Resolved:by walking outside and back inside to reconnect the wifi.

My wifi has internet. I'm literally writing this post on the same wifi right now on the computer.

My phone says that it is connected to the wifi, but that the wifi has no internet.

Minutes ago my phone wifi was working just fine until it just started doing this now. It shows the wifi + "!" symbol now.

Android 13.

What could be causing this? Why does my phone lie that the wifi has no internet? Why does that happen what triggers it anway and how do could I fix it?...'

I'm not tech illiterate at all but this is just mystery to me.

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I don't feel like trying to switch the wifi off and back on, vbecause very often I have the problem that it will then refuse to toggle back on. Literally the toggle itself. Then I swipe it back to on and 1 second later it toggles back to off so I want to avoid that problem.

Ive had a sleep study done with hospital equipment applied by the hospital. No sleep apnea, no sleep disorders, just "low quality of sleep" has been found.

I always need about 10 hours of sleep (I'm young adult and have chronic fatigue and chronic burnout)

Normally for me it goes like this:

• 10 hours optimal
• 9 hours is ok
• 8 hours I wake up very noticeably tired and I feel it the whole day
• 7 or less hours im just a wreck, doing nothing productive the whole day

So normally when I sleep between 9 and 10 hours I wake up completely fine for however longthat may last into the day, but now recently even sleeping 10 hours seems to be not enough anymore, it doesnt make me wakeup feeling restored at all, takes me like 10 minutes to do all the movements for getting out of bed...

What could be this be?

I'm an extreme perfectionist and optimizer. Starting from when I was a toddler and would already get very angry if I didnt manage to do something or make something work exactly as how I wanted it to.

I overthink and overoptimize everything that I encounter in my life. A comparison: a normal person rides their bicycle by just pushing the pedals forward hard. I ride my bicycle by applying physics:

• Air resistance squares with speed
• Kinetic energy squares with speed
• Rolling resistance is roughly linear with weight
• Gear ratios, friction losses as a percentage of the power applied
• Acceleration curves

And then with all those theoretical things, I do a second round of effort: reasoning with it to draw applicable conclusions.

• How fast should I cycle to find the balance between saving time and saving energy?
• How do I reduce rolling resistance even though I'm already at 99% of the maximum possible efficiency?
• Which route is the most efficient given variables abcde

And to be honest, all that thinking is so exhausting. I literally cannot stop it. And even on the bike in the moment itself I think about this stuff.

The bike is only one example among many.

Give me one random thing in life that is super simple and braindead and I will make deep science of it!!!

I know that to an extent it is good to properly understand things in life but I overdo it so much that I'm constantly running on exhaustion.

From the outside my life is very relaxed because now I don't have a job or study or big commitments or bills to pay or children.

But still ive been in chronic burnout for 4,5 years now because the underlying cause is internal. My brain and personality cause the burnout to now persist.

To keep it shorty: autism, adhd, ocdtraits, depression, addictions and ofcourse the burnout itself causing itself through as a vicious cycle too. And difficulty to go to bed on time.

So with such persistent multifactoral internal cause of my burnout how can I possibly recover and gain normal energy again and be functioning again and not overwhelmed functioning?

TalkTherapy does almost nothing for me. Meds do almost nothing for me.

I already work so hard on minimizing the amount or number of energy drainers in my life. I even sacrifice things that are important, to save energy. I've been procrastinating on important physiotherapy for about 9 months now its very Ridiculous.

BHow can I stop letting life overwhelm me and how do I generate more energy so that I can do more of the things that matter

From the outside my life is very relaxed because now I don't have a job or study or big commitments or bills to pay or children.

But still ive been in chronic burnout for 4,5 years now because the underlying cause is internal. My brain and personality cause the burnout to now persist.

To keep it shorty: autism, adhd, ocdtraits, depression, addictions and ofcourse the burnout itself causing itself through as a vicious cycle too. And difficulty to go to bed on time.

