u/Bunny_VanilaCake

I am F24 and I feel very unqualified to apply even tho my german gpa is very good, I even passed my Ielts with C1, I also have published work under my name, I fit every requirement.

But my doubt started boiling when I talked to bunch of students in that program and ALL of them had a thesis and I am going insane.

I cannot make a thesis in such a short time so I came across this paid internship where I could be a part of a research in Singapore.

I wonder if I should take it or not because I have a feeling that since it's NC program and despite the fact that I fit all the requirements I need to do something extra to be better than other applying applicants and make my SOP shine more since I don't have a thesis because my undergrad was only 3yrs (Yes, my 3year degree has a valid ECTS so I fit this requirement as well)

EDIT: I also sat for german exam btw and passed (in few months I will be sitting for another german exam)

I am F24 I gave my ielts exam 3 days ago and I got my results just now and besides listening where I got 7.5 I got 7.0 in all parts except reading where I got only 6.5 and that brings my total of overall band 7 and CERF level of C1.

The university in Germany that I want to go to asks for CERF B2 (6.5 overall band) so is it wise to retake exams for all except listening or should I just focus on reading? Because idk why but I have a feeling that even individual grade of 6.5 in my reading is going to affect my admission to german uni.

I am F24 and the news I keep hearing every single day saddens me to my very core like what is happening to our world right now? Why does it feel like it was always THIS repressed? Be it abroad or inside India, why do things never seem to get better?

We have got horrible rape cases going on in all parts of the country every day and my heart goes out to all the women in the March in Delhi and despite that men still sexualized them in ig comments saying "wow if a girl like her is in March then count me in 2 very big reasons to be a male feminist" like are we SERIOUS right now?

But the most exhausting part is that not only India but other parts of the world is also doing the same thing, few things which came to the news are:-

1. medical colleges in Japan were altering or messing up with female applicant's entrance exam sheet so they fail or don't get accepted so they could accept more male students and recently we came to know that it was not only medical but even STEM colleges were doing the same! And the MEXT scholarship for international students which even I once was considering to do was also found in doing this so they could give preference to male international students.

2. If we go over to U.S I think we all have heard the news of the infamous "Cornell 7" where there was a group chat which consisted of 57 men from "Chi Phi chapter" fraternity where in the group chat they casually "selected" a girl to rape but out of 57 men 7 actually came and they drugged and raped the girl for whole 7 hours! And what did the university do? Just paper apology! That is it! The blood that is boiling within me is insane! Officials NEED to hold these 7 men accountable and not only these 7 men but other 50 men who SAW the group chat, WHO SAW THE MESSAGES AND CHOSE TO KEEP QUITE!

They were JUST as bad as those 7 guys because they knew it was going to happen yet they kept their mouths shut!

And these are just tip of an iceberg, there is so much more!

This is why I say that more than the victim rapists are saved because you have the people who blame the victim then corrupted system then of course the bystander who say "I didn't do it" but saw it! You heard it! You KNEW about it but yes sure keep quiet because it's "not my problem" right? I am so sick of this!

Everywhere I go be it abroad or back in India these things keep on happening and somehow men still choose to blame us! What has the society come to?

I mean you could tell a man about sexual assault you faced or something horrible just because you politely "no" and talk about lack of safety issues for men and they will say stuff like "yea but money-" and "we men have to be the bread winner while you get to relax" do men know that WHY are are expected to be the sole bread winner?

Because of patriarchy, this patriarchy harms both women and men because it says that men work and women stay home but if women had freedom to work even after tying the knot that double income helps the family, it takes extra pressure OFF the man as well and things are finally balanced! Why are men so against feminism I will never understand.

I am genuinely so heartbroken and horrified to see what the world has come to! I am genuinely so terrified to live freely as a woman.

My friend who is F23 and I F24 want to roam around and have fun during Diwali, is there anything we can do? Where do people shop for Diwali? We don't any Indian clothes, help.

I remember Cathy Cassidy and books like pink pages and such! I love love to buy books similar to these or something released in 2000's :)

I am (F24) and my man is (M27) European like born and raised there and as far as I know Europeans especially if they're from Switzerland or Germany are very individualistic people and prefer their own space and heavily indulged on privacy protection.

He always tells me "I don't have to tell you where I am 24/7, I do whatever I want, it is my life" and "I don't have to share anything about my life with you"

But the funniest part is that he ALWAYS tells me where he is, updates me and tells me beforehand every single time, even if he is doing something he will spam my texts until I notice what he is doing like mostly it's hiking and sudden business trips and shows me around different countries

He also texts "look what I found" and once he even saw two teddy bears hugging and said "Us🩷" So I am think "what is he trying to do? His actions don't match his words?" NOT that I am complaining but this is a very bizarre thing to do!

