it’s always “she‘s too masculine“ “she looks like a boy” “she‘s a man lol”
until the “she” in question wants to transition then suddenly he is an ultra feminine™️ woman or “it’s ok for a girl to be masculine!”
vampy was just an edgy name that resembled my partner’s nickname and it stuck. i thought you could change your username after making an account but ig not lmaoo
this was me and my bf before we started dating btw
Will always remember when 13 year old me started to socially transition and i didn’t feel fear about telling my mom or dad because they gave me that safe space to experiment (I came out as queer prior to that at around 11). They didn’t really understand the trans thing back then, but they still put effort to try for me, i love them so much.
The time I was single and was open to dating cis men as a gay trans man was hell, and one of the reasons was this weird assumption that I was going to be a submissive who does piv or something for them despite giving no indication of it. Being treated like the girl in the relationship was something i despised and this is outside the bedroom as well. Always got hit on by cis “bi-curious” dudes or those who exclusively only dated women and wanted to try out a trans guy basically. I am a top and for some reason they all think they’re the special one that’ll make me bottom. This is something that a lot of transmascs have experienced with dealing with cis men, especially on dating apps.
They think trans men are bottoms inherently, because a lot basically see us as women, even subconsciously, and assume we will take the submissive role. We’re not. We’re men with diverse interests just as cis men are. Alternately the “exclusive bottoms” who suddenly want to top when they start talking to a trans man, i know what you are.
I really wish this bias can be eradicated, it’s one of the things that reminds me that a lot of cis people see trans people as their agab and attach gender expectations and performances to us.
Happened to me twice in the past week alone. one regarding the f slur incident, and the other after making a post supporting trans women had absolute tools in my dms saying i will never be a woman. thanks i guess?
I feel the universe is making some cosmic joke on us with attaching the prospect of pregnancy and birth (the thing most trans men despise) to our transitioning acronym. like what do you mean you’re reminding me that my purpose in life is to be prepared for being barefoot and pregnant while eating bonbons and soaking in my divine feminine ™️ energy?? /s
I love my sisters. I love how fucking strong they are especially in this political climate. I love how they hold themselves together despite the world trying to break them apart. I love how they express femininity, it makes me, a transmasc, appreciate it more.
I love how they intimately understand my own struggles and we can relate to each other despite our differences. I love how they are empathetic and listen to others. I love their sense of fashion. I love their sense of humor. I love how they somehow all have a strange fascination with monster energy drinks and sharks. sharks are pretty fucking cool.
I love so many things about them and it’s sad how the world treats them like they’re less than. they didn’t choose to be born in the wrong body, but they are working with what they got. they are stronger than most people i know and i think they deserve way more love than they get.
No this isn’t a karma farm post, showing love for a minority group should be seen as a normal and decent thing to do. and i already have enough karma, internet points are meaningless but support for others is priceless.
Always found it odd how some guys use something as simple as hair color to determine the amount of respect they give you. Especially if it's blue hair.
Maybe because i'm alternative but it's honestly not that deep, it's just colors and a way people express themselves. It's literally not affecting anyone else, and not everyone wants to have the same regular cut and color. I regularly dye my hair and it was so weird how condescending some of these dudes got about my aesthetic. God forbid you don't want to look like a square, suddenly you are somehow an inept member of society.
eta: wow this really summoned all the basement dwelling chuds who get 0 female attention.
Went out in town last week dressed masc, more masc than i’ve looked in a minute with my boyfriend to get drinks. No makeup, no fem clothing, just dressed as a regular dude. Normally we’re comfortable with pda but with the alcohol in our systems we were being more gay than usual and a random dude walked by and called us the f slur. My bf was rightfully mad, but i just felt warm all over. like yeah i should’ve felt offended but i remembered only men can be on the receiving end of that particular slur so i got a weird sense of ewphoria.
after years of hard work we finally got the place in orl we’ve been dreaming about and life feels so fvcking good rn 💸🖤
I also love when people respect queer people’s identities. As a nonbinary person who has experimented with both gender and pronouns i think people but a lot of restrictions and limitations on what others should and shouldn’t be allowed to call themselves.
At the end of the day pronouns ≠ gender and everyone should be allowed to choose whatever label best suits them and their experiences.
eta: I see some bad faith actors are intentionally being dense in the replies even after being educated on the matter, i will not be engaging with them. I said what I said.
threads proving to be twitter 2.0 with these brain dead takes. what level of internalized biphobia is this? and since when is it gay for a straight man to be attracted to *checks notes* a woman? Went down the thread and they aren’t even talking about a nonbinary person, but a cis man who “loves women in a woman way” and dresses in an androgynous way/or is feminine. just because someone is gender nonconforming doesn’t mean they aren’t their gender. gender presentation ≠ gender identity. It’s the whole “liking femboys isn’t gay because teehee they’re basically women” shit but in a different flavor.
literally what are we even doing anymore?
I feel like this is a nuanced issue when you bring in intersectionality with different types of men. Makeup is seen as feminine and for some reason people have an issue with men being feminine, especially if they’re trans men. If you’re cis they assume you’re just gay and some get really weird about it, as if being gay is a bad thing. And there’s nothing about makeup that changes your sexuality either.
I grew up admiring a lot of male alternative musicians and celebrities who were not afraid of wearing makeup and expressing themselves. Gerard way being a prominent example. Pre transition I wasn’t really into makeup but i liked it on guys. and i was a bit of a tomboy, so makeup was never really my thing back then. oddly enough i only really started wearing some makeup after transitioning. why? i’m not too sure. i guess knowing i didn’t have to perform femininity anymore made me start to enjoy it.
Then there’s people who say i am fake trans for wanting to wear makeup. These same people have no issues with cis alt men wearing makeup, but it becomes an issue when the man wearing it isn’t cis. I just think it’s weird how makeup is tightly associated with womanness and how men aren’t allowed to artistically express themselves like how women do. it’s like everyone expects us to look like boring npcs with no sense of fashion or artistry, because i consider makeup as an art form and admire MUA and their talent. I also kinda just like being pretty too even as a guy.
Like no shade but sometimes it feels like people think trans women are the only trans people in existence or trans is synonymous with woman. I’ve seen many instances where something is tagged as “trans” or “gender neutral” and automatically assumed the person is a woman. it’s subtle things like this that reminds me that people really forget trans men/nonbinary people exist.
And just for clarification I am not talking about this sub so there shouldn’t be any confusion here. this is about trans subs in general.
yes technically i am a transmasc, but i have my moments
i normally don’t go into women only spaces, for many reasons. but for some reason this subreddit was suggested to me on my home page. i sort of lurked a bit and find the posts here interesting. i always had a weird feeling about womanhood even pre-transition, and idk if engaging in these spaces is weird or not. i feel more connected to manhood but i know the support for men is limited and the most support i’ve gotten were from women, so yeah lol.