So with such persistent multifactoral internal cause of my burnout how can I possibly recover and gain normal energy again and be functioning again and not overwhelmed functioning?

TalkTherapy does almost nothing for me. Meds do almost nothing for me.

I already work so hard on minimizing the amount or number of energy drainers in my life. I even sacrifice things that are important, to save energy. I've been procrastinating on important physiotherapy for about 9 months now its very Ridiculous.

BHow can I stop letting life overwhelm me and how do I generate more energy so that I can do more of the things that matter

I've the thought experiment. Let's just make it abstract so that people won't attack a possibly bad example or think that this discussion is about a specific real world problem.

Rationality.

• Your only goal is: maximize A.
• The only way to obtain A is to convert B into A, which can only be done once.
• B doubles every day for free, no caveats, until you converted it to A.
• youre immortal and B never stops doubling unless you convert it to A.

On any given random day, you have 0A and some amount finite of amount of B. Your choice is always: do you convert now, or wait another day?

If converting is rational, then your final result is that you have a finite amount of A larger than nothing, but its only half of what you wouldve gotten if you waited one more day. Therefore it seems not rational. I mean, locally its rational but globally its not. In time terms.

If waiting another day is rational, then you will always repeat that choice, which means after infinite amount of time you still have 0 of A. Locally not rational, but globally maybe???

I feel like waiting is always rational. But if thats true and you act like a perfectly rational agent, then youll never reach the goal on any amount at all.

So could I logically conclude that acting rationally could theoretically make you less happy?

Does that mean that this universe sometimes just doesn't a logically agreeable best answer or best choice, or that making a good choice can make you less happy than the bad obviously bad choice?

Idk, this stuff is spinning in my head at night and it makes me feel depressed, almost as if something is wrong with reality. Am I crazy like that?

But how is this related to burnout and autsism? I Think my tendency to rationalize things and minmax things is autistic and I think it leads to burnout, too.

I'm not necessarily saying "perfectionism -> burnout" because nowhere did I say that perfectionism = rational.

But could it be that, rationally fulfilling your responsibilities for example, makes you unhappy?

When I'm a little child I'm just playing. Water guns, hide and seek, riding my bicycle in the street. Because thats about the only choice life gives me, because I don't have the ability to see big responsibilities as a child. As a child, global rationality hardly exists. And its fun.

As an adult I feel like I carry the weight of the world... or am Trying to atleast. There is infinitely responsibility I could take on. I could get a job, I could help the neighbour, I could go into politics and do protests, I could study then and invent a new medicine. I could do volunteerwork.

I could, I could, I could.

The choice becomes fundamentally simple. Am I gonna slouch and sit on the couch to watch tv and lay in bed to sleep 10 hours and just relax the whole day, or am I going to do all those coulds and shoulds?

Put it more simply: work, or free time?

If I feel exhausted, does that mean necessarily I should rest? What if right then, there is something more urgent than resting?

Let's suppose ive been awake of 30 hours in a row and I feel extremely sleepy, but theres smoke and the fire alarm goes off. Then, the rational thing to do is to take care of the problem, and not yet go to bed.

Or lets say I wanna rest but my neighbour has an emergent life and death situation and they need me to bring them to the hospital and hypothetically theres no other person nearby to do it and also hypothetically no ambulance can come. Then again its rational for me to push hard through my fatigue and exhaust myself even more, rather than resting.

I feel like thats a dark but true realization. I just see too many things that I could be doing and should be doing, therefore I rarely get rest, often lack sleep, and feel really exhausted all the time.

The thought makes me feel depressed and stressed out even more but is it a true one? Am I truly thinking rationally now or am I just seeing things now?

