u/gigithrowaway21

I had this week off and it was the best 6 days of my life. No screaming kids and no boss constantly making doubt myself and my abilities as an employee. I’m supposed to go back to work on Sunday and I’ve had such serious anxiety about it for the past 3 days. I can’t rest I can’t enjoy myself I can’t do anything but think about how quickly time is passing. I want to quit so BADLY but god I need this money, and I don’t know where else to work. I don’t know other jobs are really hiring or who would want me. I’m just so tired. I can’t do this anymore. I’m so deeply unhappy with my job. I’m unhappy with my boss, one minute she’s hot the next she’s cold. It’s horrible.

She essentially called me under qualified the other week and a couple months before that. I remember crying in the bathroom the first time she said it. That other people with degrees don’t get paid as much I do, and that pretty much I’m not only under qualified but it’s like my hourly pay is a privilege she’s bestowed upon me. I never once asked for a raise, I genuinely thought I was doing such a good job that she kept giving them to me but it was just keep me around so that I didn’t quit. I felt so humiliated and insulted and hurt. I spend every day second guessing myself, going mad trying to be a good employee but I can’t do it anymore. She hurts my confidence so much, the job itself is suffocating and exhausting. I’m genuinely so depressed over thought of going back, I don’t know what to do.

I’m genuinely so lost on what I’m supposed to do. I feel like as a black girl my feelings are never taken and no one cares if I was hurt or not.

Last winter a girl in my friend group made a racist “joke” towards me in front of everyone and all the girls that I thought were my friends not only didn’t stand up for me but are also still hanging out with this girl all the time. Like genuinely I just ugh I hate it. I even talked to one of the girls after about how much this hurt me and how much I cried over it and she still hangs out with that girl and invites her over to her house. I see it on her instagram story all the time, it’s like they’re better friends with each other than with me.

Like are you telling me that I have to lose my entire friend group over something she said to me? Because none of them want to tell her that it wasn’t cool? Do I have to look the bitch who can’t let it go? I genuinely don’t understand why I’m not ever anyone priority.

I hate being the only black girl in the group. I always feel alienated and alone and I’m tired of it. I cried so hard that night when she said those words to me, it was so cruel and uncalled for. And now I have to lose this entire group and be all on my own. It’s not fair.

Hi, I’m hoping for maybe a pick me up of some sorts or just some support or encouragement. Life has really been kicking my butt. I know I can’t go into detail but I spend a lot of time considering to just maybe end it all.
I got my mom’s car towed, they’re charging me $250 to pick it up plus $3 every hour it’s there, and $80 every day after the first 24 hours. I don’t have the money, neither does my mom. It’s all my fault, and don’t have anyone to ask. I’m bad terms with my dad but I’m sure even if I wasn’t he wouldn’t have anything to give me either.

I’ve tried applying for another credit card but the banks won’t process my applications. I’m stuck until I get payed in 15 days. But by then it would cost over $1k to get the car back.

Idk. I’m trying not to panic. Yesterday was just awful and I stared at our city train tracks for a long time. I’m just so tired of feeling like I’m not doing anything right, that I’m not cut out for adulthood.

I don’t know why I was born. I don’t know what my purpose is. Every day I get farther and farther from the life I once dreamed of. I don’t know. I’m scared and my mind isn’t even a safe space for me anymore. I don’t know where to go, I don’t know where to hide.

I just really need some kind of advice. Something to help me. I wouldn’t wish this kind of hopelessness and sadness on anyone. It all just hurts.

I have the week off and thought maybe I could go the beach with my little siblings but I just tried on some swimsuits and I feel so fat and embarrassed and just ashamed of myself. I’m self tanning right now and so I’m in a bra and panties and even that is making so disgusting. And I know being skinny is back in fashion again and I just can’t stand to look at myself right now. The thought of other people seeing me that way too hurts. But I don’t want to miss out on probably having a good time or relaxing on my week long break.

Idk I’m just so sad.

Late night snackies and a slightly tired mind plus a TikTok of a really cute actor have brought up a curiosity in me tonight that I really would love an answer to if possible!

How does the human brain decide on what it’s attracted to and when does that begin in development? Also how does this tie into physical type and sexual preference? Like why are some people attracted to male body and others are attracted to female body, while the rest are attracted to both or even neither??? Is it completely random? Do your parents play a big role in it or is it mainly environmental factors that influence your attraction to certain sexes?

And how does this tie into more trivial physical traits like skin colour, hair colour or type, weight etc.

Okay SO. I’m in a pickle. I’m trying to write a book about two characters that are lawyers, but I know absolutely nothing about law and honestly have always found it kind of boring.

