u/Suspicious_Week_2451

When a post is written by a woman who describes herself as having nothing to offer is overweight and unemployed but expecting a 6 pack 6 foot 6 tall rich husband I promise you this is written by a man.

There are a lot of men out there.

When posts say bizarre things they are people just wanting to get karma points and engagement.

When posts are truly just dumb. No other word but dumb describes them it is usually a man or a troll.

If you are going to engage with a post like that do 2 things.

1. Dont give serious advice. Troll them back. Men are super easily triggered and will expose themselves.

2. Down vote the post and every comment they make.

My midwife is nice enough but I don't know.

I am 22 weeks pregnant. I met her once at 10 weeks and haven't seen her since. When we booked the 10 weeks appointment, I texted the day before to confirm the time she was coming. No response. She came and visisted and then replied to my text asking who is this lol.

A few weeks later I asked for the maternity certificate so I could book a dentist appointment. She ignored my text. Followed up 2 weeks later. Said she wasnt sure about it and my badger app should be enough. No follow up.

And thats it.

My sil said if youre not a high risk pregnancy and you have no issues then they pretty much dont contact you since theres no need to.

What was your midwife like?

From men and women both. Is it more common for men to marry non sudanese and what ethnicity do they normally marry? And how often do sudanese women marry non sudanese men and what ethnicity do they tend to be?

And what are your thoughts about it?

I think this was the second foundation I ever bought since getting into makeup in my 30s. I didnt realise until trying other foundations how truly spectacular this foundation is.

It really feels like seamless skin. Has anything ever come close?

Email received today said:

From 7 October 2026, we'll be making these changes to your Avios Earn Rate:

we'll reduce the rate at which you earn Avios from 1.5 Avios to 1.25 Avios for every £1 spent on purchases. You'll still earn 1.5 Avios per £1 spent on purchases made before 7 October 2026, provided the transactions are charged to your account by 6 October 2026

we'll reduce the rate at which you earn Avios on purchases made directly with British Airways or British Airways Holidays from 3 Avios to 1.25 Avios for every £1 spent. You'll still earn 3 Avios per £1 spent on British Airways and British Airways Holidays purchases made before 7 October 2026, provided the transactions are charged to your account by 6 October 2026

From 1 April 2027, we’ll be introducing a new Card benefit where you will earn British Airways tier points on your purchases:

you'll earn 1 British Airways tier point for every £10 spent on purchases on your Card between 1 April and 31 March each year. This is The British Airways Club collection year you can earn up to a maximum of 3,000 tier points every British Airways Club collection year from purchases on your Card you'll be automatically enrolled into this benefit from 1 April 2027

earning tier points allows you to qualify for tiers within The British Airways Club. You can find more information about tier points on the British Airways Club website

until 1 February 2027, you can earn up to 2,500 tier points from our promotional offer (spend requirements apply and enrolment required by 25 January 2027)

I mean theyre tightening their strings every year. Annual fee increases. But only the premium card gives you access to business class reward flights plus you can still maximise avios via the app. The tier points I just find kinda pointless since BA revamped the whole system.

Because avios can get you such a good deal on flights I don't see the card getting to a point where its necessarily useless. But if the annual fee keeps increasing would people just switch to regular amex?

Everyday on here and the pregnancy reddit there is a poor mother drowning and suffering due to having a useless piece of shit husband.

I want to hear the positive stories. The wonderful husbands who made life so much easier.

If you dont want to jinx your husband feel free to comment and say "my friends husband..."

EDIT: 21 Comments in and Im tearing up Im ngl. Im 5 months pregnant and my husband is truly amazing in every sense of the word and I know he will be even more amazing when baby comes but man I love reading these stories and just knowing you wonderful mothers are being so looked after.

"And to my brothers. Mistakes will happen... so that's not the issue. Just apologize. Not 'I'm sorry you feel this way'... that's not an apology. Just. I see the damage I caused and I'm sorry.

May our transparency in this process provide some level of healing for your journey."