Hello I have chronic burnout I have been on disability income for about one or two years now. I'm 26 and I would really like to go back to studying something again, but my chronic burnout is 1 of the 2 major reasons that I'm now stuck at home.(^(the other is being indecisive with perfectionism btw))

As a child I've always already been a little bit of a perfectionist. Ive always wanted things to go my way and not any other way. If I was building something with blocks as a little kid and it didnt work out to be exactly what I wanted to construct, I would get very angry. About to throw a tantrum. So was already a perfectionist toddler I guess? So that proves one relevant thing - this seems a fundamental part of who I am. I want to do things right.

For things I don't care about, I have zero perfectionism and for things that I do care about I have 100% or 99% perfectionism.

Given any activity, be it cycling a bicycle, charging a battery, heating up food to just the right amount..... a normal person just does it inefficiently and is then happy with the result. I do things physically more efficiently but at the cost of my mental energy. My head is a 24/7 thinking machine.

And not only that, I always re-think plans, decisions, strategies etc..... So I could have spent many hours making a very detailed plan for how I'm gonna do something... but the moment I discover a new little thing, I'm throwing the whole plan away and making a new one. Even if I'm in the middle of executing a plan, I can still stop what I'm doing and just make a new plan on the spot. I don't like following any sorts of rules or unless they make sense in the moment.

This isnt something rare but will mention it anyway, I break lots of laws on a daily basis and don't care much about it. I'm not a rules person. I believe that rational behavior is:

• Not "the previously determined conclusion says I should now do this"
• But: "right now, that the situation is this, with variables A,B,C...(big long logical reasoning follows)...therefore the right action in this moment is to do x."

Thats rational behavior and I like rational behavior. But theres a problem with rational behavior: it didnt take mental resources cost into account.

If I spent 3 hours coding a simple game from scratch and people really like playing it, but then spend 100 more hours making it 5% more shiny...

• Thats rational without taking mental cost into account
• But when you look at the "I feel so cooked now" that I get after so much hard work, hard obsessive work, then no its not very rational.

But my compulsive brain doesnt care about how much mental resources something costs. If a system is not fully optimized, it must be optimized, period.

And its not only practical optimizations. I also just overthink alot about the science behimnd everything that I interact with in my life. I use a computer? Great now I want to know how logic gates and operating systems fundamentally work. I ride my bicycle? I want to know which factors contribute to how much energy is required, how much do the brakes wear, how do I use the battery in the most efficient way possible, how exactly do I time a rollout to the stoplights... meanwhile: my friend just pedals and doesnt even use the gears on his bike. He only thinks about going forward and yielding to traffic when needed. Why can't my mind work like this?

And why can't my mind just store data in raw form rather than compressing everything into patterns? Even in school with math class, I would be like:

1. School teaches me many equations.
2. I forget all the equations I just dont memorize them.
3. When the equation is needed, its not in my memory, so I start deeply thinking about the question and then I just mathematically reason my way into constructing a valid equation myself. Works, but is pretty tiring tbh.

I feel like my brain has a superpower. However, that superpower is of not much use, because it requires tons of energy that just isnt there. Its like trying to drive a big loaded truck that only has the fuel tank of a little moped. The engine works very great, but the power or energy supply is heavily underpowered and therefore always 100% stressed by the engine.

TLDR: I can't make my mind fucking shut up. I'm 24/7 overthinking every single thing and phenomenon that I interact with in life. At this point, help? How do I get out of this loop that keeps me so exhausted that I mentally can't be bothered to brush my teeth?

Hello! I'm 26 years old and I got

1. Diagnosed AFib
2. Suspected AFL (HR 300 beats per min at night sometimes but never at day)

Afaik, I havent recently gotten any AFib symptmos.

But maybe at night I experience one or both of the rhytmdisorders frequently maybe more frequently than I think? I wonder if it always wakes me up, or that there are many times I don't notice it maybe.

Anyway if thats the case, could nightly rhytm disorders affect my energy during the day? Could it also increase my sleep requirement by +2 hours from normal since I sleep 10 hours and the average adult 8?

I'm 26 years old. Ive spent a total of about 10 hours driving a manual car, no prior automatic experience.