He also tells me every little thing and shares everything with me, even if his cup breaks...yea, he updates me on that as well.

I told him that he always informs me anyways about where he is and he denied that???

Is that a pride thing? 😭🙏🏼 what is the meaning of this?

I mean why would a man want to be seen as a red flag when he is literally greener than a well fed grass? 🙄💔

I am F24 and I am thinking about being an Au pair in Europe, Germany specifically, I have never seen anything like this but as far as I know I think au pair are just live in maid/house helper.

recently graduated, I have some expensive teaching people of all ages. My boyfriend lives in Germany and he doesn't know about this because I want to ask here before telling my boyfriend. I want to get good feedback from both workers and bosses of au pairs.

I have heard some horrible stories of bosses being rude, ill mannered kids and kind of unsafe environment for the worker, so I'd like some info on that as well.

My days if I become an au pair would just include work and boyfriend.

I could go to Germany on a student or even a spouse visa but nevertheless au pair is something worth trying I guess? I don't have any financial issues but I have never worked in service area, I want to experience working as a maid.

Any advice or idk anything works.

I am F24 and I came across this sub few weeks ago and all I ever see in men posting? I mean don't get me wrong I get the whole "we want women's perspective" but literally every single post is "do women like...?" "Would you allow a man in your life to tell you how to dress?" "DO you want alimony?" "Why women use men?" I mean at this point it feels like this sub has become a mockery about women, can mods please do something about overwhelming number of men posting or posing as women and posting absolutely misogynistic stuff?

I just want perfume which smells like this and give very clean and bubbly notes I want something like body fantasies pure soap fantasies.

I am F24 and over the years from personal, hearing friends, strangers, reading stories on reddit and even seeing and talking to family I noticed that men in love are either the sweetest being or outright horrible!

Lemme explain, so men in love yea, they go above and beyond! They see a girl they're like "yup, gonna marry her" and they are some of the most peak men over ever seen!! So secure, so elegant and full of love and secure masculinity and very much muah genre of men but....seeing the man before he met his true love is so different like always so different and lowkey full of hate???

Idk how to say this but it seems like they genuinely dislike their gf when the woman is always trying her best to cater to her man and to think that man is capable of giving so much love and care but just because he doesn't see any future with her, he treats her like garbage!! And it's the fact that their miserable asses can't even break up with their gf feels also so selfish to me like-

Also I feel so bad for all the girls who dated these type of men before he found his true love because these girl, they didn't do anything wrong, they just loved him unconditionally and their only crime was being a great gf...must've hurt them to see that their exes were capable of being the best but just NOT with them...

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I am F24 and I was going to book a slot for exam when I saw a notice which said that on paper written exam is no longer available in almost all countries and from next month there will be a hybrid exam where written and computer based will be on the same day can anyone answer what exaty is happening? I want to clear by doubts before booking a slot.

My boyfriend and I have a fabulous relationship, we talk every single day for hours and hours, calls are very important!! We never call normally because it has to be a video call and when he is offline and I'm awake I'd always send him reels and cute stuff I found but the issue is that he is starting a new journey into the wilderness (his job)

So he has to be busy there and he said often times when he is giving presentations his notis shoot up and yea...he gets the preview of my unhinged texts, so that means he sees me sending him twerking stickers...and he said in front of everyone he has to mute me and he doesn't like to mute me, but I am the kind of person who just can't stop sending him cute stuff because I feel so attached to him (I don't have anxious attachment because rn he is travelling for work)

Only few of my friends know about my boyfriend and I can't ask them for advice because all of them have financial issues so they work of they're studying further, as for me, my documents are still under screening so I am very free...I gave all international exams as well few days ago so after that I genuinely have nothing to do and focus fully only my parents and boyfriend but I don't want to disturb him as well.

He says it kills him that he has to mute me 😞👉🏼👈🏼 he said he unmutes me right after he finishes his meetings ahem ahem.

Before his work increased he uses to call me everywhere!! From his office to even grocery to furniture shops and he'd sometimes look to cute plants together and plushies together and say "hey! That is us!!" And I miss that so now I send him "this is us!!" but I didn't realize his WHOLE 50 OTHER PEOPLE IN THE MEETING ALSO SAW THOSE AND TWERKING STICKER AS WELL!! 😭🙏🏼💔

I am F24 and my boyfriend lives here, I want to send him a care package but the thing is I live in other side of the world...and I emailed few flower shops and such but it's been 6 months...so needless to say they never replied to me.