Its like in the Tyra Banks documentary. 2 hours of her being an evil witch and she was like. Call me out yes. And I hope that you also can be receptive to when people call you out too.

I get that he tried his best to apologise and it had to come sooner or later given how bad the comments were on his book promo. But the best comment I saw on his Instagram said this:

"y'all praising this man a little too much. he's too highly educated to have done it without knowing what he was doing in the first place. predator behavior."

And that sums up my thoughts. I get people deserving a chance to redeem themselves but his behaviour was so gross.

Especially if they add that they intentionally chose not to pay for the refundable option and they ask how cam they get a refund and I'm like.....🤦‍♀️

The idea of spending £1000 on a pram/car seat travel system just makes my chest tighten a tad too much.

Here's what I know. Newborns have to lie completely flat. You need a car seat that accommodates newborns. You need a pram for newborns. You have prams where you can interchange the car seat and the bassinet. If you get a pram only for newborns, it runs its course once they can sit up.

Prams are heavy. But the light ones are the travel ones. The big systems are physically BIG. I don't want a huge system. I don't want to spend big shmonies. We all survived with much cheaper prams. Some people love the prams that you can fold with one hand.

I look online and it's all confusing. I sort price low to high and I am still confused. SO my questions are:

1. How did you manage to make sense of everything?
2. Those of you who regretted the pram/car seat you purchased. Why?
3. What is a universally agreed upon gimmick?
4. What does everyone else seem to love that you think is a scam?
5. Does spending money actually make a difference here?
6. What feature of your system makes it the easiest?

I love convenience. I adore convenience. Convenience makes me happy. It fills me with joy.

Theres a type of motivational speaker that thinks they are so emotionally regulated and experienced in life that every conversation exists for them to give unsolicited advice. A lot of people go through a lite phase of this but life coaches take it to the next level and become truly insufferable by thinking through their patronising questions they are a better replacement for a good therapist. They don't just want teaching moments, they need those moments to make them feel like they are better than everyone else. And any kind of conflict has to resort to weaponised therapy speak.

In the group therapy session, Shawn supposedly thought him and Nikki were better because they'd struggled first but were now doing better compared to everyone else who did it the wrong way.

During the first video diary argument about nikki saying theyre not having sex until the end and he starts beefing her, at one point he says, "tell me what you think I would like to hear." No one talks like that in an argument. Its such a condescending way to communicate. Or by the pool when he says "a lot of people think theyve grown from something but cant actually identify how". An unsolicited teaching moment thats just rude.

In another world Shawn would have recognised that because of his failed relationships and childhood trauma, that he has work to do. I'm sorry but you cannot be nearing 50 and still acting like "I behave in this crappy way because of my inner child. I know. So cute right?"

He would have known to table intimacy from moment nikki said she didn't want to have sex and never brought it up and not said he needed a release because he was choosing not to masturbate.

In another universe Shawn wouldnt be in the self help space and thinking hes a source of wisdom because he has none. He would have just been a curious man wanting to vibe with Nikki and see how things go.

Instead we have an insecure, fame hungry, arrogant, wannabe motivational speaker who even when he admits hes wrong, uses it to be a motivational speaker like he did in the group therapy where he was too eager to say he just wanted to be right and didnt respect Nikki.

It's so telling that Nikki can post about Mafs and not worry about her comments and Shawn has made one post about his chatgpt book but posted nothing about mafs.

This is genuinely a gem of a Kdrama where each week it is getting better and better. It is so pleasantly clever and not predictable. Some very mild/minimal filler but youre honestly missing out by not watching it.

It is such a treat of a kdrama and I would daresay one of the best of 2026 so far.

Ive seen Roman Taxis advertise airport transfer. Anyone else know anyone?

There is no real reason why she is still there. Everyone knows she is not going to marry and live with Shawn. But her and Shawn make good tv and good discourse. And initially I was worried they were going to give Nikki a bad edit but the fact that they showed Shawn gaslighting Nikki about pressuring her for sex, it is clear that this man is not going to get the gleaming motivational speaker edit he thought that he was going to get.