With those 10 hours my current level is, and heres what Ive been doing already:

1. I seem to know the rules and priority systems well, so far had no problems with this. My knowledge and cycling experience are solid
2. Individual actions are no problem! Like parking, turning, reversing, shifting, clutching. I feel like I'm naturally good with this.
3. But I really heavily struggle with multitasking and speed. The combination of having to do many things, look at many things, and going at a very fast speed, makes it really hard for me. The instructor says this is normal but I feel like this is really my big weakness! I imagine driving automatic would be so much easier because that removes things to pay attention to, one ball less to juggle. I think juggling 4 balls is much easier than 5. Nonlinearly.
4. Also, the way roads are designed: wide, lanes, double left turn lanes and so on... SUPER CONFUSING! On my bicycle, I'm very much used to the very simple nature of bike paths. Or else just riding on the right side of the road at all trimes.
5. Making autonomous, independent decisions: no problem unless I'm mentally overloaded by teh multitasking.
6. And even though I perfectly know and understand why looking far ahead is important in a fast motorvehicle, I somehow don't manage to do it as a habit.
7. I'm very good at catching and understanding my own mistakes. If I passed something too fast and with too much speed, I realize afterward: "I should have gone slower there" or if I stall the car "I should have kept the clutch a bit lower for longer". But mistakes, mostly speed control and timing of things, I often struggle to first prevent them from happening even if I perfectly understand them potentially happening.

Ive been doing motorway driving already, city driving, rural driving, all sorts of traffic situations I guess? I'm not sure whats still missing or what would be still be new.

Am I a fast/normal/slow learner and am I maybe just bad at learning manual due to the multitasky nature of it?

I'm 26 years old. Gonna keep this short and simple: Ever since Ive gotten an AF attack followed by a cardioversion at the hospital, Ive been having symptoms both at day and at night. Actually, even before the AF Ive been having heart symptoms. The symptsoms are:

• Sometimes I wake up at night with the heart pounding either quickly or slowly but forcefully.
• Sometimes at day I feel a very, very, very, tight pressure on my chest.
• Sometimes at day I very randomly get shortbreathed like I almostcant have a normal conversation even tho im just standing not moving or maybe sitting in a chair maybe.

The hospital has given me an app on my phone. The cardiology nurse or whatever thats called has told me the app is 99% accurate so 99% of the time the app is right.

What they didnt tell me is if the app also checks for other things than just AF.

But the weird thing is: whenever I have those symptoms even strongly and use the app, every time it just says my heart rate is "regular" and doesnt say anything about something being off.

So what am I supposed to do? Why do I always have random sometimes strong symptoms paired with a 99% accurate app detecting nothing weird?

I don't necessarily care if someone disobeys rules. But if doing so causes harm or risk, then thats not okay imo. Although I don't think thatits fair to expect people to be perfect. But the counter-ccounter argument again is that people have a responsibility.

So just thinking out loud.

Very often when a car driver makes it necessary for me to brake when I have the right of way, I get so pissed that I middlefinger them instantly. As a reflex. I don't want to do it, it just happens before I even notice. Today it happened again ofcourse.

But is it fair to heavily critizize a driver for a minor mistake that causes slight harm to others? I have to brake which gives me 3 costs: time and energy and brake pad wear.

Counter argument: the driver didnt do it on purpose or didnt properly see me or that I was going to cross the road. Both speeds were low so a serious accident was not gonna happen. And I also make traffic mistakes that negatively affect other road users sometimes. Mostly by accident, rarely because I'm in a rush.

Counter counter argument: the driver has a responsibility to 100% ensure that he won't run over a cyclist over.

Heres what happened: we were both standing still. I have the right of way. We bvoth waited for a 3rd party car who had the right of way compared to both of us. Moment he passed I started to accelerate and then I nearly hit the car that was supposed to wait before me. I middle fingered into his rearview mirror.

