u/miille-fleurs

i know weird people exist everywhere; but my experience living here has just gotten worse. i’m in my early 20s, and there just doesn’t seem to be a profound sense of community or social safety.

i’m trying to be more open to different experiences, event groups with people closer to my age. there is just a lot of opportunism, and many uncomfortable experiences, even in potential friendships.

i don’t want to include uncomfortable staring from people outside of my age group, but it does wear on me, especially with the current social messaging that can encourage these pursuits for gain.

i had a better time when i was attending college locally, but it was still difficult to sift through. curious to know if anyone’s had better experiences living elsewhere, or if you’re similar in age and having a better time here.

i know weird people exist everywhere; but my experience living here has just gotten worse. i’m in my early 20s, and there just doesn’t seem to be a profound sense of community or social safety.

i’m trying to be more open to different experiences, event groups with people closer to my age. there is just a lot of opportunism, and many uncomfortable experiences, even in potential friendships.

i don’t want to include uncomfortable staring from people outside of my age group, but it does wear on me, especially with the current social messaging that can encourage these pursuits for gain.

i had a better time when i was attending college locally, but it was still difficult to sift through. curious to know if anyone’s had better experiences living elsewhere, or if you’re similar in age and having a better time here.

i know weird people exist everywhere; but my experience living here has just gotten worse. i’m in my early 20s, and there just doesn’t seem to be a profound sense of community or social safety.

i’m trying to be more open to different experiences, event groups with people closer to my age. there is just a lot of opportunism, and many uncomfortable experiences, even in potential friendships.

i don’t want to include uncomfortable staring from people outside of my age group, but it does wear on me, especially with the current social messaging that can encourage these pursuits for gain.

i had a better time when i was attending college locally, but it was still difficult to sift through. curious to know if anyone’s had better experiences living elsewhere, or if you’re similar in age and having a better time here.

i know weird people exist everywhere; but my experience living here has just gotten worse. i’m in my early 20s, and there just doesn’t seem to be a profound sense of community or social safety.

i’m trying to be more open to different experiences, event groups with people closer to my age. there is just a lot of opportunism, and many uncomfortable experiences, even in potential friendships.

i don’t want to include uncomfortable staring from people outside of my age group, but it does wear on me, especially with the current social messaging that can encourage these pursuits for gain.

i had a better time when i was attending college locally, but it was still difficult to sift through. curious to know if anyone’s had better experiences living elsewhere, or if you’re similar in age and having a better time here.

i know weird people exist everywhere; but my experience living here has just gotten worse. i’m in my early 20s, and there just doesn’t seem to be a profound sense of community or social safety.

i’m trying to be more open to different experiences, event groups with people closer to my age. there is just a lot of opportunism, and many uncomfortable experiences, even in potential friendships.

i don’t want to include uncomfortable staring from people outside of my age group, but it does wear on me, especially with the current social messaging that can encourage these pursuits for gain.

i had a better time when i was attending college locally, but it was still difficult to sift through. curious to know if anyone’s had better experiences living elsewhere, or if you’re similar in age and having a better time here.

Title mostly, am tired.

Personally, I was really quiet growing up. I was placed into all the gifted classes, scored well on tests.

I let depression kick my ass until now. It sucks adjusting to this new identity of legitimately being dumb, not being relevant or hype enough for others.

I knew wasn’t a super genius growing up. I absorbed information well, but I wasn’t like other kids, who had serious repositories of knowledge outside of school (politics, music, general culture).

It hurts my self-esteem a lot. I genuinely want to be on that level, though I’ve never felt I could catch up. Not without serious stimulants or something. With friendships, dating, it’s super demoralizing.

I just resort to being as genuinely nice and helpful as possible. I often don’t know many references, don’t know what to recommend. I like being there and listening intently; I just wonder if I’ll ever be on the other side.

I don’t know how exactly to explain this, and my perception may be warped by my own internal struggles.

I’m in my mid-20s, and the other day, my boyfriend and I were working out together. He’s very fit; I’m not quite there, but I’m decently built and feel as though I’ve grown into my looks.

We kept getting stared down, by older women in particular. I get stared down when I’m alone, by older people of both genders.

I’ve been struggling with loss of certain opportunities, friendships. I feel as though, now more than ever, that people are more afraid and insecure. Maybe it’s due to global circumstances; fear of losing positions and resources.

I live at home with my aging parents. It’s hard being around my mother especially, who has been disconnected from the greater world. I feel a deep sense of sadness; juxtaposed by superficial qualities I may still have.

I can’t stop absorbing these feelings so strongly. I think it’s important to have empathy. But the rate of these situations feels inescapable.

I don’t know how exactly to explain this, and my perception may be warped by my own internal struggles.

I’m in my mid-20s, and the other day, my boyfriend and I were working out together. He’s very fit; I’m not quite there, but I’m decently built and feel as though I’ve grown into my looks.

We kept getting stared down, by older women in particular. I get stared down when I’m alone, by older people of both genders.

I’ve been struggling with loss of certain opportunities, friendships. I feel as though, now more than ever, that people are more afraid and insecure. Maybe it’s due to global circumstances; fear of losing positions and resources.