Previous contestants have spoken out about either being incentivised to stay or threatened with a penalty. And everytime Nikki talks about sparks flying, I know shes chatting shit.

Shawn is a sex pest but he is good TV.

I'd been having some difficulty with sex because of a recurring uti. I didnt realise one of the lasting impacts was a tight pelvic floor. I saw a therapist who put her finger inside me and massaged me internally and taught me how to breathe to relax my pelvic floor and how to do the massages myself. Turns out my pelvic floor is very tight and my priority needed to be relaxing it.

So i found all the stretches to do. Happy baby, pigeon pose, and a bunch of other ones that stretch my hips thighs glutes and everything in that area.

And guess what? I poop better because the stretching has eased up the mechanisms for that. And orgasms feel so much more intense oh my god.

Changed my life.

EDIT: more info on the massages and stretches.

Internal massage: The therapist got a glove put some lube and inserted one finger. I was lying down. With that finger she asked me to clench and release a few times to check I was releasing properly. Then she used that finger to gently put pressure in different areas. Going round in a 360 degree circle. Then if you imagine a circle split into 4 90 degree areas, she started gently massaging in a U shape in each 90 degrees and we identified pretty easily the right side is way stiffer than the left. Then she took her finger out and repeated with 2 fingers.

Essentially she was trying to take a stiff muscle and soften it and just stretch it out a bit internally. Wasn't painful. Wasn't super comfortable. Focused on making sure I wasnt tensing anywhere else in my body. Not my jaw or my shoulders. You can do the internal massage yourself. I bought a pelvic floor massage wand tool that I can insert that is easier.

As for the stretches. Search hypertonic pelvic floor on tiktok and people do routines of around 5 to 6 stretches. And you just do them for a minute each.

If you live in the UK you can ask for a free referral for a pelvic floor therapist.

"And I can unequivocally say in all the conflicts Ive had with Nikki over the past two weeks. I was not saying things to bring closeness. I was trying to say things to prove something I was right about. I was definitely trying to win the fight and I certainly wanted her to feel like 'youre gonna respect me as a man. Whether I respect you or not doesnt matter'"

The way some of you want to say Nikki is combative or refusing to take ownership just shows how badly you want to humble her. It was clear from the first conflict they had how antagonistic Shawn was and continued to be. Even in group therapy he shares their progress as superior by saying everyone else started off light but now theyre having difficult convos but him and Nikki actually started out heavy and look how light they are with their 10/10 relationship.

Some of you want to believe that responding in any kind of way when someone is attacking you is combative and that will never be true. They are the same height and Shawn tells Nikki in the airport that hes calm and grounding and shes crazy and disorganised. Then when she questions it he says youre towering over me and being aggressive. And when Nikki rightfully says he was nasty with how he spoke to her you want to act like Nikki doesnt take accountability.

Nikki easily admits that her and Shawn have big egos. In the session with Paul she says she can see why they were matched because of their career success, how much they care for their communities and relationships. She says theres so many great things about Shawn but she doesnt feel respected or valued. And Shawn made it clear in the group therapy he didnt give a shit about respecting Nikki he needed to prove he was right.

Anyone who believes they are just as bad as each other or that Nikki is awful is just delusional and hateful and just mad shes not giving you the aggressive mad black woman edit that youre trying to project.

This is coming from a happily married woman. If I had not met my husband I know there is a high chance that I would still be single. Men and women deserve to be in a relationship with someone that makes life better. There are a tonne of partnered and married people who are miserable and resentful.

"I can see why this person is in their 40s and single."

I would rather be 40 and single than married and miserable. People who make being married an indicator of success or likeability are clowns. Dont be a clown.

There are just so many reasons why a person can be single, the main one being you just have not met the person for you.

Thats all it is. Its not a reflection of someone's personality because there are some godawful people who have been married multiple times.

The nastier side of this is shaming women for being single and telling them that if they settled and compromised they could have a husband. Marriage is not proof that someone is a likeable person and the sooner you guys realise this the less stupid you become.

Nikki being 46 and single is not a failing on her part and never will be.