Was I overreacting and AITA?

And is it even possible to unlearn an automatic reflex? How? And where does it even come from?

I have this personally hypothesis: experiencing life through logic and analytical thought = less experiencing emotions, an inverse relationship.

When I was 12 and played videogames, I didnt approach it mathematically. I just explored and tried things out. Then even though I was very much a noob, I really enjoyed it!

Now, I'm 26 years old and became a proper nerd. When I launch a videogame I analyze things. A characters damage, items, spells and then I use logical reasoning and math to determine the best next move or the best strategy. Then I progress superfast, oneshot the other player that is enemy in the game, etc.. Beat the game several ways. But somehow I don't really enjoy it. It feels numb and meh.

So therefore my personal hypothesis that more thinking = less feeling. That thinking n feeling have an inverse relationship.

Ofcourse it could just be a coincidence and that maybe my anhedonia comes from something else only. But it could possibly just as well be from overthinking the technical details and numbers in everything so heavily much and so much.

Anyone that is 24/7 problemsolving, analyzing, calculating, overthinking the deep technical details of stuff and so on, but still experiences a lot of emotional happiness?

Ive been rethinking about it today and found something pretty interesting.there.

Suppose the willpower is a physical muscle and it could lift 10kg for 10 reps in a row. Then to train it to 11kg, youll need to first go to the gym and do for example: 3 x 10 reps of 9 or 10 kg in a row.

But what if the gym only has a 5kg and 20kg weight?

• If you pickup the 5kg weight, it doesn't train your muscle because it can already do 10.
• If you try to pickup the 20kg weight, it doesnt work you cannot perform the training and youll then stop trying and do nothing.

Another example

Suppose you play a new videogame. You immediately put on hard mode and there are many many many things happening at once, at a fast pace you have no clue whats going on. Youll not be able to learn anything in this environment, atleast not very efficiently.

And if you keep playing tutorialmode then you won't get much better too.

so the problem I think is:

I think if someone fails to build willpower or discipline or whatever you want to call it, it might be not a lack of trying, but a lack of the right difficulty. If life is put on hardmode or easymode then you won't efficiently improve.

For myself, I think the problem is: maybe both. Maybe I'm just not good at growth. But maybe my environment is also not good and suitable for it!

Having much stress in my life feels like that 20kg weight. I can't carry it, therefore I resort to gaming and doing nothing productive.

Dkes that seem feasible? That maybe I lack that power to sprint through the challenges of life, because life is too much harder than what I've adjusted to?

Does that look like a proper insight?

Now how could I change my life in a way that rebuilds and recovers or restores my willpower and discipline again?

We both live together and the household currently has no driver.

Mom has the driving anxiety and also seems uninterested in driving (possibly trauma from being forced to learn to drive in the past). But depends on other people for transportation sometimes and I think it would be good for mom to become more independent again.

Title. I don't want to pressure or make it annoying, but I wonder if theres a good pressurefree way of convincing.

When I have to wake up at a specific time the next morning, I know when my bedtime is. For example "11:00 tomorrow so I should go to bed at 1am to get the full 10 hours my body needs"

Its weird because even if I have double motivation: fatigue + not wanting tomorrow fatigue, it still doesnt convince me to go to bed on time.

Instead, I chat and game and reddit and google and youtube.

Something is causing me to make the wrong decision knowingly.

Or is it? Is it the wrong decision? Either its the wrong decision and something is wrong with my behavior system, or its actually the right decision and any thoughts about how to stop doing it are wrong in themselves.

When I search for a specific video that I remember using most of the titles keywords, its often a very big struggle to find it.

Worse: if I use the extra search options, youtube starts tripping and giving me incorrect search results that don't match the filters at all.

Worse than that: sometimes it just fills the videos scroll with completely unrelated to the title content.

Or I just infinitely scroll past the same videos repeating.

