late 20s and quiet fired from every job.

im not sure what to do. i am in my late 20s and not doing well. i have no career and every job seems to end the same.

the more this happens to me the worse i feel. i feel socially not just physically disabled too at this point. my job went all in on A-I and its so scary how most of us can be automated.

i went to college and did amazing in school. had internships, hobbies and never was without a job, but - it took me three years and thousands of applications after college to get an entry-level coordinator role related to my field, and I've been made obsolete and auto-mated. there is no role for me anymore, despite expressing desire to join another department. i don't have the skills to navigate the corporate layoff world.

In the spring, my thoroughness, attention to detail and deep execution were high-value assets. i was told how good i was at my role, given glowing but VAGUE praise and performance reviews. When leadership brought in new workflows and dedicated resources to automate my processes, they fundamentally redefined what they considered "valuable" even as i helped build the systems that are now in use.

I keep getting "quiet fired." whether the job be 6 months, 2 years, 3 years - things start going downhill quickly and the rules are different for me as soon as they "clock" me. It doesn't matter if it's high-stakes corporate or fast-paced hospitality. the blueprint is always identical, and I feel completely bullied and powerless.

In my current corporate job, I am actively being iced out. I get removed from meetings without explanation, stripped of project scopes, and monitored under the microscope. But when I explicitly ask management for constructive feedback or ask what I can improve, I get nothing. Or worse, generic, fake-positive praise ("You're doing great!") right before they pull another duty away from me.

Trying to do high-level work while constantly defending your right to exist at a company takes an unbelievable toll on your nervous system. I am being pushed towards more manual labor that's getting automated even as I fight to stay in the strategy, EVEN as I am being removed from context. I feel that I am drowning in quicksand. Every day feels like walking through a minefield.

I realized that this exact same thing happened to me years ago when I worked as a bartender. Management wouldn't just give me feedback; instead, they'd start subtle, passive-aggressive ostracization. A few servers eventually admitted they felt terrible for me because our bosses were literally telling the staff behind my back, "Go to the other bar to pick up your drinks." I was the last to know I was being frozen out.

It makes me feel crazy and hopeless for any sort of career or my future working. The pattern I get met with in work environments is subtle social exclusion, passive-aggression, and corporate double-speak. People won't just tell me what the problem is to my face, they just quietly make the environment unbearable until I either break down or get let go. it really sucks that I clearly do well enough to survive 5 and 6 round interview processes, and present well enough initially that people sign me onto their "work family." but it always breaks down.

it feels like no matter how hard I work or how good my results are, I always end up being the person everyone silently decides to push out. i feel like the biggest loser.

and for starting a business, im just out of ideas at this point. ive done petsitting, babysitting, offering event bar services, online etsy shop, nothing has worked. outside of being ND i have pots, endo, pcos, migraine disorder, N24 sleep disorder, chronic pain, scarring disease, multiple autoimmune diseases. im so burned out and feel shot.

it feels like the current layoff economy is now "clocking" out people like us. what are we supposed to do?

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 4 hours ago

late 20sF and quiet fired from every job.

im not sure what to do. i am a woman in my late 20s and not doing well. i have no career and every job seems to end the same.

i went to college and did amazing in school. had internships, hobbies and never was without a job, but -

it took me three years and thousands of applications after college to get an entry-level coordinator role related to my field, and I've been made obsolete and automated by ay-I. there is no role for me anymore, despite expressing desire to join another department. i don't have the skills to navigate the ay-I-layoff world.

In the spring, my thoroughness, attention to detail and deep execution were high-value assets. i was told how good i was at my role, given glowing but VAGUE praise and performance reviews. When leadership brought in new workflows and dedicated resources to automate my processes, they fundamentally redefined what they considered "valuable" even as i helped build the systems that are now in use.

I keep getting "quiet fired." It doesn't matter if it's high-stakes corporate or fast-paced hospitalitythe blueprint is always identical, and I feel completely bullied and powerless.

