’ve even thought of him dying but never ever him cheating

Hi everyone, I really need some outside perspective because I feel like my reality just shattered.

I recently found out my boyfriend was texting another girl, telling her he was single and asking her to get with him. The thing is, our relationship wasn’t falling apart or distant at all. We were really close. He was loving, supportive, and honestly felt like my safe place. He would travel from another city to see me, wrote songs for me, and knew about my difficult family situation. I genuinely believed we loved each other deeply
But now everything feels fake.
On top of cheating, I’m starting to think he may have lied about major parts of his life. He was always vague about where he studies or works in aviation. He never showed any proof and refused when my family asked for any kind of documents, saying his field is “army-related” and he could lose everything if he shared anything, which didn’t really make sense to me. He also never posted anything related to his training or work, just random travel pictures.
There were other things that didn’t sit right in hindsight, like going to a movie with a girl I was uncomfortable with and not telling me about it, and avoiding giving clear answers when questioned. Now I’ve also found out he was telling at least one other girl he was single.
I feel like I lost everything at once. Not just my boyfriend, but my best friend, my emotional support, and the future I imagined with him. I even went against friends and family for him, and now I just feel stupid and completely betrayed.
What I don’t understand is how someone can act so loving and still lie and cheat like this. Was any of it real, or was I just being manipulated the whole time?
I’d really appreciate any advice or perspective.

Bf cheated on me after a year turns out his whole personality was fake even what he worked at
Everything was fake
He’s was talking to the other girl for so long and sent her the same exact texts he sent me to flirt with me initially
He was always so good at talking he would be there when I needed support told me he travelled all the way from his city to see me when I was sick helped me in my hard times but still had another life telling ppl he is single and shit I’m tired of his bs and his lies but I literally can’t trust anyone anymore I feel like I’m scared for life cause I fought everyone for him
But he still did this
TLDR; a person I thought of as my best friend my partner was cheating and lying all along I don’t know what to do next

Bf cheated on me after a year turns out his whole personality was fake even where he worked at
Everything was fake
He’s was talking to the other girl for so long and sent her the same exact texts he sent me to flirt with me initially
He was always so good at talking he would be there when I needed support told me he travelled all the way from his city to see me when I was sick helped me in my hard times but still had another life telling ppl he is single and shit I’m tired of his bs and his lies but I literally can’t trust anyone anymore I feel like I’m scared for life cause I fought everyone for him
But he still did this
TLDR; a person I thought of as my best friend my partner was cheating and lying all along I don’t know what to do next

My bf cheated on me got to know that by a common friend telling me he has been hitting on her and is saying he is single
I genuinely didn’t ever even thought that he’d turn out to be this way I thought he really loved me cause he was just so good at talking he helped me through sm like whenever I was having a hard time he would say things like I’m so proud of you and he would make me feel so fucking loved but turns out all of that was a show cause he has a history of this behaviour I didn’t know this before but he did that to his ex as well
It all makes me question was it even real
I got against everyone who doubted him
I fought everyone for him
Even when it meant losing my family members I still fought for him
He said he will marry me and we will go live in another country in a country side and what not
He lied all along he was never faithful
He is now sending that girl the songs he used to post me on
It’s all so fucking insane
I’m so broken
I don’t have any will to move forwards I was already on psychiatric treatment for depression and now this happened I really don’t know where to start now my whole world has shaken
I imagined a life with him
I shared everything with him
He knew me the best he knew what I’ve been through he still managed to cheat and have a life where I didn’t even existed

My bf cheated on me got to know that by a common friend telling me he has been hitting on her and is saying he is single
I genuinely didn’t ever even thought that he’d turn out to be this way I thought he really loved me cause he was just so good at talking he helped me through sm like whenever I was having a hard time he would say things like I’m so proud of you and he would make me feel so fucking loved but turns out all of that was a show cause he has a history of this behaviour I didn’t know this before but he did that to his ex as well
It all makes me question was it even real
I got against everyone who doubted him
I fought everyone for him
Even when it meant losing my family members I still fought for him
He said he will marry me and we will go live in another country in a country side and what not
He lied all along he was never faithful
He is now sending that girl the songs he used to post me on
It’s all so fucking insane
I’m so broken
I don’t have any will to move forwards I was already on psychiatric treatment for depression and now this happened I really don’t know where to start now my whole world has shaken
I imagined a life with him
I shared everything with him
He knew me the best he knew what I’ve been through he still managed to cheat and have a life where I didn’t even existed

