I just read a statistic that 1 in 3 women in the US had experienced abuse from a previous partner. As a woman, I thought abusive men were a tiny minority, like 5% of the male population. Surely there can’t be that many bad men out there.
For me, it’s a a huge turn off if a guy wears sneakers inside his house (not having inside shoes) and doesn’t clean his place at least once a week. It doesn’t take much to mop your floors, clean your desks/tables and organize things. Also, it’s a a huge turn off if he buys things and uses them without washing them first. Like if he orders a shirt and wears it without it hitting the laundry even though that shirt was probably produced in some dirty Chinese factory and touched a million nasty chemicals in the process. I don’t want that nastiness all over my sofa, bed, and chairs. Same thing goes for everything else that is factory produced. And if he doesn’t wash his hands when he comes home after touching public spaces all day. Do you know how many germs the door handle at Starbucks contain? Probably a million because there’s a person touching it every 5 minutes.
Am I expecting too much?
I understand that humans are social creatures, but I have no desire to go out there and make friends. I stay at home all the time and do my own thing.
I have no friends because I stay at home all the time unless I’m at work. Everything I like to do is at my home. I have no energy to go out and socialize which is sad because I’m only a 20 something year old woman, not a 60 year old one. I’m basically a lone wolf. I was a lone wolf back in high school but I had a friend.
I had been living in San Francisco for a few years and haven’t been able to make a single friend. The only ways to make friends in this city are through shared hobbies and social events. I avoid public outings because I’m super shy and socially awkward. All my hobbies are individual hobbies that I do alone. I read a ton of books (mostly horror), watch a ton of Netflix and build legos and airplane models. I stay at home 90% of the time outside of work. My issue is that I’m too shy to go out and converse with strangers but at the same time, I’m too scared to go on dating apps because I don’t want men to think I’m a friendless loser.
I (mid 20s woman from small TX town) haven’t been able to make a single friend here for the years I been in San Francisco because the only ways to make friends in this city are through shared hobbies or social events like concerts or meetup groups. I’m not interested in that stuff because I’m super shy, quiet and socially awkward. All my hobbies are one on one activities that I do alone. I spend most of my time at home, alone. I’m too shy to go out and mingle with groups of people. I am also too scared to go on dating apps because I don’t want guys to think I’m a friendless loser.
I (mid 20s woman from small TX town) haven’t been able to make a single friend here for the years I been in Boston because the only ways to make friends in this city are through shared hobbies or social events like concerts or meetup groups. I’m not interested in that stuff because I’m super shy, quiet and socially awkward. All my hobbies are one on one activities that I do alone. I spend most of my time at home, alone. I’m too shy to go out and mingle with groups of people but at the same time I’m too scared to go on dating apps because I’m afraid that the guys there would just view me as a friendless loser.
I (mid 20s woman, small town girl) haven’t been able to make a single friend here for the years I been here because the only ways to make friends in this city are through shared hobbies or social events like concerts or meetup groups. I’m not interested in that stuff because I’m super shy, quiet and socially awkward. All my hobbies are one on one activities that I do alone. I spend most of my time at home, alone. I’m too shy to go out and mingle with groups of people but at the same time I’m too scared to go on dating apps because I’m afraid that the guys there would just view me as a friendless loser.
I (mid 20s woman) haven’t been able to make a single friend here for the years I been here because the only ways to make friends in this city are through shared hobbies or social events like concerts or meetup groups. I’m not interested in that stuff because I’m super shy, quiet and socially awkward. All my hobbies are one on one activities that I do alone. I spend most of my time at home, alone. I’m too shy to go out and mingle with groups of people but at the same time I’m too scared to go on dating apps because I’m afraid that the guys there would just view me as a friendless loser and wouldn’t want to be with me. I’m not sure if I have social anxiety but a long time ago, a doc suggested that I might be on the lower end of the spectrum (Autism).