In my current corporate job, I am actively being iced out. I get removed from meetings without explanation, stripped of project scopes, and monitored under the microscope. But when I explicitly ask management for constructive feedback or ask what I can improve, I get nothing. Or worse, generic, fake-positive praise ("You're doing great!") right before they pull another duty away from me.

I realized that this exact same thing happened to me years ago when I worked as a bartender. Management wouldn't just give me feedback; instead, they'd start subtle, passive-aggressive ostracization. A few servers eventually admitted they felt terrible for me because our bosses were literally telling the staff behind my back, "Go to the other bar to pick up your drinks." I was the last to know I was being frozen out.

It makes me feel crazy and hopeless for any sort of career or my future working. The pattern I get met with in work environments is subtle social exclusion, passive-aggression, and corporate double-speak. People won't just tell me what the problem is to my face, they just quietly make the environment unbearable until I either break down or get let go. it really sucks that I clearly do well enough to survive 5 and 6 round interview processes, and present well enough initially that people sign me onto their "work family." but it always breaks down.

it feels like no matter how hard I work or how good my results are, I always end up being the person everyone silently decides to push out. i feel like the biggest loser.

it feels like the current layoff economy is now "clocking" out people like us. what are we supposed to do?

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 5 hours ago

PE Acquisition - rapid hiring, sudden audits and AI initiatives - is the writing on the wall?

My company recently went through a PE acquisition that they called a partnership, but they are being extremely tight lipped about the situation and we were instructed not to tell anybody. It's really scary. In the past year, the founders did heavy hiring, expanding teams rapidly despite what I perceive to be a huge drop off in retention. Now that the dust has settled on the buy-out, the new focus is maintaining strict compliance, aggressive headcount auditing, and massive AI integration projects.

An enterprise/PE-level integration team was brought in to align operations with automated workflows. They’ve installed time trackers, keystroke monitoring, and task-level logging.

I was asked to map out exact percentages of my workday spent on specific scopes in a meeting before being brought to awareness about the buy out. Fortunately, I keep detailed personal logs. When I submitted my breakdown and asked if they were looking for specific benchmarks or if they wanted to meet to align my scope with the new direction, I was met with "We have no ulterior motives."

I’ve actively helped build and implement several major AI integration projects over the past few months and now these implementations are now directly automating core parts of my own role, and I’m scrambling to pivot. I sat today in a panic because I do not know what I am supposed to be doing anymore. Tenured/veteran employees have already been insulated by tying their roles directly to revenue-generating seats. Meanwhile, the rest of us are being evaluated through metrics and logs.

The psychological toll has been intense. The ambiguity, combined with constant "Freudian slips" from leadership during everyday conversations saying things like "We care about your career even if you're no longer here soon" has made the environment almost unmanageable. I'm literally anticipating "the meeting" every single morning.

For anyone who has been through this specific PE transition pipeline:

  1. How did you navigate the gap between being asked to help document and automate workflows and watching your role get audited out?
  2. How long do I realistically have?
  3. What is the likelihood that the founders are planning an exit sooner rather than later as well if they are being silent? They also refused to disclose what % stake in the company was acquired.
  4. Am I paranoid or is it possible my coworkers are being coached on my role being removed and how to handle me? I feel that they are distancing themselves from me and it feels unnerving.

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 1 day ago

company was acquired, AI has made my role redundant and waiting for “the meeting”

I feel sick to my stomach, exhausted, and completely terrified. I feel like I'm fighting with everything I have to save my job, but no matter how hard I work, the walls are closing in and I feel like there's nothing I can do.

Over the past year, I was forced to lean heavily into implementing AI workflows, automated task tracking, and streamlined processes. I thought I was being proactive and showing value and my willingness to grow and change with the needs of the company. I followed their direction and they've also detailed they wanted us to "create the future of our own roles with AI." Instead, I just helped create the systems that make the C-Suite think my position can be absorbed.