I want to do something nice for him but also I am not sure what to do..The money exchange rate from euros from my country will be abysmal but even if I trust someone here and pay them to send the package to my boyfriend, it still feels very risky...what can I do? Please help!!

I really want to send him stuff like chips, cookies, a card, anything chocolate and pistachios ermmm even socks etc etc.

Is there any way I can send something like this to him? I want to surprise him actually.

I am F24 and I want to bleach my eyebrows ro give myself a new look, are there any tips on what I should do? For reference idk if this matters or not but I have asian type thin hair on my eyebrows which might be little in consistent from going bushy then towards the ends it's less hair also my mum told me "what if you bleach and it never grows back?" And that has been scaring me a lot 😭🙏🏼 pls help!!

I am F24 and I want to bleach my eyebrows ro give myself a new look, are there any tips on what I should do? For reference idk if this matters or not but I have asian type thin hair on my eyebrows which might be little in consistent from going bushy then towards the ends it's less hair also my mum told me "what if you bleach and it never grows back?" And that has been scaring me a lot 😭🙏🏼 pls help!!

I am F24 daring M27, he is genuinely the love of my life but I think I am too independent, I was born in a very feminist household where I was taught to do everything so I genuinely don't need no help and I was taught to make my own money so in that department as well I need no help but I think this hurts my boyfriend a little bit because he tries his best to help me or take me out to great trips and such but I always tell him "dw baby, let me try first if I fail then I'll for your help, okay?" But I solve all of my problems on my own and he just he doesn't get to help me much.

From giving me job opportunities to internship references back to back to even paying for my masters degree he is always present but in the end I somehow manage to do all of these things on my own and solve them and I think he feels like he isn't good enough...I don't want him to think like that.

We are set to marry soon and he was talking about some diamond ring but I genuinely don't care about that, I have told him multiple times I am not materialistic at all and told him "baby even if you give me a write off of the side road and make a ring out of it on spot by beding it into a circle, I'll happily take it" I think he didn't like that because he got quiet and said "engagement and marriage are important, I cannot just give you something so horrible" and I assured him that it is love that is important not materialistic stuff and he didn't agree with me (I can read his face) but said okay anyways.

This incident is important because my boyfriend told me about how his sister bought this luxury bag and I was like "oh my god!! So expensive!! Wow she is very loved and spoiled good for her" and he said "c'mon don't worry, when we marry you can also buy these things" but I said I am not stupid to spend that much on a bag plus I thrift because it's cute, sustainable, cheap and good for the environment and he asked me if I am ever going to spend his money or not because he wanted me to and I said "I make my own money, why would I spend yours?" And he got sad...

Idk how to say this but I am not materialistic at all, I genuinely don't care for money I love my man because he is sweet, caring and emotionally safe, my parents always taught me that I should do my own work but I feel sad because I am too independent, my boyfriend earns and love to spoil his family but I don't allow him to do that to me, we do go on trips and such but I always say "once I save up I am taking you on a trip!! I will pay 100%" and I think he gets hurt hearing that but I too wanna spoil my man because he deserves it but idk how to navigate this!! Help???

I have had many cats over the years and all of them are strays whom we adopted and vaccinate but why do ALL of them, idk if it's just my cats but literally all of them try to escape our house...idk why.

we give them food, we have a massive garden, many trees to scratch and huge acre of land for them to play, it is their choice where to sleep, some sleep outside while other inside and some love the Air conditioner.

In the end they all leave for few days and come back horribly injured, I am talking ear cut, paw Bitten so badly their bone is visible, swollen cheeks, broken set of teeth...where do they go and how and why do they come injured? When cats disappear, not only my but other people also report missing cats and they too come home injured.

We play and love them so much yet they try to escape and come injured, we always have multiple trips to the vet and money isn't the issue but this behavior is something I can't understand...please help 🙏🏼

F24, How to solve this query? My challan page also isn't loading but I have all transaction proof. I have emailed to 2 places and even continously calling them but it is not working. I am willing to visit sppu as well, can anyone guide me as to where I have to go or what I have to do to solve this issue?

F24, for exam especially Schriben part like E-mail, SMS or letter can we write it in cursive writing? Because that is how I write, I have no practice or anything. If we do have to write it non cursive then should it be all capital letters or or just normal and only capital when it's noun like for example "Der Bahnhof ist hier links"