My main protagonist is supposed to be stuck on a case that’s taken him months to close. It’s not necessarily supposed to be hard as much as it’s supposed to be complicated to get to an end point? Idk if there’s a specific name for that sorry.

Then the second protagonist is introduced and they happen to be a “genius” of some kind where they were given the chance to scan through go the files for a few hours and they came to a conclusion on how to settle the case without their client completely losing out on money or something. (Once again I know NOTHING about law, this is all so complex and hard for me to understand I swear I’m trying, I’ve spent so much time googling things😭)

What’s something someone like that might notice that an associate of a higher position might have missed on their own? Kind of like when little kids get to an answer faster before adults do because their minds can see the bigger picture more simply than adults do?

Also, I have no idea what kind of lawyers they’re supposed to be. They make lots of money and work with high profile clients. What kind of lawyer normally does that?😅

Just curious…I was googling 50 Shades because I remembered how funny it was that the author actually started the book out as a Twilight fanfiction but it turns out not a lot of people find that as amusing as I do😬

Is it illegal to do that or something??😭 I didn’t know that was a bad thing to do in the writing community.

I can find any listing of actual one bedroom apartments without it being labeled as a one bedroom but then actually being two bedrooms with a roommate that already rents one of the rooms. It’s ridiculous.

My hope was to find a one bedroom or a studio for less than $2000 a month but I can’t for life of me find one that isn’t already occupied by someone else living there and looking for a roommate. Why isn’t there an option to filter that out of your listings????

Our family lost the charger to one of our Dell Inspiron laptops (the one that flips in half to become touch screen) and we were kind of too lazy to buy a new one until I took it upon myself two days ago to order one. Being today it had probably been dead for over a year.

The computer immediately turned on to the logo, told me that the charger I have isn’t a high quality enough one I think? That the computer could work but not perform at its best. I accidentally clicked an option that showed me its stats or something, and then I pressed exit and now it’s only showing the DELL logo.

Is it normal for it take a long while to boot up? How long should I wait before I turn it off and on again? I don’t know exactly what laptop version it is but I was hoping to use it to write in my spare time.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

I can’t bring myself to start my own life because I’m scared of being a failure. And there’s this nonstop sound in my head telling me “what’s the point”. Like what’s the point of trying hard to get a job and have my own apartment. Chances are I won’t be able to afford one anyway. I’ll probably hate any job I get. I don’t know what career I want. I can’t save up money. I’m just so lost. I’m so tired and lost and I just know what to do. No matter what, whenever I try to change or something like workout and lose weight, or look for colleges to apply to, or seek out apartments to move into, I get overwhelmed and ultimately think what’s the point. I’m going to die anyways. Or what if life gets so hard that I become actively suicidal again? No one will help me. I’m always going to ultimately be on my own.

It’s so hard for me to be happy. It’s like I don’t know how to. I can’t think of a single career of lifestyle I can work towards that will bring happiness. My entire 20s will be spent working and for what? What am I doing any of this for.

Anyway. I want to make moving out my priority this year which means I have to sacrifice getting a car for another few years. Maybe I just have tog eat over not having my dream car for a decade or more. Idk. I have no idea how to make money but I need more of it.

Im just scared and embarrassed because I don’t know what the hell im doing. I have to pay off a credit card by next month but I don’t know what my credit score is and I’m scared to check. I don’t know what to look out for when apartment shopping. I want to quit my current job but don’t know what else I work in. Not that anyone is hiring really anyway, all of my applications are going towards training robots I’m sure.

I’m just..tired. Idk.

I seriously need some advice please.

The thought of spending years of my life studying for a career that makes me bored to death just to hopefully come o it with a degree and possibly get a job that pays enough to pay my bills if I work nonstop every day. Like literally what is the pointttt

I’m trying so hard to decide on something to go to college for and I just can’t bring myself to care about any field at all. I’m so disinterested in absolutely everything.

I’ve considered becoming a sugar baby but I really don’t want to my first time sleeping with a to be loveless. Plus I’m just not interested in sleeping with guys for money really.

I genuinely don’t know what to do. I’m trying to save up to move out and get a car but I realize I can’t do both at the same time because I don’t make enough. I want to quit the job I have because it makes me depressed and is way too far from home but I can’t get another job and don’t even know what to apply to anymore. I genuinely don’t want to do ANYTHING.

I’m terrified of being broke, I love shopping and love money but I hate working like I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I’m just so damn confused. I need to make $5000 a month to be comfortable at the moment and I don’t. Idk how to start with making more, I feel like I don’t even know what careers are out there. I’m just so exhausted.