I am constantly trying to find operational gaps, spot discrepancies, and keep things moving faster. But it's only getting faster and faster, and I'm hitting burnout. Leadership has started quietly icing me out, leaving me off critical sync meetings, holding back context, and keeping information locked away while smiling in my face. An acquisition was recently announced. It’s nearly impossible now for me to audit or fix complex workflows when you are intentionally being kept in the dark and responsible fall guy for hundreda of accounts.

I've asked for feedback in 1 on 1s and actionable advice for how I can best support these "AI transitions" but I get vague and generic nothingburgers or "we need to be more attached at the hip to provide feedback." I hoped I would have an opportunity to value prop a transition role or some way I could provide value in another department, but it feels like all of my peers know the end game with me, and they're separating from me.

More and more, I'm left holding the bag for "incomplete" tasks that are owned by teammates. I cannot be the builder, the fixer, the reporter, the auditor, vthe spreadsheet all-seeing-eye and everything at once. I am the lowest paid plebeian and I am also the one who is the punching bag for account execs. The worst part is how automated systems are being weaponized. When a manager verbally or in writing tells me to skip/defer a task because they are handling it directly, but leaves the task or automated card or ticket open, I'm the one who gets blamed during leadership meetings. Even if I have proof. Even though I've been documenting all of my work and communication logs. I'm spending half my energy building paper trails and screenshots just to prove I'm doing my job, while management uses those exact automated logs to manufacture fault.

Trying to do high-level work while constantly defending your right to exist at a company takes an unbelievable toll on your nervous system. I am being pushed towards more manual labor that's getting automated even as I fight to stay in the strategy, EVEN as I am being removed from context. I feel that I am drowning in quicksand. Every day feels like walking through a minefield.

I'm actively applying elsewhere, but the job market is terrifying, and watching yourself get quietly maneuvered toward redundancy in real-time is soul-crushing. I've vomited multiple times this week because I am anticipating "the meeting." I'm receiving lots of Freudian slips. I was told "we care about your career even if you're no longer working here soon." and "you better be here when I get back!" "you're better at reporting than the rest of the team!!"

Concurrently, an enterprise and PE-level team was recently brought on to align us with automated workflows and headcount audits, and they've installed time trackers for all of our tasks, logs of our keystrokes, and more. They asked me to fill out how I spend my days, and luckily I keep logs. When I inquired if they are seeking any specific benchmarks or happy to meet further on aligning more day-to-day scope with the transition, I was told, "we have no ulterior motives."

I don't even know what I'm looking for here. maybe just to know I'm not crazy. Should I go to the hospital? I feel qorse and worse. This is pushing me into a menty-B. I am crying multiple times per day from the stress.

Has anyone else trained their team’s AI tools only to be frozen out of context and pushed toward the exit? Has anyone gone through similar through a company restructuring? How are you doing now?

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 1 day ago

AI redundancy, company restructuring and waiting for "the meeting"

I feel sick to my stomach, exhausted, and completely terrified. I feel like I'm fighting with everything I have to save my job, but no matter how hard I work, the walls are closing in and I feel like there's nothing I can do.

Over the past year, I was forced to lean heavily into implementing AI workflows, automated task tracking, and streamlined processes. I thought I was being proactive and showing value and my willingness to grow and change with the needs of the company. I followed their direction and they've also detailed they wanted us to "create the future of our own roles with AI." Instead, I just helped create the systems that make the C-Suite think my position can be absorbed.

I am constantly trying to find operational gaps, spot discrepancies, and keep things moving faster. But it's only getting faster and faster, and I'm hitting burnout. Leadership has started quietly icing me out, leaving me off critical sync meetings, holding back context, and keeping information locked away while smiling in my face. An acquisition was recently announced. It’s nearly impossible now for me to audit or fix complex workflows when you are intentionally being kept in the dark and responsible fall guy for hundreda of accounts.