I had plenty of friends back in my small town back in Texas. I had been living in San Francisco for 4 years for work and haven’t been able to make a single friend here because the only ways to make friends in this city are through shared hobbies (yoga, pilates, biking, etc) or social events like concerts or meetup groups. I’m not interested in that stuff because I’m super shy, quiet and socially awkward. It’s so hard to make friends here unless you’re a social person (which I’m not).
I had plenty of friends back in my small town back in Texas. I had been living in San Francisco for 4 years for work and haven’t been able to make a single friend here because the only ways to make friends in this city are through shared hobbies (yoga, pilates, biking, etc) or social events like concerts or meetup groups. I’m not interested in that stuff because I’m super shy, quiet and socially awkward. It’s so hard to make friends here unless you’re a social person (which I’m not).
I had plenty of friends back in my small town back in Texas. I had been living in San Francisco for 4 years for work and haven’t been able to make a single friend here because the only way to make friends in this city is through shared hobbies (yoga, pilates, biking, etc) or social events like concerts or meetup groups. I’m not interested in either because I’m super shy, quiet and a bit awkward. It’s so hard to make friends here unless you’re a social, outgoing person. I’m too scared to go on dating apps because I don’t want the local guys to think I’m a red flag or a friendless loser.
I had plenty of friends back in my small town back in Texas. I had been living in San Francisco for 4 years and haven’t been able to make a single friend here because the only way to make friends in a big city is to have outdoor hobbies or attend social events. I’m not interested in either because I’m super shy and quiet. It’s so hard to make friends here unless you’re a social person. I’m too scared to go on dating apps because I don’t want the local guys to think I’m a red flag or a friendless loser.
I had been living in Boston for years and I have no friends. It’s just so hard to make friends here. People are so closed off compared to where I’m originally from (Texas). I miss those days when I got invited to my neighbors house for tea and have a 20 minute convo with a rando at a coffee shop.
People assumed that just because he liked to surround himself with little kids that he was pedo. Or maybe it was because he started working at age 10 and never got to be around kids and do kid things?
I (26F) came from a town down south with a population of 20k people. Making friends there was easy because people, especially your neighbors, were super open to connecting with you. Families would often invite newcomers into their house for tea. It was a regular thing to run into a familiar face and have a 20 minute conversation. Now I live in San Francisco, had been here for 4 years and haven’t made a single friend in these 4 years. People here tend to be reserved and closed off in general. I don’t even know my own neighbors. I tried making small talk tons of times which didn’t work. I’m not anti social. I had a social circle back home. I just find it hard to connect with big city people. People here don’t want to start conversations with random strangers like they do down south. I had been hearing about how guys consider to be a red flag when a woman has no friends. I don’t know if I should bother with dating apps if I’m just gonna be labeled as a friendless loser.
I came from a town down south with a population of 20k people. Making friends in my hometown was easy because people, especially your neighbors, were super open to connecting with you. Families would often invite newcomers into their house for tea. Now I live in San Francisco (moved here for work after college), had been here for 4 years and haven’t made a single friend in these 4 years. It seems like people are less friendly and less open in general. I don’t even know my own neighbors. I tried making small talk tons of times which didn’t work. I’m not anti social. I had a social circle back home with about 6 people, most who are strangers I randomly ran into. I just find it hard to connect with big city people. I used to think the issue was me but I think it’s more to do with the culture here. People here don’t want to strike up conversations with random strangers like people do down south.
I came from a town down south with a population of 20k people. Making friends there was easy because people, especially your neighbors, were super open to connecting with you. Families would often invite newcomers into their house for tea. Now I live in San Francisco (moved here for work after college), had been here for 4 years and haven’t made a single friend in these 4 years. It seems like people are less friendly and less open in general. I don’t even know my own neighbors. I tried making small talk tons of times which didn’t work. I’m not anti social. I had a social circle back home with about 6 people. I just find it hard to connect with big city people. People here don’t want to start conversations with random strangers like they do down south.