I live at home with my aging parents. It’s hard being around my mother especially, who has been disconnected from the greater world. I feel a deep sense of sadness; juxtaposed by superficial qualities I may still have.

I can’t stop absorbing these feelings so strongly. I think it’s important to have empathy. But the rate of these situations feels inescapable.

Was curious if anyone could recommend any at-home routines. I'm moderately active, but as I'm a beginner, I struggle to keep up many of the fundamental drills. Not very familiar with floor work. Thanks!

hey, looking for a gym that has a dedicated women’s-only program. i want to learn but i’m pretty weak. thanks!

hey, looking for a gym that has a dedicated women’s-only program. i want to learn but i’m pretty weak. thanks!

hey, looking for a gym that has a dedicated women’s-only program. i want to learn but i’m pretty weak. thanks!

hi, grew up playing tennis, wondering about any recommended clubs. ideally something like specified times to drop in throughout the week, to play with other people. thanks!

hi, grew up playing tennis, wondering about any recommended clubs. ideally something like specified times to drop in throughout the week, to play with other people. thanks!

Just left the gym crying after a half assed workout. My anxiety has been spiraling badly. I can only workout on my own if my plan is vouched for by a personal trainer. Otherwise, I will obsessively keep researching, debating back and forth on what to do, not go 100%.

I feel so much shame in this, especially since I know the basics. I’ve been working out for years; I logically know what I need to do. But my mind will keep jumping to the next thing that needs do be done, improved in that session and beyond.

The even greater shame is that I love working out. I take group fitness classes so I’m at least doing something without thinking. I’m signing up for a few adult sports leagues for more intensive training. But it’s hard to continue justifying the cost of relying on someone to keep it simple for me.

Just left the climbing gym crying after a half assed workout. My anxiety has been spiraling badly. I can only workout on my own if my plan is vouched for by a personal trainer. Otherwise, I will obsessively keep researching, debating back and forth on what to do, not go 100%.

I feel so much shame in this, especially since I know the basics. I’ve been working out for years; I logically know what I need to do. But my mind will keep jumping to the next thing that needs do be done, improved in that session and beyond.

The even greater shame is that I love working out. I take group fitness classes so I’m at least doing something without thinking. I’m signing up for a few adult sports leagues for more intensive training. But it’s hard to continue justifying the cost of relying on someone to keep it simple for me.

Just left the climbing gym crying after a half assed workout. My anxiety has been spiraling badly. I can only workout on my own if my plan is vouched for by a personal trainer. Otherwise, I will obsessively keep researching, debating back and forth on what to do, not go 100%.

I feel so much shame in this, especially since I know the basics. I’ve been working out for years; I logically know what I need to do. But my mind will keep jumping to the next thing that needs do be done, improved in that session and beyond.

The even greater shame is that I love working out. I take group fitness classes so I’m at least doing something without thinking. I’m signing up for a few adult sports leagues for more intensive training. But it’s hard to continue justifying the cost of relying on someone to keep it simple for me.

Just left the gym crying after a half assed workout. My anxiety has been spiraling badly. I can only workout on my own if my plan is vouched for by a personal trainer. Otherwise, I will obsessively keep researching, debating back and forth on what to do, not go 100%.

I feel so much shame in this, especially since I know the basics. I’ve been working out for years; I logically know what I need to do. But my mind will keep jumping to the next thing that needs do be done, improved in that session and beyond.

The even greater shame is that I love working out. I take group fitness classes so I’m at least doing something without thinking. I’m signing up for a few adult sports leagues for more intensive training. But it’s hard to continue justifying the cost of relying on someone to keep it simple for me.

Just left the gym crying after a half assed workout. My anxiety has been spiraling badly. I can only workout on my own if my plan is vouched for by a personal trainer. Otherwise, I will obsessively keep researching, debating back and forth on what to do, not go 100%.

I feel so much shame in this, especially since I know the basics. I’ve been working out for years; I logically know what I need to do. But my mind will keep jumping to the next thing that needs do be done, improved in that session and beyond.

The even greater shame is that I love working out. I take group fitness classes so I’m at least doing something without thinking. I’m signing up for a few adult sports leagues for more intensive training.

But some sports, like climbing, require specialized solo training. And it is so embarrassing to show up, barely able to complete a route. And not being able to self-correct by at least doing something. Just walking out instead.

in college and living at home. i’m really grateful for the support and opportunity my family has given me, especially after academic struggles; currently working/interning for a family business.

the title topic is something i’ve struggled with since childhood. due to war and poverty, my extended arab family is displaced across many countries. we have very few family members in america.

my father is often exhausted from his work, yet still is a main instigator for get-togethers locally. my mother tries her best to host when we have guests. but i often find that everyone is underwhelmed.

my parents are getting older and their social networks are dwindling. they stay in touch with relatives virtually, but it’s not as fulfilling as the very expensive and rare flights to reunions.

there’s deep sadness and anxiety of trying to be there for everyone. it never feels enough, and i often feel socially stunted with peers my own age. i had a difficult relationship with my family growing up because they were so controlling; i’ve forgiven them as it seemed to stem from fear and loneliness.

ps. i’ve been in therapy for a long time, but many clinicians don’t have the lived experience to understand. i’d also moved out for a period of time, but it was financially unsustainable.