I've asked for feedback in 1 on 1s and actionable advice for how I can best support these "AI transitions" but I get vague and generic nothingburgers or "we need to be more attached at the hip to provide feedback." I hoped I would have an opportunity to value prop a transition role or some way I could provide value in another department, but it feels like all of my peers know the end game with me, and they're separating from me.

More and more, I'm left holding the bag for "incomplete" tasks that are owned by teammates. I cannot be the builder, the fixer, the reporter, the auditor, vthe spreadsheet all-seeing-eye and everything at once. I am the lowest paid plebeian and I am also the one who is the punching bag for account execs. The worst part is how automated systems are being weaponized. When a manager verbally or in writing tells me to skip/defer a task because they are handling it directly, but leaves the task or automated card or ticket open, I'm the one who gets blamed during leadership meetings. Even if I have proof. Even though I've been documenting all of my work and communication logs. I'm spending half my energy building paper trails and screenshots just to prove I'm doing my job, while management uses those exact automated logs to manufacture fault.

Trying to do high-level work while constantly defending your right to exist at a company takes an unbelievable toll on your nervous system. I am being pushed towards more manual labor that's getting automated even as I fight to stay in the strategy, EVEN as I am being removed from context. I feel that I am drowning in quicksand. Every day feels like walking through a minefield.

I'm actively applying elsewhere, but the job market is terrifying, and watching yourself get quietly maneuvered toward redundancy in real-time is soul-crushing. I've vomited multiple times this week because I am anticipating "the meeting." I'm receiving lots of Freudian slips. I was told "we care about your career even if you're no longer working here soon." and "you better be here when I get back!" "you're better at reporting than the rest of the team!!"

Concurrently, an enterprise and PE-level team was recently brought on to align us with automated workflows and headcount audits, and they've installed time trackers for all of our tasks, logs of our keystrokes, and more. They asked me to fill out how I spend my days, and luckily I keep logs. When I inquired if they are seeking any specific benchmarks or happy to meet further on aligning more day-to-day scope with the transition, I was told, "we have no ulterior motives."

I don't even know what I'm looking for here. maybe just to know I'm not crazy. Should I go to the hospital? I feel qorse and worse. This is pushing me into a menty-B. I am crying multiple times per day from the stress.

Has anyone else trained their team’s AI tools only to be frozen out of context and pushed toward the exit? Has anyone gone through similar through a company restructuring? How are you doing now?

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 1 day ago

it sucks that remote jobs are going away because chronically ill / disabled had the highest workforce participation during COVID-19

im a chronically ill Gen Z woman who lives in chronic pain. i've posted about my job search in other forums, and i get told the same advice, usually from men:

  • go to trade school
  • pick up welding, plumbing, electrical or hvac work
  • join the military
  • start a business
  • go back to school for healthcare
  • apply for disability if you're so sick (doesn't work like this - my cousin permanently became disabled via car crash and it took 5+ years and multiple lawyers, and she doesn't earn enough to live)

im sorry that my DIAGNOSED cfs, pots, pcos, endo, migraine disorder, audhd, N24 sleep disorder, MCTD, IBS, scarring tissue disease, and laboratory confirmed chronic bartonella (persister cells) does not allow me to do any of these - except start a business, and even then, starting a business doesn't magically earn enough money to get a chronically ill / high medical needs person independent. i've started multiple businesses such as petsitting, babysitting etc and nothing has earned me regular income.

it really sucks that there are so many ableists both in hiring and part of the RTO mandates around the US. And that there is such steep competition for the limited quantity of available remote jobs with people who do not medically need them, because that would be how i and many millions of people are able to participate in the economy. U.S. Census Bureau's American Community Survey counts roughly 45.8 million people (about 13.7% of the total population) have a disability, and the disability rates have risen sharply since covid. yet disability accommodations such as remote work are on the decline. i'm about to be laid off again and i see no future and im so burned out. im in my late 20s and cant see a life like this.

if you say you're looking for hybrid or remote work on these here forums r/recruitinghell r/careeradvice r/jobs you get told you're entitled / delusional / asking for too much and if you disclose you're medical issues you'er a #complainer, a #liar and told to #suckitup when i've lost every job ive ever had that required to be in person 5 days a week.

truly at a loss in this economy. the united states creates chronically ill people and then casts us off and we are left to die. if i had no parental support i would not be alive today.