I was friends with a girl so it was a trio for most part and the one friend with whom I had a fight with recently would always treat me like her last option she wouldn’t share anything with me wouldn’t wanna reply to things I say on the gc like in every way she’d like to avoid me but I tried
I know I might be the problem somewhere cause I have selective mutism and don’t share much or talk much but on gc I like to talk but even there i would feel pushed away
I know she’ll believe that I wasn’t invested that much into it too but atleast I never treated her the way she treated me like actively pushing me away I had my specific reasons of why I felt like I was pushed away I told her those but she ended up saying she doesn’t feel that good with me anymore
The other friend in our trio also leaned towards her and not me
Even after some major things that happened which made me doubt our friendship
I was told that if she doesn’t feel that close I should accept that and and not expect anything anymore
But I was truly disheartened with all that happened
I now have no friends and feel like I’ll be alone now cause I don’t wanna be with them physically atleast for some time
I had panic attacks ended up taking my AD which caused really bad side effects and I skipped my exam too they didn’t check up on me still
I feel like I wasn’t ever enough for them

I was friends with a girl so it was a trio for most part and the one friend with whom I had a fight with recently would always treat me like her last option she wouldn’t share anything with me wouldn’t wanna reply to things I say on the gc like in every way she’d like to avoid me but I tried
I know I might be the problem somewhere cause I have selective mutism and don’t share much or talk much but on gc I like to talk but even there i would feel pushed away
I know she’ll believe that I wasn’t invested that much into it too but atleast I never treated her the way she treated me like actively pushing me away I had my specific reasons of why I felt like I was pushed away I told her those but she ended up saying she doesn’t feel that good with me anymore
The other friend in our trio also leaned towards her and not me
Even after some major things that happened which made me doubt our friendship
I was told that if she doesn’t feel that close I should accept that and and not expect anything anymore
But I was truly disheartened with all that happened
I now have no friends and feel like I’ll be alone now cause I don’t wanna be with them physically atleast for some time
I had panic attacks ended up taking my AD which caused really bad side effects and I skipped my exam too they didn’t check up on me still
I feel like I wasn’t ever enough for them

I 17F recently had a friendship fall apart and I genuinely don’t know if I’m overreacting or if the friendship had become unhealthy for a long time.

We were a trio for most of our friendship. One of the girls 18F slowly started treating me like I was her last option. She wouldn’t really reply to me in the group chat, didn’t seem interested in hanging out with me, stopped sharing things with me, and overall I constantly felt avoided or pushed away. The confusing part was that she would still act warm and affectionate with other people, including our other friend in the trio.

I know I’m not perfect either. I struggle a lot socially and have selective mutism, so in person I can be very quiet and closed off. Group chats were actually one of the few places where I tried to talk more and connect. That’s part of why it hurt so much to feel ignored even there.

Things got more complicated after I got into a relationship with one of her friends. Later, they stopped being friends, and apparently she started feeling less close to me after that. But she never really communicated any of this directly at the time. Instead, I just felt emotionally pushed away for months without fully understanding why.

Eventually we had a huge argument where we both said everything we were upset about. I explained all the reasons I had felt excluded and unwanted, but she basically told me she just doesn’t feel good with me anymore and doesn’t see me as a close friend now.

What hurts is that I genuinely tried. Even if I’m quiet or awkward, I never intentionally treated her badly or tried to push her away the way I felt pushed away. The other friend in our trio also leaned more towards her, which made me feel even more isolated.

The whole situation affected me way more than I expected. I had panic attacks, skipped an exam, and got put on antidepressants briefly because my anxiety got really bad. Neither of them really checked up on me either, which made me feel even more replaceable.

Now I feel stuck between wondering:

was I actually a bad friend without realizing it?

or did I stay in a friendship where I was being emotionally sidelined for too long?

I also honestly feel scared that I’ll end up alone because I already struggle socially and this friendship was very important to me.

I guess I just want outside perspectives because I can’t tell anymore whether I’m being too sensitive or whether this friendship had already ended emotionally long before the fight happened
TLDR lost a friendship and now I have no one left it’s like my whole social life has collapsed I don’t know how to move on from a friendship breakup

I recently had a friendship fall apart and I genuinely don’t know if I’m overreacting or if the friendship had become unhealthy for a long time.