Fuck youtubes search algorithm. I don't want to see videos that I might find interesting. I want to see the video that I'm searching for.

How do I bypass this stupidity?

I don't like the taste of water, syrup, pop or soda, juice, milk or anything of proper liquid that I can think of.

And I also don't feel thirsty often.

Any time I discover a new drink that I enjoy, its just novel tbh and it lasts a few days or weeks but then I'm bored of it too and it starts tasing badly.

Tasting.

Result: I don't drink much. Even if I'm thirsty I sometimes don't drink because theres no drink that I really enjoy and my body seems to reject and resist anything I try to drink.

How do I solve this problem?

I'm 26 years old.

• Two years ago, Ive often had my heart beating like crazy at night but the doctors always found nothing interesting with the ecgs.
• One year and a few days ago, I got the AF. HR varied between I think 55, and 122 at home. Got up to 166 in the hospital with minimum 100.
• Ever since then it didnt come back... atleast that I know of!

However sometimes at night I still wake up to my heart pounding. Either or its:

• Beating very fast
• Beating slowly but very strongly, my body will shake with it.

And yesterdaynight that happened again. shortly after falling asleep I woke back up to feel my heart beating very fast. I then quickly decided to measure it with the quickest easiest possible method: Placed my hand on my chest and counted the beats per second. That was 5 and 5x60 is 300. How accurate am I with this? About 90%, I'm very good at accurate counting of seconds or events per second in my head. So it must've been anywhere between 270 and 330 BPM. Even the low end is very high.

Weird thing: I waited it out a few minutes, it stayed steadily at the 300BPM, but when I stood up from the bed my HR immediately became normal!!

Since the doctors office and hospital were closed during that time, I asked my friend chatGPT. It said what I felt might not have been heart beats. But I doubt that. It was very regular though. It did feel like heartbeats. Not like a spasming muscle. And it went on for minutes.

Guys I still can't reach the hospital right now.

What could this be and why does it always only happen at night never during day?

I(26) miss dad extremely much. My always loving dad got sick unexpectedly 3 years ago and had a very rapid deathbed.

Then he didnt see me grow up to be a proper adult. I didnt make any grand gestures of love to him unless saying the phrase counts.

I feel guilty that I wasnt a good child and that I was so difficult to raise and handle. That I took both my parents for granted.

Relied on them and benefitted from them but didnt do much in return, only little things sometimes.

As a child and teenager I didnt realize how much I love dad but now I do.

For 3 years now, I rarely think about dad but when I do, I feel overwhelmed by the pain of the loss and its too painful, too intense, maybe thats why I rarely have the emotion.

I live in the Netherlands. Done a very quick calculation guess: if the average amount of required lesson hours is 43 before being able to pass the xam properly and my driving instructor gives me only 1 hour per week, then the expected time to obtain my license is atleast 43 weeks which is 10 months.

Thats ridiculous I want my license much faster than taking 10 months for it unnecessarily. But the instructor has no more available time for increasing the lessons.

He is a good driving instructor and I've also bought a package of lessons + the exam so ofcourse I'm going to continue with this instructor. As a "primary" instructor maybe.

But I want to get an extra instructor. That will be from another different driving school then.

Then, I would be having 2 instructors at once. Would that be efficient or could that be efficient? And how would I make that work the most efficiently? Would I just be alternating my lessons between both of the 2 driving schools?

But instructor 1 doesnt properly know what ive been learning and practising with instructor 2 and vice versa... maybe they also teach different styles which may confuse me.

TLDR:

• I don't want to leave my current instructor.
• I don't want to stick with a total of 1 hour per week.
• Therefore I want to get an extra instructor and then have both instructors involved in my driving lesson journey.

Guys, what is advisable and how should I go about it? And if I do get a second instructor, should I tell my first instructor? I feel like that would be an awkward talk. "Btw I got a 2nd instructor from another school because you dont give me enough lessons per week"

Any general advice too? What should And shouldn't I do here?