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 2 days ago
▲ 115 r/Layoffs

it sucks that remote jobs are going away because chronically ill / disabled had the highest workforce participation during COVID-19

im a chronically ill woman who lives in chronic pain. i've posted about my job search in other forums, and i get told the same advice, usually from men:

  • go to trade school
  • pick up welding, plumbing, electrical or hvac work
  • join the military
  • start a business
  • go back to school for healthcare
  • apply for disability if you're so sick (doesn't work like this - my cousin permanently became disabled via car crash and it took 5+ years and multiple lawyers, and she doesn't earn enough to live)

im sorry that my DIAGNOSED cfs, pots, pcos, endo, migraine disorder, audhd, N24 sleep disorder, MCTD, IBS, scarring tissue disease, and laboratory confirmed chronic bartonella (persister cells) does not allow me to do any of these - except start a business, and even then, starting a business doesn't magically earn enough money to get a chronically ill / high medical needs person independent. i've started multiple businesses such as petsitting, babysitting etc and nothing has earned me regular income.

it really sucks that there are so many ableists both in hiring and part of the RTO mandates around the US. And that there is such steep competition for the limited quantity of available remote jobs with people who do not medically need them, because that would be how i and many millions of people are able to participate in the economy. U.S. Census Bureau's American Community Survey counts roughly 45.8 million people (about 13.7% of the total population) have a disability, and the disability rates have risen sharply since covid. yet disability accommodations such as remote work are on the decline. i'm about to be laid off again and i see no future and im so burned out. im in my late 20s and cant see a life like this.

if you say you're looking for hybrid or remote work on these here forums r/recruitinghell r/careeradvice r/jobs you get told you're entitled / delusional / asking for too much and if you disclose you're medical issues you'er a #complainer, a #liar and told to #suckitup when i've lost every job ive ever had that required to be in person 5 days a week.

truly at a loss in this economy. the united states creates chronically ill people and then casts us off and we are left to die. if i had no parental support i would not be alive today.

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 2 days ago

it sucks that remote jobs are going away. the job market is so bad

im a chronically ill woman who lives in chronic pain. i've posted about my job search in other forums, and i get told the same advice, usually from men:

  • go to trade school
  • pick up welding, plumbing, electrical or hvac work
  • join the military
  • start a business
  • go back to school for healthcare
  • apply for disability if you're so sick (doesn't work like this - my cousin permanently became disabled via car crash and it took 5+ years and multiple lawyers, and she doesn't earn enough to live)
  • should've started your youtube channel and ecommerce 5 years ago

im sorry that my DIAGNOSED cfs, pots, pcos, endo, migraine disorder, audhd, N24 sleep disorder, MCTD, IBS, scarring tissue disease, and laboratory confirmed chronic bartonella (persister cells) does not allow me to do any of these - except start a business, and even then, starting a business doesn't magically earn enough money to get a chronically ill / high medical needs person independent. i've started multiple businesses such as petsitting, babysitting etc and nothing has earned me regular income. Before my health issues I worked multiple jobs and 40+ hours per week until my health literally collapsed a few years ago.

it really sucks that the ableists have taken up the majority of available remote jobs, because that would be how i am able to participate in the economy. i'm about to be laid off again and i see no future and im so burned out. im in my late 20s and cant see a life like this.

if you say you're looking for hybrid or remote work on r/recruitinghell r/careeradvice r/jobs you get told you're entitled / delusional / asking for too much and if you disclose you're medical issues you'er a #complainer, a #liar and told to #suckitup when i've lost every job ive ever had that required to be in person 5 days a week.

truly at a loss in this economy. the united states creates chronically ill people and then casts us off and we are left to die. if i had no parental support i would not be alive today.