Hi I need help or maybe some kind of comfort that I’ll be okay. I missed yesterday’s dose of my co-venlafaxine meds (37.5mg) and I’m on my way to work already but forgot to take them again. I normally take them in the morning but forgot to yesterday and since I have work until the evening, I I wouldn’t really be able to take it again until tomorrow morning. Is this bad? Should I bring this up to my doctor the next time I see them?

Seriously why do we pretend like ghosting isn’t as painful as it is for so many people. You have no idea how many times someone has probably been ghosted or ignored in their lifetime. How unwanted and disgusting it made them feel.

When you bring up being ghosting everyone just wants you to get over it and move on like it’s the e easiest thing in the world to do. Sometimes people get emotionally invested into others, I don’t see why that makes them emotional and embarrassing and stupid. The other person didn’t even have the decency to tell them they weren’t interested, they just vanished. Psychologically it breaks you down thinking about all the whys and hows. We could argue all day that none is entitled to anything from anyone else but that feels like such cheap cop out of this. Sometimes it’s just rude. And it’s a mean thing to do to someone and you aren’t crazy or obsessed for being hurt by another person’s actions.

Last year I was ghosted by a guy who was 25, last weekend I was ghosted by a guy that was 50. You can be ghosted by anyone at anytime and you know what I’m tired of pretending like I’m supposed to be stone hearted and cold. I can’t girlboss my way out of my feelings. Sometimes you’re just hurt by the things people say and do to you and that’s not your fault. I hate how apathetic everyone has become. It’s horrible.

TLDR: ghosting hurts and we should stop pretending like it doesn’t. It’s a crappy thing to do to someone.

I don’t like myself anymore. I can’t find any kind of happiness in anything. I’m trying to be positive and productive. I’m trying to save money and move out and make “grown up” decisions. I’m trying to be happy. I’m trying so hard. But there’s this underlying sadness I can’t escape from.

I don’t want to hurt myself. But I’m worried sometimes that no matter what I do it’ll all end up the same anyways.

Why doesn’t the average person understand this level of sadness. I’m not doing it to myself. I want to get better, I’m trying so hard. But it’s like no one will believe me. Why won’t anyone believe me.

Ok SO y’all won’t believe this but I just found a way to (mostly) get soft wax out of my bed sheets.

I had accidentally gotten some soft wax on a piece of clothing and it transferred to the bedsheet when I laid down on it. I REALLY didn’t want to buy new sheets or do laundry again (I washed them just last week) and so in a panic I took what I knew worked with my skin and tried to apply it to the bedsheets. It was a small stain and the sheets are regular linen, I’m not sure exactly what cloth but it’s not like satin or anything if that matters.

What you’ll need is need is:

- A hair dryer
- a mist spray bottle
- baby oil
- a hard bristle brush or toothbrush
- paper towel
-laundry detergent (I used the clear purex)

FIRST you want to plug in the hair dryer and heat up the wax as much as possible, you don’t have to take the sheets off this (I didn’t lol) but if you want to you can.

Once the wax has heated up a bit you’re going to take the tooth brush and scrub as much excess as you can off.

Then you’re going pour some baby oil on to the wax and scrub the spot again with the toothbrush. YOU HAVE TO BE FAST WITH THE OIL AND DETERGENT. Or else you’re going to get a big oil stain on your sheets. Give it like 10 seconds worth of a scrub before add the detergent and scrubbing again. Rubbing and scrubbing the detergent as much as possible.

Once you’ve rubbed in the detergent you’re going spray the water all on the spot to rinse. AGAIN THIS IS ALL HAPPENING VERY FAST TO PREVENT STAINS.

Quickly take paper towel to soak up the water. Be generous with the water, don’t worry about it the sheets getting wet. The point of the water is the rinse off the detergent that is removing to oil that is removing the wax (crazy I know 😭).

Once you’ve soaked up all the detergent water, use the hair dryer AGAIN and dry the spot as much as possible, the water stain will be bigger than the wax stain, that’s okay, you want to see the contrast from regular clean sheet to wax stained sheet.

Now you won’t get it all in one go. It will take up to 5 or so repeats of these steps. But you should be able to get most of it if not all of it out. You’ll know that it’s all out when the spot isn’t sticky anymore and the sheet is back to its original colour.

I have no idea if this method works with anything other than average bed sheets lol but it’s worth a try for other materials. I just couldn’t believe it worked and had to share my knowledge somewhere. GOOD LUCK😭! 💗