We were a trio for most of our friendship. One of the girls slowly started treating me like I was her last option. She wouldn’t really reply to me in the group chat, didn’t seem interested in hanging out with me, stopped sharing things with me, and overall I constantly felt avoided or pushed away. The confusing part was that she would still act warm and affectionate with other people, including our other friend in the trio.

I know I’m not perfect either. I struggle a lot socially and have selective mutism, so in person I can be very quiet and closed off. Group chats were actually one of the few places where I tried to talk more and connect. That’s part of why it hurt so much to feel ignored even there.

Things got more complicated after I got into a relationship with one of her friends. Later, they stopped being friends, and apparently she started feeling less close to me after that. But she never really communicated any of this directly at the time. Instead, I just felt emotionally pushed away for months without fully understanding why.

Eventually we had a huge argument where we both said everything we were upset about. I explained all the reasons I had felt excluded and unwanted, but she basically told me she just doesn’t feel good with me anymore and doesn’t see me as a close friend now.

What hurts is that I genuinely tried. Even if I’m quiet or awkward, I never intentionally treated her badly or tried to push her away the way I felt pushed away. The other friend in our trio also leaned more towards her, which made me feel even more isolated.

The whole situation affected me way more than I expected. I had panic attacks, skipped an exam, and got put on antidepressants briefly because my anxiety got really bad. Neither of them really checked up on me either, which made me feel even more replaceable.

Now I feel stuck between wondering:

was I actually a bad friend without realizing it?

or did I stay in a friendship where I was being emotionally sidelined for too long?

I also honestly feel scared that I’ll end up alone because I already struggle socially and this friendship was very important to me.

I guess I just want outside perspectives because I can’t tell anymore whether I’m being too sensitive or whether this friendship had already ended emotionally long before the fight happened

I recently had a friendship fall apart and I genuinely don’t know if I’m overreacting or if the friendship had become unhealthy for a long time.

We were a trio for most of our friendship. One of the girls slowly started treating me like I was her last option. She wouldn’t really reply to me in the group chat, didn’t seem interested in hanging out with me, stopped sharing things with me, and overall I constantly felt avoided or pushed away. The confusing part was that she would still act warm and affectionate with other people, including our other friend in the trio.

I know I’m not perfect either. I struggle a lot socially and have selective mutism, so in person I can be very quiet and closed off. Group chats were actually one of the few places where I tried to talk more and connect. That’s part of why it hurt so much to feel ignored even there.

Things got more complicated after I got into a relationship with one of her friends. Later, they stopped being friends, and apparently she started feeling less close to me after that. But she never really communicated any of this directly at the time. Instead, I just felt emotionally pushed away for months without fully understanding why.

Eventually we had a huge argument where we both said everything we were upset about. I explained all the reasons I had felt excluded and unwanted, but she basically told me she just doesn’t feel good with me anymore and doesn’t see me as a close friend now.

What hurts is that I genuinely tried. Even if I’m quiet or awkward, I never intentionally treated her badly or tried to push her away the way I felt pushed away. The other friend in our trio also leaned more towards her, which made me feel even more isolated.

The whole situation affected me way more than I expected. I had panic attacks, skipped an exam, and got put on antidepressants briefly because my anxiety got really bad. Neither of them really checked up on me either, which made me feel even more replaceable.

Now I feel stuck between wondering:

was I actually a bad friend without realizing it?

or did I stay in a friendship where I was being emotionally sidelined for too long?

I also honestly feel scared that I’ll end up alone because I already struggle socially and this friendship was very important to me.

I guess I just want outside perspectives because I can’t tell anymore whether I’m being too sensitive or whether this friendship had already ended emotionally long before the fight happened

I’m dealing with a really confusing friendship situation and I don’t know if I’m overreacting.

I had a close friend, but over time I started feeling like I was always her last option. She wouldn’t show up for me the way I did for her (for example she wouldn’t text me for days when I didn’t go to school for a week I barely take days ), and it made me feel pretty unimportant. I tried to justify it for a while because I was going through stuff personally, but eventually it just started to feel one sided.

Things got worse when I brought it up to mutual friends they kind of brushed it off as petty, which made me question myself even more. Now it’s awkward because we’re in the same circle, and I feel like I’m losing more than one friendship just by trying to distance myself from her.

The confusing part is that I don’t even know if I want to fix the friendship anymore, but it still hurts seeing them together and feeling replaced. At the same time, I hate being alone and I’m worried I’m isolating myself.
Am I overreacting for wanting to step back from a friendship that feels one sided? Or should I have handled this differentlyn