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 2 days ago
▲ 1 r/family

late 20s and still living with a parent

I'm in the USA,

27F I feel like a failure to launch.

i never made it out for college, i took local classes because my parents could not afford to cosign loans.

The pandemic hit and the rest college for me went remote.

i never made it out after college due to job insecurity.

then i got multiple chronic illnesses and autoimmune diseases.

now im in my late 20s, single, and still here, and about to lose my job.

my younger sisters have moved on. and its just me and my dad. I am not close with my sisters due to toxic upbringing together.

I never got to live.

i am depressed and feel so behind.

I failed my family.

it feels like i'll be here forever.

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 2 days ago

late 20s and still live with parent

I'm in the USA,

i never made it out for college, i took local classes. The pandemic hit and the rest college for me went remote.

i never made it out after college.

then i got multiple chronic illnesses and autoimmune diseases.

now im in my late 20s, single, and still here.

my younger sisters have moved on. and its just me and my dad.

I never got to live.

i am depressed and feel so behind.

it feels like i'll be here forever.

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 3 days ago

does anyone else have a rotating circadian rhythm - sleep times keep shifting?

I've had this my entire life, but i never had a name for it - my sleep shifts later and later, until an all nighter, crashes, repeats again.

Non-24-hour sleep-wake rhythm disorder (N24SWD) is a rare circadian rhythm disorder where a person's internal biological clock fails to sync to a 24-hour day. Instead, their sleep cycle typically runs slightly longer (e.g., 25 hours), causing sleep and wake times to shift later by one or two hours every single day

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 3 days ago

how hard is it to go in-house after working in an agency these days?

i know the market is bad but just trying to get a sense for how hard it would be to make the switch and if i am better off focusing on getting out of marketing altogether. im burned out.

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 3 days ago

the United States economy is not going to accommodate disabled people with the current offshoring, automation direction we are heading

hybrid and remote jobs are going away. they are automating the roles that us disabled and chronically ill people can do to participate in the US economy. i see things getting much, much worse. PE is buying up small mom and pops and turning smaller companies with more flexibility into sweat shops, churn and burn.

if you factor in disability, retired people, mentally ill / institutionalized, the young the true labor force participation rate is less than 60% in the US, and the "true" unemployment rate is closer to 15-20%. its very bad out there.

i don't see it ever getting better. and a lot of the jobs are going away. we are moving to a post work economy, post human capital economy with 0 guardrails. the powers that be want us disabled to die. on top of that, the corp overlords are forcing remote-ready jobs back to in-person, automation, offshoring, and the move to bring back factory work. we are going to become a 2nd world economy. we arent going to be the thought leader economy, we will be factory worker based, AI data center based, service labor based, not white collar. this is already in action and a done deal. the white collar thought leaders and idea jobs are gone, because the capitalist playbook involves getting the skills at the cheapest cost even if it means offshoring all of those positions. if you can work remote, you're replaceable. period.

i worked closely with AI and automation in corp environment and its coming for every field. and fast. most people who do not work closely with agentic AI actually have no idea how advanced it is and how entire enterprise level systems can operate skeleton crews with the additional processing power of non-disabled 24/7 artificial intelligence.

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 4 days ago

the United States economy is not going to accommodate disabled people with the current offshoring, automation direction we are heading

hybrid and remote jobs are going away. they are automating the roles that us disabled and chronically ill people can do to participate in the US economy. i see things getting much, much worse. PE is buying up small mom and pops and turning smaller companies with more flexibility into sweat shops, churn and burn.

if you factor in disability, retired people, mentally ill / institutionalized, the young the true labor force participation rate is less than 60% in the US, and the "true" unemployment rate is closer to 15-20%. its very bad out there.

i don't see it ever getting better. and a lot of the jobs are going away. we are moving to a post work economy, post human capital economy with 0 guardrails. the powers that be want us disabled to die. on top of that, the corp overlords are forcing remote-ready jobs back to in-person, automation, offshoring, and the move to bring back factory work. we are going to become a 2nd world economy. we arent going to be the thought leader economy, we will be factory worker based, AI data center based, service labor based, not white collar. this is already in action and a done deal. the white collar thought leaders and idea jobs are gone, because the capitalist playbook involves getting the skills at the cheapest cost even if it means offshoring all of those positions. if you can work remote, you're replaceable. period.

i worked closely with AI and automation in corp environment and its coming for every field. and fast. most people who do not work closely with agentic AI actually have no idea how advanced it is and how entire enterprise level systems can operate skeleton crews with the additional processing power of non-disabled 24/7 artificial intelligence.

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 4 days ago
▲ 25 r/lonely

loneliness as an ugly woman...

my disfigurement and disease and the physical pain takes all of my mental, emotional and physical energy to manage. i do not have a mild case, my scalp disease is all over my head and it is severe with fibrosis process progressing despite all of the strongest meds, i have seen the best doctors in the world for my disease and was dismissed and gaslit before finding one who tried to help me and believed my biopsy. even with a confirmed scarring biopsy the top scarring doctors maintained the position i did not have the disease, dismissed my biopsy, i wish i could take legal action against the disfigurement and physical pain i am suffering because they failed to help me , but i know it is fruitless

how do i focus on rebuilding my life with the pain and one wrong move and my hair tugs out and clumps are coming out everyday nonstop for years? anyone in this situation would go psycho and lose their mind. i have panic 24/7 due to hair coming out 24/7. i never get a break, no meds have helped. my nervous system is shot and i am in severe burnout.

so many people left my life, childhood friends who loved to be around me in good times, but when i started going through sickness and this devastating hair loss.... poof, gone. i am struggling to hold my job due to managing with headbands and dark rooms, averting my eyes downward, it's not professional. there are fields i can no longer apply for. client facing fields are hard to be meeting ready when I have to adjust my hair every moment. when i lose my job i don't know what else i can do since my work history is all appearance / looks based and i can't get hired like that again (ie hired in hospitality service roles because of my looks in the past, not now). Single since age 22 now 27. Ex bf cheated on me and dumped me.

this disease is taking so much more than my hair. it's completely taken my social life, safety in my body, nervous system, living without severe pain, it's taking my job security and career path, it's taken friends, it's threatening my future and ability to find a life partner

I have had no social life since 2023, locked in solitary confinement in my childhood house,

took 5,000 applications to get a basic 9-5 job,

phone is empty for a year+ and nobody responds to me,

have not kissed a boy in years

i am so broken

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 6 days ago

Am i stupid? Why is Copa so expensive?

Not just this timeframe or these airports - almost every date i check in the next 6 mos is outrageously priced. I've been wanting to see panama city for a couple years now but the pricing of their flights is unjustifiable

u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 6 days ago

which Latin American country to visit in September?

My options for a 3-5 day trip from the USA, for ex fly in on a Wed PM / Thurs AM, leave on a Tues:

  • Nicaragua - land in Managua, spend a day, head to Leon for the weekend, do the volcano sledding over the wknd, and then Granada & city tour before leaving back through Managua
  • Panama - likely a weekend in Panama city (super expensive Copa flights for a short trip though)
  • Dominican Republic - land in Santo Domingo, spend a day and city tour, travel by shuttle to Punta Cana for the weekend, travel back to Santo Domingo before flying out
  • Ecuador - likely only Quito and Banos OR Quito and Cuenca (i want to do Galapagos but would not have time on this trip)

I would need a place that has reliable WiFi. I have already been to (and loved) Puerto Rico, Colombia, Peru, Argentina, Mexico, Guatemala, El Salvador, Costa Rica. I plan to go back to these places but want a new passport stamp.

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u/Spiritual-Bug4521 — 8 days ago